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Do you have any moments in your life where you look back and your skin starts to crawl from embarrassment?
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Personally, yep, I have.
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I would say I probably have
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10 or 12 recurring ones for a long time really bothered me
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and it's so great that I get to talk to people in my work
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but if you are one of those people
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that has many of those cringe memories
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that come back just realize you're not alone we all have these
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and I want to give you a little bit of feedback in terms of how you process these memories.
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Because they're so intrusive.
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You could be in the shower one morning
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and just this memory pops up into your mind of one of the cringe moments
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that you felt deeply embarrassed and awkward in.
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Maybe you have a lot of regrets and a lot of shame tied up in it.
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Now what's driving these memories is a fundamental core belief.
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It's one of the three core beliefs I talk about
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and it is the belief that they're in being defective and that there's something wrong with me.
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Shame, guilt are tied up in this.
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Now in terms of processing this,
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one exercise, it's not an easy exercise to do is just one day in journaling.
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What I invite you to do here is to sit down and write down,
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you know, you can call this journal entry cringe moments or something, right?
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Where you look back in your life and you look at in sequence,
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the moments in which you felt that really skin crawling embarrassment.
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Usually, of course, it's around other people.
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The bigger the group, sometimes the more tense it can be.
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Just to write them down and to see, we're going to do like a stock take here, an evaluation of of how many of these moments are there for me?
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And how often do these thoughts intrude on my life?
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Because they pop up seemingly random, but for many of us, they happen so often that it can kind of become an issue, right?
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And it can really start to erode away at our sense of self-worth.
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Now, the secret to this, if there is a secret, is how do we let this go?
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How do we process it?
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And I know many people have approached this differently.
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I know many people have tried to like reframe memories or change memories even, which to me seems a little bit difficult to do.
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I don't think it's about that.
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I think it's about looking at the memories.
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And here's the thing, here's the secret.
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You have to give yourself complete permission to experience moments like this.
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What I'm really saying is,
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it is how you are perceiving these moments in your life and using them against yourself that is the main problem.
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Give yourself complete permission to experience moments like this in your life.
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You have to give yourself permission.
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Now, what does that mean, give yourself permission?
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You have to come to terms with the fact that you're allowed to do that.
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That thing that made you your skin crawl.
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Okay.
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And it's a reason I'm talking about this is it's like, we don't often talk about this.
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I don't hear many people talking about this issue.
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And it's it's one of those things that can know away in the background with us sometimes.
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So for me personally, many times like public speaking, I've given loads of talks over the years.
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Many of them, most of them, almost all of them have been good.
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Few of them have been cringe-worthy.
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A few of them I have really made a like anxiety took over
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or something and I found it difficult in those moments and how I was processing those experiences was dysfunctional right.
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So that needed to be worked on and ultimately when you look at it give yourself full
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permission allow yourself to do it it is how you are viewing these memories
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that is all important and if you realize if you give yourself complete permission
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really to even celebrate the fact that that's what I did
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that happened to me okay I can guarantee you that this won't matter so much but I'm gonna say it Anyway, no one else is thinking about these moments.
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Not one soul.
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Right.
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And but if they're popping up in your awareness again and again, really, the issue is, OK, I need to learn to let this go.
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I need to learn to live with this memory.
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And it's in full giving yourself full permission to be a person that's allowed to do that thing, that awkward, socially awkward thing that happened.
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You said the wrong thing.
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Maybe you had an anxiety attack or something like that.
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Said something wrong.
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Maybe you were asking someone out on a date.
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Maybe you said something wrong in a job interview or something like that.
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Giving yourself permission to have these experiences
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will mean that you're going to free yourself up to be way more creative and open to risk in the future.
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But really the most important thing is that these memories that pop up, they're like a thorn in your side sometimes.
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They will start to fade off.
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In fact, here's another thing I would invite you to try.
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every time a memory like
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that pops up into your awareness amplify the memory really go into the memory proactively
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because usually what happens is
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when these memories pop up we want to get away from
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it right what we need to start doing proactively is
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when these memories come up amplify it welcome up that memory
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and celebrate that moment of your life see it as one of the best moments in your life.
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That's what I mean by embracing it.
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This issue is so common for us but we don't talk about it
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that often and I think that tells us
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that we're trying to escape these moments and we don't want to look at them.
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Many many people, hugely successful people, competent people have had these experiences I've seen a lot of
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them online of people kind of having awkward moments whatever
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so you're not alone in this
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but you need to learn to celebrate these moments really give
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yourself permission to be a person that's allowed to do
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that in your life I'll leave it there today short video but I hope that was useful take care
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Video này có 91 câu và 1085 từ để luyện shadowing. Phần lời nói dài 7:52. Người nói giữ tốc độ đều, khoảng 138 từ mỗi phút, vừa sức để nói đuổi theo. 90% số từ nằm trong 3.000 từ tiếng Anh thông dụng nhất, nên từ vựng dễ theo.
Từ vựng quan trọng trong video
15 từ đáng học trong video, kèm phiên âm và nghĩa:
| Từ | Phiên âm | Nghĩa |
|---|---|---|
| anxiety danh từ | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | sự lo lắng, lo âu |
| awareness danh từ | /əˈwɛɹ.nəs/ | nhận thức |
| invite động từ | /ɪnˈvaɪt/ | mời |
| guarantee danh từ | /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/ | sự bảo đảm |
| bother động từ | /ˈbɑðɚ/ | quấy rầy |
| regret động từ | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | hối tiếc, hối hận |
| sequence danh từ | /ˈsiː.kwəns/ | dãy |
| feedback danh từ | /ˈfiːdˌbæk/ | sự phản hồi |
| embrace động từ | /ɛmˈbɹes/ | ôm |
| guilt danh từ | /ɡɪlt/ | điều sai quấy, lỗi |
| embarrassed tính từ | /ɪmˈbæɹ.əst/ | xấu hổ, bối rối |
| tense danh từ | /tɛns/ | thì |
| fade động từ | /feɪd/ | nhòa |
| amplify động từ | /ˈæm.plə.faɪ/ | khuếch đại |
| erode động từ | /ɪˈɹəʊd/ | xói mòn, xâm thực |
Cụm động từ bạn sẽ nghe
| Từ | Nghĩa |
|---|---|
| come back động từ | trở lại, trở về |
| sit down động từ | ngồi xuống, ngồi |
| write down động từ | viết ra, ghi xuống |
Phát âm cần chú ý
Người nói dùng 23 dạng rút gọn, ví dụ don't, they're, you're. Hãy nói theo dạng ngắn đúng như bạn nghe.
- Âm “th”: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, thorn /θoɹn/
- Âm “sh” và “zh”: evaluation /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/, socially /ˈsoʊʃəli/
- Từ dài — đặt trọng âm cho đúng: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, embarrassment /ɪmˈbæɹ.əs.mənt/, fundamental /ˌfʌn.dəˈmɛn.təl/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, evaluation /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/
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Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?
Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.