Shadowing Practice: Why Life Really Begins at 40 - Learn English Speaking with Video

They say life begins at 40, but no one really explains why.

Is it just a cute phrase to make us feel better about getting older?

Or is there something deeper going on?

In this video, I am breaking down the real reasons your 40s might be the most powerful

and liberating decade of your life.

We're going to talk about the big stuff.

Identity, time, purpose, and why you might be finally ready to stop shrinking and start fully showing up.

No fluff, no cliches, just the truth about what really happens when you hit 40.

And why that's when everything finally clicks.

Let's get into it.

I have got 7 truths about your 40s that I want to share with you, starting with truth number 1.

You know what's funny?

When I was a teenager, I thought that 40 meant your life was basically over.

Like game over, lady.

Pack it up, start moisturizing more aggressively, and looking into caftans.

Of course, I got that message from everywhere.

I grew up reading Seventeen and Cosmo magazines, and I remember seeing a very common feature.

It was like a two-page spread on a topic, and it would have these columns for what to do in different decades of your life, you know, for whatever the topic was,

like the top skincare tips for what you should be doing in your teens, your 20s, your 30s, and then 40 plus.

It wasn't just skincare, it was everything.

Workwear, hairstyles, nutrition, whatever.

But always that final column, 40 plus.

Of course I felt like when I eventually hit 40 that would be it.

That was the last phase.

You've fallen off a cliff and landed in elderly adjacent.

And I believed it.

But here's the truth about your 40s.

40 isn't the end of youth, it's the end of pretending.

This is the decade where you stop shrinking you stop performing you stop living by everyone else's expectations

and start living by your own anyone remember that scene in

when harry met sally

when meg ryan is bawling her eyes out to billy crystal in full meltdown mode

and right in the middle of her self-pity spiral she wails

and i'm gonna be 40 and he says when

and she says someday so i saw that movie in the theater

when it first came out i was 17

and even at 17 i felt

that sense of doom like 40 was this looming monster

but also i felt this strange relief at the time

because 40 was still very very far away from me

but fast forward to me approaching my actual 40th birthday for real

and i remember thinking well someday has arrived princess

but instead of spiraling i started waking up this was the age where i realized

that i didn't have to keep proving myself anymore i didn't

need to keep contorting to fit into somebody else's mold it

was the beginning of owning who i actually was not who i thought

that i was supposed to be mary catherine bateson said we are not what we know

but what we are willing to learn and the biggest thing

that i learned who i wasn't i wasn't the people pleaser anymore.

I wasn't the girl trying to win the gold stars.

I wasn't performing womanhood by somebody else's script.

I was done pretending.

And that felt powerful.

Truth number one about your 40s is that you finally know who you are and who you're not.

But the next truth, it's the one that changes how you walk into every room.

So here's a fun little plot twist that no one tells you about your 40s.

You start caring way less about what people think of you

and way more about whether you're being true to yourself like am i living in alignment

or am i still playing some role

that i don't even like there's a quote

that i love i used to walk into a room

and wonder if they liked me now i walk in

and wonder if i like them

that is a whole identity shift it's the beginning of being deeply selective Not because you're a snob,

but because you finally understand that your energy is precious.

Science backs this up.

According to the Stanford Center on Longevity, emotional stability and self-acceptance actually peak in midlife.

You're not imagining that, inner calm.

It's real.

It's brain chemistry.

It's lived experience.

And it's earned.

When I was younger, I bent myself into a million shapes trying to be palatable now i'm more interested in being free

if it's not a full body yes it's a no

if it doesn't feel aligned i'm out and

if someone doesn't like me for it

that is their work to do truth number two is

that you care less about approval and more about alignment

and what comes next that's truth number three and honestly it changes everything

so let's talk about something radical

that happens in your 40s you stop asking for permission to

take up space you stop waiting for the perfect moment

and you stop worrying about whether you're qualified enough you stop

dimming your light just to make other people more comfortable basically you stop playing small

and that is truth number three about your 40s now to be clear i still had fears

when i left medicine it wasn't because i felt fearless it was

because i knew

that shrinking was slowly killing me there was this voice inside me saying you were made for more

and for the first time in my life i actually listened

because here's what i realized no one is ever going to

give you permission to live the life you really want you

have to claim it i love this quote by angela davis

i am no longer accepting the things i cannot change i

am changing the things i cannot accept you know what's really wild according to forbes women in their 40s

and 50s are the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs not 25 year olds not 30 year olds 40 somethings

because by the time we hit this age we're done with the bs we want to build something real something

that is ours we're not chasing approval anymore we're chasing impact

and let me tell you it is

so liberating to stop playing it safe to stop holding back

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to finally say the thing launch the thing become the thing

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that has been inside you all along so

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if you're in your 40s right now or getting close hear me

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when i say this your power is not fading it's just

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arriving all right the next one it's subtle at first until it changes how you you spend every single day.

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There's something that shifts in your 40s that no one really prepares you for.

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You start feeling time differently.

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It's not just birthdays or laugh lines or your knees making mysterious noises.

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It's a deep cellular awareness that this life thing, it's not a dress rehearsal.

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And that awareness, it's not morbid.

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It's motivational.

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I remember hitting 42 and realizing I'm not in the someday part of life anymore.

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This is the main act.

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No more pushing dreams into the corner with a sticky note that says later.

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Later is now.

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Ralph Waldo Emerson said, it is not the length of life, but depth of life.

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This is the age where I started ruthlessly protecting my time, not just from bad meetings or social obligations that I didn't want,

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but from the ways that I used to waste it.

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Scrolling, over committing, people pleasing, second guessing, all of it had to go.

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Because now I'm thinking in terms of return on energy.

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Now I'm asking, does this matter?

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Does this bring me closer to the life that I actually want?

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Many studies have found that happiness often dips in our late 30s and then starts rising again in our 40s and 50s.

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Why?

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Because we stop chasing everything and start focusing on what matters.

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We stop saying yes to every shiny thing and we start building a life that feels solid, real, grounded.

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Time is no longer something that I feel.

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It's something that I honor.

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So truth number four is that you wake up to time and use it differently.

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Okay, the next one, it's where the old definitions of strength fall apart and something better takes their place.

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So let's talk about strength.

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Because when I was younger, I thought strong meant thin, or toned, or polished.

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Now I know better.

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Strength is knowing what you will and will not tolerate.

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Strength is setting boundaries without guilt.

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Strength is having the guts to let go of what's no longer right for you.

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And in your 40s, that strength finally kicks in.

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But here's the part that no one tells you.

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It's not because life suddenly gets easier.

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It's because by now, you've been through some things.

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You have survived heartbreaks, you've buried dreams, you've had friendships end, careers shift,

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your body changed in ways that you never saw coming, and you're still here.

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That's strength.

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I remember a season in my 40s where I felt like everything was unraveling.

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Old beliefs were breaking down and I was rebuilding not just my career but my whole sense of self.

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And it was messy.

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But it was also clarifying.

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That's the thing about midlife.

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You stop being afraid of the mess because you realize the mess is often where the magic is.

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Rumi said, the wound is the place where the light enters you.

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Psychologists call it post-traumatic growth.

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The idea that we don't just recover from challenges,

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we can actually come out of them stronger and more compassionate and more aligned than ever.

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And get this, studies show that emotional intelligence and empathy and resilience, these increase with age.

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Your brain gets better at navigating complexity.

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Your heart gets wiser.

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And you become someone who can weather storms and still radiate peace.

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So yeah, my abs may not be what they were in my 20s, but my spirit, my self-respect, my capacity to love and lead, stronger than ever.

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So truth number five about your 40s is that you get stronger in ways that actually matter.

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The next truth, it's not something that you learn from a book.

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You learn it by living.

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So here's what hits you like a freight train in your 40s.

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You've spent a lot of your life in a supporting role, in your own story.

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You were cast as the helper, the fixer, the achiever, the good girl, the reliable one.

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And for a while, that worked.

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It even got you praise and promotions and popularity.

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But eventually, if you're lucky, you realize you don't want to be a background character anymore.

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You want to be the one holding the pen.

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You want to write the script, not just follow the one that was handed to you.

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This hit me hard when I started untangling my identity from the role that I had built as a doctor.

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I was successful, I was respected, but deep down I knew I was living someone else's definition of a meaningful life.

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And listen, it's not that I didn't care about the work.

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It's that I wasn't the author.

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I was performing a role that had been assigned to me at 17 before I even knew who I really was.

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So I I rewrote the story.

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I started making bolder decisions.

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I started showing up more fully, not just professionally, but personally.

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Alice Walker said, the most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.

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Here's the truth.

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That main character energy isn't about being loud or dramatic.

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It's about being conscious.

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It's about saying I am no longer living on autopilot.

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I am no longer outsourcing my joy, my time, my values.

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You become the one who chooses.

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You stop waiting for approval.

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You stop letting other people's opinions set the tone of your life.

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And the best part, you don't have to ask anyone for permission to do it.

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Truth number six is that you become the main character instead of the supporting cast.

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And finally, there's one more truth that no one prepares you for, but once it lands, you just can't go back.

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There's a moment somewhere in your 40s where the fog clears and suddenly you start seeing through the BS,

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the beauty standards, the career ladders, the hustle for worthiness, the you shoulds and the by now you should haves.

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You start questioning everything that you were taught to chase.

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And here's what's interesting.

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You don't even feel angry about it.

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You just feel free.

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I remember flipping through one of those glossy magazines that I used to obsess over.

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And instead of thinking, oh, I should try that anti-aging serum, I found myself thinking, who benefits from me believing that I need to fix myself?

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And just like that, I was out.

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Because let's be real so many of the things

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that we thought were rules were just marketing or outdated scripts

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or somebody else's fear disguised as advice mark twain said it perfectly age is an issue of mind over matter

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if you don't mind it doesn't matter in your 40s you start living with sharper eyes

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and a softer heart you see through the performance and the pretending and the pressure and you choose something different.

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You choose peace over proving, alignment over approval, real over polished, and maybe most of all, you choose you.

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Truth number seven about your 40s is that you see through the BS and it sets you free.

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If you're in your 40s right now or you're getting close, this isn't a crisis.

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It's not your downfall.

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It's not the beginning of the end.

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And it's your becoming, your reset, your most powerful chapter yet.

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And if you're ready to make the most of it, then I've got something for you.

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You can grab my free five-day challenge, The Reset, it's linked below.

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It'll help you to clear the clutter, sharpen your focus, and reconnect to who you really are and who you're becoming.

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Because life doesn't end at 40, it finally begins.

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Now, if you enjoyed this video, I think that you are going to like the one that I have got coming up for you next.

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On the next screen it's the seven things that you need to stop doing after 40.

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I will see you there.

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Not because you're a snob but because you finally understand...

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You finally understand what?

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Hang on.

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It takes...

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All right, there we go.

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That's a wrap.

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Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 221 cümle ve 2449 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 15:24 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 159 kelimeyle, günlük konuşmaya yakın doğal bir hızda konuşuyor. Kelimelerin %83’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.

Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler

Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
chase fiil	/t͡ʃeɪs/	kovalamak, peşinden koşmak
script isim	/skɹɪpt/	hat
pretend fiil	/pɹəˈtɛnd/	numara yapmak, rol yapmak
tone isim	/ˈtəʊn/	ton
topic isim	/ˈtɑpɪk/	mevzu, tema
awareness isim	/əˈwɛɹ.nəs/	bilinç, bilinçlenme
polish fiil	/ˈpɑ.lɪʃ/	parlatmak, mührelemek
spiral isim	/ˈspaɪɹəl/	spiral
align fiil	/əˈlaɪn/	hizalanmak, hizaya geçmek
sharp sıfat	/ʃɑɹp/	keskin, sivri
thin sıfat	/ˈθɪn/	ince
happiness isim	/ˈhæpinɪs/	mutluluk, saadet
dramatic sıfat	/dɹəˈmætɪk/	dramatik
promotion isim	/pɹəˈmoʊʃn̩/	terfi
crystal isim	/ˈkɹɪstəl/	kristal, billur

Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
show up fiil		ortaya çıkmak
come out fiil	/ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/	çıkmak
fall apart fiil		altüst olmak
grow up fiil		büyümek, yetişmek
wake up fiil	/ˌweɪk ˈʌp/	uyanmak

Bu videodaki dil bilgisi

Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:

Yapı	Videoda
“Used to” used to + fiil — artık geçerli olmayan eski bir alışkanlık ya da durum	used to walk · used to waste · used to obsess
Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem	You've fallen · has arrived · has been
Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli	was done · were made · was handed
İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi	someone who can · one who chooses

Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar

Konuşmacı you're, don't, wasn't gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 57 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.

“th” sesleri: thin /ˈθɪn/, theater /ˈθi(ə)tɚ/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, ruthlessly /ˈɹuːθ.ləs.li/, worthiness /ˈwɜː(ɹ)ðɪnəs/
“sh” ve “zh” sesleri: polish /ˈpɑ.lɪʃ/, sharp /ʃɑɹp/, promotion /pɹəˈmoʊʃn̩/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/
Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, stability /stəˈbɪlɪti/, popularity /ˌpɑ.pjəˈlæɹ.ə.ti/, mysterious /mɪˈstɪɹi.əs/, complexity /kəmˈplɛk.sɪ.ti/

Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır

Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; chase, script, pretend gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.

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