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Over the last three years, I have asked more than 100 married couples one huge question.

What would you say is the key to 60 years, 20 years, 54 years, 58 years together and successful, long lasting marriage?

And their answers have taught me more about love and dating than any book, course, video or school ever could.

And in this video, we will be sharing some of their most insightful, emotional, and knowledgeable pieces of advice we have heard to date.

How long have you been married for?

40.

Huh?

No.

1987.

Can we do that math really quick?

37 years.

Well, this will be 37.

37, yeah.

There's a times 10 factor.

You lose track.

You guys are married?

Yes, we've been married many years.

How many?

Good.

The year.

It's always like that.

See if you know.

54 years.

Yes, 54 years.

We met in 71.

We've been together 53 years.

Yeah, almost 53.

I kind of feel like a lot of my friends, like after 20 years of marriage, you want out.

40 years of marriage, you're like, oh my God, what have I done?

They never make it to the good part.

A lot of flowers that don't bloom for decades.

Interesting flowers.

She's very interesting.

And she's really intelligent.

And to me, very beautiful.

Sweet.

and we've been married 58 years, but still great.

What would you say is the secret to 58 years together, and you said still great?

The biggest thing is we both married our best friend.

True.

Well, to me, it's having your best friend next to you all the time.

When Ann goes out of the way for a few days, I'm sort of out of sorts.

We're together 32 years.

We've known each other for 50 years.

But somehow we never got, and we were single.

Right.

And so he got involved with other people and went separate ways for 18 years.

And sort of had a child together.

You know, that would have been awfully nice.

I was younger.

I worried a lot about finding love in my life, enduring love.

You know, whether it was living with someone or married to someone, it didn't work out.

Then we're together 30 years, so we came together fairly late, you know, in midlife.

And yes, it was that important.

And as you get older, it gets even much more important.

The most important decision you make in your life is your marriage and who you marry.

I can make or break it, as we all know.

It can be a success.

They can encourage you in whatever you're doing, discourage you.

The best thing that I ever did was I met Joan, and it was the best decision I ever made.

I was 23 and she was 20.

So that was our 20s.

You got to have your mate with you as long as possible when you get older.

Yeah.

Be single when you get older is not good at all.

How long have you guys been married for?

It's going to be 60 years in October.

What has gone you 60 years?

Still happy?

You know, I'm assuming, right?

Still happy?

Still enjoying?

There's a couple of days here and there that are pretty good.

What's the secret to a long-lasting relationship?

You got to be flexible.

You can't be dogmatic.

you're not always right.

She's not always right.

No.

I know what she's going to say.

You told me I'm a lot of talk, not you.

So I'm talking.

You can't let things fester.

You got something on your head, you talk about it, you resolve it, finish it.

Yeah.

Can you define the word love for me?

I don't know what the hell that is.

I can't define it.

If you can smile regularly, you're okay.

A lot of it is caring.

It's respect.

don't pick fights respect and um i mean love what's love he's crazy you know

so you got married at 87 with that lady there married for three years wow you've been married three years you got married at 90 to a younger man.

You're a cougar.

Congratulations.

How does that feel?

Thank you.

There you go.

Robbing the cradle.

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What I have felt in this relationship is that I hadn't felt any red flags.

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So, okay, so love is no red flags.

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I had a friend who once said, I love it in life when all of a sudden the lights go green.

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That's what's happened.

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I like that you were looking at him too when you said all this.

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Life worked very well after I met.

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My first husband died.

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After I married John, life was just very, very good.

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We've been fortunate enough to always travel, so we've been almost everywhere.

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We've just had a wonderful life.

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We're very lucky.

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Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but it's looking together in the same direction.

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What would you say is the key to a successful, long-lasting marriage?

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Patience, patience, good principles, you know?

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That's important.

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Cover your ears.

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Oh yes, okay.

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That is my opinion.

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How do you appreciate each other for so long?

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My wife is really a wonderful wife because she's every time very, very correct with me.

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And correct with everybody anyway, all human beings.

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So you're always right.

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I'm a little bit of a nun.

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What are the sacrifices that you guys had to make or have to make in order for this to work?

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Quite frankly, I don't think I made any sacrifices.

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I guess that marriage is not for everyone.

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None at all.

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God, I mean.

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Some people are thinking, oh, I have to sacrifice my freedom and this and that.

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No, I think you have more freedom when you have a committed relationship.

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Most relationships are not just a compromise, but a complementary existence.

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One person is the good cook, me.

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One person takes care of the finances, him, and that gets worked out in a relationship.

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But I think it's also an attitude toward life in general.

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I mean, I guess you could ask somebody, what kind of sacrifices do you make for your job?

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Well, if you really like your job, you know, look at it like a sacrifice.

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Good marriage gives one a sense of safety and comfort.

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It allows you to grow, just like a child who feels secure in their relationship with their parents is then willing to go out in the world independently, knowing that there's a good attachment.

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That's what marriage is.

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It's an attachment.

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Marriage is, you know, 60%, 40%, 60%, 40%.

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Isn't that 50-50?

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I'm usually the 60.

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I would hope so, yeah.

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I've heard from my dad that's the standard.

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That's the best way to go.

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60's pretty good for, I'm glad he's getting 40 at least, you know.

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We're 67 years married.

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No matter if we do get in arguments, which happens at all times with all people, we try not to let it hang over till the next day.

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We have it set in our lives that we embrace each other every morning, no matter what happens.

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And it erases any problems that we might've had.

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It brings us back to a decent level relationship.

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I think that's important.

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I love that.

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So you guys are both on your second marriage.

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Can you define the word love?

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I'd say love is care.

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It's a big word, but I think love means caring for someone.

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It just lasts.

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I think there is a feeling that applies better to us rather than one of us.

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what do I love about you is less than what I love about the both of us together as a couple.

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That's what I love.

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You're like, uh-uh.

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That was a good answer.

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That was better than what I was going to say, so I don't want to say what I had.

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The most important thing is honesty.

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Not doing anything.

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That's a good foundation to build trust and loyalty.

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It's an agreement that the trust is above everything.

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Yeah, we don't break the trust.

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Love is the ability to sacrifice oneself for the when you can put things aside that are from your ego or preference or personality and just say, yeah, I'll go with that.

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That's love.

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When I was a girl, I made a list of what I wanted in a guy, and then I met him.

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He had some of the valuable qualities that I wanted, like kindness, spirituality, intelligence, like really intelligent.

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Now, I had other things on my list that he completely doesn't meet at all, but he had the right character.

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So all through the years, again and again, I chose to love him whenever we'd get upset, whenever we completely didn't agree, whenever he wanted to live somewhere and I didn't want to live somewhere.

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That was a real crisis.

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Girls now, they're taught that what they want is the most important thing, rather than what is the we, what is like the best thing for us together instead of what's the best thing for me.

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When you give up that me to a we, that's love.

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I think that the key word is respect.

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You're not always going to agree with what he or she is doing.

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Ultimately respect their choices.

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I think you have to learn how to say you sorry.

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That is a really big thing.

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I thought that love is never having to say you sorry.

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Oh, but it is.

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And that's a ridiculous statement.

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That was just for you, yeah.

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What's the value of being with someone for the rest of your life, hopefully, versus jumping around and like, oh, if I have all of these options available to me, why would I stick with one?

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It's the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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You know the good, you know the bad, you know the ugly, and you still love the person.

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I mean, you can't ask for more than that.

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It's just, there's something really great about that and special.

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And even when you're angry at the person, and you still flick on that coffee machine that they need for the morning because you know they need that, that's commitment.

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What's the value of it?

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I think you get to a point, every relationship that's enduring, where you need to refresh it.

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For the relationship to keep growing, a way to get closer.

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You don't need to rush into marriage.

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We were together for five years before we got married.

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And then it was sort of the right time.

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It added something ineffable, right?

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But real.

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I think finding a life partner is the biggest gamble in your life.

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But if you do find it, it can be the magical part of your life.

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Well, we were kids when we met and there was a lot of luck and just communication.

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If I could give younger people advice is finding the right partner is important and therefore not having kids until you are more sure that it is the right partner because there's so many divorces in life.

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And obviously waiting a bit to have kids doesn't negate divorce, but it minimizes the chance that if you're not together as a couple, don't introduce someone else until you're sure.

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How is dating difference when you guys first started dating than it is today?

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I think the pressure on kids now is pretty hard from social media to go out, what to do, who to be with, where you are.

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I think they're smarter about protection.

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They Uber instead of drunk driving.

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We did not do that.

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Anything that you're going to do, get video consent for it first.

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Right.

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There was no permanent record of how incredibly inane you act.

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It was easier back then and it's tougher now.

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We were doing crazy stuff and no one was filming it.

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I mean, now they are.

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Every movement that you make is on film and you have so many distractions like, you know, social media.

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Commitment is harder because of that.

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What are some things you think we could do to have like more opportunities or better chance of finding real love.

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I think you should take this and flush it down the toilet.

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Personal connection.

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You can't replace that.

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I think it's very difficult now for dating.

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One, because it's all done kind of remotely.

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A lot of this texting back and forth, which seems like the worst way to communicate.

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We were very immature when we got married.

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We were both 22.

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Speak for yourself.

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I think it's harder than it ever was.

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But I also think that people's expectations are higher than maybe they should be.

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I think that you have to kind of take a chance on people and get to know them better.

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Having unrealistic expectations of this person is going to be lined up right up with all your ideals and all your priorities.

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It's not going to ever happen.

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Like you're going to have to make compromises.

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And so there's going to be surprises.

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What's one thing that when you were younger, you put a lot of importance on?

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And as you got older, you realized wasn't actually that important.

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You want the truth?

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Chasing girls.

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And then I met my wife and we've been married for 45 years.

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I saw the futility of that.

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It's a lot nicer to be in a very loving couple than to be chasing women all the time.

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Don't be afraid to fall in love.

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Yeah.

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No, it's true.

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Some people are.

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Some people are very sort of, you know, they're afraid of becoming dependent or getting hurt or whatever, but you shouldn't.

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You got to risk it.

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Feels like people aren't putting themselves out there as much or taking that risk.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I think maybe they think that there's always somebody else to try.

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So I get too bogged down with one relationship and just keep moving around.

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And after a while, you find years have gone by and you've just been moving around and not like challenging a relationship to continue like day to day.

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Yeah.

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You know, not looking so far ahead all the time.

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It is really, it's about day to day.

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Yeah.

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Even a long-term relationship has to do with today is today and it's the next day.

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Let's get better.

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How do you recommend someone finds love in this day and age then?

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Be open to find it.

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And if you get hurt, that's how you know you're alive, right?

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Don't make it a shopping list.

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I like to see who I'm with.

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So when I met her, I looked at her and I just saw flashing lights.

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So does she.

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Let yourself be changed by the person that you need.

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I've changed him a lot.

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I like musicals.

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He goes to musicals with me.

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I love you.

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That's shocking.

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It wasn't my habit.

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Yeah.

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Literally follow your heart.

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Like no one knows what you want except for yourself.

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Sometimes you won't listen to yourself because maybe what you want is not what others would want for you.

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I married a man 20 years older than me and everyone around me said that it was a wrong decision.

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Three years later, I can say that I'm so happy that I followed my heart.

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Yeah.

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And it comes with sacrifices, but it was the right choice.

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Amazing.

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Let's bring him in.

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Because you've been speaking about him the whole time, so this is the husband.

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Okay.

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Having a partner in life is the best thing because you always have that person that is going to be there for you.

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It's work, but it pays off.

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在本課中，學習者將通過觀看影片和剖析內容來提高他們的英語口語能力。在這個影片中，講述者詢問了100對已婚夫婦然後總結出了一些關於戀愛和婚姻的寶貴建議。這些建議不僅能幫助我們瞭解長期關係的秘密，還能增強我們的英語交流能力和口語表達技巧，尤其是對於雅思口語練習和日常交流都非常有幫助。

關鍵詞彙與短語

長期婚姻 (long-lasting marriage)
最佳朋友 (best friend)
出奇的花 (interesting flowers)
幸福的秘訣 (secret to happiness)
彼此瞭解 (understanding each other)
情感支援 (emotional support)
共度時光 (spending time together)
良好的溝通 (good communication)

練習技巧

為了有效提高英語口語能力，建議學習者使用英語影子跟讀的技巧。首先，儘量跟隨影片中的對話速度進行模仿，注意語調和情感表達。影片中的對話通常富有情感，並包含豐富的生活經驗，這有助於您在提及個人經歷時提高表達技巧。您可以在家中找一個安靜的地方，反覆觀看影片並嘗試在合適的時機模仿說話者的語氣，即使是短暫的句子也可以進行跟讀練習。

同時，在進行shadow speech時，注意講者的語速和停頓位置，利用這些自然的停頓來增強您的語音流暢性。當您反覆跟讀時，力求在雅思口語練習中達到自信流利的狀態。通過這種方式，您將不僅提升說英語的能力，還能加深對內容的理解。

最後，建議學習者結合個人故事和感受，應用所學的詞彙與短語進行實際對話，這樣可以更好地鞏固知識，同時提升您處理複雜情感話題的能力。

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
現在完成進行時 have/has been + -ing — 以前開始、現在仍在繼續的動作	you've just been moving · you've been speaking
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	have asked · have taught · have heard
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	be restocked · be lined · be changed

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