跟讀練習: Why We Should Refuse to Get Into Arguments - 通過影片學習英語口語

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However deep our theoretical commitment to serenity, in the course of an average day,

we're likely to encounter a number of extremely well-crafted invitations to lose our tempers badly.

Our partner will press a well-flagged nuclear button related, let's imagine, to their views on our mother or our career choice.

At work, a colleague may deliberately not answer a very simple question to which we so urgently need an answer.

A shop attendant may give us a bored, insolent shrug.

Someone in the supermarket may falsely accuse us of standing in the wrong line.

What we're apt to miss at such moments of blatant provocation, as we get swallowed up in fears of humiliation,

illogicality and injustice, is just how much many people enjoy having arguments – indeed,

crave them – in order to re-find their equilibrium and appease their psychic discomforts.

We're tricked into imagining that there may be genuine issues that require a wholehearted engagement,

but we thereby lose sight of the true psychological motivations at play.

A person is trying to get us into a fight not because they have a sincere complaint against us,

but because they're feeling overwhelmed by the intensity of their own aggression,

which they hope to placate by spoiling a portion of our lives.

By goading us into a battle, they're looking for a way to evacuate their fury into us, to use us as a receptacle for their emotional waste,

to employ a skirmish with us to distract themselves from their own intractable conflicts and muted sorrows,

to seduce us into joining them in their sadness and entanglements so that they might feel less alone and less bereft.

We should resist such enthusiastic

and subtly crafted invitations by recognizing them for what they are

– attempts by the other party to rescue themselves from unbearable feelings.

We might, if we are exceptionally generous, pity them for their despair.

we don't in any way need to join them in their gladiatorial quests.

What may at times provoke us to a particular pitch of

excitement is a puzzlement as to why others are behaving as they are.

Why on earth we wander in a strangled way?

Have they once again mentioned something we implored them to leave alone?

Why are they being almost deliberately slow or rude or surly?

Why is someone who should be kind and thoughtful suddenly so offhand and cruel.

There aren't any good reasons for this discord.

It's just that our interlocutor is in a very bad way and has concluded,

not incorrectly alas, that they may well feel significantly better once we've started to raise our voice,

redden and call them horrible names we'll later regret with intensity.

We should work out the clever game and refuse to play any further rounds of it, whether the invitee is our spouse,

stranger, our child or colleague.

We're not being kind by leaving them to it.

We're not being pacific or eerily grown up.

It's just there is so much else that needs our attention.

We have to hold on to our thoughts, repair our wounds, appease our turmoils and discover our own roots to happiness.

We must sidestep the many dragnets because we have so many other, truly more important things to do.

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這段影片共有 39 個句子、544 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 3:35。說話人語速自然，每分鐘約 152 個詞，接近日常對話。只有 75% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，詞彙難度較高。

影片中的重點詞彙

影片中 15 個值得學習的單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
intensity 名詞	/ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/	強度 /強度, 強烈 /強烈
invitation 名詞	/ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/	邀請 /邀請
deliberately 副詞	/dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət.li/	故意, 蓄意
colleague 名詞	/ˈkɒliːɡ/	同事, 同僚
rescue 動詞	/ˈɹɛs.kjuː/	拯救, 救援
trick 名詞	/ˈtɹɪk/	詭計 /詭計, 騙術 /騙術
happiness 名詞	/ˈhæpinɪs/	幸福, 快樂 /快樂
horrible 形容詞	/ˈhɔɹ.ɪ.bəl/	可怕的, 可畏
commitment 名詞	/kəˈmɪtmənt/	承諾 /承諾
repair 動詞	/ˈɹiːpɛɚ/	修理
discover 動詞	/dɪˈskʌvə/	發現 /發現, 發覺 /發覺
refuse 動詞	/ɹɪˈfjuːz/	拒絕 /拒絕, 回絕 /回絕
genuine 形容詞	/ˈd͡ʒɛn.juˌɪn/	真正, 真誠 /真誠
regret 動詞	/ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/	後悔 /後悔, 遺憾 /遺憾
complaint 名詞	/kəmˈpleɪnt/	怨言, 抱怨

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	發音	釋義
grow up 動詞		長大 /長大
work out 動詞	/ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/	計算 /計算, 算出

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 11 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 we're, they're, aren't。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“th” 音: thereby /ðɛɹˈbaɪ/, theoretical /ˌθi.əˈɹɛt.ɪ.kəl/, enthusiastic /ɪnˌθjuːzɪˈæstɪk/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, aggression /əˈɡɹɛʃən/, exceptionally /ɪkˈsɛp(t)ʃənəli/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
長單詞——注意重音位置: intensity /ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, deliberately /dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət.li/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/

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先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 intensity, invitation, deliberately 這類單詞。

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