Shadowing Practice: not being insecure is easy, actually - Learn English Speaking with Video
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So if you're not really confident in social situations, most people will tell you to just fake it till you make it.
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And while this method can get you quick results, you can't keep it up forever.
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Eventually, you will exhaust your battery of fakeness.
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I think the reason why is because we already fake enough stuff.
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For example, we pretend to be excited about things we don't care about.
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We pretend to not care about things we're excited about.
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We pretend to know about things we don't know about.
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We pretend to not know about things we actually do know about.
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We pretend to be busy on our phones when it's just the weather app.
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We pretend to be checking our calendars to see if we're available, even when we know the calendar is fully empty.
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We pretend to shower every day, etc. So you can probably understand, don't lie, I know you've been missing some days.
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So you can probably understand why it might be easier to
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just become confident instead of adding it on top of a long list of personality traits you have to fake.
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Luckily, the process to become more confident is actually pretty easy.
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This method has currently not been patched, and it actually does work.
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Step 1 is to identify where you are on the confidence scale.
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Now I just made up the scale, but let's say it spans from extreme levels of fear, self-doubt, and insecurity, to all the way on the other side,
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which has overconfidence, arrogance, and entitlement.
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You obviously don't want to be on either extreme.
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More confidence is not always better, and doubting yourself is not always a bad thing.
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You might assume then that the best place to be is in the middle.
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But it depends on what you value.
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If you value taking risks and moving fast, and you don't really worry about messing things up or making people mad, then you might prefer to be around here.
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If you value making safe, calculated decisions, and you want to avoid making enemies, and you want to avoid bad decisions, then you might prefer to be around here.
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But in general, society tends to reward people who are higher up on the confidence scale.
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Step two is figure out how you got to this point
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because it takes a lot to move up or down the confidence scale.
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It doesn't just happen overnight.
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However old you are, you spent that many years of your life talking to people,
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experiencing things, getting feedback and adjusting your behavior based on how other people interact with you.
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And all of that has gotten you to this point.
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When you were born, you probably started off high on the scale because you had no reason to be insecure about anything.
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Even if you were an ugly baby, you wouldn't know it.
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You'd have no reason to feel insecure until eventually you grow up
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and then other people start implanting negative thoughts into your brain.
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Maybe it's people running away from you or giving you weird looks
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or making fun of you or telling you you're bad at something
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or maybe you watch a video that makes you feel bad about yourself
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and then maybe you have some embarrassing moments on top of
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that and all of that slowly builds up
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and moves you down the scale you no longer believe you
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are capable of certain things i can't be good at sports
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i can't be attractive i can't be funny i can't be
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smart i can't get people to like me i can't do
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a pull-up i can't code i can't make friends i can't
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resist junk food i can't wake up early i can't get any work done i can't be a leader
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and the more you keep thinking these things, the more true they become, and the more reason you have to keep thinking these things.
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Like if you think no one likes you, you're not even going to try to talk to people.
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And if you don't talk to people, no one will talk to you, which will reinforce the idea that no one likes you.
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And at this point, here are two methods you can use.
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The first one is reprogramming.
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If you're someone who likes math or technology, then this might make a lot of sense.
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It's actually a method that Maxwell Maltz came up with in a book called Psycho-Cybernetics.
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Basically, the idea is that if you've been programmed with a negative self-image during your childhood, your mind's going to work like a machine to keep it that way.
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You think you can't do something, which makes you not do it, which provides evidence that you can't do it, which reinforces the belief that you can't do it.
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The solution is to literally go in at this step, reject this thought over and over, and visualize yourself doing the thing until eventually you believe you can do that thing.
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Now, if you haven't heard of the book before, that's because it's 65 years old and it's a little bit annoying to read.
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Reviewers call it repetitive, disorganized, too long, and not focused.
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But nevertheless, the advice actually works.
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This is actually how I discovered Psycho-Cybernetics.
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It's also how I've been discovering books for the last year and a half, just because it's so easy.
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Back to the reprogramming method, if you paint a vivid picture in your mind of yourself successfully doing something, and you do that often,
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eventually you'll start believing you can do the thing, because you'll have confused your brain into thinking you've done it before.
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Once you believe you can do something, you'll actually start trying, and eventually you'll see some progress, which has more evidence for you to believe that you can do the thing.
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A common objection to this is, well, no matter how positive you think, you can't change being ugly or having a big nose, but actually the same idea applies.
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If you're concerned about having a big nose or whatever else there is to be concerned about in today's age,
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the core belief and what is actually causing you to be unconfident is I can't be attractive.
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And you are using your big nose as evidence to support that theory.
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Well, in fact, the guy who wrote this book was actually a cosmetic surgeon, and he observed from his experience that there could be two people.
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Person A might have a big nose and not even realize it and be extremely successful, while person B might have the same size nose
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but obsess over how ugly it is and use it as an excuse to withdraw from life.
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I'm talking a really big nose here, like recognizably big.
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The thing is, let's say you have a big nose
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and you're using that as evidence to support the idea
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that you can't be attractive You can then go in look at the cycle
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and realize wait This isn't good evidence
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because having a big nose does not mean you can't be
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attractive Thousands hundreds of thousands maybe even millions of people have
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transcended this exact position before They've been born with big noses maybe even bigger than yours
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and they've risen above their circumstances and proved this statement wrong
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So now you can go into the programming of your brain and delete that reasoning.
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That one time in second grade where some kid called you ugly, you can delete that because that kid was 7 years old and you were also 7 years old.
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Eventually, after you do enough reprogramming, you'll naturally start believing in yourself and that is confidence.
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Now, if that method sounds a little suspicious, there's another working method I found.
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It's actually from a Dr. K video and it's called Do the Impossible.
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Basically, make a list of small things that are technically possible for you to do, But you realistically just don't believe in your ability to do them.
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For example I know it's technically possible for me to wake up at 4 30 a.m
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But I can't do it because every time I've tried I've failed.
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It's too early.
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I'll be too tired I'll go back to sleep.
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I'll have no willpower blah blah blah I know it's technically possible to run six miles
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But I can't because I always chicken out
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and I don't feel like it right now
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and it takes too much time and the most I've run before it's only four miles
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I know it's technically possible to meet five new people today, but I can't
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because most days I meet zero new people In fact most days I talk to zero people
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and when I actually go outside I'm just gonna stand around and then go back home now prove yourself wrong
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Schedule a time to do each of those things
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because even though it'll be hard for me Especially the one with talking to five people the reward is
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that you've now proven to yourself that you can do things
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That you didn't think you could do
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and eventually the next time you end up having to do something that seems impossible to you, especially in a social situation,
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you can go back and realize that you have done plenty of impossible things before.
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So, I hope that helped.
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B2 מבוסס על הסרטון “not being insecure is easy, actually”. המילים שחוזרות הכי הרבה: nose, pretend, method, eventually. בסרטון הזה יש 115 משפטים ו-1765 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 8:18. הדובר מדבר מהר, כ-213 מילים בדקה, אז צפו לצלילים מחוברים ומקוצרים. 88% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית, כך שקל לעקוב אחרי אוצר המילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| technically תואר הפועל | /ˈtɛk.nɪˌkəl.i/ | טכנית |
| reinforce פועל | /ˌɹiː.ɪnˈfɔːs/ | חִזֵּק |
| bookmark שם עצם | /ˈbʊkmɑːɹk/ | סִימָנִיָּה |
| arrogance שם עצם | /ˈæɹ.ə.ɡəns/ | יְהִירוּת |
| circumstance שם עצם | /ˈsɝ.kəmˌstæns/ | נסיבות |
| trait שם עצם | /tɹeɪt/ | מאפיין, תכונה |
| objection שם עצם | /əbˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/ | הִתנַגְדוּת |
| calculate פועל | /ˈkælkjʊleɪt/ | חישב \ חִשֵּׁב |
| luckily תואר הפועל | /ˈlʌk.ɪ.li/ | בכי טוב |
| organize פועל | /ˈɔɹɡənaɪz/ | ארגן |
| donation שם עצם | /doʊˈneɪʃən/ | תרומה |
| subscribe פועל | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | נִמְנָה |
| subscription שם עצם | /səbˈskɹɪpʃən/ | מָנוּי |
| span שם עצם | /spæn/ | זֶרֶת |
| adjust פועל | /əˈd͡ʒʌst/ | כוונן, התאים |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| figure out פועל | הֵבִין, מצא תשובה | |
| grow up פועל | גָּדַל | |
| wake up פועל | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | התעורר |
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| הווה מושלם ממושך (Present perfect continuous) have/has been + -ing — פעולה שהתחילה בעבר ועדיין נמשכת עכשיו | you've been missing · I've been discovering |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | has gotten · you've been programmed · haven't heard |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | people who are · someone who likes · something, which makes |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | been patched · were born · you've been programmed |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-71 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו can't, don't, you're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “th”: withdraw /wɪðˈdɹɔ/, mathematics /mæθ(.ə)ˈmæt.ɪks/
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: visualize /ˈvɪʒuəˌlaɪz/, objection /əbˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, donation /doʊˈneɪʃən/, subscription /səbˈskɹɪpʃən/, suspicious /səˈspɪʃ.əs/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: technically /ˈtɛk.nɪˌkəl.i/, disorganized /dɪsˈɔːɡənaɪzd/, overconfidence /oʊvɚˈkɑnfɪdənts/, entitlement /ənˈtaɪtəlmənt/, repetitive /ɹɪˈpɛtɪtɪv/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: willpower /ˈwɪlˌpaʊɚ/, withdraw /wɪðˈdɹɔ/
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: embarrass /ɪmˈbæɹəs/, transcend /tɹæn(t)ˈsɛnd/, arrogance /ˈæɹ.ə.ɡəns/, circumstance /ˈsɝ.kəmˌstæns/, calculate /ˈkælkjʊleɪt/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: reinforce /ˌɹiː.ɪnˈfɔːs/, insecure /ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/, bookmark /ˈbʊkmɑːɹk/, embarrass /ɪmˈbæɹəs/, transcend /tɹæn(t)ˈsɛnd/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו technically, reinforce, bookmark.
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