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A lot of young guys treat getting a girlfriend like it's the main mission of life.
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They wake up thinking about girls.
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They judge themselves based off of girls.
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They change their whole mood based on girls.
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If a girl likes them, they feel valuable.
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If a girl ignores them, they feel worthless.
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And frankly enough, that's a pretty stupid way to live, because now your self -worth is sitting in someone else's hands.
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And most of the people who are doing this are way too young to even understand what they're chasing.
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A lot of teenagers aren't even looking for love, they're looking for relief.
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Relief from loneliness, relief from boredom, relief from insecurity, relief from being behind.
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They think a relationship is gonna fix the emptiness they already had before the girl even showed up.
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It won't.
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That's the whole point of this video.
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A relationship will not make you happy if your life is already weak.
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It will just distract you from the weakness for a while.
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That's why so many young guys get obsessed with girls.
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Some of them chase a girlfriend like she's going to save them.
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Others go the opposite direction and try talking to as many girls as possible because they think numbers mean value.
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They think if enough girls want them, then that must mean they're somebody.
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It doesn't.
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That just means they build their ego on attention.
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And attention is one of the weakest things you can build a life on.
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Here's the question I think more guys need to ask.
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What does a relationship actually add to your life at that age?
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Seriously.
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If you're still between those teenage years and very early 20s, still building yourself, still trying to figure out what you're good at,
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still trying to build some kind of future, what does a girlfriend realistically bring to the table?
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People never ask that.
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They only think about what they want to get.
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The love, the affection, the validation, the feeling of being wanted.
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They almost never think about the cost.
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Because there is a cost.
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Time, focus, energy, money, momentum, all of that starts getting pulled into another direction.
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You were about to work on your thing, but now she wants to go hang out.
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You were about to lock in, but now there's some little issue.
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You were about to spend the whole evening working on your business, but now you're texting, calling,
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reassuring, explaining, meeting up, and managing emotions that do nothing for your future.
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And before somebody gets emotional, I'm not saying women are useless.
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I'm saying the average teenage relationship is usually bad timing.
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That's different.
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A serious woman later in life who understands your path and supports your missions, that's valuable.
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That can be beautiful.
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That can make a man stronger.
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But the random girl from high school who wants your constant time and attention is not some magical life upgrade.
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Most of the time, she's one more thing competing with your future.
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That's why I genuinely think a lot of young men lose their best years chasing relationships
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they were never going to keep anyway.
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And I've seen it happen so many times.
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Guys I knew who used to be really disciplined, used to train every day and actually work on something, got girlfriends, and instantly fell off.
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Discipline gets weaker, the edge goes, they get softer, their whole life shrinks into one person.
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And when that relationship ends, which most of those early relationships do, now they're left with less progress and a broken mood.
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That's a pretty bad trait if you ask me.
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And to be honest, I felt that myself too.
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There was a point where I was talking to a girl, and I could feel how annoying it was becoming.
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Not because she was evil or because I hated women or something, no, no, no, definitely not.
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But because the whole thing kept pulling me away from what mattered.
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I would be on my PC working, on YouTube or probably another online skill,
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doing something useful, and she would be mad that I'm not giving her enough time.
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She wanted more attention, more messages, more proof that I cared.
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And at some point it hit me.
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This was not helping my life in any serious way.
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It was just eating my time.
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And the thing that made it even worse was that the love
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that she was meant to bring didn't even feel worth it.
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I didn't care enough about the whole emotional side of it to let it slow me down.
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I had more important things to do.
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That's when I understood something important.
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A lot of young guys don't want a girlfriend because it makes sense.
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They want one because everyone around them acts like having one means you're winning.
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And then it becomes a status thing, like trying to prove who's the toughest guy in the room.
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Your friends talk about girls.
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Social media pushes girls.
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Music pushes girls.
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Everything makes it look like the man with the most female attention is somehow the man with the most value.
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That's complete nonsense.
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A man's value is not decided by how many girls text him.
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It's decided by what kind of person he's becoming.
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His discipline, his direction, his self -control, his ability to build something real.
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That stuff matters.
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A lot of young guys are giving away years of their life because they're scared to sit with loneliness.
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That's what it really comes down to.
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They're lonely, so they chase a relationship.
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They're insecure, so they chase female approval.
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They're bored, so they turn romance into a project.
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And because they never fix what's inside of them first, their relationship becomes messy from the start.
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That's why I keep saying a relationship won't make you happy.
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Because if you're empty before it, you will still be empty inside of it.
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You'll just be more distracted, and eventually the distraction wears off.
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Now, let me make something clear because some people always take videos like this the wrong way.
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This is not me saying cut out all girls from your life.
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That would be stupid.
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Talking to girls is a good thing.
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Learning to be comfortable around women is a good thing.
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Being socially normal is a good thing because too many guys are weird around girls.
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Too many guys talk about women like they're some different species.
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Too many guys are scared to speak properly, scared to make eye contact, scared to be awkward for 10 seconds.
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And that's frankly enough, pretty embarrassing.
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You should be able to talk to girls.
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You should be able to socialize.
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You should be able to be around women without turning weird or desperate.
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I don't even know.
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That's part of becoming a normal, confident man.
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So no, this video isn't telling you to isolate yourself
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and become some bitter little loser who says he's above relationships because he can't get one.
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That's pure cope.
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That's another type of weakness.
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But I'm saying something much simpler.
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Learn how to talk to girls.
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Learn how to be around them.
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Learn how to not be weird, but stop acting like you need a girlfriend right now.
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You probably don't.
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What you probably need is direction.
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You need work.
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You need a mission.
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You need to become stronger, sharper, calmer, and more capable.
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Because once a man actually has something going for him, relationships become different.
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Now he's not looking for a girl to save him.
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Now he's choosing whether someone fits into the life that already has structure.
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And that's a way healthier position to be in.
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And this is where that really popular butterfly example is actually true.
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The guy who keeps running around chasing butterflies usually ends up with nothing.
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The guy who builds a good garden ends up getting all the butterflies and even if he doesn't, he still has a good garden.
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That's how it works with women too, if you couldn't tell.
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Build yourself, build your body, build your money, build your confidence, build your mind, build your future.
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Then the women who are actually worth something will notice that, and if they don't, you still built a strong life.
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That's a win either way.
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A lot of young men need to hear that, because they're wasting years trying to be chosen instead of trying to become someone worth choosing.
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That mindset ruins so many people.
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So no, I don't think a relationship is useless forever.
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I don't think love is pointless.
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I don't think men should avoid women.
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I think the average teenage guy puts way too much importance on getting a girlfriend
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when in reality that relationship is usually not going to build its future and often ends up slowing it down instead.
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That's why the title is true, a relationship won't make you happy.
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Especially not if you're using it to cover up loneliness, weak self -worth or lack of purpose.
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Those problems do not disappear because somebody likes you, they just go quiet for a bit, then they come back.
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So stop chasing girls like they're the answer to your life.
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Go talk to them, learn from them, be normal around them.
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But keep your focus where it belongs, on becoming a man with something real behind him.
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Because the truth is, the right woman can add a strong life, but she cannot build one for you.
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And if you're still in that stage where your whole future is waiting to be shaped,
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then that should matter more than any little relationship that probably won't even survive to the next year.
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Build your own life first, then choose wisely.
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That's a much better way to live.
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Thank you.
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Từ vựng và ghi chú luyện nói cho bài học này
Bài luyện nói này dựa trên video “A relationship won't make you happy..”. Những từ được nhắc lại nhiều nhất trong bài: relationship, build, girlfriend. Video này có 145 câu và 1627 từ để luyện shadowing. Phần lời nói dài 8:26. Người nói nói nhanh, khoảng 193 từ mỗi phút, nên sẽ có nhiều chỗ nối âm và nuốt âm. 89% số từ nằm trong 3.000 từ tiếng Anh thông dụng nhất, nên từ vựng dễ theo.
Từ vựng quan trọng trong video
15 từ đáng học trong video, kèm phiên âm và nghĩa:
| Từ | Phiên âm | Nghĩa |
|---|---|---|
| chase động từ | /t͡ʃeɪs/ | đuổi, rượt |
| discipline danh từ | /ˈdɪsəplɪn/ | kỉ luật |
| butterfly danh từ | /ˈbʌ.tə(ɹ).flaɪ/ | bươm bướm, bướm |
| loneliness danh từ | /ˈloʊnlinəs/ | sự cô đơn |
| mood danh từ | /muːd/ | tâm trạng, tính khí |
| ignore động từ | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | lơ, lờ |
| sharp tính từ | /ʃɑɹp/ | sắc, bén |
| romance danh từ | /roʊˈmæn(t)s/ | lãng mạn |
| ruin danh từ | /ˈɹuː.ɪn/ | hư hại |
| lonely tính từ | /ˈloʊnli/ | cô đơn, lẻ loi |
| instantly trạng từ | /ˈɪnstəntli/ | tức thì |
| bitter tính từ | /ˈbɪ.tɚ/ | đắng |
| emotion danh từ | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | cảm xúc |
| disappear động từ | /dɪsəˈpɪɹ/ | biến mất |
| teenager danh từ | /ˈtiːnˌeɪ̯d͡ʒə/ | thiếu niên |
Cụm động từ bạn sẽ nghe
| Từ | Phiên âm | Nghĩa |
|---|---|---|
| come back động từ | trở lại, trở về | |
| wake up động từ | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | thức dậy, dậy lên |
Những câu đáng luyện lại
Các câu ngắn, trọn ý trong video mà bạn có thể dùng lại khi giao tiếp hằng ngày:
- What does a relationship actually add to your life at that age?
- That's a pretty bad trait if you ask me.
- That's when I understood something important.
- I don't think love is pointless.
- I don't think men should avoid women.
Ngữ pháp trong video
Những cấu trúc người nói dùng nhiều nhất, kèm đúng cụm từ trong video:
| Cấu trúc | Trong video |
|---|---|
| Câu bị động be + quá khứ phân từ — nhấn vào việc xảy ra, không phải người làm | being wanted · be really disciplined · was meant |
| Mệnh đề quan hệ who / which + mệnh đề — thêm thông tin về người hoặc vật | people who are · guy who keeps · guy who builds |
Phát âm cần chú ý
Người nói dùng 44 dạng rút gọn, ví dụ they're, don't, you're. Hãy nói theo dạng ngắn đúng như bạn nghe.
- Âm “sh” và “zh”: sharp /ʃɑɹp/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, socially /ˈsoʊʃəli/, affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, distraction /dɪsˈtɹæk.ʃən/
- Từ dài — đặt trọng âm cho đúng: genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, momentum /ˌmə(ʊ)ˈmɛntəm/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/
Những âm người Việt thường gặp khó:
- Cụm phụ âm cuối — đọc đủ từng âm, đừng nuốt âm cuối: distract /dɪˈstɹækt/, sharp /ʃɑɹp/, romance /roʊˈmæn(t)s/, nonsense /ˈnɒn.səns/
- Âm /tʃ/, /dʒ/ và /ʒ/ — tiếng Việt không có, đừng đọc thành “ch” hay “gi”: chase /t͡ʃeɪs/, teenage /ˈtiːneɪd͡ʒ/, magical /ˈmæd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, teenager /ˈtiːnˌeɪ̯d͡ʒə/
- Âm /æ/ — mở miệng rộng hơn âm “e”: frankly /fɹæŋkli/, distract /dɪˈstɹækt/, romance /roʊˈmæn(t)s/, magical /ˈmæd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/, distraction /dɪsˈtɹæk.ʃən/
Cách luyện với video này
- Nghe hết video một lần, chưa cần nói, và ghi lại những từ bạn chưa biết.
- Bắt đầu ở tốc độ 0,75×, nói đuổi từng câu, rồi quay lại tốc độ bình thường khi đã quen.
- Ghi âm giọng mình rồi so với bản gốc, chú ý các từ như chase, discipline, butterfly.
Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?
Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.