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Hey everybody, happy Monday!
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Now today we're going to talk about resiliency and how we can build up our own.
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Because I don't know about you,
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but it seems like everyone is talking about it and how important it is.
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But no one is talking about what it really is or how we can cultivate it.
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But before we jump into that,
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are you new to my channel?
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Welcome!
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Make sure you are subscribed and have your notifications turned on so that when I release a video,
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you don't miss out.
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Okay, let's get into resiliency.
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Now, resiliency is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties or toughness.
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But when it comes to our psychological health,
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it's a bit more than that.
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It's about our ability to manage any crisis or upset and get back to baseline quickly.
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Meaning that life's ups and downs don't throw us off for that long.
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We have tools and resources and we can bounce back quickly quickly.
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And no, stuffing things down and pretending they didn't happen does not count as resiliency.
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Just FYI.
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And I've often in the past used the poker chip analogy to describe resilience.
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And if you don't know what I'm talking about,
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I've shared in other videos how we wake up with a certain number of poker chips.
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It's just a nice visual.
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And stressful or difficult things cost us some of those chips.
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Others prefer to use the spoons analogy,
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but either way, way we're talking about good old-fashioned resilience.
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And I know you're wondering how do we know what our resilience is or how good or bad we're doing with it.
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And the way to find that out is to notice
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or even to think back to the last crisis that we had in our life.
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Think about how long it took for you to get back to feeling like yourself.
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Was it a quick turnaround like lickety split
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or did we struggle for weeks months or maybe even years
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if we bounce back easily we have more resilience and
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if we struggle more to move past it we have less
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but no matter how much resilience we have we can all benefit from more of it
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and that's why today I'm sharing ten ways that we can all build resiliency.
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And number one, journal.
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I know some of you won't like this one or you don't even know how to get started in journaling.
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And if you don't know I do have my journal club via YouTube memberships.
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It's five dollars a month and I share a journal prompt
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or a thought to get you going in your journal every Tuesday and Friday.
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So that could really help.
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What journaling really does is it It builds resilience because it helps us process all we may be feeling and going through.
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Getting all of our thoughts,
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upsets, worries, or whatever out and onto paper or a Google Doc,
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whatever, it can help us see situations more clearly and possibly feel less weighed down by them.
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And that in turn will help us move past any crisis more quickly and get back to our pre-crisis self.
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My second tip, build a support system.
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This could be online through my Facebook group or Seven Cups,
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Better Help, Talkspace, or even our community as a whole,
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or truly wherever you find support online.
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But this should also be in person,
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whether that's friends, family, coworkers, your therapist, psychiatrist.
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And if you have trouble meeting people and making friends,
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don't worry, I've got you.
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I have some videos about that.
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Just search Katie Morton, making friends,
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and they'll pop right up.
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And there's this quote that I love that really,
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I don't know, I just feel like it totally expresses why support systems are helpful and so vital to our life.
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And the quote is, a joy shared is a joy doubled.
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A sorrow shared is a sorrow halved.
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Having people we can talk things out with can really help us work through it
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and get back to being ourselves more quickly.
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Now my third tip is to take care of your basic needs.
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In DBT, I reference this all the time, we call this HALT.
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And that stands for hungry, angry, lonely, and tired.
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And if we don't take care of those basic needs,
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we aren't as resilient.
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I mean, just think about it.
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There's a reason people call it being hangry.
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We get angry and are more easily upset when we're hungry.
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And the same can be said if we're overly tired.
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So if you need to take a break, take it.
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If you're hungry, grab a snack or a meal.
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And if you're sick, please see a doctor and take some time off.
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Taking care of yourself is really the foundation of resilience.
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So making that a priority will pay dividends for how well you manage anything life throws at you.
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My fourth tip is to notice your self-talk.
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I know I talk about this all the time.
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But if we feel confident and good about ourselves,
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we can take on more.
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So notice.
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Notice if you're talking shit to yourself or if you're being kind and compassionate.
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If it's hard to be kind,
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maybe think of what your best friend or mom would say to you and write those nice things down.
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You could even improve your self-talk by ending each day by writing down three to five things that you like about yourself.
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I know it can be really,
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really hard, but nothing worth having is easy,
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so stick with it and I swear you will feel the difference.
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Also, if it's too hard to come up with the good things to say about yourself,
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it's okay to use bridge statements.
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For example, if saying that I look great and I'm important is just too much for me,
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which I think it is for a lot of us, right?
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Instead of trying to say that,
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I could say, you know,
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it is possible that I'm not as bad as I think I am.
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Start there.
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That will help bridge the gap between the nasty self-talk and the nice self-talk.
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Number five, live with purpose.
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Now I know that sounds like a big item and something
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that you can't just do in one day and while that is true it's also a lot simpler than you think.
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It could be helping raise awareness for a cause or issue that's important to you.
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Joining a sports team, yes they have them for all ages.
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Lawn bowling is huge where I live
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and it's filled with people in their 60s or you could start or join a book club.
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Whatever you get excited about or things that you want to improve in your area,
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make time to do that more.
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Start something locally.
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It gives you purpose, and that in turn helps you build resilience.
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Number six, become friends with your feelings.
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I know, I know, we all hate our feelings and want to ignore them so they'll go away.
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But we also know that that only causes us to explode with emotion at really inopportune times.
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So becoming friends with them is the most helpful and beneficial.
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And tracking them is a great place to start because if we've been stuffing them down,
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we may not even know what it is we're feeling.
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So Google a feelings chart,
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print some out, and start noticing three to five emotions you experience each day.
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And yes, they can be the same each and every day,
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but please try to come up with other emotion words to describe them,
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like for example, if you usually select sad,
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maybe come up with an alternative,
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like I felt down or upset.
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And once you've identified them,
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you can use your journal,
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back to tip number one,
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to write out where that emotion came from,
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why you think you feel the way you feel,
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and it can be so helpful and validating.
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And my next tip is to manage your impulses.
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People who are resilient still have impulses.
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They just also have a voice in their head that keeps it in check and they know that the urge will pass.
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And if they give into it,
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it will only make things worse.
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So get to know your own impulses.
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They could be urges to sabotage a relationship by starting a silly fight.
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Maybe it's an impulse to self-harm or engage in eating disorder behavior.
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Perhaps it's to overspend and shop online or abuse alcohol or other substances.
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Whatever it is, pay attention to what you tend to do and maybe regret later.
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Once you know what they are,
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then you can use an impulse log to fight against the urge.
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They have these in the Safe Alternatives app,
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but an impulse log truly is just,
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what is the impulse or what is it that you're wanting to do?
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What happened recently to lead to this impulse?
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What is it that I'm trying to not feel or not deal with?
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And what can I do instead?
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And that should really help you better manage any unhealthy impulses and get you back to feeling like yourself more quickly.
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Now my eighth tip is to learn to problem solve.
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And I know that sounds like a silly thing and everyone knows how to problem solve,
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but that's not true.
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So many of us have no clue how to problem solve.
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We can just stop talking to someone completely because they upset us
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or give up on a goal because one person told us that it was stupid.
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Don't let that happen to you.
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Overcoming obstacles is uncomfortable at times, but completely worth it.
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Something I do when I'm faced with a problem is I write out what the problem is,
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how I feel about it,
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and what the worst thing that could happen is.
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Then I consider what a neutral outcome of the problem is.
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And lastly, what I hope happens,
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like what's the ideal scenario.
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Then I take some time and I try to work backwards from the outcome that I want.
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What steps do I need to take to get there?
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What things can I control?
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What is out of my control
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that I need to let go of versus trying to hold on to that makes things worse?
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We do that.
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I do that.
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I know.
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But I know all of these steps,
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it can just seem really tedious.
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But it can really help us from letting one issue get under our skin
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and steal some of those poker chips that we've been working so hard to collect.
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And my ninth tip, grow your list of healthy coping skills.
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And I talk about this all the time,
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but coping skills are just things that we can do instead of the unhealthy
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or bad thing that we have that impulse to do.
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And we should be using these all the time.
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I know I do.
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I use different coping skills each and every day.
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For example, today I made time for yoga,
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so I had my own alone time and I got to relax a bit.
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And when I woke up,
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I forced myself to come up with three things that I was looking forward to.
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And I have a whole video about coping skills,
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so just search Katie Morton coping skills,
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and it will pop up if you need some more ideas.
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But try to come up with five and work your way into having 10 that you can use regularly.
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And make sure these really work for you.
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Because if we use coping skills each and every day,
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and not just when we're in crisis,
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we're sort of stockpiling our poker chips so that we're more resilient overall.
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And my 10th and final tip, set goals.
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I can't tell you how many of my patients don't have any goals, no goals.
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When I ask them, they aren't sure,
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and they'll be like, oh,
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well, I mean, I'm in therapy,
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like, so in therapy, I just wanna get better.
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Come on, people, we can do better than that.
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Let's start setting some goals.
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I know we're more used to doing this when we're children in school,
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or if we work in an organization where we have to build our way up,
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but we should still have things that we want to do in our personal life.
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Maybe it's travel based, relationship based.
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It could be work or a school goal too,
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or even small things we wanna do around our area,
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or improvements we wanna make on our home or apartment.
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What are your goals for the next month?
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How about six months?
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Start thinking about this and know that there is no judgment when it comes to your goals.
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It could be that you wanna shower three times this week because it's been really,
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really hard for you lately.
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Whatever it is, set it,
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write it down, and then work to make it happen.
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And I would also set smaller goals that you can accomplish today or this week,
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and then start looking farther and farther out.
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This will give you something to look forward to and help build your confidence in your own abilities,
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and overall, build your resilience.
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I hope you found that helpful.
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And please, if you have any other tips or ideas,
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Leave them in the comments down below because together we are working towards a healthy mind and a healthy body.
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And I will see you next time.
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Bye.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu C1 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “What is Resilience and How Do I Improve it?” videosuna dayanıyor. En çok tekrarlanan kelimeler: impulse, resilience, tip, goal. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 224 cümle ve 2279 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 12:43 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 179 kelimeyle, günlük konuşmaya yakın doğal bir hızda konuşuyor. Kelimelerin %87’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| impulse isim | /ˈɪmpʌls/ | dürtü |
| resilience isim | /ɹɪˈzɪl.ɪ.əns/ | çabuk iyileşme özelliği |
| poker isim | /ˈpoʊkɚ/ | karıştırıcı |
| resilient sıfat | /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/ | dirençli, elastik |
| analogy isim | /əˈnæləd͡ʒi/ | analoji |
| unhealthy sıfat | /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/ | sağlıksız |
| sorrow isim | /ˈsɑɹoʊ/ | üzüntü, keder |
| bounce fiil | /baʊns/ | sekmek |
| stockpile isim | /ˈstɑkˌpaɪl/ | stok, rezerv |
| turnaround isim | /ˈtɜɹnəˌɹaʊnd/ | geri dönme, geri dönüm |
| sabotage isim | /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/ | sabotaj, tahribat |
| psychiatrist isim | /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/ | psikiyatr, psikiyatrist |
| backward sıfat | /ˈbækwɚd/ | geri |
| obstacle isim | /ˈɑbstəkəl/ | engel, ket |
| explode fiil | /ɪkˈsploʊd/ | patlamak |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| look forward to fiil | iple çekmek, dört gözle beklemek | |
| miss out fiil | kaçırmak | |
| wake up fiil | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | uyanmak |
Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler
Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:
- If you're hungry, grab a snack or a meal.
- Don't let that happen to you.
- What steps do I need to take to get there?
- What things can I control?
- What are your goals for the next month?
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — önceden başlayıp hâlâ süren bir eylem | we've been stuffing · we've been working |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | I've shared · you've identified · it's been |
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | are subscribed · is defined · can be said |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı don't, we're, I'm gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 54 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “th” sesleri: unhealthy /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, ninth /naɪnθ/
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: compassionate /kəmˈpæʃənət/, sabotage /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/, beneficial /ˌbɛn.ɪˈfɪʃ.əl/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: resilience /ɹɪˈzɪl.ɪ.əns/, analogy /əˈnæləd͡ʒi/, inopportune /ˌɪ.nɒ.pəɹˈtjuːn/, compassionate /kəmˈpæʃənət/, psychiatrist /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/
Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:
- /w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: backward /ˈbækwɚd/, weigh /weɪ/
- Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: stockpile /ˈstɑkˌpaɪl/, prompt /pɹɑmpt/, stressful /ˈstɹɛsfəl/, spoon /spuːn/, snack /snæk/
- /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: analogy /əˈnæləd͡ʒi/, validate /ˈvæl.ɪ.deɪt/, compassionate /kəmˈpæʃənət/, sabotage /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/, lastly /ˈlæstli/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
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- 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; impulse, resilience, poker gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
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