跟读练习: A New Chapter - 通过视频学习英语口语
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Hey, it has definitely been a hot minute since we have caught up.
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I have tried to film this video for months, but I just like wasn't in the right emotional state to share anything about my life
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because there's been a lot of change.
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I think the big and obvious one is that Ben and I broke up.
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It feels really weird to say that out loud.
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After being online for, I don't even know how many years, like 13 years, I have some pretty bright lines of what I like to share about my life and what I don't.
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And usually my rule of thumb is I don't talk about anything online unless I have 100% have healed from it.
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but this situation is different because I am like still like actively going through it
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and I feel like I will for some time.
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I gotta say I'm in like a much better place now
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but it's still like it still makes me really emotional talking about it.
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The decision to break up was a loving one like I
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was with Ben for it would have been 10 years this year
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and there's like still
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so much love for him there always will be he's like
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he's family he's the father of our son we've shared like
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so many pivotal life moments together you know
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and i think instead of just like wallowing in the fact
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that it's over i'm choosing to like celebrate
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that we got to experience it this break was unlike any other one i've ever been through
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because even though we were separated i still see him every day
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because we show up for our son and we're on the same team
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and we're always gonna have each other's Like there's no sides to choose
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because we're one unified force together I'm really proud of us
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because we have established a really good rhythm with co-parenting We have a schedule
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but honestly in the end our relationship is will always be the trunk of our family
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and our priority will always be our son and
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so Maintaining a level of love and mutual respect is just like it will always be up there
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This chapter in my life has been disorienting.
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I feel like that's like the best word to describe it.
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I have like two dominant moods.
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When I'm feeling good, I literally feel like I'm floating.
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Floating to new territories, new waters.
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It's exhilarating because everything feels so novel.
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But then on the flip side, when I'm feeling down, it feels like I am just free falling out of a plane with no parachute on my back.
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And I think the thing that really angers me is my son.
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Like he really grounds me.
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One of my favorite things that we do together is blowing bubbles after dinner time.
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We have made it a daily ritual.
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This is an activity that I know that we can just get lost in.
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Blowing bubbles is actually quite meditative.
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Like when I am blowing the bubbles, I am there.
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I am in the flow with him.
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and I feel like the bubbles are symbolic with the emotions that I'm feeling, even my thoughts.
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Because I never know what thoughts will bubble and float into my mind.
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Each one is always a different shape, a different mood.
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And no matter how large or small or intricate the bubble, in the end, they always pop, they disappear.
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So Lennon is almost three years old and when I look at him, I feel so much, like so much emotions.
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I sob a lot and they're happy tears, they're sad tears, and I think,
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you know, to any average person he might just look like a curious, lively toddler, but when I see him, he encapsulates all these different time frames.
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I can't change anything that happened in the past
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and I'm kinda helpless with what's gonna happen in the future or what's not gonna happen,
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but like what I can do in that present moment is giving my full undivided attention and just relish in it.
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I am still trying to find a good balance of sharing that I'm a mom, but also protecting my son's privacy.
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It's like a thin line, you know?
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Like he is a central part of my life, but I don't feel comfortable sharing too much of his stuff.
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Like I'm trying to like reduce his digital footprint.
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Then I just end up not sharing him at all for a period of time.
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And then I start getting these like comments that I am a bad mother or like, where's your kid?
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Jen hates being a mom, which could not be further from the truth.
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It's like kind of crazy that I actually even have to address this.
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Anyone in my life knows how much I participate and show up in my son's life.
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And oh my gosh, I actually feel myself getting a little defensive.
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What the heck, Jen?
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No, I honestly think it's because, you know, being online for so long,
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you're used to getting a barrage of like negative comments but like once you get a negative comment enough, you just become numb to it.
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But this like being under fire from being a bad parent is just new for me.
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So I think I'm just getting used to it.
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But yeah, I just wanted to make it clear that I love being his mom.
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I love being a mom.
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It's an extremely important role and job.
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Like it is my number one job.
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Like I wanna make sure that I'm trying my best and that's all I can do.
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Like if anything, I'm just trying to navigate
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what I choose to share about my son's life
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and like what to keep private
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when i was in my 20s i had no issue with
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recording all parts of my life anything was fair game
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but i'm realizing maybe it was
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because life was a lot more simpler back then i was
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just hanging out getting dolled up to go to an event
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or whatever uh but you know as you get older life becomes a little bit more complex
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and layered and some Some things are just impossible to package in a simple, cheery, positive way.
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And sometimes it's just best to keep things offline, even the euphoric moments.
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That way you can just like actually really, really enjoy it.
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I am single now, which is kind of crazy.
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I think the simplest way to put it is I am adjusting to this because when you're in a long-term relationship,
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it's so easy to slip into the grooves of monogamy a lot of your choice is dependent on your partner.
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Not because it's a control issue, but it's just, you know, you're just like, you automatically know who you're plus one, like who you're taking to the party, what your weekend plans are,
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because if you have a kid, those weekends are definitely, you gotta pack in some date night because you just need some time as a couple.
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It just feels weird and empty at times.
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But I'm trying to romanticize it.
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I'm in this fresh territory where the decisions that I make are ones that only require my own input.
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And now when I have my alone time, I'm really alone, like alone bolded.
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I am just searching for a new version of me.
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And I'm like slowly discovering this on my healing journey.
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I am hanging out so much with my family and my friends.
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I'm just like leaning the out of my support system.
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In April, I went to Korea with my mom.
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We did like our annual trip.
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This time was a little bit different
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because I went to Seoul on my own for a couple of days
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and I just met up with friends to connect and decompress.
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I stayed with Joan for a few days, which was so fun.
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It was like fun playing roommates.
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And then afterwards, I stayed at a hotel for a few days with my friend Christina.
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Then afterwards, I went to the countryside
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to meet up with my mom and my aunt and my uncles
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and it was just so incredibly healing to be on my uncle's farm.
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Like that is heaven to me.
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It's just like you have like shitty wifi
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but you're just surrounded in nature and just like I just love the simplicity of the Korean countryside.
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Every time I'm there I feel like a kid.
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I feel like especially when you have your own kid, you're always like used to making like executive choices and like doing stuff for the family but when I was in Korea,
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I could just be the baby girl again every day i
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didn't know what the plan was i just looked to my
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email being like what are we eating what are we doing
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just tell me the plan i'm just gonna slip into the
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itinerary it felt really nice to just feel cared for
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and it was just like my time there is always invaluable i'm also in the process of of redecorating my house.
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This is like a project that I have been delaying for a long time.
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I'm setting up Lennon's new room.
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This time I'm like going balls to the wall with my decor.
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I'm like treating my house as if I'm on Animal Crossing.
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Like I'm like yes to the wallpaper, yes to the paint, yes to the lime wash, yes to the interesting furnishings.
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Like I find that part pretty empowering.
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This year I feel like there's like a part of me that has been awakened.
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That sounds like so mystical, it's been awakened.
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No, but it's scary, but it's also really electrifying to feel alive, if that makes sense.
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I feel like I'm meeting so many new people and reconnecting with my old friends and leaning on them.
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And at first I was kind of skeptical, like why are people here for me?
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But that, you know, I think I was bumping into my own like self-loathing side of me.
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And I'm like really starting to understand the concept of to not question the good in your life.
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Never ever question the good in your life.
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Just accept it and be goddamn grateful.
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Despite all the change going on, I still love life.
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It's not polished, there's no manicured conclusion, it's always TBD and that's completely okay.
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I hope that watching this made you feel a little less alone or I don't know, a little more at ease.
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In case you were in that odd headspace thinking that everyone has it figured out, no. That is a bold-faced lie.
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No one knows what the is happening.
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No one knows what they're doing.
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We're all equally clueless.
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We don't know what's gonna happen tomorrow, you know?
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Is it even guaranteed?
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I don't know.
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So if anything, you just gotta live your life to the fullest as if it's the last freaking day.
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And if this is my last day, then I am really happy that I was able to finally dump this out and share and hopefully connect.
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You guys have definitely been a big anchor in my life too.
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This is like the longest relationship.
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If I think about it, this relationship with you guys is my longest relationship I've had.
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And I am so incredibly grateful for each
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and every one of you whether you have been supporting me since 2010
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or if you just clicked on this video being like, what the is going on?
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You know, I really am.
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And yeah, I, like honestly, it feels really good to be back and I will see you guys in the next video.
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Bye.
为什么要通过这个视频练习口语？
通过这段视频练习口语是一个很好的选择，因为它不仅反映了真实的情感状态，还展示了面对生活变化时的自我表达能力。视频中的讲述者分享了与前伴侣分手后的感受，这种情境给学习者提供了丰富的语言环境来进行shadow speak。通过模仿她的语调和情感表达，学习者可以提高自己的口语流利度和自信。
此外，视频中涉及到的共同抚养和家庭生活的语境，让学习者能够学习到更为细腻和真实的交流方式。通过进行shadow speech，学习者可以练习如何以更加自然的方式表达自己的感受和想法，这对提升口语能力十分有用。
语法与表达在语境中的应用
- 过去完成时: 在讲述与伴侣的回忆时，视频中使用了大量的过去完成时结构，如“我和Ben在一起已经快十年了”，帮助学习者理解如何在英语中描述过去的经历。
- 对比和转变: 讲述者提到了“当我感觉好的时候”和“另一方面”，这种对比结构能帮助学习者有效地表达不同情感之间的转变，这是日常对话中的常用技巧。
- 情感表达: 视频中使用了许多表达情感的形容词，如“迷失”（disorienting）和“自豪”（proud），这些词能让学习者在描述自己感受时更为生动。
通过将这些表达融入自己的口语练习中，学习者可以更熟练地应用英语进行情感交流。
常见发音陷阱
在此视频中，有几个词汇的发音可能会对学习者造成挑战，尤其是言辞间流畅度所需的连贯性。例如：
- “emotional” 这个词中的元音发音需要特别注意，口音的不同会导致发音的变化。
- “toddler” 在快速对话中容易被简化，造成不清晰的发音，学习者可以通过重复练习来克服这一问题。
- 此外，讲述者使用的连读现象，如“gonna”和“wanna”，在日常对话中极为常见，学习者可以通过shadowspeaks练习这种自然流畅的方式。
通过专注于这些发音的细节，学习者可以提高自己的口语清晰度，并在与他人交流时增强自信心。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。