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Here is an insight that if it was properly taught to us,
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Here is an insight that if it was properly taught to us,
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if there were classes in it at secondary school,
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could save us years, could help the economy,
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could make a major improvement to humankind.
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Instead, we keep the knowledge secret,
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so that in every generation,
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millions of people have to work their way through the painful mystery by themselves.
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It's as reckless as if we hit the secret of agriculture
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and made each new generation work out how to raise wheat by themselves.
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Surely the point of civilisation is to share knowledge and ensure
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that our successors can benefit from the pain and the hard-won insight of those who came before.
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It works when it comes to the secrets of pottery or physics.
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Why would we not do the same with love?
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So the insight is this.
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If you're a little unlucky,
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you are liable to come across someone in your love life who will be sweet
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and charming and tell you with great sincerity that they want a relationship.
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They will be extremely affectionate and focused on you, at first.
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They'll find nicknames and be tender towards small insecurities that others have missed.
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Naturally, in short order, you'll fall very in love with them.
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You'll start to imagine marriage in the very long term.
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You'll tell friends you've found the one.
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And then, over time, it could be six months or six years,
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probably not too much longer than that,
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something very hard to see will start to happen.
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Crises will emerge.
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They'll want to spend more time with their friends.
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They'll be busy at work.
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They'll discover a fascinating hobby,
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they'll grow irritable, they won't want to have sex anymore.
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Naturally, in such conditions, you'll reach for dialogue and imagine that this is just a momentary challenge.
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Let's talk about what's going on,
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how can we restore kindness and sweetness?
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You will try very hard.
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But the person who has been so lovely for so long won't properly engage.
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They may get irritable, they may deny that anything's up,
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they may come close again for a while and then the negative patterns will resume.
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There is something that they're not telling us,
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something that sounds so weird as to defy the ordinary workings of our minds.
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They are, let's put it this way, afraid of love.
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They don't want a relationship that actually works,
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in the sense of deepens.
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They thought they did, but the reality is appalling.
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However, they don't quite grasp this about themselves.
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Everything is happening at an instinctive level.
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They don't understand why they want to cause an argument, but they do.
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They don't know why they're staying out again without calling us, but they are.
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They couldn't say why they're irritable, but they are.
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They have a particular psychology.
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It's been called, usefully in some quarters, avoidant.
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Way back, as children, something happened to them.
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Such people are made and not born.
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They picked up an appalling suspicion.
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Other people are unsafe.
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Therefore, I need to be on my own.
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No one can own me.
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I need always to have an escape route.
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I don't want to be tied down.
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There's always a letdown that's going to come.
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And maybe even further in the recesses of their mind,
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I'm a little shit.
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I'm ugly.
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No one must get to the inner sanctum.
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Of course, none of this is said,
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it isn't even really known.
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What should be more widely taught is the danger of such people.
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They truly can make us lose decades and our minds.
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It doesn't make ordinary sense.
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Ordinary sense says two people who like each other move ever closer and make a life of it.
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But the annals of depth psychology say,
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one person who likes another may panic so
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that they move very subtly away without ever admitting
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that this is what they're doing and without even quite knowing it of themselves.
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What would a class on all this at secondary school advise?
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That if we ever meet such a person,
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and a quarter of the population does match this description,
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One must be very careful indeed not to get caught up in a web.
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One must give everyone a few chances to step forward and love us,
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and then if they don't,
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we must never ever stay around to do a PhD in Y.
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Four chances and then we're off.
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If we find ourselves after years in a hot and cold situation,
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we don't need to find out any more.
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Love should be essentially quite simple.
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And as soon as it gets complicated,
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it's a sign not of depth or romance or beauty,
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but of something far simpler and starker.
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That we are liable to have landed on a lover who is terrified of love.
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And therefore that we must,
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in very short order, to save ourselves, leave.

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इस वीडियो में प्यार से जुड़ी जटिलताओं और उन लोगों की मनोविज्ञान को समझाया गया है जो प्यार से डरते हैं। आपको यह समझने में मदद मिलेगी कि भले ही प्रारंभ में किसी रिश्ते में सब कुछ बहुत खूबसूरत और आकर्षक लगे, लेकिन समय के साथ कुछ समस्याएं उभर सकती हैं। इस पाठ का मुख्य उद्देश्य शब्दावली और वाक्यांशों का अभ्यास करना है, जिनसे आप अपने विचारों को बेहतर तरीके से व्यक्त कर सकें। इस वीडियो का अभ्यास करके, आप न केवल अंग्रेजी में अपने संवाद कौशल में सुधार करेंगे, बल्कि अपने भावनात्मक समझ को भी बढ़ाएंगे।

मुख्य शब्दावली और वाक्यांश

  • प्यार से डरना - Fear of love
  • आवाज और तापमान - Affection and warmth
  • मनोषंस्कार - Psychology
  • संवाद स्थापित करना - Establishing dialogue
  • संभावित संकट - Potential crises
  • आवेग और प्रतिक्रिया - Instincts and reactions
  • नींद में चलना - Avoidance
  • विवाह की अवधारणा - Concept of marriage

अभ्यास टिप्स

इस वीडियो के गति और स्वर को ध्यान में रखते हुए, अंग्रेजी शैडोइंग का अभ्यास करें। वीडियो को ध्यान से सुनें और शैडो स्पीच का उपयोग करते हुए इसे नियंत्रित करें। आप हर वाक्य को सुनकर उसे दोहराने की कोशिश करें। यह तकनीक यूट्यूब से अंग्रेजी सीखने के जटिल विचारों को आपके लिए स्पष्ट और सरल बनाती है। वीडियो की गति धीमी होती है, जिससे आपको हर शब्द को सही तरीके से उच्चारित करने का मौका मिलता है। एक बार जब आप किसी वाक्य को बेहतर तरीके से समझ जाएँ, तो उसे अपने शब्दों में पुनः व्यक्त करें - यह आपके शब्दावली का विस्तार करेगा और आपको आत्मविश्वास से बोलने में मदद करेगा।

अंत में, एक्सप्रेशन पर ध्यान दें, क्योंकि ये आपकी भावनाओं को बेहतर ढंग से संप्रेषित करने में मदद करते हैं। Shadowspeak तकनीक का इस्तेमाल करते हुए आप अपने भावनात्मक इंस्टिंक्ट्स को भी विकसित कर सकते हैं, जिससे आप न केवल दूसरों से संवाद बेहतर कर पाएंगे, बल्कि अपने भावनात्मक अनुभव को भी समझ सकेंगे।

शैडोइंग तकनीक क्या है?

शैडोइंग (Shadowing) एक विज्ञान-समर्थित भाषा सीखने की तकनीक है जो मूल रूप से पेशेवर दुभाषिया प्रशिक्षण के लिए विकसित की गई थी। विधि सरल लेकिन शक्तिशाली है: आप मूल अंग्रेज़ी ऑडियो सुनते हैं और तुरंत इसे ज़ोर से दोहराते हैं — जैसे वक्ता की छाया 1-2 सेकंड की देरी से। शोध से पता चलता है कि यह उच्चारण सटीकता, स्वर, लय, जुड़ी हुई ध्वनियाँ, सुनने की समझ और बोलने की प्रवाहशीलता में काफ़ी सुधार करता है।

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