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Hey everybody, happy Thursday.

Now today we're going to talk about how to cope with everyone having babies around you when you're struggling with infertility.

But before we jump into that, are you new to my channel?

Welcome!

I put out videos on Mondays and on Thursdays, so make sure you're subscribed and have your notifications turned on so that you don't miss out.

But here's today's question.

Katie, how do you cope with everyone around you having babies, being invited to baby showers, and having to be supportive of your friends?

I spent my cousin's baby shower hiding tears in the bathroom.

I left early and I felt so guilty.

How do you deal with all the pics of ultrasounds, proud parents with their newborns and little ones smiling or walking or tasting something for the first time?

How do you cope with hearing about someone close to you having an abortion

and remain compassionate towards them and their experience when all you want is a baby?

I thought this was a great question and something

that I know a lot of us go through

and this question came out of the video that I talked about dealing with infertility.

So if you want more information about that specific topic, you can click the link in the description and check that video out.

But when it comes to people around us, trust me, at the age of 34, almost all of my Instagram feed is just filled with people sharing pregnancy posts

and new babies and first steps and all of that.

And if we're trying really hard to get pregnant, how do we even deal?

And I have some really helpful tips to get you through.

And my first one is join a Facebook group or support group in your area.

And I say Facebook or in your area because I find them to be both really really beneficial.

Many of my patients have talked about how Facebook has a group for everything.

And I had a patient who had recently lost a child due to miscarriage

and found a group for women just who are going through that.

And that was really really helpful and supportive for her.

And so if you can't find a support group in your area or it's really hard with your schedule, Facebook is a great place for that.

And it can give you one place where you can go

and spend time where it won't be filled with people showing pictures of their new baby and talking about pregnancy.

It's people struggling with the same thing you're struggling with.

And that's why I really love support groups

because it gives us a place to go where we're reminded that we're not alone.

And other people share their stories.

A lot of times in groups

when you actually go in person there's no crosstalk meaning I'll share my experience

and then you just listen and then you share your experience.

You don't comment on mine.

Which makes it a little bit more safe to share how we feel

and what we're going through knowing that no one's going to weigh in on it.

But we can get it out and people can listen and understand.

And that also if we aren't even comfortable talking yet can give us a place to listen

and to you know empathize with other people's situations

and understand what they're going through and maybe apply something they learned to our life.

And my second tip is obviously to see a therapist.

Preferably one who specializes in fertility issues.

And yes those ones exist.

I'd even looked them up years ago when I was referring a patient out.

We have a lot of them in LA.

I know every city is different, but finding someone who can truly understand and help you process it through.

Because the thing about therapy that makes it so beneficial, in the same way that groups have their own set of benefits,

individual therapy works because it's a non -judgmental place where you get to go

and share your story and the other person you're sharing your story with doesn't know anything other than what you tell them.

And I know that can sound really weird, but it's really healing to know that they'll only know what I say.

They're not Not like other people in our lives

that know all sorts of information

and can say like well you know it wasn't as bad as last year

and like you know this happens all the time like our

friend Susie was struggling with infertility now she has like three kids

so like don't worry we won't get that kind of feedback.

In therapy they hear our point of view, they listen to us, they understand when we're feeling upset and they help us talk through it until we feel better.

And so seeing a therapist as a couple as well as an individual

when you're dealing with fertility issues can be incredibly beneficial.

And my third tip is, let yourself feel it.

Cry.

Grieve.

You can grieve the loss of what you thought the conception process would be for you.

And grieve the loss if you had any miscarriages.

Just allowing yourself to feel it versus, you know, maybe thinking that you need to stuff it down and move forward can really be healing.

Because the more we stuff things down, the worse it gets.

And the more of an opportunity that icky stuff that we've been stuffing down has to pop out at inappropriate times.

I always think the stuffing process is why we maybe cry when something happens at a restaurant.

Or when someone cuts us off we get extremely angry.

Or we're watching a random commercial and we're like completely bawling.

If we're feeling really emotionally volatile, that's usually because we have stuff that we've tucked deep, deep away and we're not processing it through.

And so this is a big deal.

Struggling with infertility can bring up a lot of issues and I would just encourage you to talk about it, feel it.

If that means you take a drive and sit at a park, you know, put up your like sunblock thing for your windshield

so no one sees you and you just bawl your eyes out and listen to sad music, that's okay.

Wherever you feel safe to just let it out, feel it, cry, scream.

whatever, make sure you make time to do that.

And I know it can feel a little crazy to like scream in your car or cry in the shower, but right now that might be what you need.

And making time for that, allowing yourself to feel it, I promise will end up being really, really helpful in the future.

And number four, talk to your friends and loved ones.

Keeping what we're going through a secret will only make things worse.

How can we expect them to help us if we don't really tell them what's really happening, right?

And also if we don't really tell them what's happening, they could say hurtful things without even thinking.

By talking to friends and family about it, you not only get their support because they give you a place to cry if you need to, vent, scream, or distract.

Like maybe you go on a hike or go walk your dogs.

But it not only gives you that extra support, but then it helps keep you safe and make sure that you can still engage with them.

Because if we don't share, they can often say and do things that can really, really hurt us and they won't even know.

And then maybe we find ourselves in the bathroom crying, trying to hide away from everybody because that one comment just really got to us.

And so letting them know what's going on, and also a really important key point, I think, is to let them know they don't have to keep their children or pregnancy a secret from you.

But that they need to give you time to process it.

It's okay to ask for these things, okay?

So maybe tell them it's best for them to give you news like that over email, or over the phone, and not in person.

Because you don't want them to think you're not being supportive, but it might be really hard for you to hear it first.

And letting them know what you need, and what's okay and not okay, can hopefully prevent any of that from happening.

And also it can prevent us from finding out that they're pregnant through someone else, and they said they were too scared to tell us, and it kind of can hurt our relationships.

And so I find over -communicating, when it comes to our friends and family, to be best.

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So that they know where we're at, and what we're going through, And then they can share what's appropriate with us in a way

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that that we can handle right now

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And I know some of you are like that's a lot to ask

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and like I can't really say that to them pick and choose your closest friends Maybe the people that are

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Around you the most and the most likely to maybe do something

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or say something hurtful without realizing it

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because let's be honest We all go through really hard times in life

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And we're gonna need those people to understand

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and the more we don't share with them the more isolated will feel

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So I just encourage you challenge yourself speak up

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and tell them what's going on and how they can best help my fifth tip

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Know that it's okay to miss some events Just be honest with your friends

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or family members I know it sucks like the person who

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asked this question said they had to sit in the bathroom like fighting tears

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And then they left early if you're not in a good place It's okay to just send a gift with someone else.

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You don't have to always be there Just let them know why don't just not show up

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It may be a text message and letting them know

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that you're just having a really hard day

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and you didn't want to ruin their event because you just can't fight the tears.

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But just give them an opportunity to understand.

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I find the more we communicate and the more we're honest about where we're at and what we're able to do, the better we'll start feeling.

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Because the thing that I hear the most from my viewers and my patients alike is when we're dealing with infertility, we don't know how to talk to people about it and we isolate over time.

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We spend less time with friends, we spend less time at events, we don't want to talk to people about it, we half the time don't even want to talk to our spouse or partner.

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And so just give yourself the opportunity to bring people in.

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Talk to them.

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Be honest about how you're feeling.

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And trust me, if they're really friends, they'll completely understand.

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And my sixth tip is, take a break from social media or mute people for a while until you feel better.

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I'd even encourage you, just like I was saying before, we're going to over -communicate, right?

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So I'd encourage you to let them know that you're doing this, so that their feelings aren't hurt if they don't see you, you know, like any of their posts or photos.

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Give yourself a break.

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Like I said earlier, trust me, I know how much of your feed is just pregnancy news, babies, first steps, etc. And it can be really overwhelming and upsetting.

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So giving yourself, you know, a day off can really be helpful and just give you the time you need to feel it,

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to cry, to communicate with those around us, to see a therapist to do the self -care

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that you need to do for yourself to get through it.

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And we all know that social media just causes comparison to happen.

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Whether or not we want to admit it, we compare ourselves to others all the time.

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And that's just not fair.

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When we're feeling in a really dark place, everyone else's life is going to look better, whether or not it is, right?

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Remember, social media is just a highlight reel.

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It's not real life, okay?

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But taking a break can really allow us to just not do as much comparison as maybe we're already doing.

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And my seventh tip is do something new.

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I know this may sound harsh or heartless but

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if all we talk with our spouse or partner or friends and family and therapist is just infertility

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It doesn't leave any room to be ourselves.

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Maybe take on a new hobby like pottery or learning guitar or joining a hiking group.

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Do something to distract yourself a bit and get you out of your head.

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And no, it won't fix it, but it will give you a break that maybe you so desperately need.

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So try something new.

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So shake it up.

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Give yourself a break.

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Talking about ovulation and babies and cycles can be so exhausting, not to mention just kind of boring sometimes.

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So do something different.

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Distract.

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It's okay to distract sometimes.

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Sometimes you just need a break from all that's going on.

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So challenge yourself and try something new.

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I hope you found those tips helpful.

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But as always, let me know in those comments down below.

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Is there something that really helped you when you were going through this time?

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Is there something I said that you don't agree with?

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I'm open to communicating and talking with you all down in those comments.

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And I will see you next time.

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Bye!

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本課的詞彙與口語要點

這節口語課以影片“Infertility when everyone else is pregnant”為素材。這段影片共有 164 個句子、2327 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 10:45。說話人語速較快，每分鐘約 216 個詞，會出現較多連讀和弱讀。 89% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，詞彙容易理解。

影片中的重點詞彙

影片中 15 個值得學習的單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
helpful 形容詞	/ˈhɛlp.fl̩/	有幫助 /有幫助
encourage 動詞	/ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/	鼓勵 /鼓勵, 激勵 /激勵
pregnancy 名詞	/ˈpɹɛɡnənsi/	懷孕 /懷孕, 妊娠
therapist 名詞	/ˈθɛɹəpɪst/	治療師 /治療師
distract 動詞	/dɪˈstɹækt/	分心
tear 動詞	/tɛɹ/	撕, 撕破
scream 動詞	/skɹiːm/	叫喊, 嗷叫
beneficial 形容詞	/ˌbɛn.ɪˈfɪʃ.əl/	有益的, 有利的
supportive 形容詞	/səˈpɔɹtɪv/	支援的
heal 動詞	/ˈhiːl/	醫治 /醫治
hike 名詞	/haɪk/	遠足 /遠足
spouse 名詞	/spaʊ̯s/	配偶
fertility 名詞	/fɝˈtɪləti/	肥沃, 繁殖力
isolate 動詞	/ˈaɪ.sə.leɪt/	孤立
topic 名詞	/ˈtɑpɪk/	主題 /主題, 話題 /話題

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	發音	釋義
go through 動詞		通過 /通過
bring up 動詞		撫養 /撫養, 養大 /養大
end up 動詞		到達
find out 動詞		找出, 查明
get through 動詞	/ɡɛt ˈθɹu/	度過 /度過
miss out 動詞		錯過 /錯過, 放過 /放過
show up 動詞		露面

值得反覆跟讀的句子

影片中簡短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常對話裡：

You don't comment on mine.
Be honest about how you're feeling.
Is there something I said that you don't agree with?

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	being invited · is just filled · won't be filled
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	have talked · we've tucked
定語從句 who / which + 從句 — 補充說明人或事物	one who specializes · someone who can

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 75 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 we're, don't, you're。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“th” 音: therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, sixth /sɪksθ/, seventh /ˈsɛvənθ/, empathize /ˈɛmpəˌθaɪz/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: beneficial /ˌbɛn.ɪˈfɪʃ.əl/, shake /ˈʃeɪk/, abortion /əˈbɔɹ.ʃn̩/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/
長單詞——注意重音位置: communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, beneficial /ˌbɛn.ɪˈfɪʃ.əl/, fertility /fɝˈtɪləti/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/

中文母語者容易讀錯的音：

/v/ — 不要讀成 /w/，上齒輕觸下唇: supportive /səˈpɔɹtɪv/, versus /ˈvɝsəs/, invite /ɪnˈvaɪt/, wherever /(h)wɛɹˈɛvɚ/, seventh /ˈsɛvənθ/
詞尾子音 — 要讀清楚，後面不要加母音: communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, encourage /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, distract /dɪˈstɹækt/, supportive /səˈpɔɹtɪv/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的區別: incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/, preferably /ˈpɹɛf.ɹəˌbli/, reel /ˈɹiːl/, ultrasound /ʌl.tɹə.saʊnd/

如何用這段影片練習

先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 helpful, encourage, pregnancy 這類單詞。

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