跟读练习: Fighting Workaholism: You Are Not a Success Machine - 通过视频学习英语口语

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as a social scientist I'm intensely interested in addictive behaviors a lot of people watching

this video right now they're watching it because they want an edge

and that's great I admire that you're strivers so am I

but strivers in the striving process

they open themselves up to one of the most deleterious addictive behaviors known to mankind and that's workaholism people

People will work hard, it will create dysfunction in their relationships, they will exhibit hiding behavior where they're sneaking around.

You don't believe it?

Well, ask yourself, do you sometimes sneak into the bathroom to check your email, your work email?

Do you snap shut your laptop computer on a Sunday afternoon when your partner comes home?

Yeah, yeah, well you're doing it too.

People get defensive when people question how much they're working, well that's classic addictive behavior.

Now, I have found in my own work that workaholism actually isn't the primary addiction.

It's a secondary addiction.

The primary addiction for most strivers is an addiction to success.

Success is achieving something of merit and being rewarded for it.

Many strivers, many of my students, me, look, I'm guilty here.

We feel fully alive when amazing things are happening and we're able to create value.

And we don't feel fully alive when we're not doing those things, quite frankly.

It's a real reward to see something come to fruition, to get that deal, to finish that book in my case,

to teach a class that goes incredibly well, to get that compliment.

A lot of that success addiction behavior is neurophysiological as a matter of fact.

You find that people actually get dopamine in a way, that's a neuromodulator that's implicated in all forms of human addiction,

that they get dopamine specifically when they feel that they're succeeding at work.

And while they keep seeking those rewards, they keep seeking success, and seeking success is hard.

You have to excel, and you have to excel compared to other people, and that means you need to outwork other people,

and that leads to the work addiction.

The underlying problem is success addiction.

Behind that, there's actually something even more profound, which is a tendency to reduce yourself to nothing more than a success machine.

That's a problem.

That's a moral problem, as a matter of fact you're more than a success machine.

You're not a robot.

Neither am I.

But when you see yourself as the most excellent person, so very special, you've objectified yourself.

You've taken away a big piece of your humanity.

Here's basically how I sum this up.

If you're exhibiting workaholic behavior, you need to deal with it.

But then the next question is, okay, how do I stop?

How do I stop?

Is there a 12 -step program?

Is there some detox center that I can get into?

And the answer

The answer is no, although a lot of people do need to seek help from mental health professionals for this.

The answer to this is to actually build your team on

the people who are going to give you the opportunities to do things that are actually more satisfying than that.

You need to actually take the people that you love the most and that perhaps you've been neglecting and ask them,

what do you think I should do?

What do you actually think I should do instead of that?

But for workaholics, the primary relationship, love relationship in their life is with work.

That's not a good love relationship because work can't really love you back.

Work takes.

Work doesn't give.

That means usually you need to cultivate the relationships with the people that really can love you back.

Who are these people?

Well, I recommend that people actually start to develop a serious spiritual life, a serious spiritual practice, whether it's a religious experience or not

that depends on different people maybe

that means reading the wisdom literature getting in touch with the stoic philosophers

you know studying the works of Johann Sebastian Bach I don't know going back to the faith of your youth

but something that gives you a relationship with the divine people who are married is doubling

and tripling down on the on the metaphysical beauty that actually can

and should be your marital relationship that might be the first time in years you've actually been able to work on that.

With your children, that was a big one for me, I'm telling you.

I mean, I can't tell you the number of times

that I spent that 14th hour in the office instead of my first hour with my kids when they were little.

Why?

Because I had to be special instead of happy, right?

Workaholic special, that's for sure.

And they got, you know, they got revenge.

You know what they did?

They grew up and I wasn't there for a lot of it.

Well, now, now it's not going to be that way.

I have deeper friendships than I ever had before, and I recommend that people actually start to develop these real friendships.

You know, the problem that CEOs have is they have lots of deal friends, but not that many real friends.

Deal and real.

You know the difference.

Deal friends are incredibly useful.

Real friends are useless.

They're just people who love you.

Cultivating those friendships can be the most exciting adventure that you've had in a really, really long time.

The bottom line is basically this.

What substitutes for work?

The answer is love with humans.

That's what it comes down to.

Because happiness is love, full stop.

Okay, how?

Give me the algorithm, man.

And I get it, you know, I want that too.

And so I do have a lot of rules of thumb that I suggest.

Real friendship has to extend beyond your spouse, for example.

So real friends are people that you just love.

You don't need anything from them and they don't need anything from you.

You really are not going to be getting the benefit

that you need from your relationships if your only real friend is your spouse.

And that's typically the case with a lot of strivers.

So making real friendship, what we call companion and love with a spouse is critically important, but you need at least one more.

At least one more person.

And so working on that is critically important.

Only one more is, it might be the right number for introverts.

Extroverts, on the other hand, need more friends than that.

Start with your spouse, if you're married, then move on to one or two

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or three people with whom you can make a real connection and start investing in that relationship.

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And that means if, you know, that person lives in Atlanta, get on the plane, man get on the plane.

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Say, let's go do something for half a day.

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What do you say?

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And they'll be like, you're coming here to do that, to see me?

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You're like, yep, it'll be super fun.

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I guarantee that you actually do that.

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But that's where the investment starts.

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And those are the numbers that we're trying to talk about.

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And anybody can do that.

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本课的词汇与口语要点

这节口语课以视频“Fighting Workaholism: You Are Not a Success Machine”为素材。视频中反复出现的词有：relationship, addiction, success, behavior, strivers。这段视频共有 109 个句子、1207 个单词可供跟读。讲话部分时长为 6:27。说话人语速较快，每分钟约 187 个词，会出现较多连读和弱读。 85% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。全部 109 个句子中有 17 个是问句，适合练习疑问语调和简短回答。

视频中的重点词汇

视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：

单词	发音	释义
addiction 名词	/əˈdɪkˌʃən/	成癮 /成瘾
friendship 名词	/ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/	友誼 /友谊, 友情
spouse 名词	/spaʊ̯s/	配偶
reward 名词	/ɹɪˈwɔɹd/	報酬 /报酬, 獎勵 /奖励
addictive 形容词	/əˈdɪktɪv/	使人成癮的 /使人成瘾的
spiritual 形容词	/ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/	精神
exhibit 动词	/ɪɡˈzɪbɪt/	展覽 /展览
sneak 动词	/sniːk/	爬, 潛行 /潜行
excel 动词	/ɪkˈsɛl/	勝過 /胜过, 優於 /优于
adventure 名词	/ədˈvɛn.t͡ʃə/	奇遇, 冒險 /冒险
moral 形容词	/ˈmoɹəl/	道德的
compare 动词	/kəmˈpɛɚ/	比, 比較 /比较
guarantee 名词	/ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/	保證 /保证
happiness 名词	/ˈhæpinɪs/	幸福, 快樂 /快乐
humanity 名词	/hjuˈmænɪti/	人類 /人类

视频中出现的短语动词

单词	释义
grow up 动词	長大 /长大

值得反复跟读的句子

视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：

You don't believe it?
You've taken away a big piece of your humanity.
Here's basically how I sum this up.
How do I stop?
You know what they did?

视频中的语法

说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：

结构	视频中的用法
现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事	have found · you've objectified · You've taken
定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物	profound, which is · people who are · people who love

需要注意的发音

说话人用了 36 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 you're, don't, they're。请按听到的简短形式来说。

“th” 音: algorithm /ˈælɡəɹɪðm̩/, thumb /ˈθʌm/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: addiction /əˈdɪkˌʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, dysfunction /dɪsˈfʌŋk.ʃən/, fruition /fɹuˈɪʃən/
长单词——注意重音位置: incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, critically /ˈkɹɪt.ɪ.kə.li/, humanity /hjuˈmænɪti/, philosopher /fəˈlɑsəfɚ/, deleterious /ˌdɛ.ləˈtɪɹ.i.əs/

中文母语者容易读错的音：

/v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: addictive /əˈdɪktɪv/, adventure /ədˈvɛn.t͡ʃə/, defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, invest /ɪnˈvɛst/, revenge /ɹəˈvɛnd͡ʒ/
词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, spouse /spaʊ̯s/, reward /ɹɪˈwɔɹd/, addictive /əˈdɪktɪv/, exhibit /ɪɡˈzɪbɪt/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: spiritual /ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, critically /ˈkɹɪt.ɪ.kə.li/, moral /ˈmoɹəl/, triple /ˈtɹɪp.əl/

如何用这段视频练习

先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 addiction, friendship, spouse 这类单词。

什么是跟读法？

跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。

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