Shadowing Practice: How To Be Alone | 4 Healthy Ways - Learn English Speaking with Video
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He who sits alone, sleeps alone, and walks alone, who is strenuous and subdues himself alone,
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will find delight in the solitude of the forest.
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The Buddha Some people avoid solitude like the plague.
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Others love being alone and thrive best in solitude
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when they are far away from the endless chatter of their fellow human beings.
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Unfortunately, in the individualistic Western society, loneliness is one of the most common reasons for misery, like mental illness and addiction.
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So I think it's very important that people know how to spend their time alone, in a healthy way, and not seeing it as a punishment,
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but rather as an opportunity to grow as a person.
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Hence, I present you four healthy ways to be alone.
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Being alone comes in many forms.
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We have extreme cases like hermits that spend most of their lives without socializing.
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And we have those more moderate solitude seekers that spend time by themselves for specific reasons like meditation,
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reflection, or achieving certain goals.
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On the other hand, there are cases in which loneliness becomes a vessel for mental and physical problems, and even death.
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The term lone wolf has quite a negative charge in society
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because it is used to describe people whose solitude was a breeding ground for hate that has led to violence.
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So regardless of the fact that loneliness is chosen or not, it's how we spend that time that decides the outcome.
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The ways I present in this video are practical as well as philosophical, and I hope you'll find some value in them.
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1. Be your own best host.
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This is a practical one.
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When you spend time alone at home, imagine that you're a guest in your own house.
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How would you treat a guest?
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How would you talk to a guest?
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When we are mean to our guests, they will probably don't like being around us.
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Thus, when we are mean to ourselves, it's not surprising that we don't like being around ourselves either.
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If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company, said French philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre.
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And I think he's absolutely right.
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Now, we can apply this self-hospitality in many ways.
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way we talk to ourselves, and also if we cook ourselves a nice meal with the same love as we would do for others.
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Or if we don't allow ourselves anything better than a nasty microwave dinner.
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Also, the preparation of giving ourselves a good time in solitude means taking care of our ego extensions.
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Psychiatrist Carl Jung argued that we become so entangled with our direct environment that it becomes part of ourselves.
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Thus, taking care of ourselves means taking care of our environment.
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Spending time alone in a tidy house has a better impact on our mood than spending time alone in a mess.
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Moreover, the act of cleaning has a meditative effect on the mind.
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So preparing ourselves for some me-time by tidying the house is already a great start.
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2. Realize that we are always connected.
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Yeah, I know this sounds a bit contradictory, but most people feel lonely when they are physically alone.
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On a Saturday night, while other people are outside partying and drinking for example.
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When a dreadful fear of missing out kicks in, this sense of being separated from all this fun, joy, and pleasure can really make people suffer.
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As a means to cope, people indulge themselves in unhealthy pleasures like drinking,
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drugs, or binge-watching porn just to numb the pain of loneliness.
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In a lecture, Chinese Buddhist monk
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and scholar Sheng Yen told about his experience in solitude and that he didn't feel lonely at all.
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I quote, When I was in solitary retreat, I knew that I was together with all sentient beings in innumerable worlds.
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Even though I seemed to be alone in a small enclosed room, actually I was in company with many ants who found their way inside.
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And there were many insects around the hut who created all kinds of sounds in the evening." End quote.
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Loneliness is just a perception.
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We can perceive loneliness as something bad and horrible.
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And we can perceive a certain situation as lonely even though we aren't alone.
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As Stoic philosopher Epictetus stated, and I quote, Men are disturbed not by things, but by the principles and notions which they form concerning things.
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End quote.
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So, this is why some people feel lonely in groups, while others feel connected when they are alone.
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In reality, everything in this world is connected.
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We are all part of one big universe, and we are all made of the same stuff.
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Here on Earth, we come from the same soil, breathe the same air, and drink the same water.
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If we realize this, how can we possibly be lonely?
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3. Sit with it.
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Being around people all the time is a great way to avoid what's actually going on in ourselves.
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People that need to be around others all the time, that do spend time alone at some point, Do everything to avoid that self-confrontation,
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and suppress the experience of their inner lives with short-term pleasure.
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This is unfortunate because being alone is an excellent opportunity for introspection.
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By going inwards, we might find out what's bothering us, what we want to change, etc. These are difficult things to contemplate sometimes,
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but doing it can help us tremendously in the long run.
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So, the practice of meditation means that we observe our thoughts and physical sensations.
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This means that we can learn what's actually happening inside us, in a way that we normally don't.
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If we become aware of certain anxieties, anger, tension, tiredness, and so on, and accept them, they will eventually dissolve.
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Again, this can be experienced as discomfort,
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but it's a much healthier way to get into a calmer state than self-medicating with drugs or alcohol.
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4. Chase your dreams.
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Being around people all the time can be a lot of fun, but it also gravitates us to do as they do.
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Like watching the same television shows, talking about the same subjects, and having the same opinions.
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It's the herd mentality, which could be detrimental to achieving your goals and dreams.
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Spending time away from the herd can not only give us new perspectives by introspection, it also creates the opportunity to actually do what we want to do,
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regardless of what other people think.
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All achievements come with sacrifice.
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So, that's why it makes perfect sense to sacrifice parties, drunk nights at the bar, or dinners with friends in order to build something for ourselves.
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Solitude can be a great vessel for this.
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When you're creating something in solitude, you will begin to embrace your time alone, and you'll less likely develop unhealthy addictions.
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You simply don't have time for that.
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When I'm writing a script or editing a video for this channel, for example, I often find myself in a state of joy,
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which I could best describe as a state in which nothing is missing, everything is there, now in the present moment.
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It's the opposite of addiction.
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It's highly fulfilling, and working on something I love is enjoyable.
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In this state, it's quite difficult to feel lonely.
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So that's it.
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Thank you for watching.
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Vocabulario y notas de pronunciación para esta lección
Esta lección de conversación de nivel B2 se basa en el vídeo “How To Be Alone”. Las palabras que más se repiten: alone, ourselves, solitude, lonely, loneliness. Este vídeo tiene 87 frases y 1218 palabras para practicar shadowing. La parte hablada dura 7:51. El hablante habla a un ritmo natural de unas 155 palabras por minuto, cercano a una conversación cotidiana. El 82 % de las palabras está entre las 3.000 más comunes del inglés; conviene repasar el resto antes de empezar.
Vocabulario clave de este vídeo
Las 15 palabras más avanzadas del vídeo, con su pronunciación y significado:
| Palabra | Pronunciación | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| solitude sustantivo | /ˈsɑlɪˌtud/ | soledad, solitud |
| loneliness sustantivo | /ˈloʊnlinəs/ | soledad |
| addiction sustantivo | /əˈdɪkˌʃən/ | adicción, vicio |
| introspection sustantivo | /ɪntɹəˈspɛkʃən/ | introspección |
| tidy adjetivo | /ˈtaɪ.di/ | pulcro, prolijo |
| unhealthy adjetivo | /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/ | insalubre, no / poco / nada saludable / salutífero |
| philosopher sustantivo | /fəˈlɑsəfɚ/ | filósofo, filósofa |
| perceive verbo | /pɚˈsiv/ | percibir, apercibirse de |
| chatter verbo | /ˈt͡ʃætɚ/ | cotorrear, parlar |
| contemplate verbo | /ˈkɑn.təmˌpleɪt/ | contemplar |
| contradictory adjetivo | /ˌkɑntɹəˈdɪktəɹi/ | contradictorio |
| dissolve verbo | /dɪˈzɑlv/ | disolver |
| entangle verbo | /ɪnˈtæŋ.ɡəl/ | enredar |
| hermit sustantivo | /ˈhɝmɪt/ | ermitaño |
| individualistic adjetivo | /ˌɪn.dɪˌvɪ.dʒu.əˈlɪ.stɪk/ | individualista |
Phrasal verbs que vas a escuchar
| Palabra | Significado |
|---|---|
| find out verbo | averiguar, anoticiarse |
| miss out verbo | perdérsela |
Frases que vale la pena repetir
Frases cortas y completas del vídeo que puedes reutilizar en la conversación diaria:
- How would you treat a guest?
- How would you talk to a guest?
- If we realize this, how can we possibly be lonely?
- You simply don't have time for that.
Pronunciación a tener en cuenta
El hablante usa 15 contracciones y formas reducidas, como don't, you're, you'll. Dilas en su forma corta, tal como las oyes.
- Los sonidos de “th”: unhealthy /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/, thrive /θɹajv/
- Los sonidos de “sh” y “zh”: addiction /əˈdɪkˌʃən/, introspection /ɪntɹəˈspɛkʃən/, meditation /mɛdɪˈteɪʃn̩/, sentient /ˈsɛn.ʃi.ənt/, socialize /ˈsoʊʃəlaɪz/
- Palabras largas — cuida el acento: introspection /ɪntɹəˈspɛkʃən/, philosopher /fəˈlɑsəfɚ/, contradictory /ˌkɑntɹəˈdɪktəɹi/, individualistic /ˌɪn.dɪˌvɪ.dʒu.əˈlɪ.stɪk/, innumerable /ɪˈnuːməɹ.əbəl/
Sonidos difíciles para hispanohablantes:
- s + consonante al inicio — sin añadir una “e” delante: strenuous /ˈstɹɛ.nju.əs/, scholar /ˈskɑlɚ/
- /v/ — no es /b/: los dientes tocan el labio inferior: perceive /pɚˈsiv/, dissolve /dɪˈzɑlv/, gravitate /ˈɡɹævɪteɪt/, individualistic /ˌɪn.dɪˌvɪ.dʒu.əˈlɪ.stɪk/, meditative /ˈmɛdɪˌteɪtɪv/
- /z/ — sonora, no /s/: dissolve /dɪˈzɑlv/, enclose /ɪnˈkloʊz/, socialize /ˈsoʊʃəlaɪz/, misery /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹi/, observe /əbˈzɜːv/
Cómo practicar con este vídeo
- Escucha el vídeo entero una vez sin hablar y anota las palabras que no conoces.
- Empieza a velocidad 0,75×, haz shadowing frase por frase y vuelve a la velocidad normal cuando te resulte fácil.
- Grábate y compara con el original, prestando atención a palabras como solitude, loneliness, addiction.
¿Qué es la Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing es una técnica de aprendizaje de idiomas respaldada por la ciencia, desarrollada originalmente para la formación de intérpretes profesionales y popularizada por el políglota Dr. Alexander Arguelles. El método es simple pero poderoso: escuchas audio en inglés nativo y lo repites en voz alta de inmediato, como una sombra que sigue al hablante con solo 1-2 segundos de retraso. A diferencia de la escucha pasiva o los ejercicios de gramática, el shadowing obliga a tu cerebro y músculos de la boca a procesar y reproducir simultáneamente patrones de habla reales. Las investigaciones muestran que mejora significativamente la precisión de la pronunciación, la entonación, el ritmo, el habla conectada, la comprensión auditiva y la fluidez al hablar, convirtiéndola en una de las metodologías más efectivas para la preparación del IELTS Speaking y la comunicación en inglés en el mundo real.