Shadowing Practice: How to Parent Yourself - Learn English Speaking with Video
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All of us were parented.
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For many of us, it went well.
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We were loved, our views were respected, our needs were tended to.
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It helped to make us the more or less sane people we are now.
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But for others among us, things went really rather badly wrong.
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Perhaps there was unreliability, anger, humiliation, violence or worse.
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If there was, we're liable to have been deeply marked.
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We may, even if it all happened quite a number of years ago now, keep noticing new ways in which the past is getting in the way of a good life in the present.
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Our inadequate parenting experiences undermine our ability to have sound relationships,
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the right sort of confidence and to extend adequate nurture to ourselves.
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We would like, of course, to move on.
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There is something unbalanced and deeply cruel in the idea of the first 12 years determining the next 50.
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We cannot change the past, but it does remain open to us to correct at least some of its repercussions.
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We may learn to do this through a neglected and yet deeply powerful process we call re-parenting.
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How our parents behaved will have laid down a template in our minds about how we should respond to challenges.
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But we don't need to remain forever stuck with the kind of care which we imbibed in the early years.
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We by nature have an ability to parent ourselves.
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What this means is an ability to comfort ourselves at moments of difficulty, to interpret the troubles that beset us with imagination and kindness,
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to encourage ourselves in the face of anxiety and loss, and to reassure the more fragile,
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agitated parts of us by drawing upon our experience and our serene aspects.
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All this is what good parents naturally do for their children.
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But if this didn't happen to us, we can still, in adulthood, step in and do it for ourselves.
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One part of the mind can speak to the other.
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One part can act as the sane, resilient counterweight to the bruised and more immature side of the self.
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We can figuratively put an arm around our own shoulder.
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Our experience of the shortfalls of our own parents offer us an expertise
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that is wasted if it stays stuck at the level of just criticism.
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It should become the template for a far more useful project, the creation of an inner ideal parent,
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who acts in all the ways in which the real thing should have done but didn't quite.
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Knowing so much about what we did not have enables us to be experts at what we need
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and should believe we can provide for ourselves.
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We already have the perfect inner parent.
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It's simply in many ways the opposite of the one we had.
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Though childhood is a one-off event in material time, in psychological time it's endlessly recurring.
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The eight-year-old us is still there, and we can talk to it and respond to it in a way
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that allows it to mature and strengthen in the way it always should have done.
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We can dare to make use of a much underestimated capacity – that of re-parenting ourselves.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau C1 is gebaseerd op de video “How to Parent Yourself”. Deze woorden komen het vaakst terug: ourselves, parent, parenting, deeply, ability. Deze video bevat 39 zinnen en 572 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 3:35. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 160 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 86% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| template zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈtɛm.plɪt/ | sjabloon, malplaatje |
| bruise zelfstandig naamwoord | /bɹuz/ | blauwe plek |
| counterweight zelfstandig naamwoord | contragewicht | |
| figuratively bijwoord | figuurlijk | |
| imbibe werkwoord | /ɪmˈbaɪb/ | tot zich nemen, nuttigen |
| reassure werkwoord | /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/ | geruststellen |
| resilient bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/ | weerbaar |
| serene bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /səˈɹin/ | sereen |
| humiliation zelfstandig naamwoord | /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/ | vernedering |
| adulthood zelfstandig naamwoord | volwassenheid | |
| undermine werkwoord | /ˌʌn.dɚˈmaɪn/ | ondermijnen, ontwrichten |
| underestimate werkwoord | /ʌndɚˈɛs.tɪ.meɪt/ | onderschatten |
| neglect werkwoord | /nɪˈɡlɛkt/ | verwaarlozen |
| interpret werkwoord | /ɪnˈtɜː.pɹɪt/ | interpreteren |
| inadequate bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/ | onvoldoende, inadequaat |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 4 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals didn't, don't, we're. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/, repercussion /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: repercussion /ˌɹiː.pəˈkʌʃ.ən/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, underestimate /ʌndɚˈɛs.tɪ.meɪt/, inadequate /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: bruise /bɹuz/, imbibe /ɪmˈbaɪb/, behave /bɪˈheɪv/, subscribe /səbˈskɹaɪb/, expertise /ˌɛkspɜːˈtiːz/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: agitate /ˈæ.d͡ʒɪ.teɪt/, inadequate /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/, fragile /ˈfɹæd͡ʒəl/, adequate /ˈæd.ə.kwɪt/
- /w/ — met ronde lippen: inadequate /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/, adequate /ˈæd.ə.kwɪt/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als template, bruise, counterweight.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.