跟讀練習: Those Who Are Terrified of Love - 通過影片學習英語口語
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Here is an insight that if it was properly taught to us,
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if there were classes in it at secondary school,
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could save us years, could help the economy,
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could make a major improvement to humankind.
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Instead, we keep the knowledge secret,
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so that in every generation,
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millions of people have to work their way through the painful mystery by themselves.
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It's as reckless as if we hit the secret of agriculture
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and made each new generation work out how to raise wheat by themselves.
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Surely the point of civilisation is to share knowledge and ensure
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that our successors can benefit from the pain and the hard-won insight of those who came before.
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It works when it comes to the secrets of pottery or physics.
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Why would we not do the same with love?
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So the insight is this.
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If you're a little unlucky,
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you are liable to come across someone in your love life who will be sweet
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and charming and tell you with great sincerity that they want a relationship.
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They will be extremely affectionate and focused on you, at first.
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They'll find nicknames and be tender towards small insecurities that others have missed.
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Naturally, in short order, you'll fall very in love with them.
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You'll start to imagine marriage in the very long term.
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You'll tell friends you've found the one.
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And then, over time, it could be six months or six years,
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probably not too much longer than that,
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something very hard to see will start to happen.
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Crises will emerge.
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They'll want to spend more time with their friends.
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They'll be busy at work.
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They'll discover a fascinating hobby,
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they'll grow irritable, they won't want to have sex anymore.
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Naturally, in such conditions, you'll reach for dialogue and imagine that this is just a momentary challenge.
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Let's talk about what's going on,
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how can we restore kindness and sweetness?
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You will try very hard.
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But the person who has been so lovely for so long won't properly engage.
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They may get irritable, they may deny that anything's up,
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they may come close again for a while and then the negative patterns will resume.
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There is something that they're not telling us,
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something that sounds so weird as to defy the ordinary workings of our minds.
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They are, let's put it this way, afraid of love.
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They don't want a relationship that actually works,
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in the sense of deepens.
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They thought they did, but the reality is appalling.
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However, they don't quite grasp this about themselves.
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Everything is happening at an instinctive level.
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They don't understand why they want to cause an argument, but they do.
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They don't know why they're staying out again without calling us, but they are.
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They couldn't say why they're irritable, but they are.
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They have a particular psychology.
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It's been called, usefully in some quarters, avoidant.
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Way back, as children, something happened to them.
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Such people are made and not born.
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They picked up an appalling suspicion.
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Other people are unsafe.
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Therefore, I need to be on my own.
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No one can own me.
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I need always to have an escape route.
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I don't want to be tied down.
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There's always a letdown that's going to come.
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And maybe even further in the recesses of their mind,
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I'm a little shit.
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I'm ugly.
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No one must get to the inner sanctum.
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Of course, none of this is said,
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it isn't even really known.
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What should be more widely taught is the danger of such people.
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They truly can make us lose decades and our minds.
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It doesn't make ordinary sense.
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Ordinary sense says two people who like each other move ever closer and make a life of it.
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But the annals of depth psychology say,
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one person who likes another may panic so
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that they move very subtly away without ever admitting
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that this is what they're doing and without even quite knowing it of themselves.
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What would a class on all this at secondary school advise?
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That if we ever meet such a person,
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and a quarter of the population does match this description,
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One must be very careful indeed not to get caught up in a web.
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One must give everyone a few chances to step forward and love us,
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and then if they don't,
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we must never ever stay around to do a PhD in Y.
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Four chances and then we're off.
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If we find ourselves after years in a hot and cold situation,
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we don't need to find out any more.
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Love should be essentially quite simple.
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And as soon as it gets complicated,
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it's a sign not of depth or romance or beauty,
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but of something far simpler and starker.
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That we are liable to have landed on a lover who is terrified of love.
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And therefore that we must,
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in very short order, to save ourselves, leave.
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關於本課
在這個課程中，您將通過觀察和聽取一段關於愛情心理的深刻見解，學習如何提升您的英語口語能力。通過分析情感複雜的對話，您將更好地理解語音的節奏和語調，從而改善您的英語交流能力。這種練習方式特別適合那些希望通過真實情境來提高英語水平的學習者。您還將學會討論關於人際關係的主題，增加您在英語會話中的自信心。
關鍵詞彙和短語
- 關係 (relationship) - 指人們之間的情感連線。
- 情感 (emotional) - 關於感情和心理狀態的。
- 不安 (insecurity) - 對自身或情感狀況的不確定感。
- 避免 (avoidant) - 指在面對情感時的逃避心理。
- 衝突 (conflict) - 人際關係中的爭執或不合。
- 溝通 (communication) - 交流想法和感受的過程。
- 親密 (intimacy) - 關係中深厚的情感聯絡。
練習技巧
在觀看這段影片時，您可以試著進行shadowing練習。這裡有一些技巧可以幫助您：
- 跟隨語速: 影片中的說話速度適中，適合初學者。試著模仿發音和語調，專注於句子末尾的語氣。
- 分段練習: 可以將影片分段，先聽一小段再重複。每次重複時，儘量模仿說話者的情感和語氣變化。
- 使用關鍵詞: 在練習時，特別關注上面列出的關鍵短語，確保您能在句子中自然地使用它們。
- 語音錄製: 將自己的發音錄下來，和影片進行對比，找出需要改進的地方。
- 反覆觀看: 不要害怕多次觀看影片，每一次都會有新的收穫，幫助您在看YouTube學英語過程中更加熟練。
跟隨這些技巧，您將能夠有效地提高您的英語口語能力，並在情感話題上進行更深入的交流。記得在練習過程中保持耐心，持續努力！
影片中的語法
說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：
| 結構 | 影片中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事 | have missed · you've found · has been |
| 被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的 | been called · are made · is said |
| 定語從句 who / which + 從句 — 補充說明人或事物 | those who came · person who has · people who like |
什麼是跟讀法？
跟讀法 (Shadowing) 是一種有科學依據的語言學習技巧，最初開發用於專業口譯員的培訓，並由多語言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。這個方法簡單而強大：您在聽英語母語原聲的同時立即大聲重複——就像是一個延遲1-2秒緊跟說話者的影子。與被動聽力或語法練習不同，跟讀法強迫您的大腦和口腔肌肉同時處理並模模擬實的講話模式。研究表明它能顯著提高發音準確性，語調，節奏，連讀，聽力理解和口語流利度——使其成為雅思口語備考和真實英語交流最有效的方法之一。