跟读练习: The One Thing That Will Make Everyone Like You - 通过视频学习英语口语
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welcome to lesson 3 of the BeeFriend course in our previous lesson we learned about the formula of friendship which are the four factors that determine how deep our relationships with others go however if all you do is employ these
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four factors you are not guaranteed to befriend others this is because there is one rule that you have to stick to in order to make sure that you are developing friendships and not making enemies instead it's called the golden
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rule of friendship now a couple of years ago I hung out with this girl let's call her Stacey who told me that she struggled with making long-lasting relationships Stacey didn't have any childhood friends she didn't have any high-school buddies and even her co-workers rarely asked her
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to hang out she always felt like the people she befriended did not stay loyal to her and at the time I didn't know what she was doing wrong but after years of learning about social skills and thinking back to the way Stacey interacted around others I started to realize that it was because she always
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broke the golden rule of friendship the golden rule of friendship states that if you want people to like you you have to make them feel good if you make people feel good they will want to be around you more but if you make them feel bad
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they will avoid you it sounds pretty simple but there are many many ways that people accidentally break this rule in fact Stacey broke this rule in three different ways see the thing is Stacey had what we new
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yorkers call a resting bitchface it's a combination of a subtle frown combined with glazed over eyes plastered on your face 24/7 it kind of looks something along the lines of this this was the first way that Stacy broke the golden
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rule of friendship by having bad body language see the body language she portrayed made it seem like she wasn't interested in you what you were saying and that she was unhappy when you interacted with her when you speak to
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someone and they look unhappy and uninterested you think to yourself oh is what I'm saying boring is she even listening to me should I just leave and if this happens over and over again you will instinctively try to avoid them in
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the future nobody wants to talk to someone who seems uninterested in whatever they're saying now you're probably wondering improvement bill what sort of body language should we be using to prevent something like this what are some examples of good body language what are some examples of bad ones well don't
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worry because we're gonna dive deep into that with multiple videos in the next portion of the befriend course but for now let's talk about the second way Stacy broke the golden rule of friendship so I remember a specific interaction that I had with Stacy I was telling her
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story of how I did poorly in high school how I didn't have a good social life but also how I was able to make changes and get out of rock bottom now this is a pretty personal story that I hold dear to my heart it's a story
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that I'm very proud of and it's a story that I seldom tell people but at around the halfway point before I could finish my story Stacey butted in and she started telling me a story about her struggles in high school how she had a harder time than me making friends and how her rock bottom
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was way worse than mine the second way that Stacy broke the golden rule of friendship was by making everything about herself see the thing is the majority of people enjoy talking about themselves it feels good to tell a story
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and have people listen to you but when someone cuts you off and proceeds to tell their own story they're doing two things number one they're telling you that they don't care about you or your story which is a terrible feeling and
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number two they're telling you that they want you to listen to them to make them feel good and not the other way around if you constantly redirect the conversation back to yourself you're essentially asking everyone else to give
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you something without getting anything back in return I think this was actually the biggest reason as to why Stacy didn't have any long-lasting relationships because she made everything about herself now before we
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get into the third and final way Stacy screwed up I do want to mention something really really fast we all know going through a course like the friend course or the team course is effective but it's nowhere nearly as powerful as committing to a hands-on coaching program if you are interested in this
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and you're willing to invest money in yourself please sign up for my mailing list using the link in the description box below to receive future updates now there are thousands of different things you can talk about when you hang out with someone else and the sort of topics you choose to discuss can have a huge
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impact on the overall interaction Stacy like to talk about her past how she used to be skinnier how she used to have nicer hair when we ate together she liked to complain about the food and how the service that this one wasn't so
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great she was super critical of everything the third and final way Stacy broke the golden rule of friendship was by talking too much about negative things think about this when you talk about something negative what sort of emotion are you bringing to the table while depending on
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what you're talking about it could be a wide variety of things such as anger disgust jealousy sadness etc but all of these emotions have one thing in common they don't feel good when you talk about negative things you're not only sharing
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the words and stories but also the emotions that go along with them so if you tell a story about how your dog died people will feel your sadness if you tell a story about how your girlfriend cheated on you people will feel some of your anger there's a time and place for stories
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like this but you have to be very careful about these types of things especially if you've just started to get to know someone because they make people feel bad and if you do this too often they will start to associate you with
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all of those negative emotions and avoid you if you look at the formula of friendship Stacey was doing all of the right things she would go partying with people quite often so she had good proximity good frequency good duration
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and good intensity however she did not employ the golden rule of friendship in fact she broke the rule over and over again which meant that she eventually made more enemies than friends people started hating her because she stuck to
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the formula friendship but made them feel bad at the same time think of the golden rule of friendship as a plus or negative sign in front of our equation so far if you stick to it your friendships will grow but if you break
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it people will start to hate you it's a simple simple rule that you must keep in mind during all of your future interactions now before we start talking about body language there is one more foundational concept that I must teach
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you it's something so powerful that it can potentially two times three times heck even five times the speed of which you can befriend others and deepen your relationships with them it's the importance of value make sure you
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subscribe and hit the bell icon because we're gonna cover that in our next lesson and I don't want you to miss it besides that guys stay tuned
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这节 B2 级别的口语课以视频“The One Thing That Will Make Everyone Like You”为素材。 视频中反复出现的词有：friendship, rule, golden, Stacy, Stacey。 这段视频共有 30 个句子、1354 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 5:49。 说话人语速较快，每分钟约 233 个词，会出现较多连读和弱读。 88% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇容易理解。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中最难的 15 个单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| emotion 名词 | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | 感情, 情感 |
| uninterested 形容词 | 沒有興趣的 /没有兴趣的, 無興趣的 /无兴趣的 | |
| sadness 名词 | /ˈsædnəs/ | 悲傷 /悲伤, 悲哀 |
| employ 动词 | /ɪmˈplɔɪ/ | 雇傭, 雇 |
| interact 动词 | /ɪn.təˈɹækt/ | 互動 /互动 |
| unhappy 形容词 | /ʌnˈhæpi/ | 不高興 /不高兴, 不開心 /不开心 |
| deepen 动词 | /ˈdiːpən/ | 加深 |
| plaster 名词 | /ˈplæstɚ/ | 石膏 |
| disgust 名词 | /dɪsˈɡʌst/ | 厭惡 /厌恶 |
| seldom 副词 | /ˈsɛldəm/ | 很少, 伄儅 /伄𰁸 |
| jealousy 名词 | /ˈd͡ʒɛl.ə.si/ | 妒忌, 羡慕 |
| proximity 名词 | /pɹɒkˈsɪm.ɪ.ti/ | 接近 |
| bore 动词 | /boɹ/ | 煩擾 /烦扰 |
| skinny 形容词 | /ˈskɪni/ | 瘦, 枯瘦 |
| subscribe 动词 | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | 簽署 /签署 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 释义 |
|---|---|
| go through 动词 | 通過 /通过 |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 27 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 didn't, you're, don't。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, foundational /faʊnˈdeɪ.ʃə.nəl/, equation /ɪˈkweɪ.ʒən/, duration /dʒʊˈɹeɪ.ʃən/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: foundational /faʊnˈdeɪ.ʃə.nəl/, instinctively /ɪnˈstɪŋktɪvli/, proximity /pɹɒkˈsɪm.ɪ.ti/, intensity /ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 emotion, uninterested, sadness 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。