Luyện nói tiếng Anh bằng Shadowing qua video: English Podcast For Learning English | How To Cancel Plans Politely in English | Daily Life English

Đang tạo bài học...
1
Englishly Podcast.
2
From Speak English with Class.
3
Hey, English learners!
4
Welcome back to the English Leap Podcast, your cozy little place to learn easy English through real, everyday conversations.
5
I'm Anna.
6
And I'm Jake.
7
And today we're taking one very normal part of everyday English and making it less awkward.
8
Less awkward, hopefully.
9
Hopefully?
10
Anna, I don't think that's possible.
11
Half of everyday life is awkward.
12
Okay, fair, but today we're tackling one of the most awkward things a human being can do: cancelling plans.
13
Oh no. Oh no no no. Are we doing this?
14
Are we actually doing an episode on this?
15
We are.
16
Because I feel personally attacked already and we haven't even started.
17
Why?
18
Because I am historically the worst person to make plans with.
19
Ask anyone.
20
I have cancelled on my own birthday dinner before.
21
You canceled your own birthday dinner?
22
In my defense, I was tired.
23
That's not a defense, Jake.
24
That's a confession.
25
Fair, but also relatable.
26
Very relatable.
27
And that's why today's episode is about canceling flans politely in English.
28
Today's level is B1 to B2, so you'll hear natural, everyday phrases you can use with friends, family, group chats, and even at work.
29
Then, in Say It Better, we'll take the kind of short, direct sentences learners often use and make them sound warmer, clearer, and more natural.
30
And if you're learning with the English Leap Club, this episode is perfect for practicing real messages, polite phrases, and shadowing.
31
So if you've ever stared at your phone thinking, "How do I cancel without sounding rude?" This episode is for you.
32
Alright, let's get awkward!
33
Politely awkward.
34
Okay, so here's the thing: everybody has to cancel plans at some point.
35
Everybody.
36
You get invited to something, you say yes, and then life happens.
37
Or laziness happens.
38
Or laziness happens, sure.
39
And then suddenly you're sitting there at 11 at night staring at your phone thinking, "How do I tell my friend I'm not coming without sounding like a monster?" See,
40
I don't overthink it.
41
I just say, "Hey, can't make it.
42
Sorry." Simple.
43
Efficient.
44
Jake, no. What?
45
That was clean.
46
That was clear.
47
It was too blunt.
48
There's no warmth in it.
49
But it has information.
50
It has information, yes, but it doesn't have care.
51
Imagine your friend is really looking forward to seeing you, and then you send, "Can't make it.
52
Sorry.
53
That feels cold." But it's honest.
54
I'm a direct communicator, Anna.
55
Some cultures value that.
56
between being direct and being abrupt.
57
Abrupt.
58
That sounds like directness with bad manners.
59
Pretty much.
60
And in English, especially in social situations, people usually expect a little cushioning.
61
Cushioning.
62
Like a pillow for your rejection.
63
Yes, a pillow for your rejection.
64
I feel like we just invented a business.
65
Polite pillows for painful messages.
66
I'd buy one.
67
But really, this is the point.
68
Canceling plans is not always rude.
69
Disappear Disappearing is rude.
70
Yes.
71
Disappearing is rude.
72
Canceling with no care can feel rude.
73
But cancelling honestly, clearly, and warmly?
74
That's just life.
75
So we're not teaching people how to lie better.
76
No. We're teaching people how to sound human.
77
Good, because I need that lesson in several areas.
78
We'll start with this one.
79
So, let's break this down.
80
A polite cancellation in English usually has three parts.
81
Ooh, structure. or a soft opener.
82
So not just "can't come." Correct.
83
Part 2: A reason.
84
It doesn't have to be super detailed.
85
Excellent.
86
I don't want to send my whole autobiography.
87
In Part 3: A way to make it right, like suggesting another time.
88
Okay, give me the phrases.
89
Hit me.
90
For the opener, you can say I'm so sorry, but… Classic.
91
Or, I feel terrible about this, but… A little emotional.
92
Or a softer one.
93
I hate to do this, but… See, I hate to do this.
94
I like that one.
95
It shows regret without being too much.
96
Right.
97
Then for the reason, you don't need a full essay.
98
Please don't write a full essay.
99
Nobody wants Chapter 1, Why I Cannot Attend Dinner.
100
You can say, Something's come up.
101
Very useful.
102
Or, I'm not feeling great.
103
"Also useful." Or, "Work's been crazy and I just don't think I can make it." Can I be honest?
104
Always dangerous, but go ahead.
105
"Some things come up as doing a lot of heavy lifting in the English language." It really is.
106
That phrase covers everything from "There is a real emergency" to "I looked at my sofa
107
and my sofa looked back." That is painfully accurate.
108
It's mysterious, vague excuses all the time.
109
Why do I feel judged?
110
Because if something came up three weekends in a row, people start to notice a pattern.
111
Those were three completely unrelated incidents.
112
Sure they were.
113
So what's the good version?
114
Something like, hey, I'm so sorry, but something's come up and I don't think I can make it tonight.
115
Can we do another day?
116
That's good.
117
Short, warm, clear.
118
That's the balance.
119
You apologize, you give a simple reason, and you show the person the plan "I'm not coming," but it also says,
120
"I'm not disappearing from your life." Yes, that's the feeling we want.
121
Clear message, soft landing.
122
Exactly.
123
That one is free.
124
You're welcome.
125
Okay, but I need to push back here.
126
Go on.
127
I think sometimes all this softening and cushioning goes too far.
128
Too far how?
129
I've received messages that are so padded with apologies that I genuinely can't tell if the person is canceling or not.
130
Give me an example.
131
Okay, something like, "Hi, so sorry to do this.
132
I feel absolutely terrible.
133
I've been thinking about this all day.
134
I really don't want to be that person, but I think, unfortunately, I might possibly not be able to make it tonight,
135
if that's okay." Oh no. And I'm sitting there thinking, "Are you coming or not?" Okay.
136
That is too much.
137
Thank you.
138
No. You're right.
139
I think I sometimes over -teach politeness.
140
Wait.
141
Did I just win?
142
Briefly.
143
I need a moment.
144
Take a small one.
145
Thank you.
146
Because yes, warmth matters, but if your message is so soft that no one understands it, then the politeness is not helping.
147
That's true.
148
A good cancellation should not make the other person solve a mystery.
149
Exactly.
150
Your friend should not need a detective board with red string just to know if you're coming to dinner.
151
So I'll adjust my advice.
152
Be warm, That is all I wanted.
153
Enjoy your victory.
154
I will.
155
Quietly. With dignity.
156
Unlikely.
157
So what's the better version?
158
Something like, "Hey, I'm so sorry.
159
I actually can't make it tonight.
160
Something came up.
161
Can we do a rain check?" That's good!
162
And rain check is a really useful phrase.
163
Love a rain check!
164
It basically means, let's not do this now, but let's do it another time.
165
It comes from baseball, actually.
166
If a game got rained out, they'd give you a ticket, a rain check, to come back another day.
167
Wait, you actually know that?
168
I contain multitudes, Anna.
169
You get one of those per episode.
170
One what?
171
One I contain multitudes.
172
Fine, I'll use it wisely.
173
But yes, can we do a rain check is friendly, Just not today.
174
And that part matters.
175
It really does.
176
Because when someone cancels, the other person may think, "Oh, maybe they don't want to see me." A rain check says, "No, no, I still like you.
177
I'm just tired, busy, overwhelmed, or trapped under a blanket." Jake.
178
Too honest?
179
A little, but relatable.
180
Can we pause on that for a second?
181
Uh -oh.
182
Serious Anna has entered the room.
183
sound like a small topic, but sometimes it touches something bigger.
184
Like feeling unimportant.
185
Yes.
186
If you are looking forward to seeing someone and they cancel in a careless way, it can sting a little.
187
Even if you understand.
188
Even if you understand.
189
That's the annoying part.
190
Your brain says it's fine, but your face is already offended.
191
Exactly.
192
You can tell yourself they're busy or things happen, but a cold message can still Especially if you already chose your outfit.
193
That is a real emotional investment.
194
Thank you for respecting that.
195
So when we add warmth, we're not being fake.
196
We're protecting the relationship.
197
That's a good way to put it.
198
We're saying, I can't come, but you still matter.
199
That line is actually the whole episode.
200
It might be.
201
Write that on the polite pillow.
202
And we're back.
203
Okay, next situation.
204
Let's talk about a very modern nightmare, canceling on a group plan.
205
Oh, this is a war zone.
206
Different rules entirely.
207
Totally different, because now it's not private.
208
Everyone can see it, and there's social pressure.
209
disappear.
210
No. Because people start talking about you in the chat while you are still in it.
211
Has anyone heard from Jake?
212
Jake seen 2 :47 p .m no response.
213
It's brutal out there.
214
So for group chats, what do you say?
215
Keep it light and short.
216
Hey guys, so sorry, I'm gonna have to sit this one out.
217
Have so much fun though.
218
Tell me everything after. That works.
219
Look at me, socially responsible.
220
Let's not print certificates yet.
221
Harsh but fair.
222
I like Sit this one out.
223
It's casual but softer than "I'm not coming." And "Tell me everything after" shows you still care.
224
You're still interested.
225
You're not just ghosting the group.
226
Don't be a social ghost.
227
Especially not the kind who watches every message and says nothing.
228
That ghost has Wi -Fi.
229
And no courage.
230
Painfully accurate.
231
And this is where tone matters more than the exact words.
232
100%.
233
You could say the same sentence in a flat way and it sounds cold.
234
Or with a little warmth and it sounds friendly.
235
In writing, small things help: mark, maybe one emoji if that feels natural.
236
Wait, one emoji?
237
One.
238
What if I send three?
239
Then I start to question your sincerity.
240
Three emojis make you doubt my soul?
241
Depending on the emojis, yes.
242
Harsh.
243
If you send, so sorry, next time for real, I promise, with way too many crying emojis, I start to question your sincerity.
244
That is oddly specific.
245
I've seen things, Jake.
246
Clearly.
247
Simple rule for And don't send 12 crying emojis unless there was an actual tragedy.
248
Exactly.
249
Now, let's talk about the hardest one, the last -minute cancellation.
250
This one requires actual skill.
251
Let's say the plan is in two hours and you have to cancel.
252
Painful.
253
The shorter the notice, the more care your message needs.
254
True.
255
If you cancel a week early, most people are fine.
256
If you cancel two hours before, you better handle it properly.
257
So what would you say?
258
I'm so sorry for the short notice, but I'm not going to be able to make it tonight.
259
I promise I'll make it up to you.
260
That's a strong message.
261
Thank you.
262
I have evolved since my birthday dinner incident.
263
incident.
264
I was afraid of that.
265
"I'm sorry for the short notice" is key there.
266
You're acknowledging that the timing makes it worse.
267
Right, because if you pretend the timing isn't an issue, it just makes people more annoyed.
268
Yes.
269
You're not just saying, "I can't come." You're saying, "I understand this may inconvenience you." That sounds very adult.
270
It is very adult.
271
I'm uncomfortable.
272
And "I'll make it up to you" is a nice closer.
273
disappearing.
274
I have a problem with that phrase.
275
Of course you do.
276
I think "I'll make it up to you" gets overused.
277
It can be sincere.
278
It can be.
279
But a lot of people say it and then do nothing.
280
No coffee, no new plan, no message, just vibes.
281
Sometimes people need time.
282
And sometimes people need to stop making emotional promises they know they won't keep.
283
That is actually a strong point.
284
Thank you.
285
I'm growing.
286
I still don't think we should avoid the phrase "completely." I'm saying don't use it like decoration.
287
Decoration?
288
Yes.
289
Like, "Sorry, sorry, I'll make it up to you." And then they disappear into the mist.
290
Into the mist?
291
The social mist.
292
Very real place.
293
So the better rule is only say "I'll make it up to you" if you're actually willing to do something later.
294
Yes.
295
If you say it, back it up.
296
Suggest another day.
297
Send a message later.
298
Plan the next coffee.
299
Tiny action.
300
Big difference.
301
So we agree?
302
Mostly.
303
Mostly?
304
I still think people should be legally required to buy coffee after canceling twice.
305
And there he is.
306
Okay, quick fire.
307
Finally, speed.
308
Coffee ketchup.
309
Can we push this to another day?
310
Something's come up on my end.
311
Work meeting.
312
I apologize for the inconvenience.
313
Could we reschedule for later this week?
314
Group dinner.
315
I'm gonna have to sit this one out.
316
Have fun and tell me everything after.
317
First date.
318
Dangerous territory.
319
Phrase, Jake.
320
"I'm really sorry, but I don't think I can make it tonight.
321
Would you be open to rescheduling?" If you don't want to reschedule.
322
Leave that part off.
323
Family holiday dinner.
324
I suddenly respect every diplomat in history.
325
Try.
326
I feel awful saying this, but I don't think I can make it this year.
327
I'll call you and we'll catch up properly.
328
Last -minute cancellation.
329
I'm so sorry for the short notice.
330
I won't be able to make it tonight.
331
Someone cancels on you.
332
No worries.
333
Thanks for letting me know.
334
We can plan another time.
335
Good.
336
That was actually quick.
337
I clean up fast.
338
Before we move on, let's make the main idea clear.
339
Warm but clear.
340
Polite but not confusing.
341
Sorry, reason, next step.
342
If you can remember that, you can handle most cancellation messages in English.
343
And maybe keep your friendships.
344
Very important bonus!
345
And now it's time for word tour.
346
These are today's Strong Words from the Conversation.
347
Our first word is abrupt.
348
Abrupt.
349
Abrupt.
350
"Abrupt" means too sudden, too direct, or a little rude because there is not enough warmth.
351
In today's episode, we talked about how "can't make it" "sorry" can sound abrupt.
352
You could say, "His message felt abrupt." Or, I didn't mean to sound abrupt, I was just in a hurry.
353
Our next word is cushioning.
354
Cushioning.
355
Cushioning Cushioning means adding softer words around a difficult message.
356
It makes the message feel less sharp.
357
In today's episode, we talked about using cushioning when we cancel plans.
358
You could say, "A little cushioning makes the message sound kinder." Or, this sentence needs more cushioning because it sounds too cold.
359
Our next phrase is "rain check." Rain check.
360
Rain check.
361
A rain check means you cannot do the plan now, but you want to do it another time.
362
It is friendly and casual you could say can we do a rain check Or,
363
"I can't meet tonight but I'd love a rain check." Our next word is excessive.
364
excessive, excessive.
365
Excessive means too much or more than necessary.
366
In today's episode, we talked about messages with too many apologies.
367
You could say, "That apology felt excessive." Or, too many details can make a cancellation message feel excessive.
368
Our next word is vague.
369
vague vague, Vague means not clear or not specific.
370
In today's episode, something came up was a vague reason But sometimes vague is useful when the reason is private.
371
You could say, "His reason was vague but polite."
372
or "I gave a vague explanation because it was personal." Our final word is sincere.
373
Sincere.
374
sincere.
375
Sincere means honest, real, and truly meant.
376
A sincere apology does not sound fake or automatic.
377
You could say, "Her apology sounded sincere." Or, if you say you'll make it up to someone, be sincere.
378
Today's words were abrupt, cushioning, rain -check, excessive, vague and sincere.
379
And that is a good place to turn the words into practice.
380
If you want to revisit this episode after listening, English Leap Club is there to support you.
381
You can read the transcript, review the strong words, try the quizzes and games, and repeat the shadowing lines out loud.
382
So these phrases do not just sound good in the episode.
383
They become language you can actually use.
384
And that takes us perfectly into "Say It Better." make them sound more natural,
385
warmer, and more useful.
386
And today, these are not just English sentences.
387
They are awkward life sentences.
388
Very useful awkward life sentences.
389
First sentence: I can't come.
390
Clear, but a little cold.
391
A better way to say it is: I'm really sorry, but I don't think I can make it tonight.
392
That sounds warmer because it has cushioning.
393
Next sentence: Can't make it.
394
Sorry.
395
Very short.
396
Maybe too short.
397
A better version would be, I'm so sorry, but something's come up and I won't be able to make it.
398
Still clear, but much more sincere.
399
Next sentence.
400
I'm busy.
401
This can sound careless.
402
A better version would be, something's come up on my end.
403
Can we push this to another day?
404
That gives a reason and a next step.
405
Next sentence.
406
Maybe next time.
407
That sounds vague.
408
The better version would be, "Can we do a rain check?
409
I'd still love to meet another time." That protects the relationship.
410
Next sentence: "I'm not coming." Too abrupt.
411
A better version would be, "I'm so sorry for the short notice, but I'm not going to be able to make it tonight." That sounds more respectful,
412
especially if it is last minute.
413
Next sentence: Change the plan.
414
That sounds like an order.
415
A better version would be: Would it be okay if we move this to another day? softer, clearer, and more polite.
416
Next sentence: Sorry, I forgot.
417
Honest, but it can sound careless.
418
A better version would be, "I'm really sorry.
419
This completely slipped my mind.
420
Can I make it up to you?" That shows responsibility.
421
Final sentence: Okay.
422
This is when someone cancels on you.
423
"Okay" is not wrong, but in a message, it can feel cold.
424
A better version would be, "No worries.
425
Thanks for letting me know.
426
We can plan another time." That sounds calm, kind, and mature.
427
So today's simple pattern is this: be clear, but not abrupt.
428
Be polite, but not excessive.
429
Be private but not too vague.
430
And most importantly, be sincere.
431
Okay, so if people take away one thing from this episode, what is it?
432
I'd say this: Canceling politely isn't about avoiding the truth.
433
It's about softening the delivery.
434
Apologize.
435
Give a light reason.
436
and if you want to meet later, offer a rain check.
437
But don't overdo it.
438
Be warm, but be clear.
439
Nobody needs a three -paragraph text to know you're not coming to brunch.
440
And if you say, "I'll make it up to you," Mean it.
441
We still disagree slightly about how strict that rule should be.
442
I believe in backing it up.
443
You believe in coffee penalties.
444
Also true!
445
And Jake… I know what's coming.
446
Please don't cancel your own birthday dinner again.
447
One time.
448
It happened one time.
449
You said historically at the beginning of the episode.
450
I regret that word choice.
451
See?
452
Today's vocabulary is already helping painfully.
453
Thank you for listening to the English Leap Podcast.
454
If this episode helped you, write one polite cancellation message in the comments.
455
You can start with, "I'm so sorry, but…" and try to make it warm, clear, and natural.
456
Take care, keep practicing, and remember, real English grows in real daily moments.
457
See you next time.
458
Bye for now.
459
Your progress doesn't end here.
460
To continue advancing your English skills, click on the next video or explore the additional videos we've thoughtfully selected for you.
461
you Bye.

Giới Thiệu Về Bài Học Này

Trong bài học này, bạn sẽ thực hành cách thông báo hủy kế hoạch một cách lịch sự trong tiếng Anh. Hủy kế hoạch có thể là một phần không dễ chịu trong giao tiếp hàng ngày, vì vậy chúng ta sẽ xem xét những cụm từ và cách diễn đạt hữu ích để bạn có thể thực hiện điều đó một cách tự tin. Bài học này đặc biệt phù hợp với những người học từ trình độ B1 đến B2, giúp bạn có thể giao tiếp tự nhiên hơn với bạn bè, gia đình, và đồng nghiệp.

Từ Vựng & Cụm Từ Quan Trọng

  • Can’t make it: Không thể tham gia
  • Sorry: Xin lỗi
  • How do I tell: Làm thế nào để tôi nói
  • Hủy kế hoạch: Cancel plans
  • Politely: Lịch sự
  • Awkward: Ngượng ngập
  • Warmth: Sự ấm áp trong giao tiếp
  • Life happens: Cuộc sống xảy ra

Mẹo Thực Hành

Để cải thiện khả năng phát âm tiếng anh chuẩn và kỹ năng giao tiếp của bạn, hãy thử phương pháp shadowspeak thông qua video. Khi xem video, hãy chú ý đến tốc độ và âm điệu của diễn giả. Bắt chước cách họ nhấn âm và nhịp điệu khi họ nói. Thực hiện việc này nhiều lần giúp bạn cảm thấy tự nhiên hơn khi sử dụng những cụm từ đã học. Với phần mềm shadowing, bạn có thể nghe và lặp lại theo từng câu, giúp cải thiện cả luyện nghe nói qua video và khả năng giao tiếp của bạn. Hãy nhớ rằng việc hủy kế hoạch có thể gây ngượng ngập, nhưng việc chuẩn bị trước những câu nói sẽ khiến bạn tự tin hơn rất nhiều!

Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?

Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.

Phương pháp shadowing: đọc hướng dẫn từng bước đầy đủ →