쉐도잉 연습: the desire to be loved - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기

레슨 만드는 중...
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I thought I had learned my lessons.
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I thought I would have known better by now.
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But when I got thrown into it again, I still fell hard.
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The part of me that I've been desperately running away from has finally made his way back.
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But this time, It's here to stay.
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When you were 11, what did you think you would be doing now?
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Okay you - - you
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I guess it's not uncommon for people to want to do things differently after losing someone.
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Some people start going to the gym or taking on new hobbies.
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Some decide to prioritize their friendships.
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while some put themselves on a self -discovery journey to find inner peace and independence.
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You can't deny that pain really is one of the best fuels for change.
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Thank you.
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Three years ago, confronted by the confusion of my identity, I made a promise that I would never find myself in a similar situation ever again.
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The pain of not knowing who I am was so great that I was hungry for change and growth.
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I consciously spent a lot of time introspecting, consumed only information I could learn from, and put myself through uncomfortable situations.
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I did everything just to shake off the old me and become someone better.
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It has been a truly confronting process and I thought...
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By this point, nothing would affect me in any way.
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you As cliche as it might sound,
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But life would keep putting you through the same test over and over again until you've truly learned your lessons.
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The winter here in England must have gotten to me.
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I started dating again after a long break.
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All the time I spend working on myself has given me so much confidence.
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I met someone, and it was all chilled and relaxed at the beginning, until I found myself slowly getting anxious,
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slowly losing control as I began to crave more and more from the other person.
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It was terrifying to watch my confidence crumbling before my eyes.
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Then without warning, everything fell apart.
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I was overwhelmed with self -doubt and frustration, and all of these made me feel very small.
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I was aware of it all.
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All those videos I watched and podcasts I've listened to have taught me that acknowledgement is the first step to change.
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So I thought if I was self -aware and honest enough about how I feel, I could get out of the rut faster.
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Everything that I was experiencing felt like a betrayal of the progress I've made over the years.
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I hate to see myself being out of control.
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drowning in negativity and self -pity, and feeling like I'm not enough.
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So I subconsciously rushed to be on the other side, just so that I could feel happy in myself again.
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Thank you.
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And that had only made things worse.
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the more I try to resist the pain, the more it persists.
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I couldn't understand why it cut me so deep until I began to uncover what was really hidden beneath the surface.
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Thank you.
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- Thank you.
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If there's anything I'm good at, it would be my ability to be extremely honest with myself.
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The reason why I was so upset was not really because of losing this person.
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but it was more of an attack on the persona I have built up over the years.
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The strength and confidence I worked so hard to cultivate, turned out to be far more delicate than I imagined. for so long.
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I had convinced myself that I had overcome my insecurities and fears, that I had become immune to rejection and disappointment.
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But in reality, I just buried those feelings beneath a thin layer of self -assurance.
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no matter how much I try to change or escape from it.
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At my core, I'm still a child who desires to be loved and validated.
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who is still healing from the wounds left by those who never intended to hurt me years and years ago.
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Thank you.
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All this time seeking approval and acceptance from others was my attempt to compensate for the lack in my younger self.
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but no amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer myself the unconditional love I crave.
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as I took time to reflect, I realized I don't love myself enough.
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I have been selectively loving only the parts of me that I'm proud of.
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The moments of confidence, the accomplishments, and the times when I met or exceeded my own expectations.
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but I secretly rescind or even feel ashamed of the part that I'm not.
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the part that struggles and falls short.
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the part that desires approvals and validation As much as I'm aware of her presence, I had never listened to or truly accepted her.
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being excessively self -critical in the name of perfectionism and self -improvement, invalidating my emotions and masking them with toxic positivity because I'm scared
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that if I give in to these negative feelings and show my insecurities to the world, I also be admitting that I'm weak and incompetent.
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Bye.
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- Okay.
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- If only I could give myself the same love and kindness and compassion I have for others.
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I probably wouldn't struggle as much.
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I used to think self -love was just about taking care of ourselves.
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or the ability to withstand loneliness and establish independence.
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But then I've slowly come to understand that self -love means so much more than warm baths, long walks, or solo dates.
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is not just the awareness but the full acceptance of our incompleteness and imperfectness.
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Thank you.
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just like love and joy and happiness.
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Sadness, frustration, fear, doubt and shame are all part of what it is to be a human being.
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And to truly love ourselves is to allow space for them without judgement or rushing to the emotional exit.
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to hold ourselves with immense warmth and acceptance, and to trust the ability to overcome obstacles and grow from our experiences even when it's not easy.
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Instead of feeling ashamed, I'm starting to make peace with my insecurities and embrace them with open arms.
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Yes, I want people to like me.
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But each day, I'm learning to let go of the need for external validation.
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shifting the focus back to myself, prioritizing my needs and setting boundaries.
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At times, I still fail or feel anxious and nervous, but that's okay.
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I don't have to keep a perfect record.
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As long as I keep showing up, that's all that matters.
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Bye.
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While self -love begins with our internal dialogue
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and recognizing our self -worth is nurtured and reinforced through our connections with those around us.
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As contradictory as it might sound, We don't learn to fully love ourselves in isolation.
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because we don't exist in isolation.
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After all, we are inherently social beings, wired for connection and belonging.
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Okay.
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True self -love isn't about self -reliance or self -sufficiency.
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It's about recognizing our interconnectedness with others and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in their presence.
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Knowing that we are not on this journey alone, we learn to extend the same compassion, understanding, and forgiveness for others to ourselves.
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And by showing up as our authentic selves with flaws and imperfections, we open up space for supportive and meaningful relationships that uplift and inspire us.
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Thank you.
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you Loving yourself is a process that requires patience and understanding.
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There are going to be days when you feel like you've made tremendous progress.
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and others when you find yourself slipping back into old patterns of self -doubt and criticism.
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But just like all the good things in life, growth takes time.
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There's no need to rush.
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You are already doing great as you are.
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And the world keeps spinning round.
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I'll be spinning you round.
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call.
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Not a smile, not a smile. while in Paris.
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Now...

맥락 및 배경

이 영상에서는 자신의 정체성과 사랑받고 싶다는 욕구에 대한 깊은 성찰을 담고 있습니다. 화자는 관계의 변화를 통해 겪은 감정적 혼란과 자신의 내면을 탐구하는 여정을 이야기합니다. 이 과정에서 그는 고통이 변화를 위한 강력한 연료가 될 수 있음을 깨닫고, 자아 성찰을 통해 진정한 자신을 찾으려는 노력을 하고 있습니다. 이러한 주제는 유용한 영어 학습 자료를 제공할 뿐만 아니라, 감정 표현에 대한 이해에도 도움이 됩니다.

일상 대화를 위한 5가지 표현

  • 나는 다시 사랑받고 싶다. (I want to be loved again)
  • 나는 내 모습이 싫다. (I hate how I feel about myself)
  • 변화를 원한다. (I want to change)
  • 나는 자신을 더 알아가고 싶다. (I want to know myself better)
  • 고통은 성장의 원천이다. (Pain is a source of growth)

이 표현들은 유튜브 영어 공부를 통해 자주 사용될 수 있는 구문들로, 감정이나 개인적 경험을 영어로 표현하는 데 도움을 줄 것입니다.

단계별 섀도잉 가이드

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  2. 두 번째 단계: 비디오를 멈추고 각 문장을 반복해서 들어보기. 말의 억양과 감정을 느끼며 따라하는 것이 중요합니다.
  3. 세 번째 단계: 자주 사용하는 표현들을 녹음하여 자신의 목소리와 비교해보기. 이 과정에서 발음과 억양을 수정할 수 있습니다.
  4. 네 번째 단계: 반복 학습을 통해 표현의 의미를 깊이 있게 이해하고, 실제 대화에 적용해보기.
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이 영상의 문법

화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형영상 속 표현
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때I've been · has been · has given
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점was overwhelmed · was really hidden · be loved

쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법

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