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He who sits alone, sleeps alone, and walks alone, who is strenuous and subdues himself alone,
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will find delight in the solitude of the forest.
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The Buddha Some people avoid solitude like the plague.
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Others love being alone and thrive best in solitude
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when they are far away from the endless chatter of their fellow human beings.
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Unfortunately, in the individualistic Western society, loneliness is one of the most common reasons for misery, like mental illness and addiction.
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So I think it's very important that people know how to spend their time alone, in a healthy way, and not seeing it as a punishment,
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but rather as an opportunity to grow as a person.
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Hence, I present you four healthy ways to be alone.
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Being alone comes in many forms.
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We have extreme cases like hermits that spend most of their lives without socializing.
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And we have those more moderate solitude seekers that spend time by themselves for specific reasons like meditation,
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reflection, or achieving certain goals.
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On the other hand, there are cases in which loneliness becomes a vessel for mental and physical problems, and even death.
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The term lone wolf has quite a negative charge in society
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because it is used to describe people whose solitude was a breeding ground for hate that has led to violence.
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So regardless of the fact that loneliness is chosen or not, it's how we spend that time that decides the outcome.
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The ways I present in this video are practical as well as philosophical, and I hope you'll find some value in them.
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1. Be your own best host.
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This is a practical one.
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When you spend time alone at home, imagine that you're a guest in your own house.
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How would you treat a guest?
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How would you talk to a guest?
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When we are mean to our guests, they will probably don't like being around us.
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Thus, when we are mean to ourselves, it's not surprising that we don't like being around ourselves either.
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If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company, said French philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre.
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And I think he's absolutely right.
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Now, we can apply this self-hospitality in many ways.
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way we talk to ourselves, and also if we cook ourselves a nice meal with the same love as we would do for others.
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Or if we don't allow ourselves anything better than a nasty microwave dinner.
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Also, the preparation of giving ourselves a good time in solitude means taking care of our ego extensions.
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Psychiatrist Carl Jung argued that we become so entangled with our direct environment that it becomes part of ourselves.
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Thus, taking care of ourselves means taking care of our environment.
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Spending time alone in a tidy house has a better impact on our mood than spending time alone in a mess.
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Moreover, the act of cleaning has a meditative effect on the mind.
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So preparing ourselves for some me-time by tidying the house is already a great start.
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2. Realize that we are always connected.
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Yeah, I know this sounds a bit contradictory, but most people feel lonely when they are physically alone.
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On a Saturday night, while other people are outside partying and drinking for example.
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When a dreadful fear of missing out kicks in, this sense of being separated from all this fun, joy, and pleasure can really make people suffer.
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As a means to cope, people indulge themselves in unhealthy pleasures like drinking,
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drugs, or binge-watching porn just to numb the pain of loneliness.
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In a lecture, Chinese Buddhist monk
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and scholar Sheng Yen told about his experience in solitude and that he didn't feel lonely at all.
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I quote, When I was in solitary retreat, I knew that I was together with all sentient beings in innumerable worlds.
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Even though I seemed to be alone in a small enclosed room, actually I was in company with many ants who found their way inside.
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And there were many insects around the hut who created all kinds of sounds in the evening." End quote.
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Loneliness is just a perception.
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We can perceive loneliness as something bad and horrible.
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And we can perceive a certain situation as lonely even though we aren't alone.
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As Stoic philosopher Epictetus stated, and I quote, Men are disturbed not by things, but by the principles and notions which they form concerning things.
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End quote.
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So, this is why some people feel lonely in groups, while others feel connected when they are alone.
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In reality, everything in this world is connected.
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We are all part of one big universe, and we are all made of the same stuff.
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Here on Earth, we come from the same soil, breathe the same air, and drink the same water.
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If we realize this, how can we possibly be lonely?
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3. Sit with it.
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Being around people all the time is a great way to avoid what's actually going on in ourselves.
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People that need to be around others all the time, that do spend time alone at some point, Do everything to avoid that self-confrontation,
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and suppress the experience of their inner lives with short-term pleasure.
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This is unfortunate because being alone is an excellent opportunity for introspection.
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By going inwards, we might find out what's bothering us, what we want to change, etc. These are difficult things to contemplate sometimes,
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but doing it can help us tremendously in the long run.
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So, the practice of meditation means that we observe our thoughts and physical sensations.
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This means that we can learn what's actually happening inside us, in a way that we normally don't.
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If we become aware of certain anxieties, anger, tension, tiredness, and so on, and accept them, they will eventually dissolve.
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Again, this can be experienced as discomfort,
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but it's a much healthier way to get into a calmer state than self-medicating with drugs or alcohol.
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4. Chase your dreams.
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Being around people all the time can be a lot of fun, but it also gravitates us to do as they do.
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Like watching the same television shows, talking about the same subjects, and having the same opinions.
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It's the herd mentality, which could be detrimental to achieving your goals and dreams.
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Spending time away from the herd can not only give us new perspectives by introspection, it also creates the opportunity to actually do what we want to do,
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regardless of what other people think.
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All achievements come with sacrifice.
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So, that's why it makes perfect sense to sacrifice parties, drunk nights at the bar, or dinners with friends in order to build something for ourselves.
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Solitude can be a great vessel for this.
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When you're creating something in solitude, you will begin to embrace your time alone, and you'll less likely develop unhealthy addictions.
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You simply don't have time for that.
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When I'm writing a script or editing a video for this channel, for example, I often find myself in a state of joy,
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which I could best describe as a state in which nothing is missing, everything is there, now in the present moment.
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It's the opposite of addiction.
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It's highly fulfilling, and working on something I love is enjoyable.
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In this state, it's quite difficult to feel lonely.
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So that's it.
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Thank you for watching.
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