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A lot of young guys treat getting a girlfriend like it's the main mission of life.
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They wake up thinking about girls.
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They judge themselves based off of girls.
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They change their whole mood based on girls.
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If a girl likes them, they feel valuable.
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If a girl ignores them, they feel worthless.
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And frankly enough, that's a pretty stupid way to live, because now your self -worth is sitting in someone else's hands.
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And most of the people who are doing this are way too young to even understand what they're chasing.
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A lot of teenagers aren't even looking for love, they're looking for relief.
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Relief from loneliness, relief from boredom, relief from insecurity, relief from being behind.
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They think a relationship is gonna fix the emptiness they already had before the girl even showed up.
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It won't.
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That's the whole point of this video.
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A relationship will not make you happy if your life is already weak.
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It will just distract you from the weakness for a while.
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That's why so many young guys get obsessed with girls.
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Some of them chase a girlfriend like she's going to save them.
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Others go the opposite direction and try talking to as many girls as possible because they think numbers mean value.
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They think if enough girls want them, then that must mean they're somebody.
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It doesn't.
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That just means they build their ego on attention.
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And attention is one of the weakest things you can build a life on.
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Here's the question I think more guys need to ask.
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What does a relationship actually add to your life at that age?
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Seriously.
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If you're still between those teenage years and very early 20s, still building yourself, still trying to figure out what you're good at,
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still trying to build some kind of future, what does a girlfriend realistically bring to the table?
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People never ask that.
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They only think about what they want to get.
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The love, the affection, the validation, the feeling of being wanted.
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They almost never think about the cost.
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Because there is a cost.
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Time, focus, energy, money, momentum, all of that starts getting pulled into another direction.
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You were about to work on your thing, but now she wants to go hang out.
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You were about to lock in, but now there's some little issue.
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You were about to spend the whole evening working on your business, but now you're texting, calling,
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reassuring, explaining, meeting up, and managing emotions that do nothing for your future.
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And before somebody gets emotional, I'm not saying women are useless.
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I'm saying the average teenage relationship is usually bad timing.
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That's different.
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A serious woman later in life who understands your path and supports your missions, that's valuable.
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That can be beautiful.
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That can make a man stronger.
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But the random girl from high school who wants your constant time and attention is not some magical life upgrade.
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Most of the time, she's one more thing competing with your future.
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That's why I genuinely think a lot of young men lose their best years chasing relationships
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they were never going to keep anyway.
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And I've seen it happen so many times.
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Guys I knew who used to be really disciplined, used to train every day and actually work on something, got girlfriends, and instantly fell off.
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Discipline gets weaker, the edge goes, they get softer, their whole life shrinks into one person.
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And when that relationship ends, which most of those early relationships do, now they're left with less progress and a broken mood.
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That's a pretty bad trait if you ask me.
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And to be honest, I felt that myself too.
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There was a point where I was talking to a girl, and I could feel how annoying it was becoming.
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Not because she was evil or because I hated women or something, no, no, no, definitely not.
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But because the whole thing kept pulling me away from what mattered.
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I would be on my PC working, on YouTube or probably another online skill,
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doing something useful, and she would be mad that I'm not giving her enough time.
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She wanted more attention, more messages, more proof that I cared.
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And at some point it hit me.
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This was not helping my life in any serious way.
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It was just eating my time.
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And the thing that made it even worse was that the love
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that she was meant to bring didn't even feel worth it.
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I didn't care enough about the whole emotional side of it to let it slow me down.
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I had more important things to do.
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That's when I understood something important.
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A lot of young guys don't want a girlfriend because it makes sense.
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They want one because everyone around them acts like having one means you're winning.
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And then it becomes a status thing, like trying to prove who's the toughest guy in the room.
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Your friends talk about girls.
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Social media pushes girls.
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Music pushes girls.
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Everything makes it look like the man with the most female attention is somehow the man with the most value.
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That's complete nonsense.
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A man's value is not decided by how many girls text him.
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It's decided by what kind of person he's becoming.
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His discipline, his direction, his self -control, his ability to build something real.
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That stuff matters.
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A lot of young guys are giving away years of their life because they're scared to sit with loneliness.
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That's what it really comes down to.
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They're lonely, so they chase a relationship.
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They're insecure, so they chase female approval.
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They're bored, so they turn romance into a project.
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And because they never fix what's inside of them first, their relationship becomes messy from the start.
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That's why I keep saying a relationship won't make you happy.
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Because if you're empty before it, you will still be empty inside of it.
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You'll just be more distracted, and eventually the distraction wears off.
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Now, let me make something clear because some people always take videos like this the wrong way.
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This is not me saying cut out all girls from your life.
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That would be stupid.
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Talking to girls is a good thing.
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Learning to be comfortable around women is a good thing.
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Being socially normal is a good thing because too many guys are weird around girls.
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Too many guys talk about women like they're some different species.
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Too many guys are scared to speak properly, scared to make eye contact, scared to be awkward for 10 seconds.
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And that's frankly enough, pretty embarrassing.
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You should be able to talk to girls.
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You should be able to socialize.
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You should be able to be around women without turning weird or desperate.
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I don't even know.
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That's part of becoming a normal, confident man.
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So no, this video isn't telling you to isolate yourself
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and become some bitter little loser who says he's above relationships because he can't get one.
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That's pure cope.
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That's another type of weakness.
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But I'm saying something much simpler.
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Learn how to talk to girls.
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Learn how to be around them.
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Learn how to not be weird, but stop acting like you need a girlfriend right now.
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You probably don't.
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What you probably need is direction.
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You need work.
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You need a mission.
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You need to become stronger, sharper, calmer, and more capable.
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Because once a man actually has something going for him, relationships become different.
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Now he's not looking for a girl to save him.
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Now he's choosing whether someone fits into the life that already has structure.
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And that's a way healthier position to be in.
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And this is where that really popular butterfly example is actually true.
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The guy who keeps running around chasing butterflies usually ends up with nothing.
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The guy who builds a good garden ends up getting all the butterflies and even if he doesn't, he still has a good garden.
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That's how it works with women too, if you couldn't tell.
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Build yourself, build your body, build your money, build your confidence, build your mind, build your future.
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Then the women who are actually worth something will notice that, and if they don't, you still built a strong life.
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That's a win either way.
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A lot of young men need to hear that, because they're wasting years trying to be chosen instead of trying to become someone worth choosing.
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That mindset ruins so many people.
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So no, I don't think a relationship is useless forever.
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I don't think love is pointless.
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I don't think men should avoid women.
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I think the average teenage guy puts way too much importance on getting a girlfriend
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when in reality that relationship is usually not going to build its future and often ends up slowing it down instead.
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That's why the title is true, a relationship won't make you happy.
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Especially not if you're using it to cover up loneliness, weak self -worth or lack of purpose.
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Those problems do not disappear because somebody likes you, they just go quiet for a bit, then they come back.
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So stop chasing girls like they're the answer to your life.
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Go talk to them, learn from them, be normal around them.
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But keep your focus where it belongs, on becoming a man with something real behind him.
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Because the truth is, the right woman can add a strong life, but she cannot build one for you.
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And if you're still in that stage where your whole future is waiting to be shaped,
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then that should matter more than any little relationship that probably won't even survive to the next year.
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Build your own life first, then choose wisely.
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That's a much better way to live.
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Thank you.
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这节口语课以视频“A relationship won't make you happy..”为素材。 视频中反复出现的词有：relationship, build, girlfriend。 这段视频共有 145 个句子、1627 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 8:26。 说话人语速较快，每分钟约 193 个词，会出现较多连读和弱读。 89% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇容易理解。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| chase 动词 | /t͡ʃeɪs/ | 追逐, 追 |
| scare 动词 | /skɛɚ/ | 嚇唬 /吓唬, 使害怕 |
| discipline 名词 | /ˈdɪsəplɪn/ | 紀律 /纪律 |
| butterfly 名词 | /ˈbʌ.tə(ɹ).flaɪ/ | хўте, 蝶仔 |
| loneliness 名词 | /ˈloʊnlinəs/ | 寂寞, 孤獨 /孤独 |
| mood 名词 | /muːd/ | 心情, 情緒 /情绪 |
| weakness 名词 | /ˈwik.nɪs/ | 虛弱 /虚弱, 軟弱 /软弱 |
| distract 动词 | /dɪˈstɹækt/ | 分心 |
| ignore 动词 | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | 無視 /无视, 忽略 |
| sharp 形容词 | /ʃɑɹp/ | 銳利 /锐利, 尖銳 /尖锐 |
| skill 名词 | /skɪl/ | 技巧, 技能 |
| compete 动词 | /kəmˈpiːt/ | 競爭 /竞争, 高下 |
| belong 动词 | /bɪˈlɒŋ/ | 屬於 /属于 |
| desperate 形容词 | /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹɪt/ | 絕望 /绝望 |
| romance 名词 | /roʊˈmæn(t)s/ | 戀愛 /恋爱, 浪漫 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| end up 动词 | 到达 | |
| come back 动词 | 回來 /回来, 返回 | |
| cover up 动词 | 掩蓋 /掩盖, 掩飾 /掩饰 | |
| figure out 动词 | 弄清楚 | |
| run around 动词 | 忙碌, 奔忙 | |
| show up 动词 | 露面 | |
| wake up 动词 | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | 醒, 醒來 /醒来 |
值得反复跟读的句子
视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：
- What does a relationship actually add to your life at that age?
- That's a pretty bad trait if you ask me.
- That's when I understood something important.
- I don't think love is pointless.
- I don't think men should avoid women.
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的 | being wanted · be really disciplined · was meant |
| 定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物 | people who are · guy who keeps · guy who builds |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 44 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 they're, don't, you're。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: sharp /ʃɑɹp/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, socially /ˈsoʊʃəli/, affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, distraction /dɪsˈtɹæk.ʃən/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, momentum /ˌmə(ʊ)ˈmɛntəm/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/
中文母语者容易读错的音：
- 词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: chase /t͡ʃeɪs/, teenage /ˈtiːneɪd͡ʒ/, loneliness /ˈloʊnlinəs/, mood /muːd/, weakness /ˈwik.nɪs/
- /r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: butterfly /ˈbʌ.tə(ɹ).flaɪ/, frankly /fɹæŋkli/
- /æ/ — 嘴张大，不要读成 /e/: frankly /fɹæŋkli/, distract /dɪˈstɹækt/, romance /roʊˈmæn(t)s/, magical /ˈmæd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/, distraction /dɪsˈtɹæk.ʃən/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 chase, scare, discipline 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。