Prática de Shadowing: Why We Should Refuse to Get Into Arguments - Aprenda a falar inglês com vídeo
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However deep our theoretical commitment to serenity, in the course of an average day,
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we're likely to encounter a number of extremely well-crafted invitations to lose our tempers badly.
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Our partner will press a well-flagged nuclear button related, let's imagine, to their views on our mother or our career choice.
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At work, a colleague may deliberately not answer a very simple question to which we so urgently need an answer.
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A shop attendant may give us a bored, insolent shrug.
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Someone in the supermarket may falsely accuse us of standing in the wrong line.
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What we're apt to miss at such moments of blatant provocation, as we get swallowed up in fears of humiliation,
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illogicality and injustice, is just how much many people enjoy having arguments – indeed,
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crave them – in order to re-find their equilibrium and appease their psychic discomforts.
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We're tricked into imagining that there may be genuine issues that require a wholehearted engagement,
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but we thereby lose sight of the true psychological motivations at play.
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A person is trying to get us into a fight not because they have a sincere complaint against us,
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but because they're feeling overwhelmed by the intensity of their own aggression,
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which they hope to placate by spoiling a portion of our lives.
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By goading us into a battle, they're looking for a way to evacuate their fury into us, to use us as a receptacle for their emotional waste,
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to employ a skirmish with us to distract themselves from their own intractable conflicts and muted sorrows,
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to seduce us into joining them in their sadness and entanglements so that they might feel less alone and less bereft.
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We should resist such enthusiastic
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and subtly crafted invitations by recognizing them for what they are
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– attempts by the other party to rescue themselves from unbearable feelings.
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We might, if we are exceptionally generous, pity them for their despair.
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we don't in any way need to join them in their gladiatorial quests.
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What may at times provoke us to a particular pitch of
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excitement is a puzzlement as to why others are behaving as they are.
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Why on earth we wander in a strangled way?
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Have they once again mentioned something we implored them to leave alone?
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Why are they being almost deliberately slow or rude or surly?
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Why is someone who should be kind and thoughtful suddenly so offhand and cruel.
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There aren't any good reasons for this discord.
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It's just that our interlocutor is in a very bad way and has concluded,
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not incorrectly alas, that they may well feel significantly better once we've started to raise our voice,
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redden and call them horrible names we'll later regret with intensity.
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We should work out the clever game and refuse to play any further rounds of it, whether the invitee is our spouse,
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stranger, our child or colleague.
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We're not being kind by leaving them to it.
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We're not being pacific or eerily grown up.
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It's just there is so much else that needs our attention.
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We have to hold on to our thoughts, repair our wounds, appease our turmoils and discover our own roots to happiness.
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We must sidestep the many dragnets because we have so many other, truly more important things to do.
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Vocabulário e dicas de fala para esta lição
Este vídeo tem 39 frases e 544 palavras para praticar shadowing. A fala dura 3:35. O falante fala em ritmo natural, cerca de 152 palavras por minuto, próximo de uma conversa do dia a dia. Apenas 75% das palavras estão entre as 3.000 mais comuns do inglês, por isso o vocabulário é exigente.
Vocabulário principal deste vídeo
15 palavras do vídeo que vale a pena aprender, com pronúncia e significado:
| Palavra | Pronúncia | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| craft substantivo | /ˈkɹæft/ | engenhosidade |
| intensity substantivo | /ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/ | intensidade |
| invitation substantivo | /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/ | convite, invitação |
| deliberately advérbio | /dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət.li/ | deliberadamente |
| colleague substantivo | /ˈkɒliːɡ/ | colega |
| rescue verbo | /ˈɹɛs.kjuː/ | resgatar, salvar |
| trick substantivo | /ˈtɹɪk/ | artimanha, truque |
| badly advérbio | /ˈbæd.li/ | mal |
| happiness substantivo | /ˈhæpinɪs/ | felicidade, alegria |
| horrible adjetivo | /ˈhɔɹ.ɪ.bəl/ | horrível |
| commitment substantivo | /kəˈmɪtmənt/ | compromisso, promessa |
| pitch substantivo | /pɪt͡ʃ/ | arremesso |
| repair verbo | /ˈɹiːpɛɚ/ | reparar |
| discover verbo | /dɪˈskʌvə/ | descobrir |
| refuse verbo | /ɹɪˈfjuːz/ | recusar |
Phrasal verbs que você vai ouvir
| Palavra | Pronúncia | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| grow up verbo | crescer | |
| work out verbo | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | calcular |
Pronúncia para ficar de olho
O falante usa 11 contrações e formas reduzidas, como we're, they're, aren't. Diga-as na forma curta, do jeito que você ouve.
- Os sons de “th”: thereby /ðɛɹˈbaɪ/, theoretical /ˌθi.əˈɹɛt.ɪ.kəl/, enthusiastic /ɪnˌθjuːzɪˈæstɪk/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/
- Os sons de “sh” e “zh”: invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, aggression /əˈɡɹɛʃən/, exceptionally /ɪkˈsɛp(t)ʃənəli/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
- Palavras longas — acerte a sílaba tônica: intensity /ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, deliberately /dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət.li/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/
Como praticar com este vídeo
- Ouça o vídeo inteiro uma vez sem falar e anote as palavras que você não conhece.
- Comece na velocidade 0,75×, faça shadowing frase por frase e volte à velocidade normal quando ficar fácil.
- Grave a sua voz e compare com o original, prestando atenção a palavras como craft, intensity, invitation.
O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing é uma técnica de aprendizado de idiomas com base científica, originalmente desenvolvida para o treinamento de intérpretes profissionais. O método é simples, mas poderoso: você ouve áudio em inglês nativo e repete imediatamente em voz alta — como uma sombra seguindo o falante com 1-2 segundos de atraso. Pesquisas mostram melhora significativa na precisão da pronúncia, entonação, ritmo, sons conectados, compreensão auditiva e fluência na fala.