跟读练习: Those Who Are Terrified of Love - 通过YouTube学习英语口语
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Here is an insight that if it was properly taught to us,
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Here is an insight that if it was properly taught to us,
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if there were classes in it at secondary school,
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could save us years, could help the economy,
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could make a major improvement to humankind.
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Instead, we keep the knowledge secret,
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so that in every generation,
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millions of people have to work their way through the painful mystery by themselves.
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It's as reckless as if we hit the secret of agriculture
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and made each new generation work out how to raise wheat by themselves.
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Surely the point of civilisation is to share knowledge and ensure
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that our successors can benefit from the pain and the hard-won insight of those who came before.
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It works when it comes to the secrets of pottery or physics.
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Why would we not do the same with love?
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So the insight is this.
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If you're a little unlucky,
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you are liable to come across someone in your love life who will be sweet
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and charming and tell you with great sincerity that they want a relationship.
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They will be extremely affectionate and focused on you, at first.
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They'll find nicknames and be tender towards small insecurities that others have missed.
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Naturally, in short order, you'll fall very in love with them.
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You'll start to imagine marriage in the very long term.
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You'll tell friends you've found the one.
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And then, over time, it could be six months or six years,
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probably not too much longer than that,
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something very hard to see will start to happen.
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Crises will emerge.
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They'll want to spend more time with their friends.
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They'll be busy at work.
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They'll discover a fascinating hobby,
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they'll grow irritable, they won't want to have sex anymore.
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Naturally, in such conditions, you'll reach for dialogue and imagine that this is just a momentary challenge.
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Let's talk about what's going on,
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how can we restore kindness and sweetness?
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You will try very hard.
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But the person who has been so lovely for so long won't properly engage.
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They may get irritable, they may deny that anything's up,
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they may come close again for a while and then the negative patterns will resume.
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There is something that they're not telling us,
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something that sounds so weird as to defy the ordinary workings of our minds.
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They are, let's put it this way, afraid of love.
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They don't want a relationship that actually works,
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in the sense of deepens.
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They thought they did, but the reality is appalling.
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However, they don't quite grasp this about themselves.
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Everything is happening at an instinctive level.
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They don't understand why they want to cause an argument, but they do.
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They don't know why they're staying out again without calling us, but they are.
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They couldn't say why they're irritable, but they are.
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They have a particular psychology.
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It's been called, usefully in some quarters, avoidant.
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Way back, as children, something happened to them.
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Such people are made and not born.
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They picked up an appalling suspicion.
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Other people are unsafe.
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Therefore, I need to be on my own.
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No one can own me.
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I need always to have an escape route.
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I don't want to be tied down.
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There's always a letdown that's going to come.
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And maybe even further in the recesses of their mind,
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I'm a little shit.
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I'm ugly.
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No one must get to the inner sanctum.
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Of course, none of this is said,
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it isn't even really known.
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What should be more widely taught is the danger of such people.
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They truly can make us lose decades and our minds.
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It doesn't make ordinary sense.
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Ordinary sense says two people who like each other move ever closer and make a life of it.
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But the annals of depth psychology say,
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one person who likes another may panic so
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that they move very subtly away without ever admitting
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that this is what they're doing and without even quite knowing it of themselves.
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What would a class on all this at secondary school advise?
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That if we ever meet such a person,
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and a quarter of the population does match this description,
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One must be very careful indeed not to get caught up in a web.
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One must give everyone a few chances to step forward and love us,
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and then if they don't,
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we must never ever stay around to do a PhD in Y.
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Four chances and then we're off.
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If we find ourselves after years in a hot and cold situation,
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we don't need to find out any more.
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Love should be essentially quite simple.
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And as soon as it gets complicated,
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it's a sign not of depth or romance or beauty,
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but of something far simpler and starker.
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That we are liable to have landed on a lover who is terrified of love.
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And therefore that we must,
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in very short order, to save ourselves, leave.
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关键词汇和短语
- 关系 (relationship) - 指人们之间的情感连接。
- 情感 (emotional) - 关于感情和心理状态的。
- 不安 (insecurity) - 对自身或情感状况的不确定感。
- 避免 (avoidant) - 指在面对情感时的逃避心理。
- 冲突 (conflict) - 人际关系中的争执或不合。
- 沟通 (communication) - 交流想法和感受的过程。
- 亲密 (intimacy) - 关系中深厚的情感联系。
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跟随这些技巧，您将能够有效地提高您的英语口语能力，并在情感话题上进行更深入的交流。记得在练习过程中保持耐心，持续努力！
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