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- I'm the father of Jonathan, my son.
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He took his own life at the age of 23.
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2018, April 24th.
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Exact to this date .
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Well, Jonathan was always a very active child the life of a party who really enjoyed socialising.
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So, so he had many friends.
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He also had a way to organise among his brothers.
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They like to do online gaming together and he was always the leader.
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Even the eldest brother would have to listen to him.
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Well, he's always the rebellious one.
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That was also something that I couldn't believe.
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That day itself actually was a normal day.
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As usual, we had breakfast in the morning me and my wife together with him.
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He handed me a name card saying that he's been seeing this physiotherapist.
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He also knew that I have some muscular pain and wanted to give me the card and say that "Hey Pa, maybe you should call this person and see if this person can help you as well." We dropped him off at the MRT.
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Normally I would say, "I love you, son." And then he would say the same thing.
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Then I got a call from a lady who identified herself as an investigation officer, an IO from the police.
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She said that it is about your son, Jonathan.
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When she mentioned Jon, I...
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Yeah, something popped in me.
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So I was panicking in the car.
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I kept missing, you know, a critical turn.
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So a 40-minute drive turned out to be more than an hour.
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And that's where the news broke to us that Jon has passed and that he took his own life.
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There's no way in relating to the day's events that I could even believe that Jon took his life.
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Yeah, it was just something inconceivable.
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I suppose the situation, well, the situation...
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It's okay. The situation happened so fast so I keep telling the IO that you probably had made a mistake and there's no way that my son would do that.
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In fact, I repeated many, many times that there's no way.
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Yeah. The denial was unbearable but I couldn’t accept it.
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When I saw the feet then I realised it was really him.
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Because my son, Jon, had flat feet.
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So I noticed right away.
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But both feet were no longer in that sense when you lie down in your bed your feet basically are upright, right?
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Yeah, his are split like this.
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So immediately I also knew that his body was so broken up.
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Then I saw his body it wasn't really a body.
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It was just...
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A bundle of I believe, different parts of his body.
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But they showed his face and his face was completely intact.
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That was something that I was grateful.
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I just literally crawled up to him and say, "Son, Pa is here." And that's all I could say.
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<i>- So sorry you had to go through that.</i> - Well, I'm sorry too.
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I was supposed to work out all the details.
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How long the wake is going to be.
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How the funeral is going to be.
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Even right down to choosing the casket.
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I also kind of lost it already, right?
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Because... The day before, we are talking about his future talking about how he will continue to finish his degree his job and everything.
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And then, and then when we're at the mortuary we're talking about how to prepare his death.
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Talk about the responsibility, right?
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Well... I guess that's what you do.
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That's supposed to be the responsibility of a father and a husband.
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Yes, certainly.
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Yeah, why couldn't I detect any sign of his mental struggle or even depression?
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I couldn't tell.
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Up to this stage, I still did not know what was the real cause of why he took his own life.
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There wasn't any kind of rationale in terms of the thought or reflection.
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Just blind rage about me being a father.
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Being a useless father.
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I remember that during the wake, the funeral itself it was an open casket that everybody could see.
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We want to be very honest with them that even we ourselves did not know.
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So obviously, that also invited a lot of questions or unwanted questions.
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But it also gave us the courage to really not to to beat around the bush.
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To make sure that we...
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We took a stand on that for the sake of the family and also for the sake of my son.
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Even though, outwardly I was doing fine.
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When I was alone like going to bed I was spiralling.
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Yeah, to the point that I...
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I just felt that the darkness was just killing me.
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I could almost see myself on edge, right?
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On one side I would survive.
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On the other side I just let go.
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Scary to admit that you are not as strong as you think you are as a father, as a husband.
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But the admissions, I must say, also gave me strength that I didn't have to pretend what I'm not.
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After that we have a very, very good family meeting.
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What I said is that I felt that being a father and being a husband I didn't fulfill my responsibility of either of these roles.
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The more I talk about my failure the more I saw my sons and my wife give me the assurance that they're going to be there.
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They'll always be there.
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Yeah. I finally took the courage to reach out to SOS .
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I just wanted to see if there's any way that I could join the support group.
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This counsellor was very kind, but he was also very firm.
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He said, “No.
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You are in no condition to join the support group because what you need is to have one-to-one counselling support.” Because what I realised is that when you join a support group every one of us need to have that courage not just to introduce ourselves but to repeat whom we have lost and what happened.
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And if I wasn't ready and I started listening to all the different stories it can be very difficult.
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What I'm most afraid of doing about facing up to my guilt and shame those were the things that I literally found that I had to confront.
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It's a very common question that we ask ourselves.
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Because over time, memories fade, right?
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<i>- What are your favourite memories</i> <i>that you like to revisit?</i> - His defiance.
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His laughter.
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There used to be a time that because they enjoyed the gaming so much I would always get very angry and then went out to the living room and say that "Hey guys, do you know what time it is?" Now, my sons, they'll still do that.
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But that noise is no longer there.
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So all of a sudden, I miss that.
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After eight years I guess in many sense, I still remember my son fondly and I still cherish and treasure all the memories I had with him and for him.
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As we're moving on with our lives I don't think we're leaving him alone.
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We're moving on because all my sons are growing up they're going to have their own life.
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But it doesn't diminish our memory of Jon just that it evolved to the next phase of our life.
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He is still very much our son and I speak it in the present tense.
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Whenever we talk about certain things that we are doing together and all of a sudden it will jog our memory about what Jon used to do.
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We talk about him freely that means that we include his memory in our daily conversation and that gives us strength.
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During the time that when I was spiraling I actually couldn't see any light.
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I needed to do something that is purposeful and meaningful for me to at least try.
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I transitioned from a survivor to now a facilitator so that I can help other parents who are in the same shoes as me.
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Oftentimes, we assume that loving just because you love them so much you thought that you would also know them inside out.
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That is false.
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I would say that for parents going through a situation like that if they already detect signs of their sons having this kind of suicide ideation I would very much encourage them not to skirt around the issue.
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To ask directly: are they thinking about taking their own life?
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Yeah, people may say that "Wow, is this even a question that you can ask?
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Because if you ask, wouldn't that induce to make the intention clear?” No, on the contrary it's that maybe that's exactly what they need.
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They needed people to talk to them.
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Suicide is not just a one-person business.
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It's multiple parties business.
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If I look at myself that statement about “Never mind, they will move on” is just a fantasy, unfortunately.
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Look at me.
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Have I moved on?
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Moving on is not a simple case that everything will be hunky-dory and then we'll be all peaceful and we will forget about our loved one.
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No one is able to move on and forget about everything.
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There will be a time that we're going to come to the end of our own life.
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I just want to believe that when that time comes the opportunity to be able to reunite with Jon will be there.
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Yeah. I'm going to repeat that short phrase that when I saw him lying in the morgue.
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I would say "Hey son, Pa is here.
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And I'm so glad that we can be together again."
Ngữ Cảnh & Bối Cảnh
Trong video cảm động này, Thomas kể về quá trình đau thương khi mất con trai Jonathan của mình. Jonathan, một chàng trai năng động và vui vẻ, đã quyết định tự kết thúc cuộc đời ở tuổi 23. Ngày 24 tháng 4 năm 2018, một ngày mà Thomas không bao giờ quên. Cuộc trò chuyện hàng ngày của gia đình đã thay đổi vĩnh viễn trong một khoảnh khắc. Thomas mô tả cảm xúc của mình từ sự hoang mang, từ chối đến đau đớn khi nhận được thông tin về cái chết của con trai. Điều này nhấn mạnh rằng việc đối diện với sự thật không dễ dàng, cả về mặt cảm xúc lẫn tâm lý.
5 Câu Nói Chính Trong Giao Tiếp Hàng Ngày
- "Tôi yêu con." - Câu nói thể hiện tình cảm và sự kết nối giữa cha mẹ và con cái.
- "Có thể bạn nên gọi cho người này." - Khuyến khích người khác tìm kiếm sự giúp đỡ chuyên môn.
- "Chuyện này không thể xảy ra với con trai tôi." - Biểu hiện sự từ chối và không thể chấp nhận thực tế.
- "Ba đang ở đây." - Thể hiện sự hiện diện và hỗ trợ cho người yêu thương trong những lúc khó khăn.
- "Chúng tôi đang nói về tương lai của con." - Nhấn mạnh những ước mơ và kỳ vọng cho con cái.
Hướng Dẫn Shadowing Bước Từng Bước
Để nâng cao kỹ năng luyện nói tiếng anh và luyện nghe nói qua video, bạn có thể thực hiện theo các bước sau:
- Xem video lần đầu tiên: Hãy xem video mà không có phụ đề để cảm nhận được cảm xúc và ngữ điệu của Thomas.
- Lắng nghe và ghi chú: Trong lần xem thứ hai, hãy chú ý đến các câu nói chính và ngữ điệu của nhân vật. Ghi chú lại những câu thoại quan trọng để thực hành.
- Thực hành ghép âm (shadowing): Đặt video ở chế độ phát lại chậm hơn và cố gắng lặp lại từng câu sau khi các nhân vật nói. Chú ý đến ngữ điệu, tốc độ nói và sắc thái cảm xúc.
- Ghi âm bản thân: Sau khi đã quen thuộc với nội dung, hãy ghi âm lại giọng nói của bạn khi thực hành. So sánh với video gốc để tự đánh giá và điều chỉnh.
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Sử dụng những phương pháp shadowing tiếng anh này sẽ giúp bạn nâng cao khả năng shadow speak một cách tự tin, gia tăng mức độ giao tiếp tiếng Anh hàng ngày. Hãy nhớ dành thời gian luyện tập đều đặn để đạt kết quả tốt nhất!
Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?
Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.