쉐도잉 연습: How To Get Over Rejection - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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Being dropped. It will happen to us all, at some point.
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So negotiating the pain with a measure of reason belongs to the art of living.
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A number of tips suggest themselves.
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Firstly... don't attempt to minimize what's happened.
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Being 'brave' has no place here.
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Allow your sadness so much room, so much time, so many melancholic songs, hot baths and indulgent meals you eventually bore yourself back into an appetite for life.
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Secondly... believe them when they said it.
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Don’t imagine that their past sweetness and kind words provides any covert indications of future commitment.
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Kill any remaining hope yourself, if they didn’t quite have the courage to do so themselves.
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Don’t imagine that anyone can love on command.
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The capacity to feel attracted lies outside the will.
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It isn’t a question of them not trying hard enough.
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Remove morality from it: they were not being ‘bad’ for not loving, and nor were you ‘good’ for wanting them.
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You were both on search for pleasure that took you down different and conflicting routes.
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Our conscious minds ride like tiny boats on the swells of unconscious psychoanalytic and biological seas.
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So don’t turn this into a morality tale.
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They acted weirdly around the break up not because they were bad or – indeed – unsure.
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They just felt terribly guilty... because they're nice.
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Which doesn’t, though, mean that they want you.
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Many of us are predisposed to think especially well of people who don’t want us.
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It feeds into our reserves of self-hatred.
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But this isn’t romanticism, it’s an illness.
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The true challenge is to stop being so revolted by people who do in fact want us and so admiring of those who don’t.
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Think back to when you rejected people: you didn’t hate them or regret them.
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The chief emotions were embarrassment and pity.
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Don’t connect up the rejection with everything you fear and hate about being you.
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Don’t accuse them of cowardice.
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Don’t exaggerate their qualities.
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Don't insist on their uniqueness.
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Don't offer them sex in the hope of changing their mind.
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Don't imagine that people can fall back in love with someone out of pity or of guilt.
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And don't defensively maintain that they had a ‘fear of intimacy’.
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Just try to laugh. And have a few rounds of casual sex, if that helps.
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But above all, don’t keep thinking of the end of this relationship as tragically sad.
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The only good relationship, the only relationship worth mourning, would be one to which two people desperately wanted to belong.
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And this wasn’t – in the end – despite all the promising signs – that kind of relationship... at all.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 36개와 단어 438개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 3:01입니다. 화자는 분당 약 146단어의 일정한 속도로 말해서 섀도잉하기에 편한 속도입니다. 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속하는 단어가 81%뿐이라 어휘가 어려운 편입니다.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| belong 동사 | /bɪˈlɒŋ/ | 속하다 |
| pity 명사 | /ˈpɪt.i/ | 동정 |
| morality 명사 | /məˈɹælɪti/ | 도덕 |
| meal 명사 | /ˈmiːl/ | 끼니, 밥 |
| bath 명사 | /bɑːθ/ | 욕조 |
| illness 명사 | /ˈɪl.nəs/ | 질병, 병 |
| connect 동사 | /kəˈnɛkt/ | 잇다, 연결하다 |
| regret 동사 | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | 후회하다 |
| brave 형용사 | /bɹeɪv/ | 용감하다 |
| courage 명사 | /ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/ | 용기 |
| biological 형용사 | /ˌbaɪ.əˈlɑ.d͡ʒɪ.kəl/ | 생물학의 |
| tale 명사 | /ˈteɪl/ | 이야기 |
| attract 동사 | /əˈtɹækt/ | 끌다, 끌어들이다 |
| emotion 명사 | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | 감정 |
| guilt 명사 | /ɡɪlt/ | 죄, 유죄 |
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | Being dropped · are predisposed |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | people who don · people who do |
주의할 발음
화자는 don't, didn't, isn't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 21번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: casual /ˈkæʒ(u)əl/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/, negotiate /nəˈɡəʊ.ʃi.eɪt/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: morality /məˈɹælɪti/, biological /ˌbaɪ.əˈlɑ.d͡ʒɪ.kəl/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/, negotiate /nəˈɡəʊ.ʃi.eɪt/, desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 보통 속도로 한 문장씩 섀도잉하고, 화자의 리듬과 맞을 때까지 반복합니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, belong, pity, morality 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법
쉐도잉(Shadowing)은 원래 전문 통역사 훈련을 위해 개발된 언어 학습 기법으로, 다언어 학자인 Dr. Alexander Arguelles에 의해 대중화된 방법입니다. 핵심 원리는 간단하지만 매우 강력합니다: 원어민의 영어를 들으면서 1~2초의 짧은 지연으로 즉시 소리 내어 따라 말하는 것——마치 '그림자(shadow)'처럼 화자를 따라가는 것입니다. 문법 공부나 수동적인 청취와 달리, 쉐도잉은 뇌와 입 근육이 동시에 실시간으로 영어를 처리하고 재현하도록 훈련합니다. 연구에 따르면 이 방법은 발음 정확도, 억양, 리듬, 연음, 청취력, 말하기 유창성을 크게 향상시킵니다. IELTS 스피킹 준비와 자연스러운 영어 소통을 원하는 분들에게 특히 효과적입니다.