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Our best relationships rely on connection, the ability to vibe with somebody else.

我们最美好的关系建立在情感联结之上，也就是能与他人产生共鸣的能力。

My name is Matt Abrahams, and I teach strategic communication at Stanford Graduate School of Business.

我叫马特·亚伯拉罕斯，在斯坦福大学商学院教授战略沟通课程。

Welcome to Think Fast, Talk Smart, the podcast.

欢迎收听《快速思考，巧妙表达》播客节目。

Today, I am super excited to speak with Adam Grant.

今天能和亚当·格兰特对话，我感到特别兴奋。

Adam is an organizational psychologist and top -rated professor at the Wharton School.

亚当是组织心理学家，也是沃顿商学院的顶尖教授。

He has written several best -selling books, such as Think Again and Hidden Potential.

他著有《重新思考》《隐藏的潜能》等多部畅销书。

His latest book is Vive, The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World.

他的最新著作是《Vive：孤独世界里建立牢固联结的秘诀》。

Beyond his academic research on motivation and workplace dynamics, he hosts the TED podcast, Rethinking.

除了在动机与职场动态领域开展学术研究之外，他还是TED播客《Rethinking》的主持人。

It should be in everybody's queue.

这应该是每个人的待办事项。

Well, welcome, Adam.

嗯，欢迎你，亚当。

I have long admired your work and have enjoyed my conversations with many of your Wharton colleagues,

我一直非常钦佩您的工作，也很享受与您沃顿商学院多位同事的交流。

Katie Milkman, Angela Duckworth, Wendy De La Rosa, and Jonah Berger.

凯蒂·米尔克曼、安吉拉·达克沃斯、温迪·德拉罗萨和乔纳·伯杰。

It's really exciting for me to meet you personally here.

能在这里与您亲自见面，我真的非常激动。

Thank you.

谢谢。

Well, I'll try to live up to that.

我会努力做到不辜负这份期待。

Great to be here, Matt.

很高兴来到这里，马特。

Thank you.

谢谢。

Shall we get started?

我们开始吧？

Bring it on.

放马过来吧。

All right.

好的。

I'd like to initiate a conversation around public speaking and communication.

我想发起一场关于公众演讲与沟通的讨论。

In your book, Hidden Potential, you share the story of how you went from a terrified to confident public speaker.

在您的《隐藏的潜能》一书中，您分享了自己如何从一个害怕公开演讲的人，成长为一名自信的演说家的经历。

Can you share what that anxiety was like for you

你能和我说说那种焦虑对你来说是什么样的感受吗？

and how you successfully learned to manage the anxiety to become a great, well -known, and well -sought -after speaker?

Well, sharing the anxiety part is easy.

I have vivid memories of knowing

that I was going to have to get up in front of people and just shaking physically.

I could see my hands moving.

I couldn't control it.

I was so jittery.

Usually that was the first cue actually is I would see it before I felt it.

And then I would notice that my heart was racing.

It felt like it was going to beat right out of my chest,

I would notice that my breathing would get fast and shallow like I just finished a sprint.

And not only was it making me not want to get up in front of an audience,

I didn't feel like I could deliver a coherent sentence because I couldn't catch my breath.

And I felt like the only way to get through it,

Matt, was just to rehearse it so often that my body had to get used to it.

I wanted to put myself through a form of, I guess, exposure therapy.

So the only thing

I could think to do was to put myself in a situation where the stakes were both higher

and lower at the same time.

So I was in grad school at the time

and I knew I was going to have to start teaching my own classes and I was terrified.

So I volunteered to give guest lectures for my friends' classes.

And on the one hand, that was much scarier.

because I only had a 30 or 60 minute window to try to get through to these students.

And they were gonna judge me just by that performance.

I didn't have then the rest of the semester to recover

if I stumbled or if I sounded like I was Darth Vader because I was breathing so heavily.

But on the other hand, these students didn't have any real say over my future.

They weren't gonna hate my class and tank my teaching evaluations

and undermine my ability to get a lecturing job in the future or a professorship in the future.

And so I thought, okay, this is the perfect place to practice because I was under pressure.

But at the end of the day, it didn't really matter.

And a few friends were kind enough to say yes.

And after every guest lecture, I gave out feedback forms.

And I said, tell me what you'd like to see repeated.

And more importantly, what I should change.

and some of the comments were not friendly.

I remember one of them said, you're so nervous, you're causing us to physically shake in our seats.

Only much later did I think, wow, I have a form of telekinesis.

Not fun at the time.

And then there was a student who wrote that I was

so awkward on stage that I reminded them of a Muppet and they never even told me which Muppet.

Maybe you can help me with that.

Yeah, I immediately thought of Animal, the one who's frenetic and always moving.

I could see that.

I was thinking it might be the sweetest chef.

But something really interesting happened, Matt, as I went through this.

Not only did I stop having mild panic attacks as I repeatedly got in front of audiences,

but I also discovered that I had already put myself in the worst case scenario.

What is somebody going to say about my teaching that's worse than And your anxiety is contagious.

And you remind me of a Muppet.

And so I felt like at that point, I had nothing to lose.

And as I got a little bit less uncomfortable, I started cracking more jokes.

I started being a little bit more spontaneous and responding to the energy in the room.

And I had a better connection with the audience.

And the vibe improved.

built my confidence up.

And so I think what I learned from

that experience was in the first semester where I was afraid to get on any stage,

I felt like I needed to wait until I'd built my confidence in order to take action.

And I realized I had that backward.

I needed to take the action in order to build my confidence.

And it was through doing the reps, putting myself in that situation where I did not want to be there,

where I just felt the butterflies constantly, that I ended up earning the confidence to keep doing it.

Do it and then reflect on it, I think is a really powerful way to address the fear of speaking in front of others.

And I really appreciate that idea of finding situations that have high stakes,

but at the same time aren't so critical that a bad performance can lead to devastating consequences.

So it's really the exposure therapy that helped you get through that.

But I also noticed a cognitive shift you got out of your head

and you got into the room where you were paying attention to what was happening and responding to it.

A lot of nervous speakers are inside their own head,

replaying what's happening for them or they should be saying or could have been saying instead of actually connecting outside.

I'll be curious when we talk about your new book,

if this experience helped you become curious about connecting and the ways in which we can connect and relate to others.

Two things that just jumped out at me.

One, I think the ideal stakes for practice are stressful in the moment, but no lasting cost.

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And so it feels like it might be embarrassing in the present, but you're not going to carry it with you into your future.

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I think that's the situation in which you want to practice or dip your toe in the water.

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And then, yeah, that experience definitely got me curious about how to form connection because

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I had all these ideas I was passionate about.

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I was excited to get to know my students and build relationships with them.

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But I didn't know how to cross that bridge when it was me with a sea of invisible faces.

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And I think that for me, the intermediate step in that journey was then to say, okay, I've now gotten comfortable being uncomfortable.

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And I hope that I'm not going to change my first nature, as Brian Little, one of my favorite psychologists would call it.

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I am an introvert physiologically.

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I am shy.

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But I want to make this second nature.

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I want to expand my comfort zone so

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that this feels like something I can do regularly and not freak out about for weeks in advance.

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So my comfort zone started to expand, but then the hurdles got bigger.

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I had to speak for audiences that were more terrifying.

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I had to get in front of US Army and Air Force generals.

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I had to start giving TED Talks.

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And I also had to start teaching classes that were very short.

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I had 225 students in just a week.

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And I didn't have time to get to know them and build relationships with him like I'd always done.

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And so every time my comfort zone expanded, the challenge expanded and I was kind of in the deep end, treading water all over again.

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And those consistent challenges really gave me a crash course in saying, you know what, the worst case scenario is I'm gonna embarrass myself again.

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And then I'm gonna have great material for future learning and teaching.

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So that's a huge cognitive reframe there, that this is something that I can learn from versus something I have to endure and survive.

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I find it interesting that you say you had to do these things.

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I think it's awesome that you got to do those things to share your knowledge with folks.

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I wanna come back to the idea that feedback played a critical role in your getting comfortable speaking in front of others.

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You were very specific in the feedback you asked for.

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You didn't just say, how'd I do?

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Talk to me about the role that feedback played for you in your journey,

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but how feedback can play in all of our journeys as we learn to connect and engage with others better.

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So I've come to believe that feedback is overrated and advice is underrated when it comes to learning.

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And I didn't know that I was doing this at the time, but I'll tell you a quick story from the Air Force experience.

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Fast forward a couple years, I've started teaching my own classes, and I get a call from the U .S.

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Air Force.

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And they say, we're looking for somebody to teach leadership to our generals and colonels, you came recommended, would you do it?

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And Matt, I felt massively unqualified.

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I looked at the bios of these

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Air Force leaders.

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I did not have thousands of flying hours.

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I did not have hundreds of thousands of troops under my command.

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I didn't have a multi -billion dollar budget.

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But I had never served my country before.

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And I felt like I had a responsibility to say yes.

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So I did.

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And it was even more intimidating than I had feared when I walked in.

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It looked like a scene out of Top Gun.

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And the Air Force leaders, instead of names on their name cards, they had their call signs.

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So staring me down are gunner and striker and bomber.

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And I felt like what I had to do was prove myself to these people.

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So I started talking about my credentials and my expertise and all the research I'd done.

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And I got the feedback forms afterward.

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And they were brutal.

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One of the Air Force leaders had written, there was more knowledge in the audience than on the podium.

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Wow.

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Fact.

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Yeah.

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And then I pulled out another one and it said, I gained very little from this session, but I trust the instructor got useful insight.

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Dagger to the heart.

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I remember reading that and Googling, can humans learn to hibernate like bears?

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I wanted to crawl into a hole for months.

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I wanted to quit my job and never walk in front of another military audience again.

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I had a problem.

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I had already committed to doing another session with a group of Air Force leaders.

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It was about a week later.

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And as a matter of principle, I follow through on my commitments.

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So what could I do?

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I didn't know this at the time, but research has come out in the last few years showing

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that we actually learn more from other people if instead of seeking their feedback, we ask for their advice.

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And the reason for that is feedback is backward looking.

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It tells you what you did wrong yesterday.

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And that's clearly what these

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Air Force leaders had done for me.

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Whereas advice is forward -looking.

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It gives you specific actionable guidance around what you can change to do better tomorrow.

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And that's exactly what I ended up finding when I thought, okay, I don't know what to do.

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All I could think to do was to go back to the Air Force leaders who crucified me.

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But I asked them a different question.

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Instead of giving me feedback, I said, I need suggestions.

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I have to do this again.

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What advice do you have for me next time?

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And I got very different responses from them.

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I got comments about changes I could make, and some of them had to do with content,

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which was, that was just useless for me because I had already crammed everything I knew about leadership into my four hours,

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and I did not have time to fully reboot it.

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But a few of the comments I got revolved around the way that I introduced myself to the audience.

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And one of the Air Force leaders said, look, we can all tell that you're junior.

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Why don't you just call out the elephant in the room?

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And I thought, what do I have to lose?

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So I walked in front of the next group of Air Force leaders.

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I stared them down and I said, I know what you're thinking right now.

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What could I possibly learn from a professor who's 12 years old?

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It was crickets.

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But after what felt like an eternity, one of the Air Force leaders, I'm going to call him

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Sand Dune because that was his call sign.

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He jumped in and he said, that's ridiculous.

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You look like you're at least 13.

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And everybody laughed at that and it broke the ice.

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And I more or less thought the same material, but I had taken myself off a pedestal that I didn't belong on.

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And afterward, the comments were completely different.

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One of my favorite ones said, you know, the professors seem to get younger every year.

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or is it that we're getting older?

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Either way, it was nice to learn about how to motivate millennials from someone who's almost young enough to be one.

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And although junior in experience, Adam dealt with the evidence in an interesting way.

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And Matt, it was a great lesson for me about showing a little humility and being willing to laugh at myself,

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but also in taking the very people who gave me useless,

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demoralizing feedback, seeking their advice and discovering they actually had a lot to teach me.

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I think your call sign would be suggestions, question mark.

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It's so true.

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I appreciate several things that you said.

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One, that it's really important to seek advice, which is prospective versus feedback, which is retrospective.

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And that's really important.

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And how you ask for that advice matters.

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But you also gave us a really important lesson about how you start communication.

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Many of us lead with strength, with competence.

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And in fact, connection and warmth can be really important.

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And the joke you made really, I think, sounds like transformed the experience.

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So I appreciate you sharing that too.

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Well, thank you.

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It's something I've continued to do every time I give a speech or have a conversation in front of an audience.

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I will take anybody I can find afterward and first invite them to be critics and tell me,

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like zero to 10, what would you rate that?

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and it's almost never does anybody give a 10.

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And at that point, even if they say, whether it's a three and a half or a nine,

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they have admitted there is something I could do that needs improvement.

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And so I say, okay, you gave me a score.

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It wasn't a 10.

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What can I do to get closer to 10?

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And that's where the advice starts to come into play.

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And I don't want to over -index on everyone's comments, but...

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If I hear the same theme from multiple people independently, I'm going to take that as a useful signal.

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And one thing that comes up repeatedly when I ask people how to get closer to 10 is the introduction really matters.

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Yeah.

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And striking that balance between showing confidence and signaling that you're competent, but also making a real connection with the audience is not always easy.

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I'd like to turn our attention to your current book, your new book, Vibe.

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It's all about how we connect with others and how wrong we often are about the assumptions we have around communicating.

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How do you know if you're vibing with someone?

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My kids tell me somebody my age can't even use the word vibing.

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But how do you know if you're vibing with someone?

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Yeah, my 15 -year -old told me to stop saying vibe because I was ruining the word.

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I actually think there's a paradox, which is similar to when you're in a flow state.

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You often don't notice your vibing until after the fact

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because you're so immersed in the conversation that you weren't even thinking about it.

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And I think that is probably the most basic sign that you're vibing with somebody else is the conversation was so delightful.

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It was so absorbing that time flew.

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You lost track of where you were, maybe even who you were.

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And afterward, you kind of marveled at, wow, we really clicked.

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I think that if you wanted to get more precise about knowing when you're vibing, If you were a neuroscientist,

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you could actually measure people's brainwaves and heartbeats synchronizing.

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That's a sign that people are experiencing chemistry in the moment.

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And then over time, you would discover that every time you interact, it brings you closer, even if you're not always having the most pleasant interaction.

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So for me, one of the strongest signs

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that you're vibing with somebody is that you can have an argument with them and come away feeling like, I understood them better.

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I trust them more.

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I like them more, even though we didn't agree.

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Are there things that we can do to increase the likelihood that we vibe,

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especially in a world where a lot of our communication has become much more transactional, especially with the virtual communication that we do?

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How can we increase that connection, which is lovely when you experience it, in a world where we're on Zooms,

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Teams, Meets, and it's all scheduled by the half hour?

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I actually have some good news on that front,

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which is there's some brand new research by Eli Finkel and his colleagues on virtual dates versus in -person dates.

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And let me just tell you, Matt, I don't know anybody who would prefer to go on a Zoom date to a date in a restaurant.

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But if you actually look at the data comparing them, although the in -person date tends to last twice as long,

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they are equally enjoyable and equally likely to lead to a second date.

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And I think this is because people have low expectations for virtual interaction.

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And when you vibe with somebody that you just met over Zoom, you come away thinking, wow, that went better than I thought it would.

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And you're just as eager to meet them.

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You can still gauge at a basic level whether you find them attractive and interesting.

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And so I don't think we should write off virtual interaction altogether.

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The evidence on Zoom fatigue suggests that we don't actually burn out having back -to -back Zooms.

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We get bored out.

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It's originally a French term, le bore out.

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And it's different from burnout because burnout is basically being drained by being overstimulated and stressed beyond your capacity.

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Whereas bore out comes from being understimulated and being at below challenge level.

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And that is unfortunately the effect that too much virtual interaction can have on us.

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So I think we need to set a limit on that.

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A 30 -minute

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Zoom date or meeting could go fine, but let's not hang out for three hours virtually.

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Beyond recalibrating our expectations for virtual, are there things we can do to enhance vibing?

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I think it depends what kind of wavelength you want to vibe on.

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So I've actually found that there are three different kinds of wavelengths that we can connect on.

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And I think about them as allies, pals, and companions.

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So if you want to enlist someone as an ally,

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you're basically trying to figure out what goals you share so you can help each other succeed.

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You want to be on a mission together.

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If you're looking to connect with somebody as a pal, a pal is somebody who you just enjoy interacting with.

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And so you're probably defaulting to what would be fun.

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Do we have favorite hobbies in common, shared interests?

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Do we like the same books, movies, or music?

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And then I think companionship is often the most intimate form of connection, but it's not always the strongest.

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A companion is somebody where there's real mutual affection and care.

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And there you probably are more interested in finding out what are their biggest struggles right now emotionally?

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How can you support them?

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you might also want to confide in them and open up a little bit.

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And so I actually think, Matt, this is the first step.

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If you want to improve your vibe with people that you're just meeting or you're trying to strengthen your connection with,

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I think you want to start by asking, am I trying to build a connection as allies, pals, or companions?

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I really appreciate that distinction of, in what way are you trying to connect?

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I often conflate these in my own life, and then I get disappointed.

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And it's helpful for me to think about, these are the people with whom I really just want to be pals.

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And these are people who, for me, are allies.

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I appreciate that.

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Let's take allies just as an example, if you don't mind.

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What might be a few things I could do to help myself form some of those relationships?

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Allies are people who share your goals.

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Pals are people who share your interests.

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And companions are people who share your core values.

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And if you're trying to enlist more allies in your life, you're basically looking for good collaborators.

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And I think that usually starts with asking people, what's the biggest challenge you're running into right now?

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Or what's a problem you would love somebody to help you to solve?

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And when people start to talk about the roadblocks they're running into, the obstacles they're encountering, you can immediately think of, okay, what do I know?

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Or who do I know that might be helpful there?

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That's, I think, the asking approach.

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If you want to start with offering instead, open up about one a year, biggest challenges to achieving your goals.

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And then say, hey, here's where I am right now.

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I'm stuck.

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Or here's what I'm trying to accomplish.

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I would love some help.

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Is this something that's exciting for you too?

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If so, maybe there's a way that we can collaborate or partner.

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But I want to put a giant disclaimer on this.

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Do not propose collaboration on the first date.

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Way too soon.

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The worst cold emails I get, Matt, are from people who say,

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hey, I just wanted to reach out and see if we could collaborate on a project.

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I'm like, I don't even know you.

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I just met you.

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Why don't instead you offer me an idea, a bit of advice, maybe even a piece of feedback or a suggestion.

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And let me get a taste of who you are and what you do.

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And then we can figure out whether it would make sense for us to collaborate on anything.

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I appreciate you delineating the ways in which we can look to form allies

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and specifying the differences among the different types of relationships.

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One of the things I really liked that you said was in these situations when you're trying to connect to Vibe,

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you can ask or you can offer.

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And it's probably a balance of the two that can be most helpful.

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But as you go into these situations, think to yourself, what can I ask?

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What can I offer?

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I think can be really helpful.

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This has been a fantastic conversation, Adam.

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Before we end, as you well know, I like to ask three questions.

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One, I make up just for you, and two, I've been asking everybody as long as the show has been going.

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Are you okay with that? Of course.

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So this was not my original question, but now I have to ask it.

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On a scale of one to 10, how have I done in this interview?

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And what advice would you have for me to improve?

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Well, I have to use a zero to 10 because the zero is just an extreme fail, and also it allows for a midpoint of five.

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So I'm going to modify your scale.

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That's my first piece of advice.

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Zero to 10.

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We use the diving scorecard.

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Okay.

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Secondly, I'm going to give you a 9 .25.

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And let's see, you asked how you can improve.

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I think, here's what I would say.

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You are remarkably prepared.

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You do your homework in advance on your guests and their ideas.

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And that's both validating and productive.

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You are such a skilled communicator.

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I'd seen this in your videos for years but it's different to experience it directly.

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Thank you.

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You actually demonstrate inverse charisma.

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I feel like you've brought out a better version of me than I would have brought to an interview with somebody else.

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And I think that's a testament to the quality of questions you ask, but also the way you respond.

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And very often, I would say almost every response you gave after my comments...

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I had another thought that was sparked by you reflecting back your experience

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or you making an observation about something I'd said that I didn't even realize was interesting.

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Like the stakes comment, I think, was an example of that.

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It was just kind of a throwaway observation.

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Yeah, it was high stakes, but it was kind of not high stakes.

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And then you commented on that.

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I realized, oh, yeah, we want immediate stakes and long -term irrelevance.

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Yeah, that's a principle of good exposure therapy.

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Okay.

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Didn't know that.

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But you just taught me that I had something to say about that.

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Thank you for that.

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I think that you're underusing those strengths.

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I think that your questions are so meaty that my impulse is to give you a full answer.

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Especially because I know that in our recording, you're going to cut down to the greatest hits.

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And so I want to give you more material to work with.

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The risk of that is it reduces our burstiness.

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It reduces the rapid fire back and forth.

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And I don't get as much back from you that then I can riff on.

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And the coach answer, I think, was a great example of that.

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I gave you three points.

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You could have responded to each one.

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And so I think

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if you gave your guests a target of maybe one to two minutes per answer as opposed to three to five,

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or you said, Hey, I've got some Meteor questions.

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And then I have some that are more 30 to 60 second style

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that I would love to react to and then have a novel conversation around.

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I think that would be helpful

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because I feel torn between the competing goals of doing justice

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to the quality of the question with a quality answer and giving you more space to react.

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And I think I erred on the former side and you could do more of the latter.

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What do you think?

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I actually really appreciate that advice because

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when I think about the shows I like and have listened to yours and see what you do,

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I like the term burstiness because I know exactly what you're talking about.

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I like that in my interpersonal conversations a lot and I think I can bring that here.

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So I appreciate that.

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And I also, it's very hard for me to accept compliments.

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So I will simply say thank you for the compliments.

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All right, question number two, and I'll be very interested in this answer.

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Who is a communicator you admire and why?

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A lot of the communicators I admire most are people who are great at explaining complex ideas in ways

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that make them memorable, but don't flatten a 3D concept into two dimensions.

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and I think that

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Dan Coyle, Kate Murphy, Nedra Glover -Tawwab are all remarkably good at that.

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The ability to make complex information accessible is a true talent and everybody you mentioned is good at that.

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And I'm not blowing smoke here.

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Several of our guests have named you as their communicator that they admire.

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So know that people are really taking value from what you do as well.

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Well, that's an honor, but flattery will get them nowhere.

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Okay.

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I won't tell you who they were then.

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Final question.

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What are the first three ingredients that go into a successful communication recipe?

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It depends on the type of communication.

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Are we talking about writing, speaking, conversing?

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Let's talk about what you wrote about recently, connecting, interpersonal.

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If you're trying to communicate in ways that help you connect, number one,

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I don't think there's any way to get around showing a genuine interest in getting to know the other person table stakes.

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Being as curious about the other person as you are excited to share about yourself.

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I think that's key.

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And that is the antidote to what sociologists call conversational narcissism. So that's number one.

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I think number two is keeping your turns short.

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One of the markers of a great vibe in a conversation is more rapid turn -taking.

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Neuroscientists have shown this, that if people are going back and forth every 30 or 60 seconds,

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they're much more likely to both be excited about the conversation than if they're alternating eight -minute monologues.

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And so be brief.

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And that invites the other person to be brief, at least initially.

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And then the third step, if you want to vibe, you have shown an interest in the other person, you've gotten that bursty back and forth.

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I think the last thing to do is to take note of a few things you want to remember from the conversation.

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These have been called pebbles, or it's the act of pebbling.

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You follow up a week or a month or a year later, and you say, hey, I was thinking about this comment you made,

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or I watched a show or read an article that reminded me of you.

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That is a memory flex.

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And that is a way of signaling, hey, I cared enough not just to listen to you in the moment, but to actually notice over time,

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there was something that I engaged with that I think you would like to.

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And that's a great way to both strengthen and solidify a connection.

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I love that term memory flex.

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I like it.

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I've described what you said a lot and I've never used that term, but I will now.

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So it's about demonstrating interest, burstiness, and pebbling.

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If you can do those three things, you've got a good communication.

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I love how well you synthesize.

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That's what I should have said.

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Yes.

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I think the three ingredients of a great vibe are interest in the other person, burstiness in the back and forth rapidly,

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and then sending little pebbles afterward to say, hey, I thought of you and I noticed what you care about and I want to stay connected.

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Excellent.

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Thank you so much for the wide range of advice and guidance you've given.

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This has been a fantastic conversation.

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I appreciate your time and best of luck with your new book.

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Thank you.

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It's been a pleasure to be here, Matt.

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This was an absolute joy.

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Thank you for joining us for another episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, the podcast.

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I really enjoyed learning from Adam Grant today.

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One of the biggest takeaways I had was how we actually have different types of connection we go after, be it allies, pals, or companions.

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This really changed the way I look at the relationships I have and am seeking to have.

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To learn more about creative thinking and communication, listen to episode 80 from Adam's colleague, Jonah Berger.

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This episode was produced by Katherine Reid, Ryan Campos, Alex McCarthy, and me, Matt Abrahams.

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Our music is from Floyd Wonder.

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Please find us on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts.

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Be sure to subscribe and rate us.

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Also, follow us on LinkedIn, TikTok, and Instagram.

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Please share our show with your friends, families, coworkers, pals, allies, and companions.

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本课的词汇与口语要点

这节口语课以视频“The Devastating Note That Nearly Made Adam Grant Quit Teaching”为素材。这段视频共有 480 个句子、5741 个单词可供跟读。讲话部分时长为 31:28。说话人语速较快，每分钟约 182 个词，会出现较多连读和弱读。 82% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。

视频中的重点词汇

视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：

单词	发音	释义
vibe 名词	/vaɪb/	氛圍 /氛围
feedback 名词	/ˈfiːdˌbæk/	反饋 /反馈, 反應 /反应
connect 动词	/kəˈnɛkt/	連接 /连接
ally 名词	/ˈæl.aɪ/	盟國 /盟国
stake 名词	/steɪk/	木樁 /木桩
companion 名词	/kəmˈpæn.jən/	伴侶 /伴侣, 同伴
helpful 形容词	/ˈhɛlp.fl̩/	有幫助 /有帮助
afterwards 副词	/ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/	然後 /然后
anxiety 名词	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	焦慮 /焦虑, 担心
curious 形容词	/ˈkjʊɹ.i.əs/	好奇, 有好奇心
expand 动词	/ɪkˈspænd/	擴展 /扩展, 擴張 /扩张
interaction 名词	/ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/	相互作用
comfort 名词	/ˈkʌm.fət/	舒適 /舒适
remind 动词	/ɹəˈmaɪnd/	提醒
guidance 名词	/ˈɡaɪdəns/	指導 /指导

视频中出现的短语动词

单词	发音	释义
bear out 动词	/bɛəɹ ˈaʊt/	證實 /证实
end up 动词		到达
figure out 动词		弄清楚
get through 动词	/ɡɛt ˈθɹu/	度過 /度过
come up 动词		上來 /上来
find out 动词		找出, 查明
follow up 动词		跟進 /跟进
go back 动词		回去, 返回

值得反复跟读的句子

视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：

You didn't just say, how'd I do?
What advice do you have for me next time?
Why don't you just call out the elephant in the room?
How do you know if you're vibing with someone?
Is this something that's exciting for you too?

视频中的语法

说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：

结构	视频中的用法
现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事	has written · have enjoyed · I've now gotten
定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物	student who wrote · people who gave · advice, which is
被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的	is overrated · being drained · being understimulated

需要注意的发音

说话人用了 118 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 you're, didn't, don't。请按听到的简短形式来说。

“th” 音: breathe /bɹiːð/, strengthen /ˈstɹɛŋ(k)θən/, altogether /ɔl.tuˈɡɛð.ɚ/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, exposure /ɪkˈspəʊ.ʒə(ɹ)/, suggestion /səˈd͡ʒɛst.ʃən/, shake /ˈʃeɪk/, observation /ˌɑbzɚˈveɪʃn̩/
长单词——注意重音位置: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, collaborate /kəˈlæb.ə.ɹeɪt/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/

中文母语者容易读错的音：

/v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: vibe /vaɪb/, virtual /ˈvɜɹt͡ʃuəl/, versus /ˈvɝsəs/, observation /ˌɑbzɚˈveɪʃn̩/, cognitive /ˈkɑɡ.nɪ.tɪv/
词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: vibe /vaɪb/, feedback /ˈfiːdˌbæk/, connect /kəˈnɛkt/, stake /steɪk/, afterwards /ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: virtual /ˈvɜɹt͡ʃuəl/, collaborate /kəˈlæb.ə.ɹeɪt/, principle /ˈpɹɪn.sɪ.pəl/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, repeatedly /ɹɪˈpiːtɪdli/

如何用这段视频练习

先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 vibe, feedback, connect 这类单词。

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本课的词汇与口语要点

视频中的重点词汇

视频中出现的短语动词

值得反复跟读的句子

视频中的语法

需要注意的发音

如何用这段视频练习

什么是跟读法？