Shadowing Practice: Be careful of People Who Say These Things To You - Learn English Speaking with YouTube
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Hey Psych2Goers The words we hear and tell ourselves can affect our self-esteem,
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Hey Psych2Goers The words we hear and tell ourselves can affect our self-esteem,
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deeply
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Sometimes without us even realizing it
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Toxic phrases are more than just words They have a profound impact on our mental health They can sow seeds of doubt,
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trigger feelings of inadequacy Trap you in a cycle of negative thinking and even contribute to conditions like depression and anxiety Additionally,
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these negative comments can have a subtle effect,
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making you withdraw from social interactions and opportunities.
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So, do you find yourself feeling down without knowing the reason why?
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Could it be the words you tell yourself or hear every day?
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Let's find out.
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You're just lucky.
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Hearing, you're just lucky, or you must be lucky,
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can feel like a slap in the face.
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It can make you feel like your success happened by chance and not because of your hard work.
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This can hurt your self-esteem because it suggests that you didn't really earn your achievements.
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Imagine preparing really hard for an interview and getting the job,
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but someone says you just got lucky.
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It feels unfair, right?
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It takes away the credit you deserve and makes you feel like your efforts don't matter.
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Which can diminish your sense of accomplishment and make you doubt your abilities
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Here's the thing people don't always see the effort you put in what matters is your recognition
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Instead of letting this comment bother you remind yourself.
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I worked hard for this, and I deserve it.
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Celebrate your achievements, and acknowledge your efforts.
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This will boost your self-belief,
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motivation, and determination for future success.
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Why can't you be more like.. someone else?
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Comparison is the thief of joy.
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It makes you focus on what you lack instead of appreciating what you have.
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This can make you feel inferior,
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inadequate, and unworthy, leading to self-doubt and a loss of confidence.
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Instead of trying to be someone else,
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focus on being the best version of yourself.
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You are not meant to be a carbon copy of someone else.
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You are a unique individual with your own strengths, weaknesses, and quirks.
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Focus on what you do well and what makes you special.
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Get goals based on your interests and skills.
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And when you catch yourself comparing,
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list three things you're proud of,
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or three things you've done well.
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This keeps your focus on your own growth.
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Your worth isn't based on comparisons.
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Your unique story and qualities are what make you special.
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Like this video?
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Subscribe for more.
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Are you really gonna wear that?
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This question might seem simple,
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but it carries a judgmental underdone.
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It subtly suggests your choice is wrong or inadequate,
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makes you doubt your judgment,
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and feel self-conscious about your appearance.
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Although this question may come from someone intending to offer help,
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over time, it can reduce your confidence and make you second-guess your own decisions.
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When you hear this, trust your instincts, style, and decisions.
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Instead of letting this phrase make you doubt yourself,
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affirm your choice by saying,
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I like my style, and I feel good about it.
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This helps you stay confident and true to your unique preferences.
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You'll never find someone who loves you.
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Phrases like this make you feel unworthy of love.
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People who say this often want to control you,
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making you believe no one else will love you,
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so you stay with them even if they treat you badly.
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Sometimes these thoughts come from our own insecurities,
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especially when we feel down.
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Hearing or thinking this phrase makes you focus on what you think is wrong with you,
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instead of what's good about you.
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It damages your confidence and self-worth,
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leading you to doubt that you deserve a loving relationship.
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Remember, everyone deserves love, including you.
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You don't need to be perfect to be loved.
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The right person will love you as you are and help you grow.
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Remind yourself, I am worth loving and will find someone who values me.
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Or, I'm focusing on loving myself and the right relationship will come.
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This helps protect your self-esteem and believe that you're deserving a loving relationship.
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Don't be so dramatic.
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This phrase damages self-esteem by dismissing and invalidating your emotions.
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It suggests that your feelings are exaggerated or unwarranted,
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making you doubt the validity of your emotional responses.
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Over time, hearing this phrase can affect your ability to express yourself openly and authentically.
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It may lead you to feel ashamed or embarrassed for having strong emotions,
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which undermines your self-confidence and self-worth.
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However, it's important to recognize that it's okay to feel deeply.
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Your emotions are valid and important.
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Instead of internalizing this criticism,
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remind yourself that my feelings matter and I have the right to express them.
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This affirmation helps you acknowledge and honor your emotions, ultimately protecting your self-esteem.
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We've seen how words can deeply affect our self-esteem.
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So let's be kind in how we speak to ourselves and those around us.
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Let's use our words to uplift one another,
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not bring each other down.
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And remember you have the power to protect your self-esteem.
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What if we all made a pact to replace toxic phrases with encouraging ones?
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Imagine the boost in confidence we'd all feel.
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Maybe start today by identifying those negative thoughts and turning them into positive affirmations.
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These little changes can make a big difference.
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After all, we all deserve to be happy and live our best lives.
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Are you struggling with low self-esteem?
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Therapy can be a great way to get support and build your confidence.
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What's a toxic phrase you've struggled with?
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Share it and let's support each other in the comments.
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Curious about more toxic statements?
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Check out our video, 4 Toxic Quotes You Should Never Follow.
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About This Lesson
In this lesson, you will practice improving your English speaking skills by analyzing how certain phrases can affect self-esteem and mental health. By focusing on the key vocabulary and phrases within the provided transcript, you will gain insights into expressing your feelings about self-worth while also developing your listening and speaking abilities. This exercise will help you with IELTS speaking practice and enhance your overall linguistic proficiency using real-world conversations presented in the video. Engaging with these topics will also sharpen your ability to navigate emotionally charged discussions in English.
Key Vocabulary & Phrases
- Toxic phrases - harmful statements that can negatively impact mental health.
- Self-esteem - a person's overall sense of self-worth or personal value.
- Imposter syndrome - a psychological pattern where an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud."
- Celebrate your achievements - recognizing and taking pride in your successes to boost confidence.
- Comparison is the thief of joy - an expression emphasizing that comparing ourselves to others can rob us of happiness.
- Unique individual - acknowledging that everyone has distinct qualities that make them special.
- Confidence - the belief in one's abilities and qualities.
Practice Tips
To effectively practice using a shadowing app or any shadowspeak tools, follow these tailored tips to align with the video’s speed and tone:
- Listen Actively: Play the video in short segments, focusing on the delivery of words and emotions conveyed. Notice the speaker's pace and intonation.
- Repeat After the Speaker: Use a shadowing technique by pausing the video after a few sentences and repeating what the speaker says. This will enhance your pronunciation and fluency.
- Emphasize Emotion: Pay attention to the emotional weight behind the phrases, especially those related to self-worth. Practice conveying similar emotions in your responses.
- Record Yourself: After shadowing, record your speech and listen back. This will help you identify areas for improvement in tone and clarity.
- Engage with Content: Discuss the themes of self-esteem and judgment with a language partner in English. Use the vocabulary from this lesson to frame your thoughts.
By incorporating these practices into your daily routine, you will not only improve your English speaking skills but also gain confidence when discussing sensitive topics in the language.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.
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