쉐도잉 연습: A relationship won't make you happy... - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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A lot of young guys treat getting a girlfriend like it's the main mission of life.
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They wake up thinking about girls.
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They judge themselves based off of girls.
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They change their whole mood based on girls.
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If a girl likes them, they feel valuable.
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If a girl ignores them, they feel worthless.
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And frankly enough, that's a pretty stupid way to live, because now your self -worth is sitting in someone else's hands.
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And most of the people who are doing this are way too young to even understand what they're chasing.
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A lot of teenagers aren't even looking for love, they're looking for relief.
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Relief from loneliness, relief from boredom, relief from insecurity, relief from being behind.
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They think a relationship is gonna fix the emptiness they already had before the girl even showed up.
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It won't.
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That's the whole point of this video.
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A relationship will not make you happy if your life is already weak.
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It will just distract you from the weakness for a while.
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That's why so many young guys get obsessed with girls.
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Some of them chase a girlfriend like she's going to save them.
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Others go the opposite direction and try talking to as many girls as possible because they think numbers mean value.
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They think if enough girls want them, then that must mean they're somebody.
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It doesn't.
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That just means they build their ego on attention.
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And attention is one of the weakest things you can build a life on.
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Here's the question I think more guys need to ask.
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What does a relationship actually add to your life at that age?
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Seriously.
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If you're still between those teenage years and very early 20s, still building yourself, still trying to figure out what you're good at,
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still trying to build some kind of future, what does a girlfriend realistically bring to the table?
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People never ask that.
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They only think about what they want to get.
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The love, the affection, the validation, the feeling of being wanted.
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They almost never think about the cost.
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Because there is a cost.
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Time, focus, energy, money, momentum, all of that starts getting pulled into another direction.
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You were about to work on your thing, but now she wants to go hang out.
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You were about to lock in, but now there's some little issue.
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You were about to spend the whole evening working on your business, but now you're texting, calling,
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reassuring, explaining, meeting up, and managing emotions that do nothing for your future.
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And before somebody gets emotional, I'm not saying women are useless.
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I'm saying the average teenage relationship is usually bad timing.
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That's different.
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A serious woman later in life who understands your path and supports your missions, that's valuable.
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That can be beautiful.
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That can make a man stronger.
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But the random girl from high school who wants your constant time and attention is not some magical life upgrade.
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Most of the time, she's one more thing competing with your future.
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That's why I genuinely think a lot of young men lose their best years chasing relationships
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they were never going to keep anyway.
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And I've seen it happen so many times.
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Guys I knew who used to be really disciplined, used to train every day and actually work on something, got girlfriends, and instantly fell off.
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Discipline gets weaker, the edge goes, they get softer, their whole life shrinks into one person.
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And when that relationship ends, which most of those early relationships do, now they're left with less progress and a broken mood.
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That's a pretty bad trait if you ask me.
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And to be honest, I felt that myself too.
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There was a point where I was talking to a girl, and I could feel how annoying it was becoming.
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Not because she was evil or because I hated women or something, no, no, no, definitely not.
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But because the whole thing kept pulling me away from what mattered.
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I would be on my PC working, on YouTube or probably another online skill,
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doing something useful, and she would be mad that I'm not giving her enough time.
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She wanted more attention, more messages, more proof that I cared.
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And at some point it hit me.
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This was not helping my life in any serious way.
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It was just eating my time.
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And the thing that made it even worse was that the love
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that she was meant to bring didn't even feel worth it.
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I didn't care enough about the whole emotional side of it to let it slow me down.
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I had more important things to do.
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That's when I understood something important.
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A lot of young guys don't want a girlfriend because it makes sense.
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They want one because everyone around them acts like having one means you're winning.
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And then it becomes a status thing, like trying to prove who's the toughest guy in the room.
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Your friends talk about girls.
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Social media pushes girls.
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Music pushes girls.
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Everything makes it look like the man with the most female attention is somehow the man with the most value.
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That's complete nonsense.
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A man's value is not decided by how many girls text him.
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It's decided by what kind of person he's becoming.
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His discipline, his direction, his self -control, his ability to build something real.
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That stuff matters.
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A lot of young guys are giving away years of their life because they're scared to sit with loneliness.
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That's what it really comes down to.
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They're lonely, so they chase a relationship.
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They're insecure, so they chase female approval.
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They're bored, so they turn romance into a project.
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And because they never fix what's inside of them first, their relationship becomes messy from the start.
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That's why I keep saying a relationship won't make you happy.
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Because if you're empty before it, you will still be empty inside of it.
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You'll just be more distracted, and eventually the distraction wears off.
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Now, let me make something clear because some people always take videos like this the wrong way.
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This is not me saying cut out all girls from your life.
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That would be stupid.
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Talking to girls is a good thing.
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Learning to be comfortable around women is a good thing.
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Being socially normal is a good thing because too many guys are weird around girls.
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Too many guys talk about women like they're some different species.
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Too many guys are scared to speak properly, scared to make eye contact, scared to be awkward for 10 seconds.
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And that's frankly enough, pretty embarrassing.
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You should be able to talk to girls.
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You should be able to socialize.
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You should be able to be around women without turning weird or desperate.
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I don't even know.
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That's part of becoming a normal, confident man.
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So no, this video isn't telling you to isolate yourself
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and become some bitter little loser who says he's above relationships because he can't get one.
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That's pure cope.
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That's another type of weakness.
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But I'm saying something much simpler.
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Learn how to talk to girls.
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Learn how to be around them.
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Learn how to not be weird, but stop acting like you need a girlfriend right now.
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You probably don't.
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What you probably need is direction.
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You need work.
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You need a mission.
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You need to become stronger, sharper, calmer, and more capable.
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Because once a man actually has something going for him, relationships become different.
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Now he's not looking for a girl to save him.
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Now he's choosing whether someone fits into the life that already has structure.
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And that's a way healthier position to be in.
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And this is where that really popular butterfly example is actually true.
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The guy who keeps running around chasing butterflies usually ends up with nothing.
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The guy who builds a good garden ends up getting all the butterflies and even if he doesn't, he still has a good garden.
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That's how it works with women too, if you couldn't tell.
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Build yourself, build your body, build your money, build your confidence, build your mind, build your future.
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Then the women who are actually worth something will notice that, and if they don't, you still built a strong life.
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That's a win either way.
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A lot of young men need to hear that, because they're wasting years trying to be chosen instead of trying to become someone worth choosing.
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That mindset ruins so many people.
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So no, I don't think a relationship is useless forever.
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I don't think love is pointless.
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I don't think men should avoid women.
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I think the average teenage guy puts way too much importance on getting a girlfriend
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when in reality that relationship is usually not going to build its future and often ends up slowing it down instead.
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That's why the title is true, a relationship won't make you happy.
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Especially not if you're using it to cover up loneliness, weak self -worth or lack of purpose.
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Those problems do not disappear because somebody likes you, they just go quiet for a bit, then they come back.
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So stop chasing girls like they're the answer to your life.
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Go talk to them, learn from them, be normal around them.
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But keep your focus where it belongs, on becoming a man with something real behind him.
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Because the truth is, the right woman can add a strong life, but she cannot build one for you.
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And if you're still in that stage where your whole future is waiting to be shaped,
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then that should matter more than any little relationship that probably won't even survive to the next year.
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Build your own life first, then choose wisely.
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That's a much better way to live.
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Thank you.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 말하기 레슨은 영상 “A relationship won't make you happy..”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 가장 자주 반복되는 단어는 다음과 같습니다: relationship, build, girlfriend. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 145개와 단어 1627개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 8:26입니다. 화자는 분당 약 193단어로 빠르게 말하므로 연음과 약하게 발음되는 소리가 많습니다. 단어의 89%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| chase 동사 | /t͡ʃeɪs/ | 쫓다 |
| scare 동사 | /skɛɚ/ | 놀래키다 |
| discipline 명사 | /ˈdɪsəplɪn/ | 규율 |
| butterfly 명사 | /ˈbʌ.tə(ɹ).flaɪ/ | 나비, 호접 |
| loneliness 명사 | /ˈloʊnlinəs/ | 고독, 외로움 |
| mood 명사 | /muːd/ | 기분 |
| weakness 명사 | /ˈwik.nɪs/ | 약함 |
| frankly 부사 | /fɹæŋkli/ | 솔직히 |
| ignore 동사 | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | 무시하다 |
| sharp 형용사 | /ʃɑɹp/ | 날카로운 |
| skill 명사 | /skɪl/ | 기술, 스킬 |
| belong 동사 | /bɪˈlɒŋ/ | 속하다 |
| desperate 형용사 | /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹɪt/ | 필사적인, 절망적인 |
| romance 명사 | /roʊˈmæn(t)s/ | 연애, 련애 |
| ruin 명사 | /ˈɹuː.ɪn/ | 폐허, 유적 |
영상에 나오는 구동사
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| come back 동사 | 돌아오다 | |
| cover up 동사 | 감추다, 덮어버리다 | |
| wake up 동사 | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | 눈뜨다, 일어나다 |
따라 말해 볼 만한 문장
영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:
- What does a relationship actually add to your life at that age?
- That's a pretty bad trait if you ask me.
- That's when I understood something important.
- I don't think love is pointless.
- I don't think men should avoid women.
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | being wanted · be really disciplined · was meant |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | people who are · guy who keeps · guy who builds |
주의할 발음
화자는 they're, don't, you're 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 44번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: sharp /ʃɑɹp/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, socially /ˈsoʊʃəli/, affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, distraction /dɪsˈtɹæk.ʃən/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, momentum /ˌmə(ʊ)ˈmɛntəm/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/
한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:
- /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: butterfly /ˈbʌ.tə(ɹ).flaɪ/, frankly /fɹæŋkli/, affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/
- /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: loser /luzɚ/, wisely /ˈwaɪzli/, socialize /ˈsoʊʃəlaɪz/
- /r/과 /l/ 구별하기: butterfly /ˈbʌ.tə(ɹ).flaɪ/, frankly /fɹæŋkli/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, chase, scare, discipline 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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