쉐도잉 연습: Parent-Teen Communication - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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Communicating well
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with your team is about establishing trust and a foundation for mutual respect.
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Let's look at some scenarios that show both the wrong and right way to communicate with your team.
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Really?
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You're an hour late.
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Now the post office is closed.
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I just forgot, okay?
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You're so irresponsible.
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What's wrong with you?
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I just forgot, okay?
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You're grounded.
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You're so unfair.
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The father was worried and scared that something had happened to his son.
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That fear and anger was directed toward his teen in an unproductive way.
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It's okay to be upset in this situation, but dumping those feelings on his son won't help him from being late in the future.
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For a more productive conversation, frame the exchange with I statements that explain reasoning and fosters a two-way communication.
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Hey, son.
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Hey.
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I was worried about you.
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We agreed that you'd be home an hour ago, since I needed to use the car.
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When I didn't hear from you, I thought something bad might have happened.
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Sorry, I was at Sean's house.
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We were all hanging out, and I didn't realize that it was so late until I got in the car to come home and sold the time.
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Listen, I'm glad you're okay, but why didn't you call when you saw what time it was?
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I don't know.
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I guess that I knew I messed up.
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Yeah, it's human to lose track of time, especially when you're having fun.
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Mistakes happen, but part of growing up is keeping your agreements.
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I need to know that if we agree on driving privileges and a time that you have to be home, you're gonna stick to it.
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You get that, right?
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So, since you were late, your weekday curfew is going to be 6 o'clock for the next month.
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Really?
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A whole month?
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If you can show that you can come home on time, we can talk about moving it back to 7 o'clock.
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Agreed?
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Agreed.
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Look, it's really important that you don't hide your mistakes from me.
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And hey, I don't expect you to be perfect, but I can't help you if you don't communicate with me.
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Owning up to your mistakes shows that you're responsible, but hiding them, trying to avoid the consequences,
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that shows me you're not being responsible.
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Make sense?
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I get it.
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Hey, is there anything else you want to talk about?
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Actually, yeah.
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The father used I statements to draw his son's attention to the fact that there are consequences for his actions.
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And this opened the door for his son to share his other concerns.
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Everyone else gets to stay out later, how come my curfew is only 7?
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Okay, some of your friends may stay out later than you do.
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And others probably come home earlier.
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7 o'clock on a weeknight works well because you usually have homework to do.
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And you have to get up really early for school.
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If you get in late, then you're up even later doing homework.
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It's hard for you to get up in the morning, and then you're all cranky.
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You're dead, really?
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You make it sound like I'm a baby.
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All cranky.
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I'm sorry, cranky was a poor choice of words.
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I shouldn't have said that.
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What I'm trying to say is that we all need enough sleep to stay healthy.
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The curfew is only there to keep you safe and healthy, not to control your personal life.
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If there's a specific event that you want to stay out later for, we can discuss that on a case-by-case basis.
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That's why your weekday curfew is 7 o'clock.
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The father communicated to his son that rules are in place for safety and not control.
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House rules work best when teens understand why the rules are in place, not just that rules exist and they must comply with them.
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The father did call his son cranky, which wasn't the best choice of words,
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and his son took The father recovered by acknowledging his mistake and also modeled taking responsibility for his actions.
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Here's another example.
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See you later!
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Where are you going?
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I'm going to the mall with Michael.
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Didn't Michael just get his license?
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No way!
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You are not going anywhere!
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I have no life.
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Help your teen understand that the rules are in place for safety and not control and not control.
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See you later!
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Where are you going?
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I'm going to the mall with Michael.
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Come here, please.
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I didn't know Michael got his license.
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When did he take his test at the DMV?
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A few weeks ago.
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Gotta go, he's waiting.
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Ho ho ho, hold on a second.
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I thought we had agreed that you wouldn't ride with a newly licensed driver.
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Remember, it's the law in our state.
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I'd be worried you'd get into an accident with an inexperienced driver.
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Mom, he's really smart and I know he is a good driver.
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I'm sure he will be.
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Once he gets a little more experience.
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Until then, no riding with him.
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The state has laws like this for a reason.
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It's unsafe.
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I need to make sure that our family follows the law, and so do you.
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If you get into that car, that means your friend is breaking the law.
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He could get into a lot of trouble, and you both could get hurt.
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How about I drive you both to the mall?
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No way, Mom.
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That's too embarrassing.
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Look, I'll talk to him.
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Maybe we can just hang out here, okay?
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That sounds like a good idea.
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And later tonight, I'd like for us to talk some more about this.
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I need to know that you're going to follow the law and rules all of the time.
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Even when I'm not around.
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I need to know that I can trust you, honey.
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Yeah, I know.
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These are just some examples based on decades of research to help you think about how parents may sound to teens.
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Your family may look and interact differently than what was displayed in the video.
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Take the guidance from the scenarios and make them your own.
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No one knows your children and family better than you do.
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