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as a social scientist I'm intensely interested in addictive behaviors a lot of people watching

this video right now they're watching it because they want an edge

and that's great I admire that you're strivers so am I

but strivers in the striving process

they open themselves up to one of the most deleterious addictive behaviors known to mankind and that's workaholism people

People will work hard, it will create dysfunction in their relationships, they will exhibit hiding behavior where they're sneaking around.

You don't believe it?

Well, ask yourself, do you sometimes sneak into the bathroom to check your email, your work email?

Do you snap shut your laptop computer on a Sunday afternoon when your partner comes home?

Yeah, yeah, well you're doing it too.

People get defensive when people question how much they're working, well that's classic addictive behavior.

Now, I have found in my own work that workaholism actually isn't the primary addiction.

It's a secondary addiction.

The primary addiction for most strivers is an addiction to success.

Success is achieving something of merit and being rewarded for it.

Many strivers, many of my students, me, look, I'm guilty here.

We feel fully alive when amazing things are happening and we're able to create value.

And we don't feel fully alive when we're not doing those things, quite frankly.

It's a real reward to see something come to fruition, to get that deal, to finish that book in my case,

to teach a class that goes incredibly well, to get that compliment.

A lot of that success addiction behavior is neurophysiological as a matter of fact.

You find that people actually get dopamine in a way, that's a neuromodulator that's implicated in all forms of human addiction,

that they get dopamine specifically when they feel that they're succeeding at work.

And while they keep seeking those rewards, they keep seeking success, and seeking success is hard.

You have to excel, and you have to excel compared to other people, and that means you need to outwork other people,

and that leads to the work addiction.

The underlying problem is success addiction.

Behind that, there's actually something even more profound, which is a tendency to reduce yourself to nothing more than a success machine.

That's a problem.

That's a moral problem, as a matter of fact you're more than a success machine.

You're not a robot.

Neither am I.

But when you see yourself as the most excellent person, so very special, you've objectified yourself.

You've taken away a big piece of your humanity.

Here's basically how I sum this up.

If you're exhibiting workaholic behavior, you need to deal with it.

But then the next question is, okay, how do I stop?

How do I stop?

Is there a 12 -step program?

Is there some detox center that I can get into?

And the answer

The answer is no, although a lot of people do need to seek help from mental health professionals for this.

The answer to this is to actually build your team on

the people who are going to give you the opportunities to do things that are actually more satisfying than that.

You need to actually take the people that you love the most and that perhaps you've been neglecting and ask them,

what do you think I should do?

What do you actually think I should do instead of that?

But for workaholics, the primary relationship, love relationship in their life is with work.

That's not a good love relationship because work can't really love you back.

Work takes.

Work doesn't give.

That means usually you need to cultivate the relationships with the people that really can love you back.

Who are these people?

Well, I recommend that people actually start to develop a serious spiritual life, a serious spiritual practice, whether it's a religious experience or not

that depends on different people maybe

that means reading the wisdom literature getting in touch with the stoic philosophers

you know studying the works of Johann Sebastian Bach I don't know going back to the faith of your youth

but something that gives you a relationship with the divine people who are married is doubling

and tripling down on the on the metaphysical beauty that actually can

and should be your marital relationship that might be the first time in years you've actually been able to work on that.

With your children, that was a big one for me, I'm telling you.

I mean, I can't tell you the number of times

that I spent that 14th hour in the office instead of my first hour with my kids when they were little.

Why?

Because I had to be special instead of happy, right?

Workaholic special, that's for sure.

And they got, you know, they got revenge.

You know what they did?

They grew up and I wasn't there for a lot of it.

Well, now, now it's not going to be that way.

I have deeper friendships than I ever had before, and I recommend that people actually start to develop these real friendships.

You know, the problem that CEOs have is they have lots of deal friends, but not that many real friends.

Deal and real.

You know the difference.

Deal friends are incredibly useful.

Real friends are useless.

They're just people who love you.

Cultivating those friendships can be the most exciting adventure that you've had in a really, really long time.

The bottom line is basically this.

What substitutes for work?

The answer is love with humans.

That's what it comes down to.

Because happiness is love, full stop.

Okay, how?

Give me the algorithm, man.

And I get it, you know, I want that too.

And so I do have a lot of rules of thumb that I suggest.

Real friendship has to extend beyond your spouse, for example.

So real friends are people that you just love.

You don't need anything from them and they don't need anything from you.

You really are not going to be getting the benefit

that you need from your relationships if your only real friend is your spouse.

And that's typically the case with a lot of strivers.

So making real friendship, what we call companion and love with a spouse is critically important, but you need at least one more.

At least one more person.

And so working on that is critically important.

Only one more is, it might be the right number for introverts.

Extroverts, on the other hand, need more friends than that.

Start with your spouse, if you're married, then move on to one or two

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or three people with whom you can make a real connection and start investing in that relationship.

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And that means if, you know, that person lives in Atlanta, get on the plane, man get on the plane.

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Say, let's go do something for half a day.

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What do you say?

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And they'll be like, you're coming here to do that, to see me?

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You're like, yep, it'll be super fun.

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I guarantee that you actually do that.

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But that's where the investment starts.

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And those are the numbers that we're trying to talk about.

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And anybody can do that.

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영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
addiction 명사	/əˈdɪkˌʃən/	중독, 탐닉
friendship 명사	/ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/	우정, 우의
spouse 명사	/spaʊ̯s/	배우자
reward 명사	/ɹɪˈwɔɹd/	상, 보수
spiritual 형용사	/ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/	정신적, 정신의
excel 동사	/ɪkˈsɛl/	뛰어나다
adventure 명사	/ədˈvɛn.t͡ʃə/	어드벤처, 모험
compare 동사	/kəmˈpɛɚ/	비교하다, 비유하다
guarantee 명사	/ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/	보증
happiness 명사	/ˈhæpinɪs/	행복, 기쁨
humanity 명사	/hjuˈmænɪti/	인류, 인간
triple 형용사	/ˈtɹɪp.əl/	삼중
wisdom 명사	/ˈwɪzdəm/	지혜, 슬기
revenge 명사	/ɹəˈvɛnd͡ʒ/	복수, 보복
robot 명사	/ˈɹoʊ.bɑt/	로봇, 인조인간

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You don't believe it?
You've taken away a big piece of your humanity.
Here's basically how I sum this up.
How do I stop?
You know what they did?

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문형	영상 속 표현
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	have found · you've objectified · You've taken
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	profound, which is · people who are · people who love

주의할 발음

화자는 you're, don't, they're 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 36번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“th” 소리: algorithm /ˈælɡəɹɪðm̩/, thumb /ˈθʌm/
“sh”와 “zh” 소리: addiction /əˈdɪkˌʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, dysfunction /dɪsˈfʌŋk.ʃən/, fruition /fɹuˈɪʃən/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, critically /ˈkɹɪt.ɪ.kə.li/, humanity /hjuˈmænɪti/, philosopher /fəˈlɑsəfɚ/, deleterious /ˌdɛ.ləˈtɪɹ.i.əs/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, frankly /fɹæŋkli/, satisfy /ˈsætɪsfaɪ/, profound /pɹəˈfaʊnd/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: addictive /əˈdɪktɪv/, adventure /ədˈvɛn.t͡ʃə/, defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, invest /ɪnˈvɛst/, revenge /ɹəˈvɛnd͡ʒ/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: exhibit /ɪɡˈzɪbɪt/, wisdom /ˈwɪzdəm/, metaphysical /ˌmɛtəˈfɪzɪkəl/

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