Pratique du Shadowing: How To Get Over Rejection - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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Being dropped. It will happen to us all, at some point.
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So negotiating the pain with a measure of reason belongs to the art of living.
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A number of tips suggest themselves.
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Firstly... don't attempt to minimize what's happened.
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Being 'brave' has no place here.
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Allow your sadness so much room, so much time, so many melancholic songs, hot baths and indulgent meals you eventually bore yourself back into an appetite for life.
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Secondly... believe them when they said it.
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Don’t imagine that their past sweetness and kind words provides any covert indications of future commitment.
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Kill any remaining hope yourself, if they didn’t quite have the courage to do so themselves.
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Don’t imagine that anyone can love on command.
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The capacity to feel attracted lies outside the will.
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It isn’t a question of them not trying hard enough.
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Remove morality from it: they were not being ‘bad’ for not loving, and nor were you ‘good’ for wanting them.
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You were both on search for pleasure that took you down different and conflicting routes.
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Our conscious minds ride like tiny boats on the swells of unconscious psychoanalytic and biological seas.
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So don’t turn this into a morality tale.
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They acted weirdly around the break up not because they were bad or – indeed – unsure.
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They just felt terribly guilty... because they're nice.
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Which doesn’t, though, mean that they want you.
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Many of us are predisposed to think especially well of people who don’t want us.
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It feeds into our reserves of self-hatred.
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But this isn’t romanticism, it’s an illness.
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The true challenge is to stop being so revolted by people who do in fact want us and so admiring of those who don’t.
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Think back to when you rejected people: you didn’t hate them or regret them.
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The chief emotions were embarrassment and pity.
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Don’t connect up the rejection with everything you fear and hate about being you.
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Don’t accuse them of cowardice.
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Don’t exaggerate their qualities.
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Don't insist on their uniqueness.
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Don't offer them sex in the hope of changing their mind.
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Don't imagine that people can fall back in love with someone out of pity or of guilt.
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And don't defensively maintain that they had a ‘fear of intimacy’.
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Just try to laugh. And have a few rounds of casual sex, if that helps.
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But above all, don’t keep thinking of the end of this relationship as tragically sad.
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The only good relationship, the only relationship worth mourning, would be one to which two people desperately wanted to belong.
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And this wasn’t – in the end – despite all the promising signs – that kind of relationship... at all.
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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon
Cette vidéo contient 36 phrases et 438 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 3:01. Le locuteur parle à un rythme régulier d’environ 146 mots par minute, confortable pour le shadowing. Seuls 81 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais, le vocabulaire est donc exigeant.
Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo
15 mots de la vidéo à retenir, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| belong verbe | /bɪˈlɒŋ/ | avoir sa place |
| pity nom | /ˈpɪt.i/ | compassion, pitié |
| morality nom | /məˈɹælɪti/ | moralité |
| meal nom | /ˈmiːl/ | repas |
| bath nom | /bɑːθ/ | bain, baignoire |
| commitment nom | /kəˈmɪtmənt/ | engagement |
| illness nom | /ˈɪl.nəs/ | maladie |
| connect verbe | /kəˈnɛkt/ | accoupler, connecter |
| regret verbe | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | regretter |
| brave adjectif | /bɹeɪv/ | courageux |
| courage nom | /ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/ | bravoure, courage |
| biological adjectif | /ˌbaɪ.əˈlɑ.d͡ʒɪ.kəl/ | biologique |
| tale nom | /ˈteɪl/ | conte |
| casual adjectif | /ˈkæʒ(u)əl/ | fortuit, accidentel |
| attract verbe | /əˈtɹækt/ | attirer |
Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez
| Mot | Sens |
|---|---|
| break up verbe | rompre, couper |
La grammaire de cette vidéo
Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :
| Structure | Dans la vidéo |
|---|---|
| Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le fait | Being dropped · are predisposed |
| Propositions relatives who / which + proposition — une précision sur une personne ou une chose | people who don · people who do |
Prononciation à surveiller
Le locuteur utilise 21 contractions et formes réduites, comme don't, didn't, isn't. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.
- Les sons « sh » et « zh »: casual /ˈkæʒ(u)əl/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/, negotiate /nəˈɡəʊ.ʃi.eɪt/
- Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: morality /məˈɹælɪti/, biological /ˌbaɪ.əˈlɑ.d͡ʒɪ.kəl/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/, negotiate /nəˈɡəʊ.ʃi.eɪt/, desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/
Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo
- Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
- Répétez phrase par phrase à vitesse normale, en reprenant chacune jusqu’à ce que votre rythme corresponde à celui du locuteur.
- Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme belong, pity, morality.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.