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Life isn't fair, is it?
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Life isn't fair, is it?
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Doesn't appear to be very fair.
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Because I mean this is how your story ended it in that regard.
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I don't know if an adventure is fair.
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I don't even know if that's what we want.
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What are we built for?
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We're built for maximal challenge and that isn't the way we view ourselves in the modern world.
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We view ourselves as built for pleasure.
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We view ourselves as built for consumption or for safety or for maybe for egotistical self-aggrandizement and fame.
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Those are, look, many, all of those things are better than their absence, let's say.
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What are we built for?
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I think we're built for maximal challenge.
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Well, humility is starting where you are.
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That's what humility is.
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And it's annoying because, you know,
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like if your life is a mess,
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then you have to see that you're the person in that mess.
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And then you have to understand
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that your first attempt to redress the mess might not be something you're particularly proud of, you know?
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I mean, I saw this lots in my clinical practice where people would,
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the first steps they had to take to put things in order were pretty embarrassing.
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It's like, really?
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That's all I can do?
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Hey, man, uphill is better than downhill.
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Okay, so it lays out a view of the world.
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Progress, regression.
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So even if you have to start small, you accrue success exponentially.
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You accrue defeat exponentially too.
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That's the abyss that is hell.
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You start going downhill, you go downhill faster and faster.
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Start going uphill, you go uphill faster and faster.
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So even if you have to start small or even painfully small,
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which is highly probable, especially if you're trying to tackle something that's really plagued you,
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it doesn't really matter.
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What is self-belief in this context?
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Because so many people are in search of two words,
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I think that's three words, but self-belief and confidence.
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Yeah.
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And in this context of that small task,
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task, how is that building my self-belief or confidence?
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Yeah, well, because you watch yourself do it.
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And that does what to me?
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Well, look, if you see someone,
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a friend, who is continually,
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incrementally improving, you're going to, oh, that's admirable.
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Well, you see the same thing in yourself.
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You have to develop an opinion of yourself the same way you would develop an opinion of someone else.
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So now, and I'm not hypothesizing about this,
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by the way, we know this clinically.
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If I want to truly help you build your confidence,
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rather than merely readjusting the words you say about yourself,
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which would be something like self-esteem,
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which is something that doesn't even exist,
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by the way, it's just a pathological concept altogether, you want confidence, okay?
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to the point you want the confidence that's based in competence otherwise it's narcissistic okay
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so how do you develop that well you watch yourself exceed your limits
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and then you think oh look at that there's something in me
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that can exceed my limits that's your true self that's a good way of thinking about it
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and in doing so you actually realize that limits exist
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and you imposed one on yourself in the first place well
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that you that's one of the things you can realize certainly
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that but that also you don't exactly know where the limits are.
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It's like, oh, I exceeded that.
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It's like, okay, well, now what?
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What's the upward arc of exceeding limits?
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That's Jacob's ladder.
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I would say this is the promise of the kingdom of God.
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That's one way of thinking about it.
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There's no upward limit.
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We're built to walk uphill.
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and when you reach the pinnacle of the hill you want to stop
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and appreciate the vision but the next thing you want is a higher hill in the distance
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because it's the uphill climb that it's it's from the uphill climb
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that we derive our value and I mean this technically
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so almost all the positive emotion we feel especially the the the emotion
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that fills us with enthusiasm
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and that's to be filled with the Spirit of God by the way because that's what enthusiasm means
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that's experienced in relationship to a goal.
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You want a goal that you can never attain.
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You want a horizon of ever-expanding possibility.
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And so it does happen to people as they,
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because they've staked their soul on the attainment of an instrumental goal.
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And it can be a pretty high order goal,
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it was in your case.
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But then you think, well I've,
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now I'm there, now what?
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Well the answer can't be,
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well I'm going to live in the lap of luxury
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and never have to leave the faith what do you want
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to be a giant infant with a gold with a gold bottle you never have to do anything
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but lay in your back and suck it's like well you see the problem with
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that as a as a as a conceptualization it's no you
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want to be like an active warrior moving uphill with your sword in hand
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and that's that's dynamic that's exciting and that's why so many young men disappear into video games.
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That's all acted out in the video game.
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So, they have to act that out in their own life.
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Not that I despise video games,
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because I don't, but they're not a substitute for life.
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We kind of experience life as if we're tossed into it,
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thrown into it, you know,
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you're male and not female,
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you're Hindu and not Christian,
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you're tall and not short,
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you have an arbitrary range of talents and an arbitrary range of limitations,
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none of which in some sense you chose.
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It's the cards you're dealt.
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Now some of those are cards of privilege.
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Now maybe you're born intelligent,
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maybe you're born symmetrical, maybe you're born healthy,
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maybe you're born into a culture where it's much easier not to be absolutely deprived.
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Maybe your parents are rich and so all of that in some sense is unearned.
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The way you pay for your privileges with your virtue.
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I mean that most particularly.
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You have these opportunities and this existential guilt and the way you expiate
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that and atone is by doing your best to live the best possible life you can manage.
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To speak the truth, to treat people with respect,
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to abide by the principles of the dignity of the individual and to put your house in order.
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And that's how you pay for your un-earned privilege.
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All of us.
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And we all have our privileges and our curses.
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You know, all of us have that.
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That's why it's not useful to be envious of people.
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You know, you see some,
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you're a young man, you see someone drive by in a Ferrari with a blonde and you think,
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my God, he's got everything.
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And you know, the woman in the car is a prostitute who's got a cocaine addiction
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and her life is just one catastrophe after another.
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And he's had to lie and cheat his way into this position
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and he's afraid that everything's going to come crashing down on him and that's what you're jealous of.
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And it's just not that profound.
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You don't want someone else's fate.
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Man, your fate's enough and your adventure's enough.
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It's plenty.
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It's more than you can ever fully realize.
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And so that's also part of the reason that we all believe that the individual has some intrinsic dignity.
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It's don't be so sure that your position and your room is
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so damn trivial might be your attitude towards it, it's trivial.
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And if you're in dire straits and dire circumstances,
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just look at how much opportunity you have to make things better.
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So, not that it's easy.
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You don't even want it to be easy.
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Well, you need to contemplate your own malevolence because that helps you understand
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who you are and who you could be
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and you could be something absolutely brutal and terrible
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so you need to contemplate your own malevolence so
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that you understand who you are and
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that means you have to contemplate malevolence as such
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because you're not only who you are you're who you could be for better or worse
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and i actually think it's i think it's a lot easier to start to understand who you could be
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if you were better if you deeply understand who you could be if you were worse
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and who you might be to the degree that you're blind to
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that worse presently so you think oh my god i could be
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that malevolent a force for ill that's horrible but highly compelling
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and plausible given my understanding of my own character i'm way
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deeper on the negative end than i thought much more closely
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aligned with the forces of hell than i presumed that's easy
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to swallow factually right you think yeah there's evidence for
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that it's not so easy to swallow emotionally it's it's a bitter pill to say the least
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and so i don't think
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that you can contemplate the good without contemplating the evil first
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i don't think it has the depth you know they say
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that fear of god is the beginning of wisdom it's it's something like
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that necessary fear it's like well i don't want to be
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a monster okay well how much of a monster are you i'm as monstrous as i have been
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so that's on me conscience-wise
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but like i'm also the same being that's been as monstrous
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as any being throughout history nothing human is foreign to me
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lots of my clients my clinical clients are too agreeable
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and um they're generally women because women are more agreeable than men
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but not always because i've had agreeable men as clients as well
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and what happens is they're resentful and
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and they don't know how to stand up for themselves and it's because they're very compassionate by nature and so
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If you're entering into a negotiation with them, they'll let you win.
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Well, that's not so good because,
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you know, you need to win too.
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Especially if you're in an organization of adults where there's a struggle, right?
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When you have kids, you can let them win, especially infants.
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You have to let them win,
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and that's partly why compassion is so necessary.
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But as a basis for negotiation between adults,
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it's like, sorry, it's insufficient.
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You have to be a bit of a monster so that you can say no. Well,
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let's toughen you up.
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Let's put you in a position where you can bargain.
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Let's teach you how to assert yourself and stand up for yourself.
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And that's assertiveness training.
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And it's a huge chunk of psychotherapy.
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And you need to learn it.
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It's like, because part of how you regulate your interactions with other people is to negotiate.
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And you cannot negotiate unless you can say no. You can't do it.
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And it causes conflict to say no. And if you don't like conflict,
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which is basically the definition of being agreeable,
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then you can't tolerate the conflict and
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so then you can't negotiate on your own behalf and
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so then you keep losing and you're bullied
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and you know it's it's not good then you get resentful
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and and it's really not good
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so you have to develop your inner monster a little bit and and then that makes makes you a better person,
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not a worse person.
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It's weird.
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It's weird, but that's just how it is.
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If you've been victimized, you're naive and you've been victimized,
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the way out of that is to no longer be naive and to no longer be victimized.
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And that means that you see this reflected in the Harry Potter idea,
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for example, that the reason that Harry Potter can withstand Voldemort is because he's got a piece of him.
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already is being touched by it.
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And the way that you keep the psychopaths at bay is to develop the inner psychopaths
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so that you know one when you see one.
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But that's a voluntary thing.
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So it's like a set of tools that you have at your disposal,
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which is full knowledge of evil.
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And there's this old idea that if you look into the darkness enough,
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you'll find something that compensates for it, right?
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And that emerges out of the darkness that's greater
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and more powerful than the darkness and
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that part part of the looking into the dark side of you yourself is you find the power
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that enables you to deal with mortality if they've been coddled
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and their ambition has been squelched
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and everything about them that's aggressive has been shamed out of existence that's part of
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that attraction of that dark fantasy right and then they see
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that aggression manifesting itself and in a creative form it's not surprising
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that they're going to try to imitate that it's part of
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that desire to bring that shadow out of the shadows and into the light
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there's two pathways to the development of the shadow and they're tightly allied with one another
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the fundamental pathway is truth and that's to face the bitter truth about yourself
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but to break that down more particularly you might think about
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that as the capacity to observe your own resentment you're going to be resentful
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and bitter in many situations because you don't get what you want
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and if you watch that resentment bitterness you'll see
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that it produces fantasies that can be unbelievably dark and
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that can be very frightening and you might not want to admit to yourself
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that you're actually capable of having fantasies like that or impulses like
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that or aggressive feelings like that but the thing is is
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that if those aggressive feelings and impulses
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and fantasies are integrated into your character it's like you're opening up a dialogue with a part of yourself
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that can be very forceful and strong and dangerous
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and it's really useful to be dangerous because if you can
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if you can be dangerous you often don't have to be you know
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or you're oppressing yourself then you got to notice
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that you're feeling oppressed then you have to notice
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that you're feeling resentful resentful and and angry and bitter
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and then you have to decide what it is
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that you need to do in order to remove from yourself
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that bitterness and that's usually means that that there's something that you have to say.
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And then you have to say it because your soul depends on it.
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And not only does your soul depend on it,
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I would say the fate of the world depends on it.
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Because, you know, you might be wrong,
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and then you should be straightened out.
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Maybe you're just being whiny,
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and you have to talk to somebody about that.
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But it may be that you're actually detecting something wrong,
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some tyranny that's directed towards you and other people,
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and it's like your moral obligation to speak up about it.
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And so many workplaces become toxic,
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to use a terrible cliché,
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Because the people in them won't speak up for what they actually want
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or they speak up too late and then they're all
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Twisted up about it and and you know They're torturing other people
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because they're so unhappy and so forth and so on so Practical approach for developing in shadow fundamentally is radical honesty
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