Shadowing Practice: Why We Should Refuse to Get Into Arguments - Learn English Speaking with Video
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However deep our theoretical commitment to serenity, in the course of an average day,
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we're likely to encounter a number of extremely well-crafted invitations to lose our tempers badly.
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Our partner will press a well-flagged nuclear button related, let's imagine, to their views on our mother or our career choice.
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At work, a colleague may deliberately not answer a very simple question to which we so urgently need an answer.
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A shop attendant may give us a bored, insolent shrug.
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Someone in the supermarket may falsely accuse us of standing in the wrong line.
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What we're apt to miss at such moments of blatant provocation, as we get swallowed up in fears of humiliation,
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illogicality and injustice, is just how much many people enjoy having arguments – indeed,
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crave them – in order to re-find their equilibrium and appease their psychic discomforts.
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We're tricked into imagining that there may be genuine issues that require a wholehearted engagement,
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but we thereby lose sight of the true psychological motivations at play.
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A person is trying to get us into a fight not because they have a sincere complaint against us,
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but because they're feeling overwhelmed by the intensity of their own aggression,
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which they hope to placate by spoiling a portion of our lives.
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By goading us into a battle, they're looking for a way to evacuate their fury into us, to use us as a receptacle for their emotional waste,
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to employ a skirmish with us to distract themselves from their own intractable conflicts and muted sorrows,
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to seduce us into joining them in their sadness and entanglements so that they might feel less alone and less bereft.
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We should resist such enthusiastic
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and subtly crafted invitations by recognizing them for what they are
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– attempts by the other party to rescue themselves from unbearable feelings.
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We might, if we are exceptionally generous, pity them for their despair.
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we don't in any way need to join them in their gladiatorial quests.
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What may at times provoke us to a particular pitch of
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excitement is a puzzlement as to why others are behaving as they are.
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Why on earth we wander in a strangled way?
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Have they once again mentioned something we implored them to leave alone?
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Why are they being almost deliberately slow or rude or surly?
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Why is someone who should be kind and thoughtful suddenly so offhand and cruel.
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There aren't any good reasons for this discord.
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It's just that our interlocutor is in a very bad way and has concluded,
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not incorrectly alas, that they may well feel significantly better once we've started to raise our voice,
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redden and call them horrible names we'll later regret with intensity.
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We should work out the clever game and refuse to play any further rounds of it, whether the invitee is our spouse,
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stranger, our child or colleague.
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We're not being kind by leaving them to it.
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We're not being pacific or eerily grown up.
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It's just there is so much else that needs our attention.
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We have to hold on to our thoughts, repair our wounds, appease our turmoils and discover our own roots to happiness.
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We must sidestep the many dragnets because we have so many other, truly more important things to do.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze video bevat 39 zinnen en 544 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 3:35. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 152 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. Slechts 75% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is pittig.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| craft zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈkɹæft/ | gewiekstheid |
| invitation zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/ | uitnodiging |
| deliberately bijwoord | /dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət.li/ | bewust, expres |
| colleague zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈkɒliːɡ/ | collega, medewerker |
| rescue werkwoord | /ˈɹɛs.kjuː/ | bevrijden, redden |
| badly bijwoord | /ˈbæd.li/ | slecht |
| happiness zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈhæpinɪs/ | blijheid, blijdschap |
| horrible bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈhɔɹ.ɪ.bəl/ | verschrikkelijk |
| commitment zelfstandig naamwoord | /kəˈmɪtmənt/ | verbintenis, verplichting |
| pitch zelfstandig naamwoord | /pɪt͡ʃ/ | worp |
| repair werkwoord | /ˈɹiːpɛɚ/ | herstellen, repareren |
| discover werkwoord | /dɪˈskʌvə/ | ontdekken |
| refuse werkwoord | /ɹɪˈfjuːz/ | weigeren, afslaan |
| genuine bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈd͡ʒɛn.juˌɪn/ | echt, authentiek |
| regret werkwoord | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | betreuren, spijten |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| grow up werkwoord | opgroeien | |
| work out werkwoord | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | uitrekenen |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 11 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals we're, they're, aren't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: thereby /ðɛɹˈbaɪ/, theoretical /ˌθi.əˈɹɛt.ɪ.kəl/, enthusiastic /ɪnˌθjuːzɪˈæstɪk/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, aggression /əˈɡɹɛʃən/, exceptionally /ɪkˈsɛp(t)ʃənəli/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: intensity /ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, deliberately /dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət.li/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als craft, invitation, deliberately.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.