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These days, you can't get anywhere without having a big argument about identity politics.
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I'm this, you're that, I'm a Democrat, you're Republican, I'm a liberal, you're conservative, whatever it happens to be.
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And those sorts of identities are critically important.
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A lot of people in business, they shy away from those identity politics discussions, but they have identity politics all their own.
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They have an identity as a successful person.
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They have an identity that revolves around their excellence in their job.
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Who are you?
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You know, I'm a father and a grandfather, I'm a husband, you know.
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But when people ask me that question, I say I'm a professor at the Harvard Business School.
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Why?
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Because that's my identity.
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Okay, that's a way to identify myself to be sure, but if that's how I see me,
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that's a real problem, isn't it? strips away the really important things that I have in my life.
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For those who see their identity as being a successful professional, specifically successful, that's kind of an identity based on fear, isn't it?
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We all have fears.
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I mean, I have fears.
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It's normal to be afraid of things.
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But a fear of an attack on your identity, that's actually a death fear.
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That's important.
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Only 20% of the population is actually afraid of dying.
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And a lot of people who are really good at what they do, a lot of my students, a lot of the people watching this, they're desperately afraid of failing at work.
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And that leads to a lot of behavior that's not very healthy, as a matter of fact.
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That kind of a stripped down, cardboard cutout version of one's self, which is not good for you, it's not good for your relationships.
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People ask me this all the time who are extremely successful in business, as a matter of fact, who are afraid of failure, and they say, look, I need to get over this, but I don't want to fail.
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What do you recommend?
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I actually have an exercise for that.
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It's called the Maranasati Death Meditation, adapted for professional failure.
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It actually comes from Theravada Buddhism on the southern tier of Asia, of Asia where the Buddhists would practice a contemplation of their own death.
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If you go into a Buddhist monastery in Thailand or Vietnam or Myanmar,
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Sri Lanka, you'll often find that the walls are adorned with photos of corpses in different states of decay.
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And you're like, wow, that's really morbid.
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It's not, it turns out.
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What happens is that the monks and nuns will contemplate those photos and they will look at each one and say, that is me, and that is me.
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And they'll go through this Marnasati, nine-part death meditation, where they contemplate different stages of a body and a body in different states of decomposition.
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They'll say, that's me.
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That's going to be me.
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That's me.
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Why?
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Because they're exposing themselves to the truth of their own mortality such
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that they can transcend it and actually be fully alive right now.
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You see how healthy that is, right?
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Well, for people who are desperately afraid of the death of their identity as a successful person,
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they need to be exposed to that reality as well.
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Because the truth of the matter is, I don't care who's watching this.
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I don't care how successful you are.
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The party's going to finish, man.
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It's not going to last forever.
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And you have to be comfortable with that
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so you can fully be alive and involved in what's going on in your life today.
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Otherwise, you'll be immobilized by the fear of something that paradoxically is the most normal,
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most predictable thing in your whole life.
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Which is that this is going to stop.
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I recommend putting together a little nine-part meditation where you say, starting off saying, I feel like I'm losing my edge at work.
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I don't know.
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You know, my decision making isn't as crisp as it once was.
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And people are starting to notice it.
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Step two might be, people are starting to make remarks about the fact that I'm losing a step.
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Step three might be, I'm thinking the board is starting to talk about my replacement.
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And they're not including me in the discussions.
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Step four is, I'm pretty sure that the end is coming for my career.
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I'm pretty sure.
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I don't want it to come, but I'm pretty sure it's coming.
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Step five is, I've just gotten the word that I have to retire, even though it's not what I wanted to do.
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Step six might be, yeah, I kind of got forced out.
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And the worst part is, I don't think people remember me for what I used to do.
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They just think of me as the guy who got, they got forced out of the job.
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Step seven is, I just went back to my workplace and it's only six months, but a lot of people are new and they didn't know who I am.
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Step eight is I moved away, you know, and now the people that I talk to, they just think of me as a retired person.
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They don't even ask about what I used to do.
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And step nine might be most days I don't even think about what I used to do.
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I'm just living a different life at this point.
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Now, I realize that sounds really negative, but it isn't.
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But it isn't.
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It's normal.
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Think about those things for two minutes each.
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Do that for three weeks and you'll be a different person.
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Why?
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Not because you failed.
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That's not even failure, by the way.
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It's normal life.
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You will no longer be afraid.
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You will no longer be afraid of these things actually happening to you
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because they will have happened to you in your mind.
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They will have happened to you in your heart.
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And you'll be comfortable with the fact that you have a trajectory of your success and the value you're trying to create.
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And when it's over, you're going to submit because that's the only choice.
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And then, then you'll be at peace.
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Everybody needs to manage their own life like a project and understand that your skills and interests are going to change.
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To do things on purpose, to recognize that the good times are not going to last forever
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and you have to engineer new good times under different circumstances.
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That's now what I talk about with people who are getting older
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and that's the advice I'm taking for myself and I don't know.
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I'm actually at peace for the first time in a long time.
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