Shadowing Practice: How to Heal your Broken Heart| Buddhism In English - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Namo Buddhaya.
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Welcome to yet another episode in Inner Guide, Q &A program.
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Now, in today's video, we're going to talk about how to handle a heartbreak and how to heal your heart.
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you you
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you One of our viewers have asked from us that how can I handle my sorrow of losing a loved one?
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And how can I handle the heartbreak, the sorrow of heartbreak?
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Well, first of all, I must say,
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A heartbreak or losing a loved one is one of the most hardest experiences that a human cannot undergo.
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you Because we have that mental bond and mental attachment within people.
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When that mental attachment is broken, we start to suffer.
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We start to cry and we start to wail.
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So, there are some ways that you can get over this sorrow.
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So this whole video is dedicated for all the people out there who are going through heartbreaks
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and who are experiencing tough times in their life. So this...
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video will, I think this video will help you to have some light on your way.
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Thank you.
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So there are some ways and things that we can do to heal ourselves.
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But remember, This healing process, takes time.
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It's like a bond.
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Right?
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Wound is not healed in a day, or two days, or three days.
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It takes time.
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right so we have to be in a constant process of healing that wound So same goes with the heartbreak.
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So, what we can do to heal our heart from a heartbreak.
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Number one.
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If you need to cry, It's okay to cry.
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Remember that.
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There are some people who are going through heartbreaks and they don't like to cry.
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They pretend to be there okay.
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you They pretend to the world that they are okay and they have got over the problem.
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They smile but not inside.
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Remember, If you need to cry, It's okay to cry.
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I'd...
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go to a private place, or go to your room and cry.
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It's okay.
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Because crying is one of the most natural way of out.
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removing the pressure that is building up inside your mind and inside your heart So, It's okay to cry.
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especially for men, because men always try to hide their tears and they pretend to be there.
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Okay.
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But remember, men are also allowed to cry.
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Okay?
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So if you need to cry, and if you need to remove and release that pressure that is building inside, then It's not a problem of shedding a tear.
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Number two.
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You can find a person
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who you can share your pain and who you can share the sorrow and the pressure that is building inside you.
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Right?
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Well, you need to be wise.
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When you choose this person, Why?
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Because there are some people out there who give hate comments and hateful comments to the person who cheated you.
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When they give those hate comments and when they try to build up the hate within you, Right?
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It is not good for you.
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It's not good for your mental health and it's not good for your physical health either.
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So what you have to do, choose the person wisely and share your pain with him.
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Find a person who can share that sorrow.
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That person can be your mother, your father, maybe one of your friends, maybe one of your teachers or mentors,
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whoever it is, find a person who keep listening to you without saying anything without giving Many advice to you,
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find a person who keeps listening to you.
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Right?
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Find a person who you can share your pain that is building.
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inside.
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That is the second step.
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And number three, this is the most important thing that you need to practice.
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And this is one of the things that many people who are in relationships doesn't like to think about.
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Now what is that?
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Our great teacher Supreme Buddha said,
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Sabvehi me piehi mana pehi nana bhavo vinabhavoti abhinnang pachave kitabhav.
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What does that mean?
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Supreme Buddha said, Always, reflect and recollect in your mind that one day,
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that one day I have to be parted and separated from all the Dear and agreeable people,
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in my life.
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Isn't that the truth?
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Yes it is.
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That is the truth.
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But we don't like to think about that when People are in relationships.
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you They will think it will ruin their relationship, it will ruin the bond between people.
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But in reality, it is not.
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Remember, when you think that I have to be separated.
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One day I have to be separated from this person that is that is sitting in front of me, the person who I love most.
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One day I have to be separated from this person.
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At least at the time.
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So, I have a little time to love this person, give my love, my kindness,
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my attention, my compassion to this person.
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So I must give this fullest love.
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that this person Remember, I True love will never break your heart.
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That's amazing.
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Isn't it?
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True love, when you love someone truly, if that person leaves you, You will never be heartbroken.
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But if you become attached to that person,
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If you are mentally too much attached to that person, and that attachment is the thing that breaks your heart.
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That is why Buddha said attachment brings the suffering to your life.
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So, remember, true love will never break your heart, but the attachment does.
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So, if you are curious about what is true love and what is attachment,
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there's another video that has done by us about explaining the true love, so you can check out that So remember,
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when you truly love someone, your heart will never be broken.
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Right?
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So what you have to think It is.
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Always, whenever you are possible, you need to think, I have to be separated from these people around me.
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Right?
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So when you think that, your mind is getting prepared to face that situation.
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You can imagine, I'm going to recover myself if this person left me.
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How I'm going to do that?
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right?
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Then if your mind is pre -prepared for that situation, when you're going through such a situation in reality, You will start to think,
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"Ah, this is what I was thinking about." Right?
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So, when your mind is get prepared to face that reality in the life.
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Bye.
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You can be more confident You can be more strong when you face that situation in real life.
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So that is the thing.
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But you have to always think about that.
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and also Remember, I told you, heartbreak is like a wound.
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Remember, if you need to heal this wound, you need to decrease the amount of touching it.
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Now, I don't say that you need to forget the person.
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You cannot forget the person. But you can!
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reduce the amount of attention for those past thoughts.
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Because when you're alone, right, after a heartbreak, after a breakup, when you're alone, Right?
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You're thinking about the moments and the things that happened in the past.
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the more you think about those things, the more you will be frustrated.
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and the more you will be sad.
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you So what you have to do,
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reduce The amount of attention that you are giving to that kind of thoughts Right?
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So you can do that, but you cannot forget that from time to time, those thoughts will haunt your mind.
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But when you're not giving any.. much more attention.
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When you are not giving much attention to those kind of thoughts, constantly, and with the time, it will fade away.
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Right?
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So, you don't try to stop the thoughts, but let the thoughts to fade away from your life.
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And keep this in your mind Whatever the terrible situation that you are going through in your life
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you it is going to be changed one day.
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because none of our life experiences are permanent Every experience,
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every tough situation, every happy time, and every experience that we face in our own life, are impermanent.
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they will change with the time so remember you're going to heal one day you're going to be okay one day.
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right? so have some experience with these tough situations in our life.
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Remember these experiences make our life more and more strong.
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So, these are few things that you can do to heal your broken heart.
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I hope you got some ideas too.
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How to heal your broken heart.
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And most importantly, don't forget to remember what our great teacher Supreme Buddha taught.
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One day we all have to be separated from every loving person around us.
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So we have a short time in this life.
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So we have to give our fullest love to these people around us.
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And expect nothing from this world.
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Because our expectations will make us...
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suffering.
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So remember that and I'm going to end this video with a nice chord And that is: When you are heartbroken, cry.
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Forgive.
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learn from your experiences, and Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.
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Namo Buddhaya.
Context & Background
The video titled "How to Heal Your Broken Heart" features wisdom derived from Buddhist philosophies that explore emotional healing. The speaker addresses the universal experience of heartbreak, emphasizing the emotional struggle that comes with losing a loved one. Through a compassionate lens, the speaker acknowledges that heartbreak can be one of life's toughest challenges. He encourages viewers to openly express their sorrow and to seek connections with others who can support them during this difficult time. Their insights into healing provide listeners with a pathway toward emotional recovery, making this content not only relevant but also deeply meaningful.
Top 5 Phrases for Daily Communication
- "It's okay to cry": A reminder that expressing emotions is natural and healthy.
- "You need to be wise in choosing who to share your pain with": Emphasizes the importance of selecting supportive individuals.
- "Crying is one of the most natural ways of releasing pressure": This phrase highlights tears as a form of emotional relief.
- "We have a mental bond and attachment": This explains the psychological aspect of relationships and heartbreak.
- "The healing process takes time": A crucial reminder that recovery is not immediate and requires patience.
Step-by-step Shadowing Guide
To improve your English speaking practice, especially in emotional contexts like those found in this video, try the following shadowing techniques:
- Listen Actively: Start by watching the video without distractions. Focus on the speaker's tone and emotion as they discuss heartbreak.
- Repeat Aside: Pause the video after each meaningful phrase. Imitate the speaker's pronunciation and intonation. Use the phrases provided in the previous section for practice.
- Use a Mirror: Stand in front of a mirror and practice articulating the phrases. Pay attention to your facial expressions and gestures, which enhance your understanding of emotional context.
- Record Your Voice: Record yourself repeating the phrases. Listen to your recordings to identify areas for improvement in fluency and expression.
- Engage in Conversation: Find a partner to practice with. Share your interpretations of these emotional topics and encourage each other to express feelings in English.
By utilizing these methods, you can effectively engage in shadow speak, helping you internalize vocabulary connected to emotional experiences. This will not only aid your english speaking practice but also deepen your understanding of human emotions in conversational contexts.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.