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Transcriber: Anggiasti R W Reviewer: Zsófia Herczeg It isn’t true what they say, that you can’t love anyone until you love yourself.
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Transcriber: Anggiasti R W Reviewer: Zsófia Herczeg It isn’t true what they say, that you can’t love anyone until you love yourself.
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Have you heard that?
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People say you have to learn to love yourself before you can love anybody else.
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But it’s not true.
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I loved everybody before I loved myself.
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Love doesn’t care which way you come or what state you’re in when you get here.
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Love welcomes everyone unconditionally.
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Oddly, so do focus group moderators - (Laughter) which is how and why I learned to do it.
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If you’ve never been a part of a focus group, you’re missing a really special cultural experience.
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So, in every focus group, there’s a range of characters, right?
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There’s always a shy one and a chatty one, a grumpy one that doesn’t want to do any of the exercises, and a very excited mom with a notebook, who wants to get an A plus in all of the exercises.
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(Laughter) There’s a student who lied on the intake because they need the money, and a dad full of jokes who can’t read the room.
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(Laughter) And usually, there’s one ex-military guy who keeps staring at the two-way mirror suspiciously.
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(Laughter) It’s a situation where a group of people that may not otherwise ever meet have the chance to share their perspectives.
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And it’s my job as the moderator to make sure that they all get heard.
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Now, it’s not quite a classroom.
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It’s not group therapy.
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And while the community feel has some elements of holiness, probably no one would call it a spiritual experience.
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I mean, no one else.
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Because moderating rooms of strange and difficult voices is what taught me to welcome all the strange and difficult parts of myself.
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No kidding.
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I start every morning meditation with the same opener I use as a focus group moderator: “Thanks, everyone, for being here.” (Laughter) “Your input is valued.” (Laughter) “I’m going to hear from each of you. I’ll give you all the chance to speak.
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Just do your best to be completely present, honest, and try to make any requests reasonable.” So I don’t know about you, but there are a lot of me in here, in the mind of Karen Faith.
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I’m not referring to psychiatric illness specifically, but I don’t exclude that.
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(Laughter) My mind has plenty of quirks, but what I have to share is for anyone with an inner dialogue.
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Though I admit, it’s especially for those of us with a really noisy one.
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So I noticed some time ago that I was arguing with myself.
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And then I wondered: If I didn’t agree with me, who is I, and who is me in that scenario?
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And it turned out that there are quite a few of me.
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There’s a really sentimental, emotional me, an intellectual, analytical me.
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Those two argue a lot.
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There’s a me who loves being on stage.
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There’s another one who is pretty shaky at the moment.
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Some of us - at this time, I include you - some of us regard these as feelings or thoughts.
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And maybe we’ve done our personal homework, accepting that we can have conflicting feelings at the same time.
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We can be excited about a new job and also dread going back to work.
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We can be tired and want to stay up.
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We can adore someone who also annoys us.
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We can love someone who has badly betrayed us.
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We know this.
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And when we’re honest and rational, we can see that these are common experiences.
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But we’re not crazy to both love and hate camping.
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(Laughter) It does me no harm to embrace that I feel both ways about it.
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But what about the thought that I’m worthless, that I don’t belong here?
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The mistakes I’ve made are unforgivable, that the bad things that happened in my life were my fault.
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Those thoughts are just as real as the rest of them, but they're harder to live with.
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And they send many of us to therapy or to yoga or the nearest bar, which more or less describes my daily commute for many years.
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(Laughter) Because I wanted to silence those thoughts completely.
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And let me tell you: I tried.
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I have done every kind of therapy I have ever heard of.
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I have done talk therapy, energy healing, body work, hypnotherapy, soul retrieval, the tapping stuff, the thing with the lights.
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I did seven kinds of yoga.
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I drank the “special tea” with the shaman in the forest.
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(Laughter) I admit I did pass on the acupuncture they do with live honeybees - (Laughter) people do that.
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(Laughter) Suffice to say, I tried.
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And still sometimes, when I was alone, I would hear myself shouting: “Shut up!” or worse to my own mind.
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In my work as a people researcher, it’s my job to practice empathy with strangers, to receive everything I can about their world in order to understand them as deeply as possible.
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Now, it’s noteworthy that I found this career at a temp job, writing meeting notes, when my supervisor noticed that I wasn’t just paraphrasing conversation, I was recording body language, micro-expressions, tonal shifts, specific verb choices.
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What neither of us knew then is that the qualities which made me seem skillful were the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress.
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The most reasonable results of an appalling upbringing, and a fact I share not to set me apart from you but to welcome you in here with me.
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Everyone in this room has walked through something difficult in order to be here.
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And I want you to know that whatever path you’ve taken to get through it is honorable.
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Whether you never talk about it, or you write bad poetry about it, whether you make tons of money prosecuting it, or if you just hit the gym like a champ to sweat it out of your body, there is truly no wrong way.
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There are some ways that cause other problems.
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You know the ones.
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(Laughter) I’ve done some of those.
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I still do some of those.
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And I don’t judge those either, because gifts and curses are “buy one, get one.” And mine were no exception.
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My early life gave me heaps of shame and a splintered sense of self - hence all the different mes - but it also gave me super antennas for the emotions of others.
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This hypervigilance made me a certified mess of a person but a damn near-wizard-level observer.
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So I got to work.
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The last 20 years I’ve shadowed people in their homes, at their jobs, while they shop and drive, and go on dates.
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I ask them to be honest and vulnerable with me, and to do this, I practice something that I call unconditional welcome, which is like a researcher’s neutrality, but a little extra.
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The day I discovered it, I was sitting in the living room of a research subject.
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She was a very unpleasant woman, if I’m honest.
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Feeding french fries to an infant, as she snapped at me that she would never have her children vaccinated, not even to protect them from polio because she didn’t know it was in those shots.
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Now never mind that she said this an inch of ash deep into a Virginia Slim, right.
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(Laughter) I was judging her, I know.
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I’m not proud of it, but at least one of me is a jerk.
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(Laughter) I needed to connect with her, and I didn’t want to.
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I didn't like her. I didn't respect her.
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I didn’t want to spend a single moment with her.
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And the project required that I spend hours.
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And that I used that time to get to know her: what she values, what she believes, where she finds strength.
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Researcher neutrality was unavailable to me at the time, so I had to get out the big guns.
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I called up my New Age visualization skills, and I took a deep breath, secondhand smoke and all.
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And I imagined that my breath was inflating a shiny soap bubble filled with unconditional welcome.
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Not tolerance.
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Not even compassion.
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Total welcome as is - no comments, no notes.
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And as I inflated the bubble, it became big enough to contain my whole body.
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And then hers.
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And in that moment, I saw a mother feeding her baby in a world that she didn’t trust.
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I told her that I could see that she cared about protecting her son, and I asked her if she got that from her parents.
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And then we had a conversation.
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And I learned about her.
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I learned why she was afraid and angry, and how she fought through that fear to make a family.
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When I welcomed this woman unconditionally, I saw her more clearly, but I also loved her instantly.
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We have been told too often that love is hard.
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It’s not. Love is what happens when we stop trying to figure out who deserves it.
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It’s right there when we stop trying to figure out who deserves it, and we welcome someone, anyone, exactly as they are, in the moment.
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It’ll be two more years before I learn to do this with all the parts of myself.
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But it started just as simply; a part of me had become very chatty - a part that was afraid and angry, whiny, demanding, unreasonable and relentless.
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She told me that we were never going to get better.
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She wanted out of here.
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I asked her what I could do.
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She only told me she wanted to die, over and over and over and over.
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I begged her to shut up, and she did not.
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Finally, after weeks of harassment, whether out of exhaustion or epiphany, instead of shouting back, I took a deep breath.
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I became my own moderator.
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I said out loud in a voice that surprised me: “Thank you for sharing.
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I’m going to remind you of our agreement to be honest and reasonable.” And she answered me - that voice.
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Now, don’t get spooked. This is all just thinking happening.
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(Laughter) But the part of me asking and the part answering did in fact seem like different parts.
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She told me that she was in a lot of pain. And I told her: “I know.
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And I promise you I’m going to take care of you.
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But I need you to get on board.
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I will listen to you, but I will not obey you.” And as clearly as I’m speaking to you now, she said okay.
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And then we started to talk.
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As I continue the dialogue with myself, I found more of me, more voices with more points of view, some of them more fun than others.
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And the imagined landscape of my mind began to look a lot like a focus group.
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This round table of wildly mixed characters and one moderator keeping some kind of order with honesty, boundaries, kindness, and most importantly, gratitude.
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I thank my selves for their contributions.
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No matter how bonkers or twisted they may seem, because we’re all me.
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I think of my fragmented self less like broken mirror and more like a prism.
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We’re full spectrum.
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Today, there isn’t a voice in my head that I don’t welcome.
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And while some of us are occasionally unreasonable, we’re not mean.
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Even my whiny, shamey voice is trying to help in her weird way.
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But when I ask her to be clear and kind, she tells me exactly what I need to know: what she needs to feel better and what she’d like for me to learn.
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But just like the scared and angry mother, she only does this when I accept her exactly as she is in the moment.
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So while my openings for self-talk and focus groups sound almost identical, the closings are a little different.
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At the round table, I would hand out parking validation, remind everyone to sign for their cash, but when I’m with all of me, I say: “I love you.
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Thank you for helping me see what you see” - which is why this practice is so useful for all of us here with our different perspectives, inside and outside of one another.
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If we can receive one another with the curiosity and welcome of a focus group moderator, perhaps we can do a better job of love.
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Because it is not true what they say: that you can’t love anyone until you love yourself.
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Love is a house you can crawl in through a window.
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If you can’t start with yourself, start with the person next to you right now whether you know them or not.
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All you have to do is let them be here.
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It's easy, isn't it?
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Wherever they’ve been, whatever they’re carrying, whatever talents they have or don’t have, whatever mistakes they’ve made, can you just welcome them here?
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Can you welcome you?
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We’re here right now, like this.
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We’re beautiful and strange and complicated and scared and sometimes kind of horrible.
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But all of us are worthy of welcome.
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And everyone that you show unconditional welcome may show you a part of yourself to love.
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You are welcome.
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Thank you. (Applause)
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Bài học này sẽ giúp bạn nâng cao kỹ năng nghe và nói tiếng Anh thông qua các đoạn hội thoại thú vị trong video "Cách trò chuyện với những phần tồi tệ nhất của chính mình" của Karen Faith. Người học sẽ thực hành bằng cách nhại theo (shadowing) nhằm cải thiện kỹ năng phát âm, ngữ điệu và khả năng diễn đạt cảm xúc trong tiếng Anh. Điều này không chỉ giúp bạn tự tin hơn khi nói tiếng Anh mà còn phát triển khả năng nhận biết các sắc thái trong giao tiếp.
Từ vựng và cụm từ chính
- Những phần tồi tệ nhất của chính mình: Một khái niệm về việc chấp nhận và yêu thương cả những phần không hoàn hảo trong bản thân.
- Đối thoại nội tâm: Những suy nghĩ và cảm xúc đang diễn ra trong tâm trí một người.
- Sự chấp nhận: Hành động chấp nhận cảm xúc và suy nghĩ của chính mình mà không phán xét.
- Thảo luận nhóm: Một cách để chia sẻ và lắng nghe ý kiến từ những người khác nhau, tạo môi trường hỗ trợ lẫn nhau.
- Cảm xúc và lý trí: Những khía cạnh khác nhau trong con người thường xung đột với nhau nhưng cũng bổ sung cho nhau.
- Cảm giác không thuộc về nơi đây: Một tình trạng phổ biến mà nhiều người cảm thấy không xứng đáng hoặc không được chấp nhận.
Mẹo luyện tập
Để tận dụng tối đa bài học từ video này, hãy thử áp dụng phương pháp shadow speak bằng cách làm theo những gì bạn nghe. Dưới đây là một số mẹo hữu ích:
- Chọn đoạn video phù hợp: Bắt đầu với những đoạn ngắn, vừa phải, dành cho người mới bắt đầu. Hãy làm quen với tốc độ và âm điệu của người nói.
- Nghe và nhại theo: Lần đầu tiên, hãy chỉ nghe. Sau đó, phát lại đoạn video và cố gắng nhại theo từng từ, cụm từ và cách diễn đạt. Khi bạn cảm thấy tự tin hơn, hãy cố gắng nhại theo mà không cần nhìn phụ đề.
- Tập trung vào cảm xúc: Chú ý đến ngữ điệu và cảm xúc trong giọng nói của Karen Faith. Điều này sẽ giúp bạn cải thiện khả năng diễn đạt cảm xúc trong khi nói tiếng Anh.
- Thực hành đều đặn: Nghe video nhiều lần và luyện tập thường xuyên. Việc này không chỉ cải thiện phát âm mà còn giúp bạn quen dần với cấu trúc câu trong tiếng Anh.
Sử dụng những mẹo này để luyện nghe nói qua video và phát âm tiếng Anh chuẩn hơn. Khi kết hợp được kỹ năng này, bạn sẽ thấy sự tiến bộ rõ rệt trong khả năng giao tiếp của mình.
Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?
Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.