跟读练习: How To Get Over Rejection - 通过视频学习英语口语
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Being dropped. It will happen to us all, at some point.
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So negotiating the pain with a measure of reason belongs to the art of living.
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A number of tips suggest themselves.
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Firstly... don't attempt to minimize what's happened.
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Being 'brave' has no place here.
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Allow your sadness so much room, so much time, so many melancholic songs, hot baths and indulgent meals you eventually bore yourself back into an appetite for life.
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Secondly... believe them when they said it.
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Don’t imagine that their past sweetness and kind words provides any covert indications of future commitment.
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Kill any remaining hope yourself, if they didn’t quite have the courage to do so themselves.
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Don’t imagine that anyone can love on command.
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The capacity to feel attracted lies outside the will.
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It isn’t a question of them not trying hard enough.
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Remove morality from it: they were not being ‘bad’ for not loving, and nor were you ‘good’ for wanting them.
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You were both on search for pleasure that took you down different and conflicting routes.
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Our conscious minds ride like tiny boats on the swells of unconscious psychoanalytic and biological seas.
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So don’t turn this into a morality tale.
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They acted weirdly around the break up not because they were bad or – indeed – unsure.
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They just felt terribly guilty... because they're nice.
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Which doesn’t, though, mean that they want you.
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Many of us are predisposed to think especially well of people who don’t want us.
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It feeds into our reserves of self-hatred.
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But this isn’t romanticism, it’s an illness.
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The true challenge is to stop being so revolted by people who do in fact want us and so admiring of those who don’t.
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Think back to when you rejected people: you didn’t hate them or regret them.
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The chief emotions were embarrassment and pity.
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Don’t connect up the rejection with everything you fear and hate about being you.
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Don’t accuse them of cowardice.
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Don’t exaggerate their qualities.
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Don't insist on their uniqueness.
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Don't offer them sex in the hope of changing their mind.
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Don't imagine that people can fall back in love with someone out of pity or of guilt.
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And don't defensively maintain that they had a ‘fear of intimacy’.
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Just try to laugh. And have a few rounds of casual sex, if that helps.
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But above all, don’t keep thinking of the end of this relationship as tragically sad.
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The only good relationship, the only relationship worth mourning, would be one to which two people desperately wanted to belong.
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And this wasn’t – in the end – despite all the promising signs – that kind of relationship... at all.
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这段视频共有 36 个句子、438 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 3:01。 说话人语速平稳，每分钟约 146 个词，很适合跟读。 只有 81% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇难度较高。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| belong 动词 | /bɪˈlɒŋ/ | 屬於 /属于 |
| pity 名词 | /ˈpɪt.i/ | 憐憫 /怜悯 |
| morality 名词 | /məˈɹælɪti/ | 道德 |
| meal 名词 | /ˈmiːl/ | 餐, 飯 /饭 |
| bath 名词 | /bɑːθ/ | 浴缸, 浴盆 |
| commitment 名词 | /kəˈmɪtmənt/ | 承諾 /承诺 |
| illness 名词 | /ˈɪl.nəs/ | 疾病, 病症 |
| connect 动词 | /kəˈnɛkt/ | 連接 /连接 |
| regret 动词 | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | 後悔 /后悔, 遺憾 /遗憾 |
| brave 形容词 | /bɹeɪv/ | 勇敢 |
| courage 名词 | /ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/ | 勇氣 /勇气, 膽量 /胆量 |
| biological 形容词 | /ˌbaɪ.əˈlɑ.d͡ʒɪ.kəl/ | 生物 |
| tale 名词 | /ˈteɪl/ | 故事, 神話 /神话 |
| attract 动词 | /əˈtɹækt/ | 吸引 |
| emotion 名词 | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | 感情, 情感 |
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的 | Being dropped · are predisposed |
| 定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物 | people who don · people who do |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 21 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 don't, didn't, isn't。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: casual /ˈkæʒ(u)əl/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/, negotiate /nəˈɡəʊ.ʃi.eɪt/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: morality /məˈɹælɪti/, biological /ˌbaɪ.əˈlɑ.d͡ʒɪ.kəl/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/, negotiate /nəˈɡəʊ.ʃi.eɪt/, desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 用正常速度逐句跟读，每句重复到你的节奏与说话人一致为止。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 belong, pity, morality 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。