शैडोइंग अभ्यास: Fighting Workaholism: You Are Not a Success Machine - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें

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as a social scientist I'm intensely interested in addictive behaviors a lot of people watching

this video right now they're watching it because they want an edge

and that's great I admire that you're strivers so am I

but strivers in the striving process

they open themselves up to one of the most deleterious addictive behaviors known to mankind and that's workaholism people

People will work hard, it will create dysfunction in their relationships, they will exhibit hiding behavior where they're sneaking around.

You don't believe it?

Well, ask yourself, do you sometimes sneak into the bathroom to check your email, your work email?

Do you snap shut your laptop computer on a Sunday afternoon when your partner comes home?

Yeah, yeah, well you're doing it too.

People get defensive when people question how much they're working, well that's classic addictive behavior.

Now, I have found in my own work that workaholism actually isn't the primary addiction.

It's a secondary addiction.

The primary addiction for most strivers is an addiction to success.

Success is achieving something of merit and being rewarded for it.

Many strivers, many of my students, me, look, I'm guilty here.

We feel fully alive when amazing things are happening and we're able to create value.

And we don't feel fully alive when we're not doing those things, quite frankly.

It's a real reward to see something come to fruition, to get that deal, to finish that book in my case,

to teach a class that goes incredibly well, to get that compliment.

A lot of that success addiction behavior is neurophysiological as a matter of fact.

You find that people actually get dopamine in a way, that's a neuromodulator that's implicated in all forms of human addiction,

that they get dopamine specifically when they feel that they're succeeding at work.

And while they keep seeking those rewards, they keep seeking success, and seeking success is hard.

You have to excel, and you have to excel compared to other people, and that means you need to outwork other people,

and that leads to the work addiction.

The underlying problem is success addiction.

Behind that, there's actually something even more profound, which is a tendency to reduce yourself to nothing more than a success machine.

That's a problem.

That's a moral problem, as a matter of fact you're more than a success machine.

You're not a robot.

Neither am I.

But when you see yourself as the most excellent person, so very special, you've objectified yourself.

You've taken away a big piece of your humanity.

Here's basically how I sum this up.

If you're exhibiting workaholic behavior, you need to deal with it.

But then the next question is, okay, how do I stop?

How do I stop?

Is there a 12 -step program?

Is there some detox center that I can get into?

And the answer

The answer is no, although a lot of people do need to seek help from mental health professionals for this.

The answer to this is to actually build your team on

the people who are going to give you the opportunities to do things that are actually more satisfying than that.

You need to actually take the people that you love the most and that perhaps you've been neglecting and ask them,

what do you think I should do?

What do you actually think I should do instead of that?

But for workaholics, the primary relationship, love relationship in their life is with work.

That's not a good love relationship because work can't really love you back.

Work takes.

Work doesn't give.

That means usually you need to cultivate the relationships with the people that really can love you back.

Who are these people?

Well, I recommend that people actually start to develop a serious spiritual life, a serious spiritual practice, whether it's a religious experience or not

that depends on different people maybe

that means reading the wisdom literature getting in touch with the stoic philosophers

you know studying the works of Johann Sebastian Bach I don't know going back to the faith of your youth

but something that gives you a relationship with the divine people who are married is doubling

and tripling down on the on the metaphysical beauty that actually can

and should be your marital relationship that might be the first time in years you've actually been able to work on that.

With your children, that was a big one for me, I'm telling you.

I mean, I can't tell you the number of times

that I spent that 14th hour in the office instead of my first hour with my kids when they were little.

Why?

Because I had to be special instead of happy, right?

Workaholic special, that's for sure.

And they got, you know, they got revenge.

You know what they did?

They grew up and I wasn't there for a lot of it.

Well, now, now it's not going to be that way.

I have deeper friendships than I ever had before, and I recommend that people actually start to develop these real friendships.

You know, the problem that CEOs have is they have lots of deal friends, but not that many real friends.

Deal and real.

You know the difference.

Deal friends are incredibly useful.

Real friends are useless.

They're just people who love you.

Cultivating those friendships can be the most exciting adventure that you've had in a really, really long time.

The bottom line is basically this.

What substitutes for work?

The answer is love with humans.

That's what it comes down to.

Because happiness is love, full stop.

Okay, how?

Give me the algorithm, man.

And I get it, you know, I want that too.

And so I do have a lot of rules of thumb that I suggest.

Real friendship has to extend beyond your spouse, for example.

So real friends are people that you just love.

You don't need anything from them and they don't need anything from you.

You really are not going to be getting the benefit

that you need from your relationships if your only real friend is your spouse.

And that's typically the case with a lot of strivers.

So making real friendship, what we call companion and love with a spouse is critically important, but you need at least one more.

At least one more person.

And so working on that is critically important.

Only one more is, it might be the right number for introverts.

Extroverts, on the other hand, need more friends than that.

Start with your spouse, if you're married, then move on to one or two

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or three people with whom you can make a real connection and start investing in that relationship.

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And that means if, you know, that person lives in Atlanta, get on the plane, man get on the plane.

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Say, let's go do something for half a day.

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What do you say?

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And they'll be like, you're coming here to do that, to see me?

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You're like, yep, it'll be super fun.

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I guarantee that you actually do that.

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But that's where the investment starts.

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And those are the numbers that we're trying to talk about.

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And anybody can do that.

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यह स्पीकिंग पाठ वीडियो “Fighting Workaholism: You Are Not a Success Machine” पर आधारित है। सबसे ज़्यादा दोहराए गए शब्द ये हैं: relationship, addiction, success, behavior, strivers। इस वीडियो में शैडोइंग के लिए 109 वाक्य और 1207 शब्द हैं। बोला गया हिस्सा 6:27 लंबा है। वक्ता तेज़ बोलता है, लगभग 187 शब्द प्रति मिनट, इसलिए जुड़ी हुई और कमज़ोर ध्वनियाँ ज़्यादा मिलेंगी। 85% शब्द अंग्रेज़ी के 3,000 सबसे आम शब्दों में से हैं; बाकी शब्द अभ्यास से पहले देख लेना अच्छा रहेगा। इसके 109 वाक्यों में से 17 प्रश्न हैं, इसलिए यह प्रश्नों के लहजे और छोटे जवाबों के अभ्यास के लिए अच्छा है।

इस वीडियो की मुख्य शब्दावली

वीडियो के 15 सीखने लायक शब्द, उच्चारण और अर्थ के साथ:

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
addiction संज्ञा	/əˈdɪkˌʃən/	व्यसन
friendship संज्ञा	/ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/	मित्रता, मैत्री
spouse संज्ञा	/spaʊ̯s/	जीवन साथी
reward संज्ञा	/ɹɪˈwɔɹd/	इनाम, पुरस्कार
spiritual विशेषण	/ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/	आध्यात्मिक
moral विशेषण	/ˈmoɹəl/	नैतिक
compare क्रिया	/kəmˈpɛɚ/	तौलना
guarantee संज्ञा	/ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/	प्रतिभूति
happiness संज्ञा	/ˈhæpinɪs/	Hindi: हर्ष, आनंद
humanity संज्ञा	/hjuˈmænɪti/	मानवजाति, मानवता
triple विशेषण	/ˈtɹɪp.əl/	त्रि
wisdom संज्ञा	/ˈwɪzdəm/	बुद्धिमत्ता, पांडित्य
revenge संज्ञा	/ɹəˈvɛnd͡ʒ/	प्रतिशोध, बदला
divine विशेषण	/dɪˈvaɪn/	दिव्य
robot संज्ञा	/ˈɹoʊ.bɑt/	रोबोट, यंत्रमानव

दोहराने लायक वाक्य

वीडियो के छोटे, पूरे वाक्य जिन्हें आप रोज़ की बातचीत में इस्तेमाल कर सकते हैं:

You don't believe it?
You've taken away a big piece of your humanity.
Here's basically how I sum this up.
How do I stop?
You know what they did?

इस वीडियो का व्याकरण

वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:

संरचना	वीडियो में
Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है	have found · you've objectified · You've taken
Relative clauses who / which + उपवाक्य — व्यक्ति या वस्तु के बारे में अतिरिक्त जानकारी	profound, which is · people who are · people who love

ध्यान देने योग्य उच्चारण

वक्ता 36 बार संक्षिप्त रूपों का प्रयोग करता है, जैसे you're, don't, they're। इन्हें वैसे ही छोटा बोलें जैसा आप सुनते हैं।

“th” की ध्वनियाँ: algorithm /ˈælɡəɹɪðm̩/, thumb /ˈθʌm/
“sh” और “zh” की ध्वनियाँ: addiction /əˈdɪkˌʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, dysfunction /dɪsˈfʌŋk.ʃən/, fruition /fɹuˈɪʃən/
लंबे शब्द — बलाघात सही रखें: incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, critically /ˈkɹɪt.ɪ.kə.li/, humanity /hjuˈmænɪti/, philosopher /fəˈlɑsəfɚ/, deleterious /ˌdɛ.ləˈtɪɹ.i.əs/

हिंदी भाषियों के लिए मुश्किल ध्वनियाँ:

/v/ और /w/ का फ़र्क़ — /v/ में ऊपर के दाँत निचले होंठ को छूते हैं, /w/ में होंठ गोल होते हैं: reward /ɹɪˈwɔɹd/, addictive /əˈdɪktɪv/, adventure /ədˈvɛn.t͡ʃə/, defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, invest /ɪnˈvɛst/
/z/ — इसे “ज” (/dʒ/) न बनाएँ: exhibit /ɪɡˈzɪbɪt/, wisdom /ˈwɪzdəm/, metaphysical /ˌmɛtəˈfɪzɪkəl/
शब्द की शुरुआत में s + व्यंजन — पहले “इ” न जोड़ें: spouse /spaʊ̯s/, spiritual /ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/, sneak /sniːk/, snap /snæp/, strive /ˈstɹaɪv/

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पहले बिना बोले पूरा वीडियो एक बार सुनें और जो शब्द नहीं आते उन्हें लिख लें।
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अपनी आवाज़ रिकॉर्ड करें और मूल से तुलना करें, ख़ासकर addiction, friendship, spouse जैसे शब्दों पर ध्यान दें।

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