跟读练习: Cringe Memories that Keep Coming Back: How to Let Them Go for Good - 通过视频学习英语口语
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Do you have any moments in your life where you look back and your skin starts to crawl from embarrassment?
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Personally, yep, I have.
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I would say I probably have
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10 or 12 recurring ones for a long time really bothered me
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and it's so great that I get to talk to people in my work
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but if you are one of those people
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that has many of those cringe memories
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that come back just realize you're not alone we all have these
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and I want to give you a little bit of feedback in terms of how you process these memories.
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Because they're so intrusive.
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You could be in the shower one morning
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and just this memory pops up into your mind of one of the cringe moments
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that you felt deeply embarrassed and awkward in.
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Maybe you have a lot of regrets and a lot of shame tied up in it.
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Now what's driving these memories is a fundamental core belief.
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It's one of the three core beliefs I talk about
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and it is the belief that they're in being defective and that there's something wrong with me.
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Shame, guilt are tied up in this.
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Now in terms of processing this,
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one exercise, it's not an easy exercise to do is just one day in journaling.
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What I invite you to do here is to sit down and write down,
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you know, you can call this journal entry cringe moments or something, right?
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Where you look back in your life and you look at in sequence,
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the moments in which you felt that really skin crawling embarrassment.
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Usually, of course, it's around other people.
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The bigger the group, sometimes the more tense it can be.
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Just to write them down and to see, we're going to do like a stock take here, an evaluation of of how many of these moments are there for me?
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And how often do these thoughts intrude on my life?
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Because they pop up seemingly random, but for many of us, they happen so often that it can kind of become an issue, right?
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And it can really start to erode away at our sense of self-worth.
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Now, the secret to this, if there is a secret, is how do we let this go?
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How do we process it?
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And I know many people have approached this differently.
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I know many people have tried to like reframe memories or change memories even, which to me seems a little bit difficult to do.
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I don't think it's about that.
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I think it's about looking at the memories.
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And here's the thing, here's the secret.
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You have to give yourself complete permission to experience moments like this.
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What I'm really saying is,
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it is how you are perceiving these moments in your life and using them against yourself that is the main problem.
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Give yourself complete permission to experience moments like this in your life.
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You have to give yourself permission.
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Now, what does that mean, give yourself permission?
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You have to come to terms with the fact that you're allowed to do that.
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That thing that made you your skin crawl.
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Okay.
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And it's a reason I'm talking about this is it's like, we don't often talk about this.
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I don't hear many people talking about this issue.
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And it's it's one of those things that can know away in the background with us sometimes.
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So for me personally, many times like public speaking, I've given loads of talks over the years.
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Many of them, most of them, almost all of them have been good.
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Few of them have been cringe-worthy.
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A few of them I have really made a like anxiety took over
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or something and I found it difficult in those moments and how I was processing those experiences was dysfunctional right.
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So that needed to be worked on and ultimately when you look at it give yourself full
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permission allow yourself to do it it is how you are viewing these memories
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that is all important and if you realize if you give yourself complete permission
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really to even celebrate the fact that that's what I did
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that happened to me okay I can guarantee you that this won't matter so much but I'm gonna say it Anyway, no one else is thinking about these moments.
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Not one soul.
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Right.
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And but if they're popping up in your awareness again and again, really, the issue is, OK, I need to learn to let this go.
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I need to learn to live with this memory.
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And it's in full giving yourself full permission to be a person that's allowed to do that thing, that awkward, socially awkward thing that happened.
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You said the wrong thing.
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Maybe you had an anxiety attack or something like that.
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Said something wrong.
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Maybe you were asking someone out on a date.
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Maybe you said something wrong in a job interview or something like that.
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Giving yourself permission to have these experiences
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will mean that you're going to free yourself up to be way more creative and open to risk in the future.
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But really the most important thing is that these memories that pop up, they're like a thorn in your side sometimes.
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They will start to fade off.
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In fact, here's another thing I would invite you to try.
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every time a memory like
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that pops up into your awareness amplify the memory really go into the memory proactively
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because usually what happens is
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when these memories pop up we want to get away from
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it right what we need to start doing proactively is
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when these memories come up amplify it welcome up that memory
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and celebrate that moment of your life see it as one of the best moments in your life.
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That's what I mean by embracing it.
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This issue is so common for us but we don't talk about it
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that often and I think that tells us
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that we're trying to escape these moments and we don't want to look at them.
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Many many people, hugely successful people, competent people have had these experiences I've seen a lot of
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them online of people kind of having awkward moments whatever
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so you're not alone in this
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but you need to learn to celebrate these moments really give
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yourself permission to be a person that's allowed to do
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that in your life I'll leave it there today short video but I hope that was useful take care
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这段视频共有 91 个句子、1085 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 7:52。 说话人语速平稳，每分钟约 138 个词，很适合跟读。 90% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇容易理解。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| awkward 形容词 | /ˈɔk.wɚd/ | 彆扭 /别扭 |
| belief 名词 | /bɪˈliːf/ | 相信, 信心 |
| anxiety 名词 | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | 焦慮 /焦虑, 担心 |
| awareness 名词 | /əˈwɛɹ.nəs/ | 意識 /意识, 覺悟 /觉悟 |
| invite 动词 | /ɪnˈvaɪt/ | 邀請 /邀请, 請 /请 |
| deeply 副词 | /ˈdi(ː)pli/ | 深, 深深 |
| guarantee 名词 | /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/ | 保證 /保证 |
| bother 动词 | /ˈbɑðɚ/ | 煩擾 /烦扰, 麻煩 /麻烦 |
| regret 动词 | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | 後悔 /后悔, 遺憾 /遗憾 |
| sequence 名词 | /ˈsiː.kwəns/ | 序列, 順序 /顺序 |
| fundamental 形容词 | /ˌfʌn.dəˈmɛn.təl/ | 基本 |
| feedback 名词 | /ˈfiːdˌbæk/ | 反饋 /反馈, 反應 /反应 |
| worthy 形容词 | /ˈwɝ.ði/ | 配稱 /配称 |
| evaluation 名词 | /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/ | 評價 /评价 |
| embrace 动词 | /ɛmˈbɹes/ | 擁抱 /拥抱, 摟抱 /搂抱 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 释义 |
|---|---|
| pop up 动词 | 弹出 |
| come back 动词 | 回來 /回来, 返回 |
| come up 动词 | 上來 /上来 |
| look back 动词 | 回顧 /回顾 |
| sit down 动词 | 坐下, 坐 |
| take over 动词 | 接管, 接手 |
| write down 动词 | 寫下來 /写下来, 寫下 /写下 |
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事 | have approached · have tried · I've given |
| 被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的 | are tied · be worked |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 23 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 don't, they're, you're。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “th” 音: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, thorn /θoɹn/
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: evaluation /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/, socially /ˈsoʊʃəli/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, embarrassment /ɪmˈbæɹ.əs.mənt/, fundamental /ˌfʌn.dəˈmɛn.təl/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, evaluation /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 用正常速度逐句跟读，每句重复到你的节奏与说话人一致为止。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 awkward, belief, anxiety 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。