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Englishly Podcast from Speak English with Class.
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Hey, Jake.
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Have you ever wanted to explain what you feel, but the words just disappeared?
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Hmm, like your heart knows the full story, but your English only gives you three basic words?
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Yes.
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Sad, angry, tired.
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And sometimes even tired is doing too much work.
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It has to carry stress, disappointment, confusion, silence, and two unread messages.
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Poor tired.
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It is exhausted.
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But seriously, this is a real problem.
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You can feel something deeply, but when you try to say it out loud, it comes out too simple or too sharp or not clear at all.
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And then people misunderstand you.
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They think you are being dramatic, cold, rude, or weak.
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But maybe you are not any of those things.
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Maybe you just need better words.
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So today, we are going to help you talk about your feelings with confidence.
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Not with perfect English, with honest English, clear English, the kind of English that sounds like the real you.
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And by the end of this episode, you will have calm, confident sentences for feelings that usually feel too messy to explain.
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Okay, before we go further… Hey English learners, Welcome back to the English Leap Podcast,
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your cozy little place to learn daily life English through real, everyday conversations.
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I'm Anna.
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And I'm Jake.
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So glad you're here with us today.
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Yes, truly.
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We love having you here with us.
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And today, Anna, we have a really useful one.
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We do.
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And I think today's topic is going to help so many people, because sometimes the hardest part is not feeling something, it is explaining it.
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Ah, that is so true.
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So, today's episode is called Talk About Your Feelings With Confidence.
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And honestly, this topic sounds simple until someone asks, what are you feeling?
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And suddenly your brain becomes a locked door.
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Yes, you know something is there, but you cannot find the right words to open it.
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Exactly.
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And this is a B2 to C1 level episode, so we're going a little deeper than basic English.
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But do not worry, we will keep it slow, natural, and easy to follow.
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Today is not about memorizing a big list of emotion words.
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No, it is about learning how to sound clear, honest, and confident when your feelings are not easy to explain.
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And later we will also have a word tour with some powerful words
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and phrases that can make your emotional English sound more mature and natural.
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So take a breath, relax your shoulders, and stay with us.
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Because sometimes the right sentence can make a difficult feeling much easier to share.
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Alright, let's jump in.
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Anna, when people say, I don't know how I feel, do you think they really don't know?
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Sometimes, yes.
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But often, I think they feel too many things at once, so it becomes hard to separate them.
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Ah, so it is not empty, it is crowded.
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Yes, feelings can be crowded.
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You may think you are angry, but underneath that anger there is hurt or fear or disappointment.
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Like opening one drawer and finding every charger you have owned since 2014.
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Emotional cable drawer.
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Very messy.
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But that makes sense.
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A person might say, I'm angry when they actually mean, I felt ignored.
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Right.
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Or they might say, I'm tired when they actually mean, I feel emotionally drained.
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Emotionally drained is a good phrase.
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It means your energy is not just physically low, your heart and mind feel tired too.
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Yes, you can say, I feel emotionally drained after that conversation.
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Or, I have been trying to stay strong for everyone and now I feel drained.
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That is much more honest than only saying I'm tired.
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And if you feel like people did not notice you, you can say, I felt overlooked.
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Like, I felt overlooked when nobody asked for my opinion.
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Yes, or I felt disconnected from everyone today.
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When you're around people, but you do not feel close to them.
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That one is so real.
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You can be in a room full of people and still feel far away.
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Very true.
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And another useful one is I felt misunderstood.
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Oof, that one is painful.
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It is.
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You try to explain yourself, but the meaning doesn't land.
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Ah, the classic.
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You say one sentence and somehow everyone receives a different movie.
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Yes.
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And in that movie, you're suddenly the villain.
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So before we try to explain everything, we can slow down and ask, what is the real feeling here?
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Yes.
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And if you're not sure, you can say, I'm not sure how to explain this, but I want to try.
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That sentence is gentle.
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It gives you space.
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And it helps you articulate the feeling.
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Articulate means to express something clearly, right?
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Yes.
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To articulate a feeling means to give it clear words, even if those words are not perfect.
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So the first step is not perfect English.
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It's honest noticing.
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Exactly.
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First, notice the feeling, then give it words.
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Right.
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And once the feeling has words, the next challenge is how to say it without turning the conversation into a fight.
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Mmm, saying it without making the other person feel attacked.
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Yes, because when we are hurt, our first sentence is not always our wisest sentence.
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The first sentence sometimes arrives with messy hair and no plan.
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Very emotional, very unprepared.
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So instead of saying, you never listened to me, we can say, I felt ignored when I tried to explain myself.
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That is calmer, but it still tells the truth.
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Yes, it focuses on your experience, not the other person's whole personality.
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Another example, instead of saying, you embarrassed me, you can say, I felt embarrassed when that was said in front of everyone.
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Or I felt anxious when I did not hear back.
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Or I felt pressured when I had to answer immediately.
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These sentences do not sound weak, they sound controlled.
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And they avoid opening the emotional courtroom.
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Yes.
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No need to say, Your Honor, I have screenshots from 2021.
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The emotional courtroom is always dramatic.
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And when you speak from experience, the other person has a better chance to listen.
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Because Because you're not saying, you are terrible, you're saying, this is how it felt to me.
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And that small change can save a difficult conversation.
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But of course, some people do not blame.
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They do the opposite.
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They say nothing.
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They keep everything inside.
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Yes, they smile, stay polite, act normal, and say no problem when there is definitely a problem.
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That no problem has thunder behind it.
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Yes, a tiny sentence with dramatic weather.
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That is what happens when feelings are bottled up.
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Yes.
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Bottled up means feelings are kept inside for too long.
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They do not disappear.
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They just build pressure.
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Like a soda bottle someone keeps shaking.
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And then one tiny thing happens.
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Someone forgets to buy bread.
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And suddenly it is not about bread.
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It is about three weeks of feeling ignored, tired, and unappreciated.
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Exactly.
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Small things start carrying old feelings.
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So what can we say before it reaches that point?
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You can say, I don't want this to build up, so I want to mention it now.
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That sounds calm and mature.
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Or, This may sound small, but it stayed with me.
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I like that.
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It respects the fact that small moments can still hurt.
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Another useful sentence is, I know this may not have been your intention, but it affected me.
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That is strong because it doesn't accuse the person of being cruel.
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Yes, it leaves room for misunderstanding, understanding, but it still protects your feeling.
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So the idea is simple.
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Speak while the feeling is still small enough to hold gently.
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Because a small, honest sentence today can prevent a big emotional reaction later.
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Mmm.
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Anna, can we talk about anger?
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Because anger is one of the hardest feelings to express well.
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It is.
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Anger is loud, so people notice it first.
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But often anger is protecting something softer underneath.
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hurt?
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Yes.
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Hurt, fear, shame, rejection, disappointment, or feeling taken for granted.
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Taken for granted.
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That means someone benefits from your effort but doesn't really appreciate it.
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Yes.
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You can say, I felt taken for granted, or I felt like my effort didn't matter.
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Like when you do all the work and someone says, great team effort.
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Ah, yes.
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Corporate emotional damage.
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So sometimes I am angry really means I wanted to feel valued.
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Yes, or, I wanted to feel respected, or, I wanted my effort to be seen.
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But when anger comes out too fast, we can lash out.
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Lash out means react suddenly and angrily, often by saying something hurtful.
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Right.
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You might say, you never care, when the real feeling is, I felt hurt when I did not get a response.
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That is why I like this line, lower the accusation, raise the clarity.
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Nice!
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Lower the accusation, raise the clarity.
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Instead of, you never respect me, say, I felt disrespected when I was interrupted.
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That already sounds less like an attack.
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Yes, or instead of, you made me angry, say, I felt frustrated because I needed more support.
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That gives the anger a real reason.
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Right.
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And instead of, you do not care, say, I felt hurt when I did not get a response.
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Wow!
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Those small changes really do shift the whole feeling of the sentence.
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And if your words come out too sharply, you can repair them.
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Say, I'm sorry, that came out harsher than I meant.
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Or, let me try again.
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What I really mean is… Mmm.
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That sentence can save a conversation.
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Because it shows maturity.
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You're not deleting your feeling, you're expressing it better.
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Nature may be the loud emotion, but Confident English helps you reach the honest one.
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Now, even if you explain yourself clearly, the other person may not respond well.
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They might become dismissive.
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Yes.
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Dismissive means someone acts like your feeling is not important.
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Like you're too sensitive or it's not a big deal.
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Right.
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And sometimes that hurts more than the original situation.
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Because now your feeling is not only painful, it is being pushed away.
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Exactly.
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And in that moment, many people start doubting themselves.
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They think, maybe I should not have said anything.
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But your feeling was real, and it still deserves words.
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Hmm.
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That is important.
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You do not have to become louder to protect your feeling.
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You can become clearer.
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So what can we say?
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I understand you may see it differently, but this is how it felt to me.
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That is calm, but firm.
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Or, I'm not asking you to agree immediately, I'm asking you to listen.
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That one has weight.
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You can also say, please do not minimize this.
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Minimize means make something seem smaller or less important.
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Yes, if someone minimizes your feeling, they treat it like it doesn't matter.
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A learner could say, I feel like my concern is being minimized.
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Or, I'm trying to explain how it affected me, not start an argument.
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That is very mature.
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Another strong one is, you may not have meant to hurt me, but the impact was still real.
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Much better than saying, fine, forget it, while clearly preparing emotional weather for later.
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Yes, the sky is calm, but the forecast is dangerous.
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So when someone is dismissive, don't rush to defend your whole personality.
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Just bring the conversation back to the feeling and the impact.
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But here's the other side of this.
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What about when it's our turn to listen?
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That is just as important.
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Yes, and that is where validation comes in.
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Validate is such an important word here.
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To validate someone's feeling means to show that their feeling makes sense, even if you do not fully agree with every detail.
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So it does not mean you are right about everything.
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No, it means I can understand why you feel that way.
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Simple phrases can be powerful.
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That sounds really hard.
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I can see why that upset you.
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I am sorry you're dealing with that.
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Thank you for telling me.
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That one is beautiful because it makes the person feel safe for sharing.
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And here's a very useful question.
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Do you want advice, or do you just want me to listen?
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Very important question, especially for people who turn into life coaches after one sentence.
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I was just opening my 7-step emotional improvement slideshow.
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Not while someone is crying, please.
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Fair.
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Sometimes people do not need a solution first.
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They need a soft place to put the feeling.
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That is lovely.
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If your friend says, I felt embarrassed today, you can say, Oh no, that sounds uncomfortable.
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What happened?
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If someone says, I feel overwhelmed, you can say, That sounds like a lot to carry.
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If someone says, I'm disappointed, you can say, I can understand why that would hurt.
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And see, that doesn't sound complicated.
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It just sounds kind.
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Right.
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Kind English is sometimes very simple.
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So validate first.
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And advise later if they want it.
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Now, talking about feelings does not mean telling everyone everything.
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Very important.
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Emotional confidence also means knowing who to open up to, when to share, and how much to say.
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Open up means share your honest thoughts or feelings, right?
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Yes.
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When you open up, you let someone see something real.
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But not everyone should receive the full emotional documentary.
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The full emotional documentary?
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Yes!
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Season 1, Episode 1, with background music.
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True.
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Some people only asked, how was your weekend?
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And suddenly they are watching the whole thing. With some titles.
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But in all seriousness, knowing when to share and when to hold back is a real skill.
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Right.
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Opening up is honest and thoughtful.
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Oversharing is giving too much too soon to the wrong person.
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So if you are not ready, you can say, I appreciate you asking, but I'm not ready to talk about it yet.
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Or, I need some time before I can explain this properly.
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Or, I want to talk about this, but not right now.
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And if someone keeps pushing, you may need to draw the line.
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Draw the line means set a clear limit, right?
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Yes, it means you decide what is acceptable and what is not.
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You can say, I'm not comfortable discussing this right now.
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Or, I care about you, but I need this conversation to stay respectful.
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That's firm, but not cruel.
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Another strong sentence is, I'm willing to listen, but I will not continue if you speak to me like that.
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Boundaries are not angry walls with warning signs.
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No, they're polite fences with emotional intelligence.
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Very elegant fences.
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That they matter, because without boundaries, emotional conversations can become unsafe.
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So open up with the right people and draw the line when the conversation stops feeling respectful.
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So Ana, after all this, I think the final skill is composure.
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Composure.
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That is a strong word.
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Composure means calm control, especially when you feel emotional inside.
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So it does not mean hiding your feelings.
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No, it means holding them carefully.
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I like that image.
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Like holding a warm cup.
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The cup is full, it is hot, and you have to move slowly so you don't spill it everywhere.
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Yes, that is composure.
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The feeling is real, but you are carrying it with care.
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And in difficult conversations, composure gives you time.
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You can say, I need a moment before I respond.
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Or, I want to answer carefully, so give me a second.
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Or, I'm emotional right now and I don't want to say this badly.
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That sentence is very honest.
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It doesn't pretend you're calm when you're not.
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It simply protects the conversation.
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At work, you might say, I need a moment to process that.
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Or, can I ask a question so I understand clearly?
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Professional, calm, and confident.
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In a personal conversation, you can say, I care about this conversation, so I don't want to rush my response.
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That is beautiful, because it shows the conversation matters.
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Sometimes confidence is not speaking quickly.
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Sometimes confidence is slowing down enough to choose the right words.
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And maybe that's the heart of this whole topic.
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Yes, talking about feelings with confidence doesn't mean having perfect English.
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It means enough calm, enough honesty, and enough language to say, this is what I feel and I want to express it well.
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Yes, honest, clear, and steady.
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English that does not hide the feeling but also doesn't let the feeling take over.
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That is a powerful kind of English.
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And speaking of clear words, we have ten important ones waiting for us.
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So before we close, let's slow them down, explain them simply, and make them easier to remember.
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Welcome to the word tour.
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Alright, let's begin.
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Our first word is perfect for the moment when your feeling is there, but the sentence is still trying to arrive.
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Articulate.
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Yes.
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To articulate means to express something clearly, especially when the idea or feeling is difficult to explain.
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You can say, I'm trying to articulate what I feel, but it is not easy.
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Or, she articulated her feelings calmly instead of getting angry.
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So, articulate is not about using perfect English.
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It is about giving clear words to your feeling.
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Nice.
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Let's say it slowly.
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Articulate.
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Articulate.
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And once you articulate something honest, you may feel a little exposed.
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That brings us to our next word.
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Vulnerable.
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Yes.
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Vulnerable means emotionally open or exposed.
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You are showing something real about yourself.
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You can say, I felt vulnerable when I told him how much it hurt me.
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Or, it is not easy to be vulnerable in a serious conversation.
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So, vulnerable does not mean weak.
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It means honest in a brave way.
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Good.
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One more time.
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Vulnerable.
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Vulnerable.
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Hmm.
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Now, vulnerable is about feeling emotionally open.
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But sometimes, the feeling is not just open, it is too much.
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Overwhelmed.
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Yes.
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Overwhelmed means you feel that something is too much to handle emotionally, mentally, or physically.
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You can say, I feel overwhelmed right now, and I need a moment.
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Or, she felt overwhelmed by work, family pressure, and too many decisions.
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So, overwhelmed is stronger than busy or stressed.
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it means your mind or heart feels full.
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Nice.
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Repeat it with us.
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Overwhelmed.
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Overwhelmed.
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And when someone feels overwhelmed but says nothing for too long, another phrase becomes useful.
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Bottled up.
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Yes.
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If feelings are bottled up, they are kept inside instead of being expressed.
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You can say, I think I have been bottling things up for too long.
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Or, when emotions are bottled up, small problems can suddenly feel huge.
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So bottled up feelings are like pressure inside a bottle.
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If you never open it gently, it may explode later.
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Good.
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Let's say it again.
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Bottled up.
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Bottled up.
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And bottled up feelings do not stay quiet forever.
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Sometimes they come out too fast and too sharply.
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Lash out.
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Yes.
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To lash out means to react suddenly and angrily, often by saying something hurtful.
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You can say, I did not mean to lash out.
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I was feeling overwhelmed.
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Or, he lashed out because he felt ignored, but later he apologized.
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So, lash out is what happens when the feeling comes out before the words are ready.
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Nice.
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One more time.
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Lash out.
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Lash out.
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And when someone finally shares a feeling, the worst response is to make it seem unimportant.
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Dismissive.
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Yes, dismissive means acting like someone's feeling, opinion, or concern is not important.
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You can say, I felt hurt because his response was dismissive.
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Or try not to be dismissive when someone opens up to you.
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So dismissive is the opposite of listening with care.
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It pushes the feeling away.
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Good.
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Repeat it with us.
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Dismissive.
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Dismissive.
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Hmm.
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So what is the opposite of being dismissive?
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It is helping someone feel heard.
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Validate.
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Yes.
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To validate someone's feeling means to show that their feeling makes sense even if you do not fully agree with everything.
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You can say, I tried to validate her feelings before giving advice.
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Or sometimes people just need someone to validate what they are feeling.
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So validate does not mean saying, you're right about everything.
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It means saying, I understand why you feel that way.
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Nice.
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Let's say it slowly.
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Validate.
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Validate.
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And when someone feels safe enough to share something more honest… Open up.
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Yes.
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To open up means to share your real thoughts or feelings with someone.
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You can say, It takes time for me to open up.
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Or She opened up about how lonely she had been feeling.
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So open up does not mean telling everyone everything.
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It means sharing honestly with someone you trust.
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Good.
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One more time.
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Open up.
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Open up.
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Opening up does not mean allowing every conversation to go too far.
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Draw the line.
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Yes.
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To draw the line means to set a limit and decide what is acceptable and what is not.
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You can say, I care about you, but I need to draw the line when the conversation becomes disrespectful.
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Or, she finally drew the line and said she needed space.
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So, draw the line is useful when you want to protect your piece without sounding cruel.
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Nice.
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Repeat it with us.
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Draw the line.
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Draw the line.
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And finally, when feelings are strong, we need one last word to help us stay steady.
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Composure.
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Yes.
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Composure means calm control, especially when you feel emotional inside.
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You can say, She kept her composure during a difficult conversation.
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Or, I needed a moment to regain my composure before I replied.
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So, composure does not mean you have no feelings.
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It means your feelings are there, but they are not controlling your words.
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Good.
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And one final time, composure.
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Composure.
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Beautiful.
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These words and phrases can really help you talk about your feelings in a clearer, calmer, more confident way.
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Yes.
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And remember, you do not need to use all of them at once.
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Choose one or two, Practice them.
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Make them yours.
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Little by little, your English starts to sound more honest, more natural, and more like you.
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And that is a wonderful kind of progress.
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So today, remember this.
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Your feelings do not need perfect English.
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They need patient English, clear English, human English.
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Try this in the comments.
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Write one sentence that starts with I felt.
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For example, I felt overwhelmed when I had too much work, or I felt proud when I finished something difficult.
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Simple is perfect.
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Honest is even better.
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If this episode helped you, share it with another English learner who wants to express feelings more naturally.
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And if you are new here, subscribe to the English Leap Podcast for more daily life English through real conversations.
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Keep listening, keep practicing, and keep giving your real feelings better words.
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Take care of your English.
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And take care of your heart.
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This is Anna.
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And this is Jake.
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And you have been listening to the English Leap Podcast.
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Bye!
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Your progress doesn't end here.
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