쉐도잉 연습: How to Parent Yourself - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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All of us were parented.
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For many of us, it went well.
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We were loved, our views were respected, our needs were tended to.
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It helped to make us the more or less sane people we are now.
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But for others among us, things went really rather badly wrong.
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Perhaps there was unreliability, anger, humiliation, violence or worse.
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If there was, we're liable to have been deeply marked.
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We may, even if it all happened quite a number of years ago now, keep noticing new ways in which the past is getting in the way of a good life in the present.
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Our inadequate parenting experiences undermine our ability to have sound relationships,
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the right sort of confidence and to extend adequate nurture to ourselves.
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We would like, of course, to move on.
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There is something unbalanced and deeply cruel in the idea of the first 12 years determining the next 50.
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We cannot change the past, but it does remain open to us to correct at least some of its repercussions.
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We may learn to do this through a neglected and yet deeply powerful process we call re-parenting.
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How our parents behaved will have laid down a template in our minds about how we should respond to challenges.
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But we don't need to remain forever stuck with the kind of care which we imbibed in the early years.
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We by nature have an ability to parent ourselves.
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What this means is an ability to comfort ourselves at moments of difficulty, to interpret the troubles that beset us with imagination and kindness,
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to encourage ourselves in the face of anxiety and loss, and to reassure the more fragile,
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agitated parts of us by drawing upon our experience and our serene aspects.
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All this is what good parents naturally do for their children.
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But if this didn't happen to us, we can still, in adulthood, step in and do it for ourselves.
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One part of the mind can speak to the other.
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One part can act as the sane, resilient counterweight to the bruised and more immature side of the self.
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We can figuratively put an arm around our own shoulder.
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Our experience of the shortfalls of our own parents offer us an expertise
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that is wasted if it stays stuck at the level of just criticism.
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It should become the template for a far more useful project, the creation of an inner ideal parent,
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who acts in all the ways in which the real thing should have done but didn't quite.
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Knowing so much about what we did not have enables us to be experts at what we need
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and should believe we can provide for ourselves.
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We already have the perfect inner parent.
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It's simply in many ways the opposite of the one we had.
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Though childhood is a one-off event in material time, in psychological time it's endlessly recurring.
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The eight-year-old us is still there, and we can talk to it and respond to it in a way
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that allows it to mature and strengthen in the way it always should have done.
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We can dare to make use of a much underestimated capacity – that of re-parenting ourselves.
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문맥 속 문법과 표현
- "We're liable to have been deeply marked": "liable to"는 "~할 가능성이 높다"는 뜻으로, 과거 경험의 영향을 강조할 때 유용합니다. 예: "Childhood experiences are liable to shape our adult behavior."
- "It should become the template for a far more useful project": "should"는 "~해야 한다"는 의무감보다는 "바람직한 방향"을 제안할 때 사용됩니다. 논술에서 권고나 제안을 할 때 자주 쓰입니다.
- "Though childhood is a one-off event in material time": "though"는 "비록 ~지만"으로, 접속사로 문장을 연결하며 대조적인 관계를 나타냅니다. 복합문을 만들 때 필수적인 표현입니다.
발음의 함정
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