Shadowing Practice: Is It Better to Have One Best Friend or Many Friends? | Intermediate English Podcast - Learn English Speaking with Video

you Hello everyone and welcome back to Everyday English Talk.

I'm Anna.

And I'm Ben.

It is great to have you with us today.

whether you are walking home from work relaxing after school, or just taking an evening stroll We are happy to be part of your day.

Today, we are exploring a topic that is very close to our hearts.

friendship, but we are looking at it from a specific angle.

That's right.

We often hear that we should have many friends, but is that always true?

The main question for today is:

Is it better to have one very close best friend or a large group of many friends?

It is the classic debate of quality versus quantity.

We will discuss the different types of friendships and what they bring to our lives.

You will also learn some great phrases to describe personality and social life.

Don't forget, you can download the full script for this episode in the description below.

It is a great way to follow along.

Let's get started.

you So Ben, let's start with the idea of having just one best friend.

When you hear the words "best friend," what comes to your mind?

That is a good question.

When I think of a best friend, I think of someone who knows absolutely everything about me.

It is not just about hanging out or having fun.

It is about a deep connection.

I agree completely.

A best friend is like a vault for your secrets.

You know you can tell them anything, even the embarrassing things, and they will never judge you.

Exactly.

Trust is the foundation of that relationship.

I have one friend, Mark, who I have known since we were 10 years old.

We don't talk every single day, but I know that if I called him at 3 a .m because I was in trouble, he would answer the phone.

That is a powerful feeling.

Knowing you have that kind of emotional support makes difficult times much easier to handle.

Life can be very hard sometimes.

We have breakups, job losses, or family problems.

Having that one person who stays by your side is priceless.

It really is.

With a large group of friends, you might have fun, but you might not feel safe enough to cry in front of them.

With a best friend, you can be vulnerable, You don't have to wear a mask or pretend to be happy if you are sad.

That is so true.

It is about easy communication.

With my best friend Sarah, we don't even need to use full sentences sometimes.

I can just look at her, and she knows exactly what I am thinking.

We have so many inside jokes and shared memories that we have our own language.

That sounds amazing.

It is efficient too.

You don't have to explain your whole life story every time you talk.

They already understand your background, your family history, and your past mistakes.

You don't have to give them context.

Yes, feeling understood is a basic human need.

But do you think there are downsides to relying on just one person?

Maybe.

I guess if you only have one friend, it puts a lot of pressure on them.

They have to be your therapist, your movie buddy, and your travel companion all in one.

That is a heavy load to carry.

That is a fair point.

And if you have a conflict with that one person, it can feel like your whole world is falling apart.

If you fight with your best friend, you might feel incredibly lonely because you don't have a backup network.

Conflict is rare with best friends though, don't you think?

or at least serious conflict is rare.

Because you know each other so well, you tend to forgive each other faster.

You know their intentions are good.

I think fewer conflicts happen because you are usually on the same wavelength, but when fights do happen, they are painful.

However, I still think the depth of the relationship is worth the risk.

Me too.

I am definitely someone who prefers deep conversations over small talk.

I would rather spend three hours talking to one person about life, dreams, and fears, than spend three hours at a party making polite conversation with 20 people.

I am the same way.

Small talk drains my energy, but a deep conversation with a close friend recharges me.

It is like therapy, but free. and funnier.

Best friends are usually the ones who can make you laugh until your stomach hurts.

Absolutely.

There is a specific type of laughter that only happens with someone who knows your sense of humor perfectly.

So, for you, Anna, is the verdict one best friend?

I think so.

If I had to choose between one amazing friend and 50 acquaintances, I would choose the one friend every time.

What about you?

I lean that way too.

But I do see the value in the other side, which we will talk about later.

But for now, Yes, I value that deep bond.

It is like having a sibling you chose for yourself.

That is a beautiful way to put it a chosen family member.

And unlike family, they actually like you.

I'm joking.

I love my family.

But you know what I mean.

You are not forced to be together.

You choose to be together.

That choice makes the loyalty even stronger.

That was a deep discussion.

Let's clarify some of the important vocabulary we used.

Good idea.

Let's start with the first one.

First, count on someone.

It means to rely on someone or trust them to help you.

Example, I can always count on my best friend when I have a problem.

Second, share a secret.

This means to tell someone private information because you trust them.

Example.

We have shared so many secrets over the years.

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Third, have a lot in common.

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It means to have the same interests or characteristics as someone else.

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We became best friends because we have a lot in common.

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Fourth, Get along with.

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It means to have a friendly relationship with someone.

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Example: I get along with her very well.

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We never fight.

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5th: Shoulder to cry on.

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This is an idiom for someone who listens to your problems and comforts you.

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When I lost my job, she was a shoulder to cry on.

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So listeners, we want to ask you about your own life.

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Do you have one person you trust with everything?

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Or do you prefer to keep your thoughts to yourself?

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Share your experience with us in the comments.

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For example, tell us: My best friend is...

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or "I prefer to solve problems alone." you Now, let's flip the coin.

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We talked about the intense bond of a best friend, but there are people who thrive on having a huge social circle.

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They are always surrounded by people.

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Yes, and I honestly admire those people sometimes.

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Having many friends brings a completely different energy to your life.

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It brings variety, Variety is the spice of life, right?

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When you have a large group of friends, you get to interact with many different personalities.

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You are not stuck with just one point of view.

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Exactly.

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If you only talk to one person, you might just echo each other's opinions.

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But if you have 20 friends, you will hear 20 different perspectives on a problem.

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It helps you grow and learn new ideas.

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Also, different friends are good for different things.

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This is a very practical way to look at it.

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What do you mean by that?

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Well, imagine you love hiking, but your best friend hates the outdoors.

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If you only have one friend, you never go hiking.

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But if you have a large network, you probably have a hiking friend.

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I see.

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So you have a movie friend, a coffee friend, and a party friend.

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Exactly.

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You categorize them based on activities.

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It sounds a bit cold, but it actually works well.

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You don't expect one person to be everything for you.

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You have a soccer buddy who you only see on weekends.

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You have a colleague you grab lunch with.

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You have a neighbor you chat with about gardening.

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That actually takes the pressure off, doesn't it?

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You can enjoy different parts of your personality with different people.

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Precisely and it creates more social opportunities.

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If you have many friends, you are always getting invited to things: parties, dinners, trips, concerts.

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Your calendar is always full.

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That sounds exhausting to me, but for an outgoing person, that sounds like paradise.

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It is great for networking too.

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Oh, absolutely.

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We cannot ignore the professional benefits.

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A large network can help you find a job, find an apartment, or fix your car.

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If you know 50 people, chances are one of them knows a mechanic who can give you a discount.

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That is the power of a network.

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It is not what you know, it is who you know.

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It is true.

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and I think having a large group can make you more adaptable.

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You learn how to talk to different types of people, You become better at social skills because you are practicing them all the time.

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You definitely become less socially awkward.

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You learn how to break the ice and make small talk with strangers.

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And there is a safety in numbers.

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If one friend is busy or moves away, you are not left completely alone.

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You have a backup support system.

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That is a very valid point.

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I remember when my friend Sarah moved to another country for a year.

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I felt very lonely because I had put all my eggs in one basket.

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If I had a bigger group, I would have had other people to hang out with.

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rate A large social circle is like a safety net.

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It catches you when you fall.

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It might not be as deep or intimate as a best friend, but it is wide.

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It is also fun.

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There is a special energy in a big group.

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When you go out for a birthday dinner with 10 people, the laughter is louder, the atmosphere is more exciting, it feels like a celebration.

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Yes, big groups generate excitement.

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It helps you get out of your comfort zone.

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A best friend might encourage you to stay home and watch Netflix.

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A big group will drag you out to a karaoke bar or a dance class.

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and you might discover new hobbies you didn't know you liked.

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Exactly.

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You experience more of the world through their eyes.

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One friend might introduce you to sushi, another to jazz music, another to rock climbing, So, having many friends makes your world bigger.

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Yes, it expands your horizons.

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It keeps life fresh and interesting.

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You are never bored because there is always someone new to talk to.

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I can see the appeal.

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It prevents you from getting stuck in a rut.

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It does, but it requires a lot of energy to maintain.

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You have to remember a lot of birthdays.

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Oh gosh, the birthdays.

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That alone is a reason to have fewer friends.

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But if you are an outgoing person who loves energy, the effort is worth it.

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We mentioned some really useful expressions there.

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Let's explain exactly what they mean.

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Absolutely.

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Here is the first phrase: First, expand your circle.

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This means to increase the number of people you know.

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Example: Joining a language class is a great way to expand your circle.

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Second, get out of your comfort zone.

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This means to do things that you are not used to doing.

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My new friends helped me get out of my comfort zone and try sushi.

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Third, social butterfly.

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This is an idiom for a person who is very social and easy to talk to.

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Example: She is a real social butterfly.

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She talks to everyone at the party.

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Fourth, Meet new people.

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This is a simple phrase for making new connections.

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Example I love to travel because I like to meet new people fifth I Broaden your horizons.

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This means to learn or experience new things.

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Example Having diverse friends helps to broaden your horizons.

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So listeners, what about you?

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Are you a social butterfly who loves meeting new people?

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Or do you find it tiring?

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Tell us in the comments.

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You can say "I love big groups because" or "I prefer small groups because" you So,

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Ben, we have looked at both sides.

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We have the Deep Connection Team and the Big Network Team, but is it really one or the other?

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Life is rarely black and white, Anna.

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I think most people fall somewhere in the middle.

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It is the classic question of quality or quantity.

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Most people would automatically say "quality." We are taught that quality is always better, but as we discussed, quantity has its own quality.

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That is a clever way to say it.

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I think it largely depends on your personality type.

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Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

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We should explain those terms quickly.

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An introvert is someone who usually prefers small groups or alone time.

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They lose energy when they are around too many people for too long.

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Right.

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And an extrovert is the opposite.

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They gain energy from being around people.

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If they are alone too long, they feel drained.

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So, naturally an introvert will probably prefer one or two best friends.

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A big group party is actually tiring for them.

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They want to go home and recharge.

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Whereas an extrovert loves the chaos of a big group, they feel alive when there is noise and activity.

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So for them, many friends is actually a better need.

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But even extroverts need someone to trust, right?

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You can have a hundred friends and still feel lonely if no one really knows you.

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That is the danger of quantity without quality.

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You can be popular but isolated.

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I think the ideal situation is a balance.

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A balance sounds perfect.

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Maybe you have one or two inner circle friends, your best friends who know your secrets.

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And then you have a wider outer circle for fun and activities.

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That is how I try to structure my life now.

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I have my core group, the people I call when I have a crisis, But I also try to say yes to invitations from acquaintances.

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I try to keep my network open.

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It also changes as we get older, doesn't it?

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Definitely.

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When you are in school or university, it is easy to have a huge group.

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You see them every day in class.

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It requires zero effort.

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But when you start working, getting married, or having kids, your free time disappears.

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You literally do not have time for 50 friends.

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That is the sad truth.

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Adult life forces you to prioritize.

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you realize you only have energy for the people who really matter.

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the casual friendships naturally fade away.

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And that is okay.

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It is natural.

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You shouldn't feel guilty about it.

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The friends who stay are the ones who are meant to be there.

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Connection is the most important thing.

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Whether it is with one person or ten people, you need to feel a connection.

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an emotional bond, I agree.

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It is about what makes you feel happy and supported.

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If you are happy with one friend, That is enough.

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If you need 10 friends to feel happy, that is also fine.

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There is no wrong way to do friendship.

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I think we should also remember that we can be our own best friend too.

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Oh, that is deep, but true.

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If you are comfortable with yourself, you don't need to depend desperately on others.

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Exactly.

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But generally, humans are social creatures.

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We need interaction.

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So, the conclusion is, know yourself.

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If you are exhausted by people, focus on one good friend.

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If you are bored alone, go out and make more friends.

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And don't be afraid to mix them.

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Introduce your best friend to your new friends.

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Maybe they will all get along.

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That is the dream.

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One big happy family.

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Let's review the phrases from our reflection.

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First, quality over quantity.

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This means having good things is better than having many things.

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In friendship, I always choose quality over quantity.

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Second, drift apart.

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This phrasal verb means to slowly lose a friendship over time.

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Example.

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After high school, we started to drift apart.

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Third, strike a balance.

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This means to find a healthy middle ground.

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Example It is important to strike a balance between time alone and time with friends.

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Fourth, Inner Circle.

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This refers to your closest and most trusted group of friends.

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Example: Only my inner circle knows about my plans to move.

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fifth keep in touch This means to maintain contact with someone.

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Example: Even though we live far apart, we try to keep in touch.

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So listeners, think about your own personality.

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What makes you feel the most supported?

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A deep talk with one person or a fun day out with a group Tell us why in the comments.

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For instance: I prefer deep talks because I am an introvert.

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Now it's your turn.

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Let's practice what you learned today with a few quick activities.

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First, listening.

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Go back and listen to the conversation again.

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try to find three phrases that use the word friend or social.

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Second, speaking.

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We want you to practice describing your personality.

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Say three sentences aloud.

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Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

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Do you have a large circle or a small one?

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For example, you could say, I am definitely an introvert, so I prefer having one close friend who I can count on.

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Third, writing.

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Write a short paragraph in the comments.

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Tell us about your best friend or a fun group activity you did recently.

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Try to use the phrase "quality over quantity" or "expand my circle." Remember, consistent practice is the key.

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Small steps every day lead to big results.

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That's right.

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Don't be afraid to make mistakes.

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Just keep practicing.

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you Let's recap the main points from today's episode.

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We explored two very different styles of friendship.

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We learned that having one best friend offers a deep connection.

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It gives you a shoulder to cry on and someone you can really count on during hard times.

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This is often perfect for introverts.

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On the other hand, We discussed that having many friends helps you expand your circle.

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It brings variety and helps you get out of your comfort zone.

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This is usually great for social butterflies.

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Ultimately, there is no right or wrong answer.

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It is about striking a balance that works for you.

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Whether you have one friend or 20, the most important thing is that you feel supported and happy.

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you Thanks for listening to Everyday English Talk.

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We really enjoyed discussing this topic with you.

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We hope this episode helps you reflect on your own friendships.

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Are you a quality person or a quantity person?

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Don't forget to download the free PDF transcript and vocabulary exercises in the description.

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It will help you review the new phrases we learned today.

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And please leave a comment.

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We love reading your stories and getting to know our listeners better.

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We will see you next time for another interesting conversation.

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