쉐도잉 연습: Why We Should Refuse to Get Into Arguments - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기

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However deep our theoretical commitment to serenity, in the course of an average day,
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we're likely to encounter a number of extremely well-crafted invitations to lose our tempers badly.
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Our partner will press a well-flagged nuclear button related, let's imagine, to their views on our mother or our career choice.
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At work, a colleague may deliberately not answer a very simple question to which we so urgently need an answer.
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A shop attendant may give us a bored, insolent shrug.
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Someone in the supermarket may falsely accuse us of standing in the wrong line.
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What we're apt to miss at such moments of blatant provocation, as we get swallowed up in fears of humiliation,
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illogicality and injustice, is just how much many people enjoy having arguments – indeed,
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crave them – in order to re-find their equilibrium and appease their psychic discomforts.
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We're tricked into imagining that there may be genuine issues that require a wholehearted engagement,
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but we thereby lose sight of the true psychological motivations at play.
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A person is trying to get us into a fight not because they have a sincere complaint against us,
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but because they're feeling overwhelmed by the intensity of their own aggression,
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which they hope to placate by spoiling a portion of our lives.
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By goading us into a battle, they're looking for a way to evacuate their fury into us, to use us as a receptacle for their emotional waste,
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to employ a skirmish with us to distract themselves from their own intractable conflicts and muted sorrows,
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to seduce us into joining them in their sadness and entanglements so that they might feel less alone and less bereft.
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We should resist such enthusiastic
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and subtly crafted invitations by recognizing them for what they are
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– attempts by the other party to rescue themselves from unbearable feelings.
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We might, if we are exceptionally generous, pity them for their despair.
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we don't in any way need to join them in their gladiatorial quests.
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What may at times provoke us to a particular pitch of
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excitement is a puzzlement as to why others are behaving as they are.
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Why on earth we wander in a strangled way?
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Have they once again mentioned something we implored them to leave alone?
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Why are they being almost deliberately slow or rude or surly?
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Why is someone who should be kind and thoughtful suddenly so offhand and cruel.
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There aren't any good reasons for this discord.
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It's just that our interlocutor is in a very bad way and has concluded,
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not incorrectly alas, that they may well feel significantly better once we've started to raise our voice,
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redden and call them horrible names we'll later regret with intensity.
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We should work out the clever game and refuse to play any further rounds of it, whether the invitee is our spouse,
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stranger, our child or colleague.
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We're not being kind by leaving them to it.
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We're not being pacific or eerily grown up.
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It's just there is so much else that needs our attention.
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We have to hold on to our thoughts, repair our wounds, appease our turmoils and discover our own roots to happiness.
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We must sidestep the many dragnets because we have so many other, truly more important things to do.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트

이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 39개와 단어 544개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 3:35입니다. 화자는 분당 약 152단어로, 일상 대화에 가까운 자연스러운 속도로 말합니다. 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속하는 단어가 75%뿐이라 어휘가 어려운 편입니다.

이 영상의 핵심 어휘

영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어발음뜻
intensity 명사/ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/강도
invitation 명사/ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/초대
colleague 명사/ˈkɒliːɡ/동료, 동업자
rescue 동사/ˈɹɛs.kjuː/구하다, 구출하다
badly 부사/ˈbæd.li/나쁘게, 서투르게
happiness 명사/ˈhæpinɪs/행복, 기쁨
horrible 형용사/ˈhɔɹ.ɪ.bəl/끔찍하다
pitch 명사/pɪt͡ʃ/투구
repair 동사/ˈɹiːpɛɚ/고치다, 수리하다
discover 동사/dɪˈskʌvə/발견하다
refuse 동사/ɹɪˈfjuːz/거절하다
genuine 형용사/ˈd͡ʒɛn.juˌɪn/성실하다, 진짜의
regret 동사/ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/후회하다
complaint 명사/kəmˈpleɪnt/불평, 불만
quest 명사/kwɛst/탐색, 탐구

주의할 발음

화자는 we're, they're, aren't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 11번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

  • “th” 소리: thereby /ðɛɹˈbaɪ/, theoretical /ˌθi.əˈɹɛt.ɪ.kəl/, enthusiastic /ɪnˌθjuːzɪˈæstɪk/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/
  • “sh”와 “zh” 소리: invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, aggression /əˈɡɹɛʃən/, exceptionally /ɪkˈsɛp(t)ʃənəli/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
  • 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: intensity /ɪnˈtɛnsɪti/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, deliberately /dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət.li/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/

이 영상으로 연습하는 방법

  1. 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
  2. 0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
  3. 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, intensity, invitation, colleague 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법

쉐도잉(Shadowing)은 원래 전문 통역사 훈련을 위해 개발된 언어 학습 기법으로, 다언어 학자인 Dr. Alexander Arguelles에 의해 대중화된 방법입니다. 핵심 원리는 간단하지만 매우 강력합니다: 원어민의 영어를 들으면서 1~2초의 짧은 지연으로 즉시 소리 내어 따라 말하는 것——마치 '그림자(shadow)'처럼 화자를 따라가는 것입니다. 문법 공부나 수동적인 청취와 달리, 쉐도잉은 뇌와 입 근육이 동시에 실시간으로 영어를 처리하고 재현하도록 훈련합니다. 연구에 따르면 이 방법은 발음 정확도, 억양, 리듬, 연음, 청취력, 말하기 유창성을 크게 향상시킵니다. IELTS 스피킹 준비와 자연스러운 영어 소통을 원하는 분들에게 특히 효과적입니다.

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