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You're having one of those days.

Nothing dramatic has happened.

You've handled a hard conversation, made a decision that affects other people, and kept three or four things moving at once.

You did all of it well.

Then the pen you grab doesn't write.

Or someone asks you a question you've already answered twice, and you snap.

A few seconds later, you think, where did that come from?

It wasn't that big of a deal.

If you're the person everyone relies on when things go sideways, the one who stays steady in the big moments but finds yourself unraveling in the small ones?

This video's for you, because what's happening in those moments isn't really about the pen.

I'm Dr. Tracy Marks, a psychiatrist, and I teach practical neuroscience that helps high performers stay sharp under pressure.

Today, I'm talking about why small things can set you off

when you're carrying a lot and what to do in that moment before it spills over.

Let me describe a few more moments and see if any of them sound familiar to you.

You're in line at the store, there's one register open, and the person in front of you is paying with the check.

And they're having to flip through the checkbook to find the last check that hasn't been used.

On a normal day, you'd scroll your phone and just wait.

But today, you feel heat rise in your chest, and you're rehearsing something sharp to say, even though you never actually say it.

Or you're at home, working through a problem in your head, maybe how to handle a situation with a client, or how to word something difficult.

Your child asks you a question, then another one, and then by the third why, your voice comes out harder than you meant it to, and you see it land on their face.

Or you open an email.

It's polite, it's reasonable, there's nothing wrong with it, and it irritates you anyway so much that you read it three times looking for the problem.

You walk into the kitchen and see the dishwasher loaded in a way that makes no sense to you, and suddenly you're having a whole conversation about it that's way bigger than the dishwasher.

Here's what these moments have in common.

None of them is the actual problem.

Each one is the last thing that added to a load that you were already carrying.

So why does this happen, especially to people who are good under pressure?

We'll start with what pressure does to your brain.

The prefrontal cortex, the area behind her forehead, is a big part of how you regulate yourself.

It helps you pause, weigh things, and choose a response instead of reacting.

It's also sensitive to stress.

Research from Dr. Amy Arnston at Yale has shown that even mild stress, especially stress you feel you can't control,

can quickly weaken prefrontal function.

At the same time, it makes the amygdala, the part of your brain that sounds the alarm, even more reactive.

So under pressure, your brakes get weaker and your alarm gets louder, both at once.

Now, add poor sleep, because when you're carrying a lot, sleep is usually one of the first things to go.

In a study from Dr. Matthew Walker's lab, people who stayed awake all night

and into the next day had about a 60 % stronger amygdala response to negative images than people who slept normally.

Most of us aren't pulling all -nighters, but it shows how directly sleep affects your alarm system.

There's one more piece.

Activation adds up.

When your body revs up from one thing, that revved -up state doesn't disappear the moment the thing is over.

It lingers.

Researchers who study this have found that leftover arousal from one source can make your reaction to the next thing stronger.

So you're not starting from calm.

You're starting from wherever the last thing left you.

So the tension from the hard conversation at 10 o 'clock is still in your system

when the pen doesn't write at 11 o 'clock.

A simple way to picture this is a glass of water.

On an easy day, your glass is half full and a few drops don't matter.

On a heavy day, you've been filling it since the morning and it's right at the brim.

Then one more drop falls and it spills over.

If you look only at that last drop, you'll think you overreacted to something tiny but the drop didn't cause the overflow.

All the water that was already in there did.

This is also why it can be so confusing when you're someone who usually handles pressure well.

Your attention is focused, you've got a plan, and you're in it.

It's the small things that catch you

because they show up after you've already spent what you had and you weren't bracing for them.

So what do you do about it in the moment?

When I work with clients, one of the first skills I teach is noticing, and it's part of the framework I use, which is called NIR, which stands for Neuroscience Empowered Approach to Resilience.

I'm going to give you one piece of it here.

When you feel that flash of irritation over something small, name the load instead of the trigger.

In your head, say something like, this isn't about the line, I'm at capacity.

Or, this isn't about the email, I've been carrying a lot today.

That might seem too simple to matter, but there's research behind it.

In a study at UCLA, people who looked at photos of angry or frightened faces, when they chose a word for the emotion that they were seeing,

their amygdala quieted down compared to just looking at the face.

And a part of the prefrontal cortex became more active.

So putting a name to any motion engages the brakes and turns the alarm down.

So when you say to yourself, I'm at capacity, you're doing a version of the same thing.

Naming the load also does something else important.

It points your reaction toward the real source.

The person in line, your child, your partner, or whoever sent the email didn't create the full glass.

Naming the load helps you keep what you're carrying separate from what they did.

You can practice this out loud, too, with the people that you live or work with saying, I'm at capacity right now, just give me a minute, is honest,

and it tells them what's actually going on instead of just leaving them to guess why you're upset about the dishwasher.

This won't empty the full glass, but what it does is keep that last drop from turning into a mess that you've got to clean up.

If you've been snapping at small things and wondering what's wrong with you, I want you to realize this isn't a reflection of your character.

More often, it's a signal that you've been carrying more than you have room for for longer than you've noticed.

And that signal is useful.

It's telling you something about your load that your performance isn't telling you.

Naming the load in the moment is a start, but when you understand exactly what's happening, it can be hard to use that in the moment.

In my next video, I'll talk about why knowing better doesn't always help when you need it most and what does.

Thank you for watching today.

See you next time.

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영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
alarm 명사	/əˈlɑɹm/	경보
sharp 형용사	/ʃɑɹp/	날카로운
brake 명사	/bɹeɪk/	브레이크, 제동기
spill 동사	/spɪl/	엎지르다
cortex 명사	/ˈkɔɹtɛks/	피질
practical 형용사	/ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/	실질적인
sensitive 형용사	/ˈsɛn.sɪt.ɪv/	민감하다
compare 동사	/kəmˈpɛɚ/	비교하다, 비유하다
skill 명사	/skɪl/	기술, 스킬
dramatic 형용사	/dɹəˈmætɪk/	극적
rely 동사	/ɹɪˈlaɪ/	의지(依支)하다
trigger 명사	/ˈtɹɪɡɚ/	방아쇠
tension 명사	/ˈtɛnʃən/	긴장, 불안
emotion 명사	/ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/	감정
reflection 명사	/ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/	반사

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어	발음	뜻
come out 동사	/ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/	나오다

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You're having one of those days.
Then the pen you grab doesn't write.
A few seconds later, you think, where did that come from?
We'll start with what pressure does to your brain.
You're starting from wherever the last thing left you.

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문형	영상 속 표현
현재완료진행 have/has been + -ing — 전에 시작해 지금도 계속되는 동작	you've been filling · I've been carrying · you've been snapping
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	has happened · You've handled · you've already answered
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	one who stays · people who are · people who stayed

주의할 발음

화자는 you're, you've, I'm 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 54번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: sharp /ʃɑɹp/, flash /flæʃ/, tension /ˈtɛnʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, reflection /ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: activation /ˌæktəˈveɪʃən/, psychiatrist /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/, amygdala /əˈmɪɡ.də.lə/, irritation /ˌɪɹ.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/, overreact /ˌoʊ.vəɹ.ɹiˈækt/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: flash /flæʃ/, framework /ˈfɹeɪm.wɜːk/, flip /flɪp/, reflection /ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/, forehead /ˈfɔɹ.hɛd/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: rev /ɹɛv/, sensitive /ˈsɛn.sɪt.ɪv/, whoever /huˈɛvɚ/, wherever /(h)wɛɹˈɛvɚ/, activation /ˌæktəˈveɪʃən/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: pause /pɔːz/, confuse /kənˈfjuːz/, sideways /ˈsaɪdweɪz/, arousal /əˈɹaʊzəl/

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