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What is the most strange and saddest phenomena of psychological life?

One of the strangest and saddest phenomena of psychological life is that there are parents, too many parents, who end up,

while sometimes only half realizing it, bullying their own children.

Why do parents bully their children?

In short, in order to try to feel better about themselves themselves.

Because they suffer intensely in the very same area that they are choosing to bully their child in.

Someone made them feel awful and they surmise,

by twisted logic, that they will feel better through the process of making their own child feel very bad indeed.

They aren't doing it personally.

The child is just collateral damage to a misguided project of healing and an attenuation of symptoms.

It doesn't make any sense, of course, but But it may actually work for the parent for a time.

Let's imagine a parent who harbours a terrible fear of being stupid.

Somewhere in their own past, they were belittled and made to feel hugely inadequate.

Now a child comes along, their own child, full of the normal hesitations and weaknesses of early infancy.

Without really realising what they're up to, the parent grows inflamed and incensed by this child's apparent stupidity

and starts to mock and attack in another person what they fear and hate in themselves.

It makes them feel a bit better.

The child becomes a repository of all that they fail to tolerate in themselves.

They, the child, are the dumb one, so they, the parent, don't have to be.

They, the child, are the stupid and ugly one, so they, the parent, don't have to be.

And therefore, the parent is liberated to live more easily within itself self.

The bad is contained and localised.

It can't be in them if it's all in little him or her.

It can take bullied children a very long time to realise that they have even been bullied.

They don't after all grow up thinking

that someone else has actually made them feel stupid or made them feel ugly or made them feel soiled,

let alone their own parent whom they depend on and admire and long to be loved by.

They simply think that they are stupid, ugly and soiled.

There is no call for an explanation or a cause.

Yet, if we are those now grown -up bullied children, we don't need to wonder too much more about what might have happened to us.

We simply need to take stock of how we feel about ourselves

and guess that the terrible judgements and sensations that we have about ourselves did not arise spontaneously.

The feelings we harbour of ourselves are legacies of real occurrences in the world.

Someone who isn't necessarily owning up to it made us feel a certain way

and that is why now we are in such pain.

Typically, those who've been bullied don't look backwards.

Their illnesses point them relentlessly to the present and the future.

The bullied anticipate terrible things happening to them that echo events

that once happened to them but that they don't remember in any way.

They are causeless paranoiacs, self -haters and warriors.

Catastrophe is never far away.

A person feels they're ugly because two decades ago a mother made them feel as such.

A person feels they've done something very wrong because even further back someone did something very wrong to them.

The fear contains the imprint of unconscious history.

We overcome our bullying when we learn to discriminate between what actually belongs to us and what was placed in us.

Between who we are and what we've been told we are.

Between how our caregivers like to present themselves and what they've actually done.

Our triggers and apprehensions lie along the fault lines of our early traumas.

So they can guide us back to what we suffered through when we are ready to explore.

We're on our way to overcoming bullying when we can say at last, I'm not ugly, I was made to feel unacceptable.

I haven't done anything wrong.

Something wrong was done to me.

And in general, I am not awful.

Something awful happened to me.

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本课的词汇与口语要点

这节口语课以视频“Why Parents Bully Their Children”为素材。视频中反复出现的词有：parent, bullied, ugly, themselves, stupid。这段视频共有 54 个句子、701 个单词可供跟读。讲话部分时长为 4:07。说话人语速自然，每分钟约 170 个词，接近日常对话。 84% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。

视频中的重点词汇

视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：

单词	发音	释义
bully 名词	/ˈbʊli/	霸凌者, 土霸
ugly 形容词	/ˈʌɡli/	難看 /难看, 醜 /丑
awful 形容词	/ˈɔːfʊl/	壞 /坏, 糟糕
bullying 名词	/ˈbʊ.li.ɪŋ/	欺負 /欺负, 恃強欺弱 /恃强欺弱
suffer 动词	/ˈsʌfɚ/	受苦, 遭受
soil 名词	/sɔɪl/	土壤, 泥土
overcome 动词	/ˌəʊ.vəˈkʌm/	征服, 克服
phenomenon 名词	/fəˈnɒm.ɪ.nən/	現象 /现象
necessarily 副词	/ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/	必然地, 必定地
explanation 名词	/ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/	解釋 /解释, 說明 /说明
illness 名词	/ˈɪl.nəs/	疾病, 病症
belong 动词	/bɪˈlɒŋ/	屬於 /属于
legacy 名词	/ˈlɛɡəsi/	遺產 /遗产
apparent 形容词	/əˈpæɹənt/	明确的
explore 动词	/ɪkˈsploɹ/	探索, 探險 /探险

视频中出现的短语动词

单词	释义
grow up 动词	長大 /长大
come along 动词	陪伴, 陪同
end up 动词	到达

视频中的语法

说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：

结构	视频中的用法
被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的	were belittled · is liberated · is contained
现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事	have even been bullied · has actually made · who've been bullied

需要注意的发音

说话人用了 19 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 don't, they're, they've。请按听到的简短形式来说。

“sh” 和 “zh” 音: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, sensation /sɛnˈseɪʃən/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, apprehension /æp.ɹiˈhɛn.ʃən/
长单词——注意重音位置: psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, phenomenon /fəˈnɒm.ɪ.nən/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, unacceptable /ˌʌn.ækˈsɛp.tə.bl̩/

中文母语者容易读错的音：

/v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: overcome /ˌəʊ.vəˈkʌm/, caregiver /ˈkɛɹɡɪvɚ/
词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: illness /ˈɪl.nəs/, apparent /əˈpæɹənt/, twist /twɪst/, depend /dɪˈpɛnd/, weakness /ˈwik.nɪs/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, explore /ɪkˈsploɹ/, tolerate /ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/, collateral /kəˈlætəɹəl/, liberate /ˈlɪbəˌɹeɪt/

如何用这段视频练习

先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 bully, ugly, awful 这类单词。

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跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。

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