Pratique du Shadowing: How to Parent Yourself - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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All of us were parented.
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For many of us, it went well.
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We were loved, our views were respected, our needs were tended to.
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It helped to make us the more or less sane people we are now.
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But for others among us, things went really rather badly wrong.
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Perhaps there was unreliability, anger, humiliation, violence or worse.
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If there was, we're liable to have been deeply marked.
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We may, even if it all happened quite a number of years ago now, keep noticing new ways in which the past is getting in the way of a good life in the present.
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Our inadequate parenting experiences undermine our ability to have sound relationships,
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the right sort of confidence and to extend adequate nurture to ourselves.
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We would like, of course, to move on.
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There is something unbalanced and deeply cruel in the idea of the first 12 years determining the next 50.
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We cannot change the past, but it does remain open to us to correct at least some of its repercussions.
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We may learn to do this through a neglected and yet deeply powerful process we call re-parenting.
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How our parents behaved will have laid down a template in our minds about how we should respond to challenges.
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But we don't need to remain forever stuck with the kind of care which we imbibed in the early years.
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We by nature have an ability to parent ourselves.
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What this means is an ability to comfort ourselves at moments of difficulty, to interpret the troubles that beset us with imagination and kindness,
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to encourage ourselves in the face of anxiety and loss, and to reassure the more fragile,
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agitated parts of us by drawing upon our experience and our serene aspects.
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All this is what good parents naturally do for their children.
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But if this didn't happen to us, we can still, in adulthood, step in and do it for ourselves.
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One part of the mind can speak to the other.
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One part can act as the sane, resilient counterweight to the bruised and more immature side of the self.
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We can figuratively put an arm around our own shoulder.
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Our experience of the shortfalls of our own parents offer us an expertise
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that is wasted if it stays stuck at the level of just criticism.
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It should become the template for a far more useful project, the creation of an inner ideal parent,
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who acts in all the ways in which the real thing should have done but didn't quite.
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Knowing so much about what we did not have enables us to be experts at what we need
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and should believe we can provide for ourselves.
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We already have the perfect inner parent.
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It's simply in many ways the opposite of the one we had.
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Though childhood is a one-off event in material time, in psychological time it's endlessly recurring.
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The eight-year-old us is still there, and we can talk to it and respond to it in a way
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that allows it to mature and strengthen in the way it always should have done.
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We can dare to make use of a much underestimated capacity – that of re-parenting ourselves.
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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon
Cette leçon d’expression orale de niveau C1 s’appuie sur la vidéo « How to Parent Yourself ». Les mots qui reviennent le plus souvent : ourselves, parent, parenting, deeply, ability. Cette vidéo contient 39 phrases et 572 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 3:35. Le locuteur parle à un rythme naturel d’environ 160 mots par minute, proche d’une conversation courante. 86 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais ; le reste mérite d’être vu avant de commencer.
Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo
Les 15 mots les plus avancés de la vidéo, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| sane adjectif | /seɪn/ | sain |
| template nom | /ˈtɛm.plɪt/ | gabarit, calibre |
| bruise nom | /bɹuz/ | bleu, contusion |
| counterweight nom | contrepoids | |
| endlessly adverbe | /ˈɛndləsli/ | indéfiniment, sans fin |
| figuratively adverbe | figurément | |
| imbibe verbe | /ɪmˈbaɪb/ | boire |
| nurture nom | /ˈnɜːɹ.t͡ʃəɹ/ | élever, éduquer |
| reassure verbe | /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/ | tranquilliser, rassurer |
| repercussion nom | /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/ | conséquence, répercussion |
| resilient adjectif | /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/ | résilient |
| serene adjectif | /səˈɹin/ | serein, sereine |
| shortfall nom | insuffisance, manquement | |
| unreliability nom | manque de sérieux, manque de fiabilité | |
| humiliation nom | /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/ | humiliation |
Prononciation à surveiller
Le locuteur utilise 4 contractions et formes réduites, comme didn't, don't, we're. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.
- Les sons « sh » et « zh »: reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/, repercussion /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
- Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: repercussion /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, underestimate /ʌndɚˈɛs.tɪ.meɪt/, inadequate /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :
- /h/ — il se souffle, il n’est pas muet: humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, behave /bɪˈheɪv/
- /tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: agitate /ˈæ.d͡ʒɪ.teɪt/, nurture /ˈnɜːɹ.t͡ʃəɹ/, fragile /ˈfɹæd͡ʒəl/
- /r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: bruise /bɹuz/, nurture /ˈnɜːɹ.t͡ʃəɹ/, reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/, repercussion /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/, resilient /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/
Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo
- Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
- Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
- Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme sane, template, bruise.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.