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So in case you didn't know how to make friends is actually the most Googled topic on my laptop.

Google will just tell you to reconnect with your old friends wikiHow is just a copy paste Reskin of Google with questionable illustrations.

Reddit comments will tell you to go on meetup websites that no one actually uses in real life.

Or to start a cornhole club.

Social media also probably won't help you.

YouTube is the main reason people don't go outside in the first place.

Tik Tok is literally designed to entertain you when you're alone.

LinkedIn is a dystopian simulation.

Facebook only has people twice your age.

Snapchat messages are from people you don't know.

Discord messages are from people you don't want to know.

Instagram is where you send messages that no one replies to and Tinder is where you schedule dates that no one shows up to.

Which leaves only one real option for making friends, and that's talking to people in real life.

Luckily, after years of failing miserably at this, I figured it out and I came up with 16 different methods that you can pick from based on your personality and what comes naturally to you.

Method 1: Filter out the boring people.

It can often be frustrating to meet a group of people and take weeks or months to realize that your personality really isn't compatible with any of them.

and the solution is to let out your natural, controversial, unfiltered self from the beginning so that you can quickly filter out people who aren't compatible with you.

You shouldn't force it, but if a slightly funny dialog option pops into your head, or if you have a weird opinion, sometimes you should just say it instead of hiding it.

And if some people react positively, congratulations, You've just identified your new potential friends Method 2: the unique interest.

If you've ever been the filler friend who people don't seem to find that interesting or exciting, It's literally just because they don't know enough about you.

So to fix this, Talk to people about your unique interests.

You might not think people care, but even if you're into something niche like pressure washing driveways, At least people will have something to remember you by.

When they first meet you, Just make sure that you explain your interest to people in a way they can understand without using big words and without getting into the complex stuff.

If you can sense that the other person is bored, it means it's probably time to ask them about one of their interests.

Method 3: Be outside of your head.

Have you ever been in a group setting where everyone's talking and you don't know when to interject or even what to say? Man, I've been quiet for a while.

What are people thinking about me right now?

What do I even see? Do I have aura right now? quick.

What tips can I use from that- that one video with Jordan Peterson in the thumbnail?

this is overthinking.

Also known as getting in your head. Overthinking is what happens when you get a thought.

Then you think about it. Then filter it.

Then imagine yourself saying it.

Then modify it and approve it.

And then send it out your mouth just to mumble it because the conversation's already moved on.

But being outside of your head just means taking in the conversation.

Getting thoughts, but not thinking them over too much.

Just say them.

And even if you say something cringe, see it not as a failure, but as practice. Method 4: Don't force it.

when you feel like you need to force friendships with people who don't even like you.

You feel pressure, and pressure leads to anxiety, which leads to not being your natural self.

So if someone doesn't really care about you or you have absolutely nothing in common with them and you're not compatible, it's not the end of the world.

Just be as nice as you can and move on.

and at this point, it's a numbers game.

So as long as you talk to new people, you will make new friends eventually.

Method 5: be the main character.

the people who have the most friends tend to be the people who initiate conversations the most.

So just initiate conversations with any sentence you could possibly think of.

Just assuming that everyone wants to talk to you.

But remember, once you initiate, don't just talk about yourself.

Ask simple questions about people's lives.

Listen. And then ask follow up questions that show you actually listened to them.

this part is crucial because eventually, once people get comfortable talking to you, they'll start initiating conversations with you.

Method 6: be a side character.

The book How to Win Friends and Influence People is one of the only books on social skills that actually works.

I feel like books on social skills always try and teach you how to scientifically hack people's brains into producing oxytocin molecules by maintaining a 3-to-1 eye-contact- to-look-away ratio, or by strategically touching this part of the shoulder.

But in this book, the main piece of advice is that people tend to be mostly interested in themselves.

If you want someone to like you, make them feel important, compliment them, say their name when you initiate a conversation, act happy when they walk in the room, remember things about them, and ask questions about them as if their life is really important to you.

Method 7: Be the transparent friend.

One big roadblock for getting to know someone well is when no one is sharing or saying anything out of their comfort zone.

if you're just having safe, polite conversations with someone where you both hide your deeper thoughts and emotions, you probably won't build up much trust with them.

So try to make your conversations more transparent.

And this doesn't mean go up to people and ask them their deepest, darkest regret from their childhood.

instead, A great place to start is, Hey, do you want to hang out sometime?

Because that's being transparent.

That reveals that at least you kind of think the other person is cool.

And saying that kind of thing will slowly bring down the brick wall between you and someone you don't know that well.

Now on to Method 8: the injury update.

people love when you can empathize with their pain and actually seem to care.

But usually when you ask, How are you?

Everyone just says by default. Good.

Or if they're feeling daring. Fine.

So instead for this technique, directly ask people if there's anything that's been bothering them recently.

Maybe they have a physical injury that they need to complain to someone about.

Maybe someone made them mad and they need to vent.

Or maybe they've been having a bad day and they just need someone to talk to.

don't need to be a therapist, but you just need to care.

Number 9: The Group Chat.

If you meet new people really often but can't convert them into your friends, this is for you.

Obviously what you need to do is hang out with them regularly.

But for that, you need some kind of way to contact them.

So if you ever get a chance to do some activity with at least three or four people and you feel like everyone had a good time, immediately create a group chat, make sure that you are the first one to suggest the idea And if you need a reason, just see it so that you can get together and do the same thing tomorrow or next week.

That way you get everyone's number.

And even if the group chat goes quiet, you still have a bunch of people you could potentially ask to hang out with whenever you want.

Method 10: do them a favor.

It's often said that friendship is about two people who provide value to each other.

So when you meet new people, you could use the conversation to figure out how you could be valuable to them.

Maybe you're an expert at something they need help with.

Maybe you might have a common interest with them.

Or maybe you're just nice to them.

And if they return the favor or they act really nice towards you, that's probably a good potential friend.

method 11: Ask them for a favor.

Here's some examples of things you could ask.

Could you tell me where this place is?

Could you watch my stuff for a minute?

Or even could you introduce me to this person?

because not only does this show them you trust them, but this allows them to look really nice and generous without much effort.

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And also people like to feel useful, But whatever you do, don't constantly expect favors from people.

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If you never do anything nice for anyone, because that's not friendship.

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That's just networking.

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Method 12: Pickup Line.

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this is a method I personally use, If I'm in a group of strangers and I need to start a conversation fast to avoid being alone, I just think of a question that everyone could probably answer and then just go up to different people and ask that question.

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It's actually pretty easy because you already know what to say, Every time you go up to someone, and everyone will have a different answer that you can naturally lead into a conversation.

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Then, of course, that opens up space for you to ask better questions about where they're from, who they know, and what they like to do.

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all because you had the courage to just ask that first random question.

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Method 13: The Iso-Play.

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If you're often in a big group and you get overwhelmed feeling like you have to talk to everyone, this is for you.

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An Iso-Play in basketball is a common play where you pick out one of the easiest defenders from the other team and try to take them on one on one And to do this in real life, find someone in the group who isn't talking that much and start a side conversation with them only if you have to take them somewhere so that you can talk one on one.

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Make up some excuse.

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Like asking them to help you with something.

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This will make them feel special and important.

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And if you do this over time with everyone in the group, eventually you'll kind of know everyone decently.

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Method 14: Act like you're already friends.

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There's a saying that goes.

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If you go looking to find friends, you'll find very few.

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But if you go looking to be a friend, you'll find many.

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so, instead of trying to find people who will treat you like a friend, you go out instead and treat people like a friend as soon as you meet them.

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You can do this by flying past the awkward and polite stage and just going to the stage where you're lighting up every time you see someone.

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You're making fun of them like a friend would.

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You're saying their name a lot. You're patting them on the back.

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You're playing fighting with each other.

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And in general, you're treating them like someone you've known for a while.

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this is one of the most powerful methods.

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But as always, be careful because with great power comes great potential to be weird.

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Method 15: The Activity Buddy.

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When you meet someone, ask them something.

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They've always wanted to do but haven't gotten around to doing.

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then offer to do that thing with them.

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This way you're basically asking them to hang out, but it doesn't seem desperate because it's framed as you doing a favor for them.

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Plus, this is a perfectly normal reason for you to get their number.

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And it works on everyone.

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為什麼通過這個影片練習口語？

在當今的社交環境中，能夠流利地與人交流是極為重要的。這個影片提供了16種獨特的方法，幫助你在現實生活中結交朋友，可以作為“英語口語練習”的絕佳資源。通過跟隨影片中的對話，你不僅能提升自己的口語流利度，還能學習如何更自信地與他人溝通。這種“shadow speak”（影子口語）方法允許你模仿演講者的語音和語調，從而提升你的發音和表達能力。隨著對社交技巧的不斷理解，你將變得更加自然，在日常交流中更具自信。

語法及表達在語境中的運用

在影片中，演講者使用了多種有效的表達方式，以下是幾個關鍵句式的分析：

“Just say them.”——這句話強調了“說出你的想法”的重要性，鼓勵學習者不必過度思考。
“If some people react positively, congratulations.”——用這一句式可以有效表述對他人反應的積極期待，適用於社交場合。
“It’s not the end of the world.”——這是一種安慰的表達，可以幫助減輕社交時產生的焦慮感。

通過這些語法結構，學習者可以在日常對話中運用它們，從而提升交流的自然性與流利性。

常見發音陷阱

在影片中，有些詞彙和短語可能對英語學習者來說有發音上的挑戰：

“Cornhole”——這個俚語涉及到特定的遊戲，注意在發音時要保持清晰，以免造成誤解。
“Boring”——這個詞的重音在第一個音節，注意不要將重音放錯。
“Compatible”——這個詞的音節較多，發音時要注意把每個音節都聽清楚。

掌握以上發音技巧，有助於提高你的口語能力，並在“雅思口語練習”中獲得更好成績。

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
條件句 if + 從句，will/would + 動詞 — 條件及其結果	if this helped you, I'll be
現在完成進行時 have/has been + -ing — 以前開始、現在仍在繼續的動作	that's been bothering · they've been having
定語從句 who / which + 從句 — 補充說明人或事物	people who aren · friend who people · people who don
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	You've just identified · you've ever been · Have you ever been

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跟讀法 (Shadowing) 是一種有科學依據的語言學習技巧，最初開發用於專業口譯員的培訓，並由多語言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。這個方法簡單而強大：您在聽英語母語原聲的同時立即大聲重複——就像是一個延遲1-2秒緊跟說話者的影子。與被動聽力或語法練習不同，跟讀法強迫您的大腦和口腔肌肉同時處理並模模擬實的講話模式。研究表明它能顯著提高發音準確性，語調，節奏，連讀，聽力理解和口語流利度——使其成為雅思口語備考和真實英語交流最有效的方法之一。

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為什麼通過這個影片練習口語？

語法及表達在語境中的運用

常見發音陷阱

影片中的語法

什麼是跟讀法？