쉐도잉 연습: Cringe Memories that Keep Coming Back: How to Let Them Go for Good - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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Do you have any moments in your life where you look back and your skin starts to crawl from embarrassment?
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Personally, yep, I have.
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I would say I probably have
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10 or 12 recurring ones for a long time really bothered me
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and it's so great that I get to talk to people in my work
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but if you are one of those people
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that has many of those cringe memories
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that come back just realize you're not alone we all have these
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and I want to give you a little bit of feedback in terms of how you process these memories.
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Because they're so intrusive.
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You could be in the shower one morning
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and just this memory pops up into your mind of one of the cringe moments
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that you felt deeply embarrassed and awkward in.
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Maybe you have a lot of regrets and a lot of shame tied up in it.
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Now what's driving these memories is a fundamental core belief.
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It's one of the three core beliefs I talk about
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and it is the belief that they're in being defective and that there's something wrong with me.
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Shame, guilt are tied up in this.
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Now in terms of processing this,
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one exercise, it's not an easy exercise to do is just one day in journaling.
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What I invite you to do here is to sit down and write down,
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you know, you can call this journal entry cringe moments or something, right?
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Where you look back in your life and you look at in sequence,
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the moments in which you felt that really skin crawling embarrassment.
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Usually, of course, it's around other people.
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The bigger the group, sometimes the more tense it can be.
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Just to write them down and to see, we're going to do like a stock take here, an evaluation of of how many of these moments are there for me?
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And how often do these thoughts intrude on my life?
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Because they pop up seemingly random, but for many of us, they happen so often that it can kind of become an issue, right?
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And it can really start to erode away at our sense of self-worth.
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Now, the secret to this, if there is a secret, is how do we let this go?
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How do we process it?
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And I know many people have approached this differently.
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I know many people have tried to like reframe memories or change memories even, which to me seems a little bit difficult to do.
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I don't think it's about that.
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I think it's about looking at the memories.
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And here's the thing, here's the secret.
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You have to give yourself complete permission to experience moments like this.
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What I'm really saying is,
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it is how you are perceiving these moments in your life and using them against yourself that is the main problem.
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Give yourself complete permission to experience moments like this in your life.
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You have to give yourself permission.
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Now, what does that mean, give yourself permission?
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You have to come to terms with the fact that you're allowed to do that.
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That thing that made you your skin crawl.
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Okay.
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And it's a reason I'm talking about this is it's like, we don't often talk about this.
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I don't hear many people talking about this issue.
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And it's it's one of those things that can know away in the background with us sometimes.
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So for me personally, many times like public speaking, I've given loads of talks over the years.
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Many of them, most of them, almost all of them have been good.
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Few of them have been cringe-worthy.
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A few of them I have really made a like anxiety took over
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or something and I found it difficult in those moments and how I was processing those experiences was dysfunctional right.
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So that needed to be worked on and ultimately when you look at it give yourself full
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permission allow yourself to do it it is how you are viewing these memories
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that is all important and if you realize if you give yourself complete permission
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really to even celebrate the fact that that's what I did
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that happened to me okay I can guarantee you that this won't matter so much but I'm gonna say it Anyway, no one else is thinking about these moments.
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Not one soul.
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Right.
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And but if they're popping up in your awareness again and again, really, the issue is, OK, I need to learn to let this go.
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I need to learn to live with this memory.
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And it's in full giving yourself full permission to be a person that's allowed to do that thing, that awkward, socially awkward thing that happened.
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You said the wrong thing.
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Maybe you had an anxiety attack or something like that.
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Said something wrong.
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Maybe you were asking someone out on a date.
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Maybe you said something wrong in a job interview or something like that.
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Giving yourself permission to have these experiences
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will mean that you're going to free yourself up to be way more creative and open to risk in the future.
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But really the most important thing is that these memories that pop up, they're like a thorn in your side sometimes.
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They will start to fade off.
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In fact, here's another thing I would invite you to try.
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every time a memory like
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that pops up into your awareness amplify the memory really go into the memory proactively
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because usually what happens is
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when these memories pop up we want to get away from
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it right what we need to start doing proactively is
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when these memories come up amplify it welcome up that memory
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and celebrate that moment of your life see it as one of the best moments in your life.
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That's what I mean by embracing it.
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This issue is so common for us but we don't talk about it
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that often and I think that tells us
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that we're trying to escape these moments and we don't want to look at them.
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Many many people, hugely successful people, competent people have had these experiences I've seen a lot of
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them online of people kind of having awkward moments whatever
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so you're not alone in this
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but you need to learn to celebrate these moments really give
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yourself permission to be a person that's allowed to do
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that in your life I'll leave it there today short video but I hope that was useful take care
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이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| awkward 형용사 | /ˈɔk.wɚd/ | 서투르다 |
| belief 명사 | /bɪˈliːf/ | 믿음 |
| anxiety 명사 | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | 걱정, 불안 |
| invite 동사 | /ɪnˈvaɪt/ | 초대하다 |
| deeply 부사 | /ˈdi(ː)pli/ | 깊이 |
| guarantee 명사 | /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/ | 보증 |
| regret 동사 | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | 후회하다 |
| sequence 명사 | /ˈsiː.kwəns/ | 순서 |
| fundamental 형용사 | /ˌfʌn.dəˈmɛn.təl/ | 기본적 |
| feedback 명사 | /ˈfiːdˌbæk/ | 피드백, 비평 |
| evaluation 명사 | /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/ | 평가 |
| embrace 동사 | /ɛmˈbɹes/ | 끌어안다, 껴안다 |
| guilt 명사 | /ɡɪlt/ | 죄, 유죄 |
| embarrassed 형용사 | /ɪmˈbæɹ.əst/ | 부끄럽다 |
| tense 명사 | /tɛns/ | 시제 |
영상에 나오는 구동사
| 단어 | 뜻 |
|---|---|
| come back 동사 | 돌아오다 |
| come up 동사 | 올라오다 |
| look back 동사 | 돌아보다 |
| sit down 동사 | 앉다 |
| write down 동사 | 적다, 적어 두다 |
주의할 발음
화자는 don't, they're, you're 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 23번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “th” 소리: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, thorn /θoɹn/
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: evaluation /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/, socially /ˈsoʊʃəli/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, embarrassment /ɪmˈbæɹ.əs.mənt/, fundamental /ˌfʌn.dəˈmɛn.təl/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, evaluation /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/
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- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
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