शैडोइंग अभ्यास: the desire to be loved - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें

I thought I had learned my lessons.

I thought I would have known better by now.

But when I got thrown into it again, I still fell hard.

The part of me that I've been desperately running away from has finally made his way back.

But this time, It's here to stay.

When you were 11, what did you think you would be doing now?

Okay you - - you

I guess it's not uncommon for people to want to do things differently after losing someone.

Some people start going to the gym or taking on new hobbies.

Some decide to prioritize their friendships.

while some put themselves on a self -discovery journey to find inner peace and independence.

You can't deny that pain really is one of the best fuels for change.

Thank you.

Three years ago, confronted by the confusion of my identity, I made a promise that I would never find myself in a similar situation ever again.

The pain of not knowing who I am was so great that I was hungry for change and growth.

I consciously spent a lot of time introspecting, consumed only information I could learn from, and put myself through uncomfortable situations.

I did everything just to shake off the old me and become someone better.

It has been a truly confronting process and I thought...

By this point, nothing would affect me in any way.

you As cliche as it might sound,

But life would keep putting you through the same test over and over again until you've truly learned your lessons.

The winter here in England must have gotten to me.

I started dating again after a long break.

All the time I spend working on myself has given me so much confidence.

I met someone, and it was all chilled and relaxed at the beginning, until I found myself slowly getting anxious,

slowly losing control as I began to crave more and more from the other person.

It was terrifying to watch my confidence crumbling before my eyes.

Then without warning, everything fell apart.

I was overwhelmed with self -doubt and frustration, and all of these made me feel very small.

I was aware of it all.

All those videos I watched and podcasts I've listened to have taught me that acknowledgement is the first step to change.

So I thought if I was self -aware and honest enough about how I feel, I could get out of the rut faster.

Everything that I was experiencing felt like a betrayal of the progress I've made over the years.

I hate to see myself being out of control.

drowning in negativity and self -pity, and feeling like I'm not enough.

So I subconsciously rushed to be on the other side, just so that I could feel happy in myself again.

Thank you.

And that had only made things worse.

the more I try to resist the pain, the more it persists.

I couldn't understand why it cut me so deep until I began to uncover what was really hidden beneath the surface.

Thank you.

- Thank you.

If there's anything I'm good at, it would be my ability to be extremely honest with myself.

The reason why I was so upset was not really because of losing this person.

but it was more of an attack on the persona I have built up over the years.

The strength and confidence I worked so hard to cultivate, turned out to be far more delicate than I imagined. for so long.

I had convinced myself that I had overcome my insecurities and fears, that I had become immune to rejection and disappointment.

But in reality, I just buried those feelings beneath a thin layer of self -assurance.

no matter how much I try to change or escape from it.

At my core, I'm still a child who desires to be loved and validated.

who is still healing from the wounds left by those who never intended to hurt me years and years ago.

Thank you.

All this time seeking approval and acceptance from others was my attempt to compensate for the lack in my younger self.

but no amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer myself the unconditional love I crave.

as I took time to reflect, I realized I don't love myself enough.

I have been selectively loving only the parts of me that I'm proud of.

The moments of confidence, the accomplishments, and the times when I met or exceeded my own expectations.

but I secretly rescind or even feel ashamed of the part that I'm not.

the part that struggles and falls short.

the part that desires approvals and validation As much as I'm aware of her presence, I had never listened to or truly accepted her.

being excessively self -critical in the name of perfectionism and self -improvement, invalidating my emotions and masking them with toxic positivity because I'm scared

that if I give in to these negative feelings and show my insecurities to the world, I also be admitting that I'm weak and incompetent.

Bye.

- Okay.

- If only I could give myself the same love and kindness and compassion I have for others.

I probably wouldn't struggle as much.

I used to think self -love was just about taking care of ourselves.

or the ability to withstand loneliness and establish independence.

But then I've slowly come to understand that self -love means so much more than warm baths, long walks, or solo dates.

is not just the awareness but the full acceptance of our incompleteness and imperfectness.

Thank you.

just like love and joy and happiness.

Sadness, frustration, fear, doubt and shame are all part of what it is to be a human being.

And to truly love ourselves is to allow space for them without judgement or rushing to the emotional exit.

to hold ourselves with immense warmth and acceptance, and to trust the ability to overcome obstacles and grow from our experiences even when it's not easy.

Instead of feeling ashamed, I'm starting to make peace with my insecurities and embrace them with open arms.

Yes, I want people to like me.

But each day, I'm learning to let go of the need for external validation.

shifting the focus back to myself, prioritizing my needs and setting boundaries.

At times, I still fail or feel anxious and nervous, but that's okay.

I don't have to keep a perfect record.

As long as I keep showing up, that's all that matters.

Bye.

While self -love begins with our internal dialogue

and recognizing our self -worth is nurtured and reinforced through our connections with those around us.

As contradictory as it might sound, We don't learn to fully love ourselves in isolation.

because we don't exist in isolation.

After all, we are inherently social beings, wired for connection and belonging.

Okay.

True self -love isn't about self -reliance or self -sufficiency.

It's about recognizing our interconnectedness with others and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in their presence.

Knowing that we are not on this journey alone, we learn to extend the same compassion, understanding, and forgiveness for others to ourselves.

And by showing up as our authentic selves with flaws and imperfections, we open up space for supportive and meaningful relationships that uplift and inspire us.

Thank you.

you Loving yourself is a process that requires patience and understanding.

There are going to be days when you feel like you've made tremendous progress.

and others when you find yourself slipping back into old patterns of self -doubt and criticism.

But just like all the good things in life, growth takes time.

There's no need to rush.

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You are already doing great as you are.

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And the world keeps spinning round.

102

I'll be spinning you round.

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call.

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Not a smile, not a smile. while in Paris.

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Now...

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इस पाठ के माध्यम से, आप खुद से ईमानदार रहने, अपने भावनात्मक संघर्षों को समझने और अपने आत्म-सम्मान को बढ़ाने पर ध्यान केंद्रित करेंगे। इस वीडियो में बताए गए अनुभवों के जरिए, आप यह सीखेंगे कि कैसे अस्वीकृति और नकारात्मकता के बीच से गुजरना, अंततः आपके व्यक्तिगत और भावनात्मक विकास के लिए फायदेमंद हो सकता है। यूट्यूब से अंग्रेजी सीखें इस विषय पर चर्चा करते हुए, आप अपने बोलने की क्षमता में सुधार करेंगे और आत्म-प्रतिबReflection के महत्व को पहचानेंगे।

मुख्य शब्दावली और वाक्यांश

आत्म-सम्मान (Self-esteem) - अपने प्रति सकारात्मक दृष्टिकोण रखना।
अस्वीकृति (Rejection) - स्वीकृति के अभाव का अनुभव।
भावनात्मक संघर्ष (Emotional Struggle) - मानसिक और भावनात्मक चुनौतियों का सामना करना।
स्वयं की खोज (Self-discovery) - अपने अनुभवों से सीखना और खुद को समझना।
नकारात्मकता (Negativity) - नकारात्मक विचारों और भावनाओं का प्रभाव।
प्रगति (Progress) - समय के साथ व्यक्तिगत विकास और सुधार।
सच्चाई (Truth) - अपने अनुभवों और लकीरों को समझाना।

अभ्यास टिप्स

वीडियो की गति और टोन के साथ प्रभावी ढंग से संवाद करने के लिए, आपको shadowspeak यानी 'छाया बोलने' की तकनीक का अभ्यास करने की सिफारिश की जाती है। सबसे पहले, वीडियो को ध्यान से सुनें और उसके बोलने के तरीके को समझें। फिर, धीरे-धीरे उन वाक्यों को दोहराएं, जिनमें व्यक्त की गई भावनाएँ गहरी हैं। इस प्रक्रिया को जारी रखते हुए, आप अपनी आवाज़ में उतार-चढ़ाव और भावनात्मक गहराई को समाहित करने का प्रयास करें। जितना अधिक आप shadow speech का अभ्यास करेंगे, उतना ही आत्मविश्वास प्राप्त करेंगे और अपने बोलने की कौशल में सुधार करेंगे। अपने अभ्यास सत्रों में Yूट्यूब पर इस शैली की अन्य वीडियो का उपयोग करके अपनी विविधता भी बढ़ा सकते हैं।

इस वीडियो का व्याकरण

वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:

संरचना	वीडियो में
Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है	I've been · has been · has given
Passive voice be + past participle — ज़ोर इस पर कि क्या होता है, न कि कौन करता है	was overwhelmed · was really hidden · be loved

शैडोइंग तकनीक क्या है?

शैडोइंग (Shadowing) एक विज्ञान-समर्थित भाषा सीखने की तकनीक है जो मूल रूप से पेशेवर दुभाषिया प्रशिक्षण के लिए विकसित की गई थी। विधि सरल लेकिन शक्तिशाली है: आप मूल अंग्रेज़ी ऑडियो सुनते हैं और तुरंत इसे ज़ोर से दोहराते हैं — जैसे वक्ता की छाया 1-2 सेकंड की देरी से। शोध से पता चलता है कि यह उच्चारण सटीकता, स्वर, लय, जुड़ी हुई ध्वनियाँ, सुनने की समझ और बोलने की प्रवाहशीलता में काफ़ी सुधार करता है।

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