Shadowing Practice: How to Parent Yourself - Learn English Speaking with Video
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All of us were parented.
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For many of us, it went well.
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We were loved, our views were respected, our needs were tended to.
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It helped to make us the more or less sane people we are now.
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But for others among us, things went really rather badly wrong.
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Perhaps there was unreliability, anger, humiliation, violence or worse.
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If there was, we're liable to have been deeply marked.
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We may, even if it all happened quite a number of years ago now, keep noticing new ways in which the past is getting in the way of a good life in the present.
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Our inadequate parenting experiences undermine our ability to have sound relationships,
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the right sort of confidence and to extend adequate nurture to ourselves.
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We would like, of course, to move on.
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There is something unbalanced and deeply cruel in the idea of the first 12 years determining the next 50.
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We cannot change the past, but it does remain open to us to correct at least some of its repercussions.
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We may learn to do this through a neglected and yet deeply powerful process we call re-parenting.
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How our parents behaved will have laid down a template in our minds about how we should respond to challenges.
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But we don't need to remain forever stuck with the kind of care which we imbibed in the early years.
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We by nature have an ability to parent ourselves.
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What this means is an ability to comfort ourselves at moments of difficulty, to interpret the troubles that beset us with imagination and kindness,
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to encourage ourselves in the face of anxiety and loss, and to reassure the more fragile,
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agitated parts of us by drawing upon our experience and our serene aspects.
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All this is what good parents naturally do for their children.
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But if this didn't happen to us, we can still, in adulthood, step in and do it for ourselves.
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One part of the mind can speak to the other.
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One part can act as the sane, resilient counterweight to the bruised and more immature side of the self.
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We can figuratively put an arm around our own shoulder.
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Our experience of the shortfalls of our own parents offer us an expertise
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that is wasted if it stays stuck at the level of just criticism.
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It should become the template for a far more useful project, the creation of an inner ideal parent,
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who acts in all the ways in which the real thing should have done but didn't quite.
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Knowing so much about what we did not have enables us to be experts at what we need
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and should believe we can provide for ourselves.
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We already have the perfect inner parent.
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It's simply in many ways the opposite of the one we had.
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Though childhood is a one-off event in material time, in psychological time it's endlessly recurring.
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The eight-year-old us is still there, and we can talk to it and respond to it in a way
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that allows it to mature and strengthen in the way it always should have done.
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We can dare to make use of a much underestimated capacity – that of re-parenting ourselves.
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Vocabulario y notas de pronunciación para esta lección
Esta lección de conversación de nivel C1 se basa en el vídeo “How to Parent Yourself”. Las palabras que más se repiten: ourselves, parent, parenting, deeply, ability. Este vídeo tiene 39 frases y 572 palabras para practicar shadowing. La parte hablada dura 3:35. El hablante habla a un ritmo natural de unas 160 palabras por minuto, cercano a una conversación cotidiana. El 86 % de las palabras está entre las 3.000 más comunes del inglés; conviene repasar el resto antes de empezar.
Vocabulario clave de este vídeo
Las 15 palabras más avanzadas del vídeo, con su pronunciación y significado:
| Palabra | Pronunciación | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| sane adjetivo | /seɪn/ | cuerdo, estar en su acuerdo |
| template sustantivo | /ˈtɛm.plɪt/ | plantilla |
| agitate verbo | /ˈæ.d͡ʒɪ.teɪt/ | alborotar |
| bruise sustantivo | /bɹuz/ | moratón, moretón |
| counterweight sustantivo | contrapeso | |
| endlessly adverbio | /ˈɛndləsli/ | sin fin, interminablemente |
| figuratively adverbio | figuradamente, en sentido figurado | |
| imbibe verbo | /ɪmˈbaɪb/ | beber |
| nurture sustantivo | /ˈnɜːɹ.t͡ʃəɹ/ | crianza, criación |
| reassure verbo | /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/ | tranquilizar |
| repercussion sustantivo | /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/ | consecuencia |
| resilient adjetivo | /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/ | tenaz, resistente |
| serene adjetivo | /səˈɹin/ | sereno |
| shortfall sustantivo | déficit, insuficiencia | |
| unbalanced adjetivo | desequilibrado |
Phrasal verbs que vas a escuchar
| Palabra | Significado |
|---|---|
| lay down verbo | soltar |
Pronunciación a tener en cuenta
El hablante usa 4 contracciones y formas reducidas, como didn't, don't, we're. Dilas en su forma corta, tal como las oyes.
- Los sonidos de “sh” y “zh”: reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/, repercussion /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
- Palabras largas — cuida el acento: repercussion /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, underestimate /ʌndɚˈɛs.tɪ.meɪt/, inadequate /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
Sonidos difíciles para hispanohablantes:
- /z/ — sonora, no /s/: bruise /bɹuz/, resilient /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/, expertise /ˌɛkspɜːˈtiːz/
- /dʒ/ — no es la “y” ni la “ch”: agitate /ˈæ.d͡ʒɪ.teɪt/, fragile /ˈfɹæd͡ʒəl/
- /h/ — una aspiración suave, no la “j”: humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, behave /bɪˈheɪv/
Cómo practicar con este vídeo
- Escucha el vídeo entero una vez sin hablar y anota las palabras que no conoces.
- Empieza a velocidad 0,75×, haz shadowing frase por frase y vuelve a la velocidad normal cuando te resulte fácil.
- Grábate y compara con el original, prestando atención a palabras como sane, template, agitate.
¿Qué es la Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing es una técnica de aprendizaje de idiomas respaldada por la ciencia, desarrollada originalmente para la formación de intérpretes profesionales y popularizada por el políglota Dr. Alexander Arguelles. El método es simple pero poderoso: escuchas audio en inglés nativo y lo repites en voz alta de inmediato, como una sombra que sigue al hablante con solo 1-2 segundos de retraso. A diferencia de la escucha pasiva o los ejercicios de gramática, el shadowing obliga a tu cerebro y músculos de la boca a procesar y reproducir simultáneamente patrones de habla reales. Las investigaciones muestran que mejora significativamente la precisión de la pronunciación, la entonación, el ritmo, el habla conectada, la comprensión auditiva y la fluidez al hablar, convirtiéndola en una de las metodologías más efectivas para la preparación del IELTS Speaking y la comunicación en inglés en el mundo real.