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What is the most strange and saddest phenomena of psychological life?

One of the strangest and saddest phenomena of psychological life is that there are parents, too many parents, who end up,

while sometimes only half realizing it, bullying their own children.

Why do parents bully their children?

In short, in order to try to feel better about themselves themselves.

Because they suffer intensely in the very same area that they are choosing to bully their child in.

Someone made them feel awful and they surmise,

by twisted logic, that they will feel better through the process of making their own child feel very bad indeed.

They aren't doing it personally.

The child is just collateral damage to a misguided project of healing and an attenuation of symptoms.

It doesn't make any sense, of course, but But it may actually work for the parent for a time.

Let's imagine a parent who harbours a terrible fear of being stupid.

Somewhere in their own past, they were belittled and made to feel hugely inadequate.

Now a child comes along, their own child, full of the normal hesitations and weaknesses of early infancy.

Without really realising what they're up to, the parent grows inflamed and incensed by this child's apparent stupidity

and starts to mock and attack in another person what they fear and hate in themselves.

It makes them feel a bit better.

The child becomes a repository of all that they fail to tolerate in themselves.

They, the child, are the dumb one, so they, the parent, don't have to be.

They, the child, are the stupid and ugly one, so they, the parent, don't have to be.

And therefore, the parent is liberated to live more easily within itself self.

The bad is contained and localised.

It can't be in them if it's all in little him or her.

It can take bullied children a very long time to realise that they have even been bullied.

They don't after all grow up thinking

that someone else has actually made them feel stupid or made them feel ugly or made them feel soiled,

let alone their own parent whom they depend on and admire and long to be loved by.

They simply think that they are stupid, ugly and soiled.

There is no call for an explanation or a cause.

Yet, if we are those now grown -up bullied children, we don't need to wonder too much more about what might have happened to us.

We simply need to take stock of how we feel about ourselves

and guess that the terrible judgements and sensations that we have about ourselves did not arise spontaneously.

The feelings we harbour of ourselves are legacies of real occurrences in the world.

Someone who isn't necessarily owning up to it made us feel a certain way

and that is why now we are in such pain.

Typically, those who've been bullied don't look backwards.

Their illnesses point them relentlessly to the present and the future.

The bullied anticipate terrible things happening to them that echo events

that once happened to them but that they don't remember in any way.

They are causeless paranoiacs, self -haters and warriors.

Catastrophe is never far away.

A person feels they're ugly because two decades ago a mother made them feel as such.

A person feels they've done something very wrong because even further back someone did something very wrong to them.

The fear contains the imprint of unconscious history.

We overcome our bullying when we learn to discriminate between what actually belongs to us and what was placed in us.

Between who we are and what we've been told we are.

Between how our caregivers like to present themselves and what they've actually done.

Our triggers and apprehensions lie along the fault lines of our early traumas.

So they can guide us back to what we suffered through when we are ready to explore.

We're on our way to overcoming bullying when we can say at last, I'm not ugly, I was made to feel unacceptable.

I haven't done anything wrong.

Something wrong was done to me.

And in general, I am not awful.

Something awful happened to me.

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영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
bully 명사	/ˈbʊli/	괴롭히는 사람, 깡패
ugly 형용사	/ˈʌɡli/	추악하다, 못생기다
bullying 명사	/ˈbʊ.li.ɪŋ/	괴롭힘, 핍박
suffer 동사	/ˈsʌfɚ/	괴로와하다, 시달리다
soil 명사	/sɔɪl/	흙, 토양
overcome 동사	/ˌəʊ.vəˈkʌm/	극복하다, 이겨내다
phenomenon 명사	/fəˈnɒm.ɪ.nən/	현상
explanation 명사	/ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/	설명
illness 명사	/ˈɪl.nəs/	질병, 병
belong 동사	/bɪˈlɒŋ/	속하다
legacy 명사	/ˈlɛɡəsi/	유산
explore 동사	/ɪkˈsploɹ/	탐험하다
trigger 명사	/ˈtɹɪɡɚ/	방아쇠
depend 동사	/dɪˈpɛnd/	의존하다, ...에 달려 있다
weakness 명사	/ˈwik.nɪs/	약함

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화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	were belittled · is liberated · is contained
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	have even been bullied · has actually made · who've been bullied

주의할 발음

화자는 don't, they're, they've 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 19번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, sensation /sɛnˈseɪʃən/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, apprehension /æp.ɹiˈhɛn.ʃən/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, phenomenon /fəˈnɒm.ɪ.nən/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, unacceptable /ˌʌn.ækˈsɛp.tə.bl̩/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: awful /ˈɔːfʊl/, suffer /ˈsʌfɚ/, phenomenon /fəˈnɒm.ɪ.nən/, catastrophe /kəˈtæstɹəfi/, infancy /ˈɪnfənsi/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: overcome /ˌəʊ.vəˈkʌm/, caregiver /ˈkɛɹɡɪvɚ/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: arise /əˈɹaɪz/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, causeless /ˈkɔːzləs/, repository /ɹɪˈpɒz.ɪ.t(ə.)ɹɪ/, surmise /sɚˈmaɪz/

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자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, bully, ugly, bullying 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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