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It can be easy to feel, as we look back on our lives, that we have been singularly inept in our choices and behaviours.

Why did we waste so long here?

Why didn't we see what they were doing there?

Why didn't we speak up sooner?

Or hold our nerve?

In such self -recriminatory moods, it can be more than merely sentimental to remind ourselves of a fundamental fact about relationships

that we miss when we despair of our conduct they sit in an area of exceptional importance in

which we are granted astonishingly few chances to practice before having to make vastly consequential decisions imagine

if we were asked to become great violinists

and were given all of six lessons to perfect our craft or

if we were expected to master the javelin after four perfunctory

throws we'd know the odds were stacked against us we'd have

compassion for our often miserable performances we'd understand what we were

up against without us being aware much the same level of

unpreparedness holds true of relationships even a highly experienced lover might

have only eight partners before getting married most of us have two

or three someone might have shared a home with just one

other person before deciding to place a new human being on the earth.

None of us has ever been asked to pass an examination in love before going on a date.

From the other side of failure, we chastise ourselves for how little we've understood.

We don't appreciate how much there is to understand how infinitely more complicated relationships are than any musical instrument.

It's entirely to be expected that the sounds we make are frequently terrifying.

Let's imagine that there are some 30 key lessons to learn about relationships,

30 things we might have to get the hang of before having any real chance at managing our lives successfully.

We might begin to summarize these lessons as follows.

Always speak up when you're feeling undervalued.

Complain with clarity and kindness not despair or rage.

Never try to persuade anyone to love you.

Don't set out to fix anyone's childhood.

An absence of attraction is fateful, but then attraction isn't enough.

They should be like a best friend, but this isn't just a friendship.

Resentment at a mother or father has a very long tail.

Someone who hates therapy doesn't just hate therapy, they're liable to hate introspection and dialogue too.

Flee from anyone defensive, never get together with someone just because they are right on paper.

If something breaks down once, the chances of it ever working a second time are beyond minimal.

And so on and so forth.

The challenge is that though we might state these lessons simply enough,

to get the hang of each one properly requires at least eight months and more usually several years or even decades.

We need to experience the finer nuances of the issues through summers and winters, through journeys and work crises, in the slow despair of quiet Sunday afternoons.

We need time, encouragement and the right to fail without tragedy.

We wouldn't be any less generous after telling a trumpet player to support their notes from the diaphragm.

In a depressed moment in middle age, we might try to categorise phases of our love lives according to the slow lessons

that we've taken away from each one of them.

For example, don't keep making an effort if they're not.

Caitlin, four and a half years.

Beware of people who can't articulate their emotions jonathan six months

don't wait around hoping they'll explain why they acted as they

did roshin three years don't have children before the bond is

properly formed way way 20 years we would need to live

to at least 500 years old to stand any realistic chance

of picking up our craft instead we're rushed on stage

and have to work out the right way to hold the bow before a live audience.

Those who haven't generated disaster and mutiny are luckier than they are talented.

We aren't miserable because we're stupid, but because we weren't ever trained,

because we exist in a culture morbidly and mysteriously resistant to emotional education.

We leave things to chance, out of a feeling that it might be cold or unromantic,

to apply some the same basic discipline and foresight that we would resort to before operating a lawnmower or floor polisher.

We teach people to become brain surgeons and pilots, yet leave the roles of partner and parent to intuition.

A better arranged culture would itemise the key lessons of love for people in their last year of school.

and then impose a universal intensive training program with some of the rigor of an architecture or accountancy qualification.

We would think of novels and films, not as entertainment, but as chances to hone the lessons of love we'd learned in an analytical form elsewhere.

We'd use video games to place us in digitized scenarios before we had to face them in reality.

We'd ask ourselves for patience and be aware, without humiliation of how blind we necessarily were.

We've made a mess, no doubt.

We don't, on top of everything else, need to be surprised that we did so.

This is a game with at least 30 traps in it, and we began to play long before we'd ever realised that the instruction manual had been tossed aside.

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영상에 나오는 덜 흔한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

lesson /ˈlɛs.ən/ (명사) — 수업, 과. A section of learning or teaching into which a wider learning content is divided.
despair /dɪˈspɛə(ɹ)/ (명사) — 절망. Loss of hope; utter hopelessness; complete despondency.
miserable /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹəbəl/ (형용사) — 불행한 상황. In a state of misery: very sad, ill, or poor.
universal /ˌjunəˈvɜɹs(ə)l/ (형용사) — 우주(宇宙)의, 우주적. Of or pertaining to the universe.
complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/ (형용사) — 복잡하다. Difficult or convoluted.
mood /muːd/ (명사) — 기분. A mental or emotional state, composure.
architecture /ˈɑː.kɪˌtɛk.t͡ʃə/ (명사) — 건축, 건축학. The art and science of designing and managing the construction of buildings and other structures, particularly if they are well proportioned and decorated.
disaster /dɪˈzɑːs.təː/ (명사) — 재난, 재앙. An unexpected natural or man-made catastrophe of substantial extent causing significant physical damage or destruction, loss of life or sometimes permanent…
friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ (명사) — 우정, 우의. The condition of being friends.
merely /ˈmɪəli/ (부사) — 한낱, 그저. Without any other reason etc.; only, just, and nothing more.
remind /ɹəˈmaɪnd/ (동사) — 생각나게 하다, 상기(想起)시키다. To cause one to experience a memory (of someone or something); to bring to the notice or consideration (of a person).
resort /ɹɪˈzɔɹt/ (명사) — 리조트, 휴양지. A place where people go for recreation, especially one with facilities such as lodgings, entertainment, and a relaxing environment.
absence /ˈæb.s(ə)n̩s/ (명사) — 결석, 부재. A state of being away or withdrawn from a place or from companionship
tail /ˈteɪ̯l/ (명사) — 꼬리. The caudal appendage of an animal that is attached to their posterior and near the anus or cloaca.
fundamental /ˌfʌn.dəˈmɛn.təl/ (형용사) — 기본적. Related to a foundation, base, or basis; serving as a foundation.

영상에 나오는 구동사

pick up (동사) — 줍다. To lift; to grasp and raise.

주의할 발음

화자는 we'd, don't, we've 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 32번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: attraction /əˈtɹækʃn̩/, rush /ɹʌʃ/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, examination /ɪɡˌzæm.ɪˈneɪ.ʃən/, patience /ˈpeɪ̯.ʃəns/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: miserable /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹəbəl/, universal /ˌjunəˈvɜɹs(ə)l/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/, successfully /səkˈsɛs.fə.li/

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자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, lesson, despair, miserable 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	are granted · were asked · were given
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	have been · has ever been asked · we've understood
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	Someone who hates · people who can · Those who haven

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